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Everything About Epublishing
by Angela James
Epublishing: A Different Way
Choosing an Epublisher
Your Milage May Vary
Understand Your Contract!
Reasonable Expectations

by Louisa Burton
The Publishing Biz
Critiquing: To Give and ...
Commerical vs. Literary...
Antiformalism for Fun &...
So You Want to Write a Novel
The Story Idea
Planning Your Novel...

The Write Stuff
by Ashley Lister
5 Steps to Success
Opening Passages
Let's Get Critical
Writer's Block
Learning Lessons

Two Girls Kissing
by Amie M. Evans
Be a Finisher ...
Listen to Your Characters
Conferences: Act Now ...
Starting an Erotic Story
Exercises & Writing Prompts
Revising & Rewriting
Copy Editing
The Manuscript Critique
How to Submit Your Work
Reading as Craft

Guest Appearances

Adventures in e-Publishing
by Lisabet Sarai

For the Love of Man
by Laura Baumbach

How to...Influence Editors
by Alison Tyler

Marketing your e-Book
by Brenna Lyons

2008 Smutters Lounge

Ashley Lister Submits
by Ashley Lister
Role Play
Busy Doing Nothing
Picture of a Fish & Chip...
What I Did With My Summer

Cooking Up A Storey
by Donna George Storey
Naughty Cookies...
Tie Me Up, Please …
The Smut-Writer’s Holiday
Never Trust the Narrator ...
Compare and Contrast
Following the Pen
Naked at the Farmers Market
Im Easy, But Im No Slut
Good Girl Gone Bad
Pleasures of the Dark Side
Slow, Spare and Sexy

Get All Worked Up
with J.T. Benjamin
Raising Daughters
Jamie Lynn
The Good Old Days
Election '08
Traditional Marriage
Campaign 2008
Free Will

Pondering Porn
with Ann Regentin
Masturbating on SSRIs
Sex and Disability
Besides Ourselves
Adjusting our Contrast

Sex Is All Metaphors
by Jean Roberta
Sex Is All Metaphors
Turn-ons and Squicks
Sexual Truth
Fickle Muse
Porn, Erotica & Romance

Provocative Interviews

Between the Lines
with Ashley Lister
Alison Tyler
Ashley Lister
Debra Hyde
Donna George Storey
Jeremy Edwards
Kristina Wright
Rachel Kramer Bussel

Erotic Hot Spots
by William S. Dean
Interview with Tilly Greene
Interview with Devyn Quinn

Getting Graphic
with William S. Dean
New Times for Readers...
The Future in Words ...
Interview with Fantagraphics

On Writing Erotica

The Accidental Pornographer
by Lisabet Sarai

The End of Innocence
by Lisabet Sarai

Get Them Off in High Style
Helena Settimana

So, You Want To Write Erotica?
by Hanne Blank

Web Gems
Hot Movies For Her

The Not So Invisible Woman
by Suzanne Portnoy

Book Review by Ashley Lister

The Not So Invisible Woman by Suzanne PortnoyA middle-aged friend once asked me, “What do you call a forty year-old man who has sex more than twice in one night?” When I admitted my ignorance, he said, “You call him an ambulance.”

It was a quip that revealed more than I wanted to know about the state of his unsatisfactory sex life. It also showed that my friend probably should never be trusted to write the jokes for Christmas crackers.

The quip reminded me that there is often a vast difference between the reality of a person’s sex life and their expectations of what it should be like.

Suzanne Portnoy’s original title, The Butcher, The Baker, The Candle Stick Maker, showed how one woman bridged that gap. Explicitly charting her journey—from being an unwanted wife, to becoming a liberated divorcee, and then triumphing as a satisfied swinger–The Butcher, The Baker, The Candle Stick Maker was the unexpurgated erotic memoir of Suzanne’s discovery of sexual freedom.

The Not So Invisible Woman picks up Suzanne’s story after the publication of her first book. Suzanne still enjoys a lifestyle of sex without commitment. She has a gourmand’s taste for oral sex. She has a collection of sex toys that is rivalled only by Anne Summers. And she has a filofax of potential partners who are willing to come to her assistance at the drop of a text message. However, following the publication of The Butcher, The Baker, The Candle Stick Maker, Suzanne also has the notoriety of being the woman who wrote that book.

Not that Suzanne tries hard to hide her achievement. Signing copies of your book, then handing them to rock stars with poorly functioning equipment, has never been an advised way of maintaining a secret identity. The same can be said for public readings, publicity tours and appearances on the Howard Stern show.

But, away from her pseudonym’s salacious adventures, Suzanne is a media savvy professional publicist. She is clearly aware that successful authors are a lot like Scientologists—few people know who they are or what they do, and no one would recognise one walking down the street. Throughout The Not So Invisible Woman, Suzanne uses this balance of uncelebrated celebrity to her advantage.

