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From Sue
What are you thinking! (I sure hope you're not getting your info from adult movies or internet porn) Good grief, Maya, most people do use condoms during anal sex. Especially people not in monogamous relationships. Think about AIDS, and STDs. [see Maya's entry below]. Another good reason to use condoms during anal sex is that they prevent the god awful 'leaking' afterward. Think sperm dripping out of your ass as you go about your day. Yuck.</p>

People who don't use condoms either have no problems with the messiness of, or if they want to avoid any possible mess, they use an Anal Douche (also called an enema) before anal sex.

From Maya
Ok, this may seem as a stupid question but I really want to ask this. Most people do not use condoms during anal sex. So, what do you do to clean your anus so that a penis, once it is out of the hole, doesn't get all messy. What do you use for cleaning and how do you reach deep inside because I can clean as deep as my fingers length which is, of course, shorter than the penis.

From Joan
I really really hate anal sex. It's uncomfortable at best, and often hurts. True there's a bundle of sensitive nerve endings right around the anus, and it does feel good to have the area caressed, and shallow penetration with a finger is good, sexy. But a whole damn penis jamming in and out - no no no! Feels lousy.

I can understand guys getting off on anal sex because of prostate stimulation (called P-Spot), but for women? Nay. Come on guys, hands, mouths and pussys are not enough, you gotta fuck ass also? sheesh.

From Blak
Now I've been able to have this girl do anything I want. Before her I never stuck anything in anyone's ass, but to my surprise after we were anal fucking for a few weeks I noticed she was coming. But I'm in her ass, was going through my mind. But since im a cockhound i kept going and going and she liked it, except for the first time she cried.

From Paul
My wife and I enjoyed anal during her pregnancy twenty years ago but soon after birth lost interest. Not having done it for so long it took me a few tries before I got it right and now I really do enjoy it, much of that enjoyment being the pleasure I give me wife who regularly is gasping and shouting in ecstasy. She is very honest and says I'm not the biggest in terms of girth but is very happy that I like anal and I'm pleased I have mastered much of the technique so I now give my wife a lot of satisfaction.

From Bob
I noticed that when a chick is not in the mood for marathon sex she is apt to offer anal so the guy shoots his load faster. I am speaking from experience.

From Love-It-Wet
I'm a guy who loves giving and receiving anal sex. I never realized it until my now ex-girlfriend's hand got lower and lower until she was playing with my asshole. I loved it. It was so sensitive and tickled so much but was extremely erotic. It moved on to fingering myself and using a dildo. The feeling is intense on the outside but the emotional turn on in the inside. I really don't feel much inside but for some reason I liked that she was there.

When giving, it's not all that different from vaginal sex. A little tighter but not much. It's the kinkiness that does it for me. My girlfriend would question my desires at times. My wife did at first too but I think she's over it now.

From Erin
I wanted to try it but my hubby was grossed out. After a few years of marriage, we agreed to try new things and rented a few porn movies to begin with to get some ideas. My choices were the anal movies. We couldn't believe the size of some of the cocks that really stretched it out the anus. 

Finally, I got my wish. I felt so naughty at first and it wasn't very comfortable. Now, I come regularly from anal sex and my hubby is now one of the biggest supporters of it. I want to try a butt plug next!

From Matt
My girl friend loves it when I give her anal, then she gives me anything I want. So all you guys out there don't forget to do anything for your girl.

From Linda
When I got married in 1975 I had never experienced anal intercourse. Thankfully my husband was experienced and the very first time with me was tender, caring, loving and in no rush. I can only imagine what the effect on me would've been had he lacked forethought and sympathy. I would have gone through my marriage hating every aspect of anal instead of enjoying an amazing experience and being wonderfully pleasured by a loving husband.

From Maria
I have always enjoyed anal. I am not into pain however that initial pain is great. My most recent boyfriend is very thick and we have oral sex then he enters my pussy for lubrication then slowly enters me. It is the greatest feeling we always have anal sex. We last 30 minutes or longer and it is soooo hot. I have begun to do an enema when I know we will be together and it make that mess much less and I think he can enter much easier.

