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From Lynn
Yes, anal penetration from a hard penis is less painful than a plastic dildo in the initial penetration. [see Mikeyd's entry below] The soft skin feels better, but the main difference is the actually hardness: a penis is never as hard or inflexable as a plastic dildo. Get yourself a silicone plug or dildo, that will be similar to the real thing.

Anal sex should never be painful, even initially. A bit of stretch and fullness is good, and sexy as hell, but pain means something is wrong -- not enough lube or not enough foreplay so your anus is relaxed and ready. Be careful! Play safe.

From Mikeyd
This is more of a question than a previous experience. I have always loved sliding things into myself anally. Most of the time they were small like my fingers but now I long to have a hard penis inside me so I have been practicing with a plug and a dildo that are about the normal size of a penis. I have been able to take both to the max and enjoy them very much after they are inside me.

My question is this. Is penetration from a hard penis less painful in the initial penetration? My thought would be yes because of the soft skin verses the hard plastic of a dildo. I would really like to know what the comparison is so I know what to expect when the day come that I finally get to have the real thing. Hopefully very soon!

From Joan
I really really hate anal sex. It's uncomfortable at best, and often hurts. True there's a bundle of sensitive nerve endings right around the anus, and it does feel good to have the area caressed, and shallow penetration with a finger is good, sexy. But a whole damn penis jamming in and out - no no no! Feels lousy.

I can understand guys getting off on anal sex because of prostate stimulation (called P-Spot), but for women? Nay. Come on guys, hands, mouths and pussys are not enough, you gotta fuck ass also?

From C
During my pregnancy I kept having a recurring infection. I pleasured my husband through oral and breast sex, but he missed the "real" thing as well.  We tried anal and he was sold. He particularly liked it when we had a large vibrator in my vagina that gave him additional stimulation (nice for me too). After the baby was born, he never wanted to go back to vaginal sex.  He is quite large (girth and length) and says that he can go deeper with anal. 

From cl
All of you who ignore your partner's ass are really missing out.  Take the time to kiss, lick, and massage it and then stick one and then more fingers in, but always use baby oil or Vaseline before using anything bigger like your cock. 

Let the woman take control of how much she is ready to take in.  This could be a slow process at first, but all the while, it makes for the best sex.  Don't forget to masturbate her pussy once you enter her from behind.  By all means talk really dirty about what you are doing to her.  She will have an unbelievable orgasm and will love you forever!

From Mary
Contrary to all the entries here, I really truly dislike anal sex. Yes, I've tried it with various lovers, in various positions, used plenty of lube, and so on. But I find anal sex uncomfortable, not too bad with no movement once in, but thrusting, even gentle and slow, doesn't feel sexy, good, or hot. Just plain old uncomfortable. 

From Femme Fatale
I love anal sex! But it did take a while to get used to. The first time my boyfriend and I did it, it hurt so bad, but I didn't want to stop because I wanted so badly to enjoy it. We didn't do it for quite some time after, but then talk about it and we discussed it, I really wanted to keep trying, and he told me he did too, but he didn't try it again because he said it looked like I was in a lot of pain. I explained to him I was up for it, but we just really needed to be lubed up, I needed to be more relaxed. 

We tried it once more, it wasn't so bad, but he came in my ass, and the next day was hell. I had to keep running to the restroom all day at work! After that, I wasn't so sure about it anymore for a while. But after some more time passed I really wanted it again. this time, we used a condom, lots of lube, and had a drink or two beforehand. We went really slow, he used a condom, and took the condom off and finished in my pussy. Oh my gosh that was so much more enjoyable! I came and knowing that he enjoyed himself was so great! Now that we've found our routine, we both love it!

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