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'08 Authors Insider Tips


Everything About Epublishing
by Angela James
Epublishing: A Different Way
Choosing an Epublisher
Your Milage May Vary
Understand Your Contract!
Reasonable Expectations


FictionCraft
by Louisa Burton
The Publishing Biz
Critiquing: To Give and ...
Commerical vs. Literary...
Antiformalism for Fun &...
So You Want to Write a Novel
The Story Idea
Planning Your Novel...


The Write Stuff
by Ashley Lister
5 Steps to Success
Inspirational
Opening Passages
Let's Get Critical
Writer's Block
Learning Lessons


Two Girls Kissing
by Amie M. Evans
Be a Finisher ...
Listen to Your Characters
Conferences: Act Now ...
Starting an Erotic Story
Exercises & Writing Prompts
Revising & Rewriting
Copy Editing
The Manuscript Critique
How to Submit Your Work
Reading as Craft


Guest Appearances

Adventures in e-Publishing
by Lisabet Sarai

For the Love of Man
by Laura Baumbach

How to...Influence Editors
by Alison Tyler

Marketing your e-Book
by Brenna Lyons


2008 Smutters Lounge

Ashley Lister Submits
by Ashley Lister
Role Play
Busy Doing Nothing
Picture of a Fish & Chip...
What I Did With My Summer


Cooking Up A Storey
by Donna George Storey
Naughty Cookies...
Tie Me Up, Please …
The Smut-Writer’s Holiday
Never Trust the Narrator ...
Compare and Contrast
Following the Pen
Naked at the Farmers Market
Iím Easy, But Iím No Slut
Good Girl Gone Bad
Pleasures of the Dark Side
Slow, Spare and Sexy


Get All Worked Up
with J.T. Benjamin
Raising Daughters
Jamie Lynn
Utopias
Lust
The Good Old Days
Election '08
Traditional Marriage
Campaign 2008
Free Will


Pondering Porn
with Ann Regentin
Masturbating on SSRIs
Sex and Disability
Besides Ourselves
Adjusting our Contrast


Sex Is All Metaphors
by Jean Roberta
Sex Is All Metaphors
Turn-ons and Squicks
Sexual Truth
Fickle Muse
Porn, Erotica & Romance


Provocative Interviews

Between the Lines
with Ashley Lister
Alison Tyler
Ashley Lister
Debra Hyde
Donna George Storey
Jeremy Edwards
Kristina Wright
Rachel Kramer Bussel


Erotic Hot Spots
by William S. Dean
Interview with Tilly Greene
Interview with Devyn Quinn


Getting Graphic
with William S. Dean
New Times for Readers...
The Future in Words ...
Interview with Fantagraphics


On Writing Erotica

The Accidental Pornographer
by Lisabet Sarai

The End of Innocence
by Lisabet Sarai

Get Them Off in High Style
Helena Settimana

So, You Want To Write Erotica?
by Hanne Blank


Web Gems
Hot Movies For Her

Swingers: Female Confidential

by Ashley Lister

Book Review by Lisabet Sarai

 

Swingers: Female Confidential

Ashley Lister is a prolific author of erotic fiction. Writing under a variety of pseudonyms, he produces more books in a year than I do in a decade. His short stories have appeared in dozens of acclaimed anthologies, and his full-length novels are renowned for their lively, entertaining treatment of various fetishes.

It turns out that Mr. Lister is an accomplished master of non-fiction as well. His first book on the U.K swinging scene, Swingers: True Confessions from Today's Swinging Scene,published in 2007, explored the desires and practices of swingers using personal interviews and integrative commentary. The book received highly positive reviews and a great deal of media attention, at least in the U.K.

Swingers: Female Confidential is in some sense a sequel to the earlier volume. It uses the same format: lengthy extracts from first person interviews with swingers, interspersed with interpretation and observations by the author. This volume focuses on the experiences of women who swing. As the author explains in the introduction, this focus derives from the questions he received on the first book. It appears that non-swingers find it difficult to believe that women would actively seek out and enjoy the culture of swinging. A common assumption is that women are pressured into swinging by their partners, and that they participate reluctantly. One of Mr. Lister’s objectives is to debunk this myth, and he does so quite effectively.

Mr. Lister lets us hear the varied voices of the women whom he interviewed: the women who like to be watched; the ones who crave sexual interaction with other women; the ones who seek the extremes of “greedy girl nights”, where they might take a dozen men in one evenings. These women range in age from their twenties to their sixties. Their socioeconomic backgrounds, education, and marital history vary widely. But they all have something in common: they enjoy sex. Furthermore, they are comfortable asking for what they want, as well as setting boundaries.

At the same time, one of the fascinating aspects of the book is how different Mr. Lister’s informants are in their desires. Some women  enjoy “same-room swaps”, where they can watch, and even participate, as their partners get involve with another women. Others prefer to swap and then retreat to separate rooms, so as not to be distracted from the experience of a novel lover. Some women want to mix sex and friendship, and develop close relationships with the couples with whom they swing. Others work hard to keep their swinging and their daily life as separate as possible.

I could not help but be impressed by the level of honesty and disclosure these women are willing to offer. Clearly, they trust the author with their “dirty secrets”. I wonder how many of them had read his previous book.  I must say that he treats their confessions with discretion and respect. One gets the notion that Mr. Lister admires these women for having the courage to act on their desires. The reader comes to feel the same way.

Is Swingers: Female Confidential a sexy book? Yes, in the same way that gossiping about sex with your close friends can be sexy. The overall topic induces a buzz. The scenarios described are not as graphic as what you’d find in one of Mr. Lister’s novels, but hey—it’s fun to think about this sort of thing.

I will admit that I’ve done a bit of swinging myself (though not in the U.K.). All in all, it didn’t provide what my husband and I were seeking, which was a long term intimate relationship with another couple, but it had its good points. One of the things that I enjoy most is the sexually charged atmosphere at a party or club. Things that are forbidden elsewhere are permitted, even encouraged. You can be as outrageous as you’ve always dreamed. You can touch, and be touched, and still feel safe. You can ogle the other guests and know that they won’t be offended. You can let yourself be ogled in return, basking in the knowledge that others think you’re attractive. The air is electric; the night is filled with possibilities; even if nothing much happens, you still end up jazzed and aroused.

Reading Swingers: Female Confidential feels rather similar.

Lisabet Sarai
October 2008

Swingers: Female Confidential
(Virgin Books; September 16, 2008; ISBN-10: 0753513439)
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK

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© 2008 Lisabet Sarai. All rights reserved. Content may not be copied or used in whole or part without written permission from the author.


About the Author:
Lisabet Sarai has been writing ever since she learned how to hold a pencil. She is the author of three erotic novels, Raw Silk, Incognito, and Ruby's Rules; co-editor, with S.F. Mayfair, of the anthology Sacred Exchange† (Blue Moon); and editor of Cream, the Best of the Erotica Readers & Writers Association.
Visit her website, Lisabet Sarai's Fantasy Factory for more information and samples of her writing.
Join Lisabet's List on Yahoo for exciting chat, contests, and up-to-date information on publications and events: lisabets_list-subscribe@yahoogroups.com



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'08 Book Reviews

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