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The following collection of sex guides, how-to books, and sexy sex ed videos will help you and your partner become better lovers by discovering what makes you tick and how you can tickle it.

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Tickle His Pickle: Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing by Sadie Allison
Tickle Kitty Press (July 2004); ISBN-10: 0970661126

Here's the penis instruction manual that should come with every guyall the highly orgasmic touches and techniques that'll rev up your passion, rekindle his intimacy, and spark the reddest hottest lustiest sex ever. Sexy and inspiring...honest and provocative...candid and exciting, Tickle His Pickle informs, entertains and reveals the penis secrets women long to know.

Want to reveal YOUR inner penis genius? Then come discover...

• Over 50 sizzling techniques to master oral lovemaking
• Dozens of ways to turn your hands into living sex toys
• How to fulfill his biggest erotic fantasies (so he'll beg for more)
• Arousing sex toy tricks that'll supercharge his orgasms
• More than 100 fun, tasteful, titillating illustrations to guide your learning process
• Secret touching tips for the "Male G-Spot" & other pleasure zones
• Plus many more turn-onsfor both of you!
  Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty by Joan Price
Seal Press (January 9, 2006); ISBN 1580051529

Better Than I Ever Expected is a warm, witty, and honest book that contends with the challenges and celebrates the delights of older-life sexuality. It asserts that women over sixty are at the top of their game when it comes to enjoying sex.

Joan Price’s woman-to-woman straight talk transcends the self-help style of other books in this field. Yes, there are challenges to sex after menopause and beyond, says Price, but there are also creative solutions. She is on a mission to let women her age and older know that they can, in fact, have the best sex of their lives. Price gets personal and stays positive, combining her own story with candid comments, tips, and sassy tales from sexually seasoned women. She acknowledges the gritty issues that older women confront in their sexual lives, noting that it’s not easy, but it certainly isn’t over.

At age 61, Price is newly engaged to the man she’s been looking for her whole life. Her discovery of how great "well-seasoned" sex can be was the inspiration for this book. Sidebars present candid and friendly sex tips; fitness, exercise, and lifestyle information; and women's erotic vignettes—both real-life experiences and fantasies.
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

Expert Guide to the G-Spot
A sexy sex ed DVD

Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid Ed

Sex expert Tristan Taormino teaches a G-spot workshop for couples where she reviews female sexual anatomy, dispels myths about the G-spot, and offers explicit advice to improve and enhance G-spot stimulation. With fingers and toys, co-hosts Donna and Sarah demonstrate various techniques as Tristan narrates; workshop participants watch and ask questions.

We meet Faith and Alec, who begin slow, sensual foreplay, followed by a spirited illustrating of different positions and stimulation techniques. When Alec brings out a vibrator with a special G-spot attachment, it sends Faith over the edge into ecstasy.

Next we meet Penny and Evan, a passionate couple who love toys. Evan warms up Penny with his mouth and fingers, then tries out a unique curved G-Spot vibe. At the start of intercourse, Penny is already on the edge of climax as Evan explores the best positions for a G-spot orgasm... on stairs, standing, where the perfect angle brings Penny to her knees - literally!

Kylie shares her G-spot experiences, which for her frequently lead to female ejaculation. Her partner Derrick knows just how to get her turned on enough to squirt. As they hit the "spot" with glass dildo and cock, she squirts until the couch beneath them is soaked!

Delve into the world of G-spot orgasm with sex expert Tristan Taormino, and her sexy, demonstrating couples, as you learn, experience, and enjoy this unique form of pleasure... led by the experts who know it best.
Available at Adult DVD Empire

Opening Up: Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino
Cleis Press (April 28, 2008); ISBN-10: 157344295X

Monogamy is not the only option for creating loving, lasting relationships. Many people prefer relationships that include some form of polyamory, but lack practical information on making non-monogamy work in the real world. Now, in Opening Up: Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino shows readers how to create polyamorous relationships that are satisfying and fulfilling.

With wise and practical guidance, Taormino helps readers decide if polyamory is right for them, explains different styles of non-monogamy, and offers options for transforming a monogamous relationship into a non-monogamous one. For those already exploring non-monogamy, Opening Up offers realistic strategies for making an open relationship work, including tips on communication, negotiation, jealousy, boundary setting, and conflict resolution, as well as such practical issues as sexuality, community, child-raising, and legal considerations.