From Eliam
I love to penetrate a woman's ass. To me, it is the most intimate thing possible. I love to kiss during anal sex, long deep open mouth kisses. The taboo, forbidden nature of the act adds to my excitement. My whole body feels like it is glowing in different colors when I am giving it to a woman in the butt. And the best is when a woman really enjoys it. There is nothing better than making a woman come while fucking her in the ass. When you put your cock up to her anus and she says, yes! fuck me there! Or when she just pulls your cock out of her pussy and puts it up to her ass. I've been lucky enough to have a few girlfriends who were like this. 

I have found that whether or not a woman enjoys being fucked in the ass depends mainly on the woman, and also it depends on how you go about it. Some women love it and come like crazy when getting their butt plowed, others are so-so about it, and others don't like it at all. But I have found that most women will try it, if the man approaches it in the right way. One way I found works is to talk in bed about fantasies, kicks. 

Just being honest and saying "I like women's butts. I like looking at them, touching them, kissing them, licking them, and I doing everything to them..." seems to work pretty well at getting her interested. Using this method, I had a girl who was 'in training' for quite some time. She kept wanting me to do it, and I would say, 'you're not ready yet. I have to open you up more first." Another thing, when it comes to verbal communication, is just plant little seeds. When talking re past experiences, mentioning that an old girlfriend loved anal sex so much that everything else was like foreplay, or something to that effect, will often pique a girl's interest. But again, it depends on the women. Trying some ass play during vaginal intercourse is a good indicator of how anally inclined a woman is. But I think, with a new partner, it is best to go slow. Don't stick your tongue up her ass the first time you go down on her. Maybe just lick it for half a second on your way back to the snatch, see how she reacts. Eventually, and maybe quite soon, she'll let you know if she likes it.

Unfortunately, it seems that a woman who loves anal sex is awful easy to fall head over heels with, regardless of her other qualities. I'm hoping to find one who loves it as much as I do, and is also a responsible, kind, loving, sweet person. Brazil is my latest hunting ground. It seems like the women down there are more open to anal sex. 

My Brazilian girlfriend prefers, however, that I use a condom when fucking her ass. One time we didn't have any lubricant so I grabbed a stick of coco-butter lip glass and broke off a chunk and smeared it all over the condom and her ass. But it was like little white chunks and it took me forever to get them to dissolve. The next day she discovered the damage I did to the lip gloss and as soon as she realized what I'd used it for, she laughed her ass off.

From Maya
Ok, this may seem as a stupid question but I really want to ask this. Most people do not use condoms during anal sex. So, what do you do to clean your anus so that a penis, once it is out of the hole, doesn't get all messy. What do you use for cleaning and how do you reach deep inside because I can clean as deep as my fingers length which is, of course, shorter than the penis.

From Joan
I really really hate anal sex. It's uncomfortable at best, and often hurts. True there's a bundle of sensitive nerve endings right around the anus, and it does feel good to have the area caressed, and shallow penetration with a finger is good, sexy. But a whole damn penis jamming in and out - no no no! Feels lousy.

I can understand guys getting off on anal sex because of prostate stimulation (called P-Spot), but for women? Nay. Come on guys, hands, mouths and pussys are not enough, you gotta fuck ass also? sheesh.

From Blak
Now I've been able to have this girl do anything I want. Before her I never stuck anything in anyone's ass, but to my surprise after we were anal fucking for a few weeks I noticed she was coming. But I'm in her ass, was going through my mind. But since im a cockhound i kept going and going and she liked it, except for the first time she cried.

From Paul
My wife and I enjoyed anal during her pregnancy twenty years ago but soon after birth lost interest. Not having done it for so long it took me a few tries before I got it right and now I really do enjoy it, much of that enjoyment being the pleasure I give me wife who regularly is gasping and shouting in ecstasy. She is very honest and says I'm not the biggest in terms of girth but is very happy that I like anal and I'm pleased I have mastered much of the technique so I now give my wife a lot of satisfaction.