And it’s the contrast of diametric opposites that makes this book as strong as its predecessor. For the majority of each month Suzanne is an iconic bastion of the feminist success story. She is a responsible mother and respected professional. It’s only on those alternate weekends—when her estranged husband has the children and she has capacity for freedom—that she casts aside the shackles of respectability and squirms with pleasure when a partner calls her “baby.”

Suzanne is clearly a competent publicist and can organise international media events for her clients with executive efficiency. Yet, The Not So Invisible Woman wittily shows the heroine having trouble organising her own gangbang.

And, while she gives herself freely to a lifestyle that deconstructs the familiar intertwining of sex and emotion, Suzanne invariably gets entangled in the emotional complexity of sexual relationships.

Suzanne Portnoy’s writing style is fun, accessible, undemanding and sometimes painfully honest. She writes chiefly to arouse and she manages that with consistent success. The Not So Invisible Woman shows Suzanne at her familiar haunts of Rio’s and Swinging Heaven and also follows the author through book signings with maid service as well as her escapades at “The Night of the Senses.” Aside from detailing an enviably exuberant sex life, the book also shows some profound insights into the conflicting contemporary attitudes toward those with a passion for promiscuity.

Suzanne Portnoy has bridged the divide between the mundane reality of a middle-aged love life and the urban myth of satisfying, swinging sex. For those who want to know more, The Not So Invisible Woman has to be seen to be believed.

Ashley Lister
February 2008

The Not So Invisible Woman

(Virgin Books; April 1, 2008; ISBN-10: 0753513951)
Available at: / Amazon UK

© 2008 Ashley Lister. All rights reserved.

About the Author:
Ashley Lister is a UK author responsible for more than two-dozen erotic novels written under a variety of pseudonyms.His most recent work, Swingers: True Confessions from Today's Modern Swinging Scene (Virgin Books; ISBN: 0753511355), a non-fiction book recounting the exploits of UK swingers, is his first title published under his own name.
Ashleys non-fiction has appeared in a variety of magazines, including Forum, Chapter & Verse and The International Journal of Erotica. Nexus, Chimera and Silver Moon have published his full-length fiction, with shorter stories appearing in anthologies edited by Maxim Jakubowski, Rachel Kramer Bussel and Mitzi Szereto. He is very proud to be a regular contributor to ERWA.
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'08 Movie Reviews

Almost Perfect
Review by Oranje

The Fold
Review by Ashley Lister

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Review by Spooky

'08 Book Reviews


Best Bisexual Women's Erotica
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Best Fantastic Erotica
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Best Women's Erotica '08
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Bound Brits (ebook)
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Deep Inside: Extreme ...
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Dirty Girls
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Hide and Seek
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Hurts So Good
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J is for Jealousy
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K is for Kink
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Lust Bites
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Open for Business
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Rubber Sex
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Rubber Sex
Review by Victoria Blisse

Seriously Sexy
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Sex & Candy
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The Shadow of a... (poetry)
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Review by Victoria Blisse

Tasting Her
Review by Kathleen Bradean

Tasting Him
Review by Ashley Lister

Tasting Him
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White Flames
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Yes, Ma'am: Male Submission
Review by Angelika Devlyn

Yes, Sir: Female Submission
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The Art of Melinoe
Review by Ashley Lister

Demon by Day
Review by Lisabet Sarai

Gemini Heat
Review by Ashley Lister

Gothic Heat
Review by Ashley Lister

The Hidden Grotto Series
Review by Lisabet Sarai

The House of Blood
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In Too Deep
Review by Ashley Lister

In Too Deep
Review by Victoria Blisse

Review by Donna George Storey

Review by Victoria Blisse

One Breath at a Time
Review by Angelika Devlyn

Out of the Shadows (ebook)
Review by Lisabet Sarai

Review by Ashley Lister

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Seduce Me
Review by Ashley Lister

Seduced by the Storm
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Serve the People!
Review by Donna G. Storey

Signed, Sealed and Delivered
Review by Lisabet Sarai

Sunfire (eBook)
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Templar Prize
Review by Angelika Devlyn

The Wicked Sex
Review by Ashley Lister

Wild Kingdom
Review by Angelika Devlyn

Gay Erotica

Review by Vincent Diamond

Best Gay Romance '08
Review by Vincent Diamond

Hard Hats
Review by Vincent Diamond

Review by Kathleen Bradean

Lesbian Erotica

Best Lesbian Erotica '08
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Best Lesbian Erotica '08
Review by Ashley Lister

The Night Watch
Review by Lisabet Sarai


America Unzipped
Review by Rob Hardy

Best Sex Writing '08
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Bonk: The Curious Coupling
Review by Rob Hardy

The Book of Love
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Casanova: Actor Lover ...
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Dishonorable Passions
Review by Rob Hardy

Flagrante Delicto (photos)
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The Flesh Press
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Geisha, Harlot, Strangler, Star
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The Humble Little Condom
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Instant Orgasm (sex guide)
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Man O Man! Writing M/M...
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The Not So Invisible Woman
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Swingers: Female...
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Who's Been Sleeping in...
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