Woven throughout the book are interviews with real people in polyamorous relationships who candidly share their struggles, fears, hopes, and successes.
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability:
For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain, and Illness by Miriam Kaufman
Cleis Press; second edition (November 28, 2007); ISBN-10: 1573443042

The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability is the first complete sex guide for people who live with disabilities, pain, illness, or chronic conditions. Useful for absolutely everyone, regardless of age, gender, or sexual orientation, the book addresses a wide range of disabilities — from chronic fatigue, back pain, and asthma to spinal cord injury, hearing and visual impairment, multiple sclerosis, and more. Expertly written by a medical doctor, a sex educator, and a disability activist, The Ultimate Guide provides readers with encouragement, support, and all the information they need to create a sex life that works for them.

The authors cover all aspects of sex and disability, including building a positive sexual self-image; positions to minimize stress and maximize pleasure; dealing with fatigue or pain during sex; finding partners and talking with partners about sex and disability; adapting sex toys; and more.

"Can you use a condom with a catheter? How do you have intercourse in a wheelchair? This detailed guide answers these questions and others that the nondisabled can't imagine.…[The book's] overall message: there is no 'right way' to have sex. Individuals need to discover what 'sex' is for them and give themselves permission to consider anything as a sexual experience." —Martha Cornog, Library Journal
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

Guide to Getting It On!: Commemorative Edition by Paul Joannides
Goofy Foot Press; 5th edition (July 28, 2006); ISBN: 1885535694

Explicit, encyclopedic, and totally accessible, Guide to Getting It On! is regarded as one of the best how-to books on sex ever written ­ and certainly the most fun to read. This new commemorative edition doesn’t disappoint. Along with the tips, techniques, positions, inhibitions, photographs, and slang terms from earlier editions, it includes over 100 new pages on a wide array of topics.

Finally, the clitoris gets its very own chapter ("Under the Hood of Nature’s Roadster") and so does the prickly topic of smooth skin ("Deforestation ­ Shaving Your Lips and Nads"). Other new chapters cover sex in the military (devoted to General Joseph Hooker, a man more successful in the bedroom than on the battlefield), threesomes, sex and cancer, and sex in the Victorian era. No topic is too verboten, no question too stupid, no hang-up too weird ­ it’s all here, presented with a joy and acceptance of all aspects of human sexuality that puts readers at ease and ready to get it on.
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

Expert Guide to Oral Sex Part 2: Fellatio
A sexy sex ed DVD

Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid Ed

This is one of those fabulous sexy sex ed films that's explicitly porny. A fun way to learn, that's for sure. Women attend a fellatio workshop lead by sex expert Tristan Taormino, where she teaches about male sexual anatomy and offers explicit advice and detailed examples to improve and enhance their oral sex skills. Tristan and her co-hosts Roxy and Christian demonstrate various techniques, discuss thoughts about oral sex and share some of their tips and tricks for maximum pleasure.

Demonstrations are enthusiastic, illustrating the benefits of different positions and stimulation techniques. Learn how to experiment with different ways to hands and mouth for stimulation and earth shattering orgasm for him.

There's plenty for the novice and advanced in oral sex skills, including deep throat techniques. Discover more about prostate stimulation, fellatio on an uncircumcised penis, and safer sex tips in the mini-features included as extras on the DVD.

Delve into the world of fellatio, taught by sex expert Tristan Taormino and demonstrated with knowledge and skill by enthusiastic couples. Learn, experience, and enjoy oral pleasure, by experts.
Available at Adult DVD Empire

Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex
Avery (October 19, 2006); ISBN: 1583332634

Legendary porn star Nina Hartley's guide to thrilling, liberating, mind-blowing, soul-fulfilling, and intimacy-building sex!Witty, smart, and frankly provocative, Nina Hartley knows sex. As a sex performer, sexual adventurer, and sex educator, she's done the fieldwork and has taken extensive notes. Now, she's ready to share her research. Let's just say that she's had all the sex-the good, the bad, and the indifferent - so you won't necessarily have to!

Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex is for sexual pioneers and enthusiastic novices. Unabashedly erotic, the book covers a lot of territory, allowing readers to sample the whole smorgasbord or just nibble at what they see as the choicest bits. To start things off, Nina includes explicitly detailed chapters on foreplay, oral sex, masturbation, toys, and games. Sexual adventurers (and voyeurs) will find chapters on swinging, three-ways, anal sex, erotic domination, sensual submission, and much more.

Nina is a strong advocate of safe sex, physically and emotionally, and she helps readers establish personal ground rules. But as a sexual liberationist and a feminist, her core belief is that, between consenting adults, all sexual behaviors are a matter of personal choice. Whether you're trying to reignite the passion with a longtime spouse, or explore new terrain with a new lover, Nina offers a variety of ideas to achieve exhilarating, deeply satisfying, intimate, and profoundly liberating sex.
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

Expert Guide to Oral Sex: Cunnilingus
Note: This is not a book, it's a sexy sex ed DVD

Cast: Ariel X, Cindy Crawford (II), Jack Lawrence, Justine Joli, Kelly Kline, Richard Kline, Tristan Taormino
Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid Ed

This is the second release of Tristan's sexy sex ed for a new generation. Justine Joli leads a group of couples in a hands-on workshop on cunnilingus, where she teaches about female sexual anatomy and offers explicit, personal advice on a topic she knows inside and out. Using her mouth, tongue, fingers, and toys, Justine demonstrates different positions and stimulation techniques with her co-host Ariel as the crowd watches and asks questions.

After the workshop, we meet Kelly and Richard, a couple who's been together for more than a decade. They discuss their thoughts about oral sex and share their favorite positions, tips, and tricks for maximum pleasure. Richard takes his time, relishing a long, sensual oral session and giving Kelly multiple orgasms.

Next, we meet Cindy and Jack, a hot couple with a vast range of know how and expertise. Jack reveals his passion for giving oral sex, and explains what he thinks are the most important ingredients for a satisfying experience. Beginning with a sexy shaving scene, Jack explores every inch of Cindy's body as he shows off his amazing oral talents.

All in all, it's an educational introduction into one of the most intimate erotic activities one that can be a surefire road to orgasm for many women. Delve into the world of cunnilingus, demonstrated with knowledge and skill by enthusiastic couples and narrated by sex expert Tristan Taormino. Learn, experience, and enjoy oral pleasure, by experts.
Available at Adult DVD Empire

Expert Guide to Anal Sex
A sex ed DVD

Cast: Adrianna Nicole, Ariel X, Lorelei Lee, Manuel Ferrara, Marcos Leon, Rikki White, Tristan Taormino
Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid Ed

 With this debut volume of the Vivid-Ed "Expert Guide" series, Tristan Taormino and Vivid-Ed developed an innovative new format: you can watch the sex scenes with or without instruction (it's like getting two movies on one disc). There are also two mini-features: an anal enema how-to and a safer sex demonstration. Plus, in a bonus sex scene, see what happens when Lorelei and Ariel finish what they started in the workshop. All in all, it's an educational introduction to the most intimate of erotic acts packed with information as well as heat and sensuality. Learn, experience, and enjoy anal pleasure by the experts.

Description:  Village Voice columnist and anal sex expert Tristan Taormino leads a group of couples in a class about anal pleasure. She covers anatomy, lube, tips, techniques, and toys. She welcomes her co- hosts, Lorelei and Ariel, who share their thoughts on the subject as well as some advice. Then they demonstrate various techniques for the crowd as Tristan narrates what they are doing. The workshop participants watch and ask questions about the G-spot, lubrication, and pain. Then, Tristan and Lorelei surprise Ariel with a very special anal toy.

After the workshop, we meet Ricki and Marcos who talk about their experiences with anal sex and share their favorite positions, toys, and tricks. Ricki tries anal beads for the first time, and the twosome have a bet about how many she'll take. Next, we meet Adrianna and Manuel, an experienced young couple with a vast range of anal know how who are also eager to demonstrate their anal style. They play with butt plugs, dildos, and vibrators and try out many different positions. Their session culminates in an intense, extended orgasm that leaves Adrianna exhausted and very satisfied.
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I Love Female Orgasm: From "Right There" to "Oh, Yeah!" - and Everything in Between by Dorian Solot, Marshall Miller
Marlowe & Company (December 28, 2006); ISBN: 1569242763

What Our Bodies, Ourselves offered women more than a generation ago, I "Love" Female Orgasm now offers young women (and men) today ­ validation of their sexuality and accessible, witty, culturally informed sex education.

