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Everything About Epublishing
by Angela James
Epublishing: A Different Way
Choosing an Epublisher
Your Milage May Vary
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FictionCraft
by Louisa Burton
The Publishing Biz
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Commerical vs. Literary...
Antiformalism for Fun &...
So You Want to Write a Novel
The Story Idea
Planning Your Novel...


The Write Stuff
by Ashley Lister
5 Steps to Success
Inspirational
Opening Passages
Let's Get Critical
Writer's Block
Learning Lessons


Two Girls Kissing
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Be a Finisher ...
Listen to Your Characters
Conferences: Act Now ...
Starting an Erotic Story
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Revising & Rewriting
Copy Editing
The Manuscript Critique
How to Submit Your Work
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Adventures in e-Publishing
by Lisabet Sarai

For the Love of Man
by Laura Baumbach

How to...Influence Editors
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by Brenna Lyons


2008 Smutters Lounge

Ashley Lister Submits
by Ashley Lister
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Busy Doing Nothing
Picture of a Fish & Chip...
What I Did With My Summer


Cooking Up A Storey
by Donna George Storey
Naughty Cookies...
Tie Me Up, Please …
The Smut-Writer’s Holiday
Never Trust the Narrator ...
Compare and Contrast
Following the Pen
Naked at the Farmers Market
Im Easy, But Im No Slut
Good Girl Gone Bad
Pleasures of the Dark Side
Slow, Spare and Sexy


Get All Worked Up
with J.T. Benjamin
Raising Daughters
Jamie Lynn
Utopias
Lust
The Good Old Days
Election '08
Traditional Marriage
Campaign 2008
Free Will


Pondering Porn
with Ann Regentin
Masturbating on SSRIs
Sex and Disability
Besides Ourselves
Adjusting our Contrast


Sex Is All Metaphors
by Jean Roberta
Sex Is All Metaphors
Turn-ons and Squicks
Sexual Truth
Fickle Muse
Porn, Erotica & Romance


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Between the Lines
with Ashley Lister
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Ashley Lister
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Erotic Hot Spots
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Interview with Tilly Greene
Interview with Devyn Quinn


Getting Graphic
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New Times for Readers...
The Future in Words ...
Interview with Fantagraphics


On Writing Erotica

The Accidental Pornographer
by Lisabet Sarai

The End of Innocence
by Lisabet Sarai

Get Them Off in High Style
Helena Settimana

So, You Want To Write Erotica?
by Hanne Blank


Web Gems
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Instant Orgasm

by Steve Bodansky, PhD and Vera Bodansky, PhD

Book Review by Ashley Lister

 

Instant OrgasmWhen the publicist at Hunter House first contacted me and asked if I would be interested in reviewing Instant Orgasm, I immediately said yes.  It arrived on my doorstep the following day and, when I opened the package, I thought, “Instant Orgasms!  Wow!  That came quickly!

Ok.  It’s a cheap joke.  But it’s post-modern irony and it made me smile. 

The basic tenet behind Instant Orgasm is that orgasmic pleasure can be had instantly.  Speaking as a man, I’ve always believed this to be true and most of the women I’ve known have commented on my impressive ability to have an instant orgasm.  Not all of the comments have been favourable.  (There goes that post-modern irony again).  I shall now put on my serious voice and proceed with this review in a fit and proper manner.

We are not saying the orgasm lasts for an instant but rather that a person can become orgasmic in an instant.  And the instant can be extended for as long as one desires, one stroke at a time.” 

Drs S and V Bodansky are a gifted pair of sexperts.  Authors of Extended Massive Orgasm, The Illustrated Extended Massive Orgasm and To Bed or Not to Bed, they have been successfully teaching the art of sexual arousal since 1983.  Instant Orgasm follows their previous line of teaching, balancing a blend of clearly explained technical information with practical ideas and advice on how best to take advantage of their insights.

The cleverness about this book is that it’s been written by a couple who are both experts in the field of sexual relationships.  This works on many levels, giving insights into how the opposite sex are likely to respond, how the same sex are most effectively stimulated and how to get the most satisfying results from self-stimulation for either gender.

Naysayers are likely to suggest that they already know these techniques—or at least they know enough to get them through those vital three minutes of the night.  And it’s a valid point that most of us have reached our current stage of sexual mastery without the assistance of a sexual self-help manual.  But, as Socrates pithily observed: The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.  Actually, it wasn’t just Socrates who said that.  My wife keeps assuring me of that point over and over again. 

But it should be conceded that, whatever any of us have learnt through the trial-and-error of our previous sexual experiences, confirming and compounding that knowledge with the help of a carefully written manual can prove beneficial.  And Instant Orgasm is a very well written manual.  Copiously illustrated, including chapters on opening your mind, self-pleasure, partnered pleasure and advanced tips for creating orgasms, the book takes the reader on a journey of self-discovery that endeavours to be wholly satisfying. 

The book is not devoted solely to techniques that can be used by women.  There are chapters and subchapters exclusively aimed at men.  But, because it’s usually easier (both physically and psychologically) for men to achieve states of heightened arousal and orgasm, the focus of the book deals with increasing pleasure and satisfaction for women.  This is not meant as a complaint.  The majority of heterosexual male readers will surely be delighted with suggestions and advice on how to improve their techniques to their partner’s satisfaction. 

But, regardless of this minor imbalance, Instant Orgasm is one of those books that every committed couple should read together if they want to take their shared passion to the next level of satisfaction.  In the current consumerist climate that demands immediate gratification, it’s heartening to know that someone is finally applying the Instant Orgasm mentality to our sexual needs.

Ashley Lister
August 2008


Instant Orgasm by Drs S and V Bodansky
(Hunter House; May 2008; ISBN-10: 089793508X)
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books


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© 2008 Ashley Lister. All rights reserved.


About the Author: Ashley Lister is a UK author responsible for more than two-dozen erotic novels written under a variety of pseudonyms.His most recent work, Swingers: True Confessions from Today's Modern Swinging Scene (Virgin Books; ISBN: 0753511355), a non-fiction book recounting the exploits of UK swingers, is his first title published under his own name.
Ashleys non-fiction has appeared in a variety of magazines, including Forum, Chapter & Verse and The International Journal of Erotica. Nexus, Chimera and Silver Moon have published his full-length fiction, with shorter stories appearing in anthologies edited by Maxim Jakubowski, Rachel Kramer Bussel and Mitzi Szereto. He is very proud to be a regular contributor to ERWA.
Websites: www.ashleylister.co.uk / ashleylister.blogspot.com



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