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From Lise
I was glad to see some of the commenters discussing their anal exploration and enjoyment of same. And totally understand that some folks just don't enjoy it, can't get past the taboo factor or simply aren't interested (there's lots of different sex acts that don't interest me). However, I adore anal sex, orgasm routinely just from anal penetration, and there are many women who do (read Surrender by author Toni Blakely for a very thorough story of one woman's obsession with anal). Whether (as some have said) it is partly the taboo nature that is appealing, I do enjoy a bit of pain play, and the act itself (dildo or real live cock) sends me to heaven.

I'm also a fan of double penetration - another act that you see a lot in porn. Just because it is in porn, doesn't mean it can't be really hot. It saddens me to think some women are coerced into accepting anal sex when they really hate it. On the other hand, just because some women really do love it like I do, doesn't mean we don't know our own minds about sex. Besides, I'm all about ass play, including spanking and paddling, so clearly the fixation is broader. And as some folks mentioned, too, if you are interested in the practice, but turned off by - as someone said - the poo factor - definitely clean out with an enema a few hours beforehand. If you can just embrace it, that, too, can be a kinky bit of fun. But as many advised: Go slow, lube lots, and work your way up to a cock with smaller dildos and butt plugs to prepare the way.

From Anonymous
I've read with great interest all of the posts on this subject. My own experience was limited to three women. Two of these were wives while the third was a live-in girlfriend. My first wife enjoyed anal sex perhaps three or four times per year. My second wife hated it. The first time we did it she almost immediately stopped it proclaiming how much pain it caused. The other woman actually preferred anal to vaginal sex. She experienced orgasm after orgasm that way. Personally, I found it enjoyable.

Now having said that, I'd like to mention that I am a practicing physician specializing in OB/Gyn. My most honest reaction professionally is that I truly do not believe that even five percent of women actually like anal sex. There is a good, sound reason for that as well. While men, whether or not they admit it, love to be stimulated anally, women do not and find it mostly just uncomfortable. This is due to men having the prostate gland very stimulated whenever penetrated rectally. Women have no such gland and there is no automatic turn-on for them through the anus.

However, I'd suggest that clitoral stimulation during anal penetration does often prove arousing and may make a huge difference between a painful or a very pleasurable sexual experience.

From Mari
Three cheers, Emma, for taking a stand that apparently isn't popular on this forum. I'd like to add that anal sex is the hot deal in porn, and most things showcased in porn is what some easily influenced men 'should think' they want, and what women most often don't.

From Emma
Women do not choose anal sex of their own volition but by partner coercion. A woman doesn’t normally have a prostate, our bodies are not made to enjoy anal sex. The anus actually tears, unlike the vagina which stretches and endures. However, an abused women can be made to enjoy anything. The self destructive behavior of low self-esteem can make a woman do anything for the adoration for a man

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