Sex-educators Solot and Miller bring together a wide range of informative and instructive material, including first orgasm stories (the authors note that they've "quite possibly heard and collected more young women's female orgasm stories than anyone in the country"); advice for women looking to have their first orgasm and for helping a woman have an orgasm; discussions about orgasm during intercourse and about young women and masturbation; and all you ever wanted to know about vibrators, piercings, female ejaculation, lesbian and bi orgasm, and female orgasm from anal sex ­ all this and more in a tone that's at once friendly and feminist, funny and not at all sleazy.

Beyond all of this, I Love Female Orgasm is providing readers with experiences and information that are in tune with their own lives.
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

The Mother's Guide to Sex: Enjoying Your Sexuality Through All Stages of Motherhood by Anne Semans
Three Rivers Press (April 17, 2001); ISBN: 0812932749

A hip, no-holds-barred guide to combining the joy of sex with the joy of motherhood.

Just because you're a mother, or about to become one, doesn't mean you have to kiss your sex life good-bye. Finally, here's a unique guidebook that offers practical advice on honoring your sexuality throughout every stage of motherhood. Honest, humorous, and reassuring, The Mother's Guide to Sex delivers comprehensive information about sex and parenting, including recommendations from medical experts, sex experts, and the best experts of all -- hundreds of other mothers, whose candid anecdotes and suggestions will support, encourage, and inspire you to explore your maternal sexuality. As they sound off about the ebb and flow of desire, conflicting feelings about how their bodies have changed, the challenges they face in renegotiating their relationship with their sexuality, and more, you'll realize that you're not alone in your yearning to combine motherhood and a good sex life. You'll learn:

* how motherhood makes you a better lover
* how to enjoy healthy, safe sex during pregnancy and the postpartum period
* what factors affect your sex drive, why so many mothers lose desire, and ways to reclaim it
* how your sex life can survive despite limited time, energy, and privacy
* why single moms are entitled to great sex, and how to get it
* ten good reasons to talk to your kids about sex, and what to say
* how to model positive sexual behavior for your kids
* where to find the best resources on sex and parenting
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do:  Sex Advice from a Woman Who Knows by Candida Royalle
Fireside (January 3, 2006); ISBN 0743266455

Candida Royalle, maker of adult films with a woman's perspective and former porn actress, knows how to script, direct, and perform an erotic scene. In How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do, Royalle shows women how to create their own sexy scenarios (cameras optional). She describes how to present and playact a fantasy creating the "script"; choosing locale, music, and décor; selecting wardrobe and sex toys; having "outercourse," and directing the man in his role. Though obviously aimed at women who wish to enhance their sex life, her suggestions are not as one-sided as the clever title might imply--she gives plenty of advice about playing out the man's fantasies, helping him feel comfortable using sex toys, communicating lovingly, and giving him great oral sex.

Royalle intersperses "Director's Notes," which are tips, cautions, and summaries of sexual information. Writing with humor, she warns readers about places not to make love moving vehicle, woods (flies are attracted to perspiration), airplane bathroom. Although she promotes her own films overmuch, her tidbits about making porn films are entertaining, such as the behind-the-scenes reason that actresses keep their shoes on during sex--it's hard to keep their feet clean on the set!
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women (2nd Edition) by Tristan Taormino
Cleis Press; 2nd edition (February 9, 2006); ISBN 1573442216

Revised and updated throughout, including all-new chapters specifically for beginners and for women giving anal pleasure to men, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women is a comprehensive and creative guide to anal pleasure. Tristan Taormino offers the kind of informed reassurance that can encourage even an absolute beginner to explore this nerve-rich part of the body, either alone or with a partner of any gender. Anal sex enthusiasts may need no encouragement, but will welcome Taormino’s sense of adventure and her detailed discussions of toys, fantasy play, and positions. 

Beginning by dispelling common myths about anal eroticism, Taormino goes on to illustrate anatomy, give tips on building trust and communicating desires, and provide reliable, easy-to-understand information on safety, preparation, hygiene, and much more. This new edition has been substantially expanded and revised to include new information on masturbation, anal health, BDSM and anal sex, and many other topics. In a new feature, Taormino answers actual reader questions.
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

The Straight Girl's Guide to Sleeping with Chicks by Jen Sincero
Fireside (February 1, 2005) ISBN 0743258533

"You can't swing a dead cat at a bridal shower without hitting a straight chick who's slept with another woman, who's thought about it, or who's ready to make the move as soon as someone breaks out the booze."

Such are the incisive pearls of wisdom to be heard from straight chick and girl-on-girl dabbler Jen Sincero, author of The Straight Girl's Guide to Sleeping with Chicks. A deliciously sexy how-to guide, it gives curious straight women the complete inside scoop on girl-on-girl action—from pickup lines and virgin jitters to threesomes, techniques, and toys. Drawing on personal experience and hundreds of interviews with straight girls who've slept with lesbians, straight girls who've slept with straight girls, lesbians who've slept with straight girls, and straight girls who've done both or neither, Sincero covers the A to Z of the experience including:

· Obtaining a visitor's pass to the girls-only club
· The super-huge importance of sticking your hand down your pants
· The straight girl's starter kit -- from nail clippers to cocktails to get her in the mood
· "Gettin' Some 101" -- positions, techniques, and instructional photos
· "And Boy Makes Three!" -- how to have a threesome that's fun for all
· Suggestions for further viewing and reading and much, much more

Packed with expertly toned advice that is at once laugh-out-loud hilarious and fundamentally practical, The Straight Girl's Guide to Sleeping with Chicks is ideal for any woman looking to spice things up with a boyfriend, break the ice with a best friend, or simply add a few just-in-case items to her sexual menu.
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Go Down on a Woman and Give Her Exquisite Pleasure by Violet Blue
Paperback - 150 pages (April 2002) Cleis Pr; ISBN: 1573441449

Many people enjoy giving and receiving cunnilingus, but where do you turn when you want to learn more about oral sex or ways to introduce it into a relationship? The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus is a resource for people who are looking to expand their expertise or are simply curious. In her clear, concise, and informative text, sex educator Violet Blue provides step-by-step instructions for going down on a woman, as well as accurate and up-to-date information on female anatomy and response. In her friendly, witty tone, Blue dispatches fascinating facts and discusses games for lovers, positions, safety, a variety of techniques, erotic book and video recommendations, and tips for effectively communicating with a partner.
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio: How to Go Down on a Man and Give Him Mind-Blowing Pleasure by Violet Blue
Paperback; Publisher Cleis Pr; ISBN 1573441511; (October 2002)

With wit, expertise, and an enthusiastic approach, the author of The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus dispels myths and delivers concise information on going down on a man. Featuring a complete resource guide to books, videos, illustrations, and websites depicting fellatio, every tip, trick, and technique for giving skilled and unforgettable fellatio is provided. From talking to your partner about fellatio to male pleasure spots and sexual response, Violet Blue covers rimming, shaving, positions, oral sex games for couples, flavored lubricants, sex toys, and a plethora of oral techniques. Original, unpublished erotic vignettes by Alison Tyler are sure to get readers in the mood for trying out these tips.
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

A Different Loving by Gloria G. Brame and William D. Brame
Paperback (January 1996) Villard Books; ISBN: 0679769560

A Different Loving challenges our preconceived notions of sexual normalcy. It is welcomed by the practitioners of dominance and submission and is an indispensable book for all people who are interested in sexual and sociological mores, values, and trends.

Until now, there has been a dearth of candid discussion on alternative sexual lifestyles, "A Different Loving" fills that gap in a deeply considered, comprehensive and insightful way. It is an iconoclastic, literate and informative work destined to be widely read and endlessly debated...."
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: 
The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Philip Miller, Molly Devon
(July 1995) Mystic Rose Books; ISBN: 0964596008

The authors cleary explain not only the how, but also the why, of sadomasochism and do it in an honest, sexy, and fun way.While being chatty and certainly insight, Screw The Roses enthusiastically covers all aspects of S/M. There's explanations and detailed tutorials for "safe, sane, and consensual", solid advice, safety measures, steamy suggestions, plenty of black-and-white photographs, useful and humorous drawings, an extensive glossary, and over 900 entries of S/M clothing and equipment vendors, publications, computer bulletin boards, and organizations worldwide. For those interested in S/M, this is a highly recommended book.
Available at: Amazon.com  / Amazon UK  / Powell's Books

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