From Bob
I noticed that when a chick is not in the mood for marathon sex she is apt to offer anal so the guy shoots his load faster. I am speaking from experience.

From Love-It-Wet
I'm a guy who loves giving and receiving anal sex. I never realized it until my now ex-girlfriend's hand got lower and lower until she was playing with my asshole. I loved it. It was so sensitive and tickled so much but was extremely erotic. It moved on to fingering myself and using a dildo. The feeling is intense on the outside but the emotional turn on in the inside. I really don't feel much inside but for some reason I liked that she was there.

When giving, it's not all that different from vaginal sex. A little tighter but not much. It's the kinkiness that does it for me. My girlfriend would question my desires at times. My wife did at first too but I think she's over it now.

From Erin
I wanted to try it but my hubby was grossed out. After a few years of marriage, we agreed to try new things and rented a few porn movies to begin with to get some ideas. My choices were the anal movies. We couldn't believe the size of some of the cocks that really stretched it out the anus. 

Finally, I got my wish. I felt so naughty at first and it wasn't very comfortable. Now, I come regularly from anal sex and my hubby is now one of the biggest supporters of it. I want to try a butt plug next!

From Matt
My girl friend loves it when I give her anal, then she gives me anything I want. So all you guys out there don't forget to do anything for your girl.

From Linda
When I got married in 1975 I had never experienced anal intercourse. Thankfully my husband was experienced and the very first time with me was tender, caring, loving and in no rush. I can only imagine what the effect on me would've been had he lacked forethought and sympathy. I would have gone through my marriage hating every aspect of anal instead of enjoying an amazing experience and being wonderfully pleasured by a loving husband.

From Maria
I have always enjoyed anal. I am not into pain however that initial pain is great. My most recent boyfriend is very thick and we have oral sex then he enters my pussy for lubrication then slowly enters me. It is the greatest feeling we always have anal sex. We last 30 minutes or longer and it is soooo hot. I have begun to do an enema when I know we will be together and it make that mess much less and I think he can enter much easier.

From Eliam
I love to penetrate a woman's ass. To me, it is the most intimate thing possible. I love to kiss during anal sex, long deep open mouth kisses. The taboo, forbidden nature of the act adds to my excitement. My whole body feels like it is glowing in different colors when I am giving it to a woman in the butt. And the best is when a woman really enjoys it. There is nothing better than making a woman come while fucking her in the ass. When you put your cock up to her anus and she says, yes! fuck me there! Or when she just pulls your cock out of her pussy and puts it up to her ass. I've been lucky enough to have a few girlfriends who were like this. 

I have found that whether or not a woman enjoys being fucked in the ass depends mainly on the woman, and also it depends on how you go about it. Some women love it and come like crazy when getting their butt plowed, others are so-so about it, and others don't like it at all. But I have found that most women will try it, if the man approaches it in the right way. One way I found works is to talk in bed about fantasies, kicks. 

Just being honest and saying "I like women's butts. I like looking at them, touching them, kissing them, licking them, and I doing everything to them..." seems to work pretty well at getting her interested. Using this method, I had a girl who was 'in training' for quite some time. She kept wanting me to do it, and I would say, 'you're not ready yet. I have to open you up more first." Another thing, when it comes to verbal communication, is just plant little seeds. When talking re past experiences, mentioning that an old girlfriend loved anal sex so much that everything else was like foreplay, or something to that effect, will often pique a girl's interest. But again, it depends on the women. Trying some ass play during vaginal intercourse is a good indicator of how anally inclined a woman is. But I think, with a new partner, it is best to go slow. Don't stick your tongue up her ass the first time you go down on her. Maybe just lick it for half a second on your way back to the snatch, see how she reacts. Eventually, and maybe quite soon, she'll let you know if she likes it.

Unfortunately, it seems that a woman who loves anal sex is awful easy to fall head over heels with, regardless of her other qualities. I'm hoping to find one who loves it as much as I do, and is also a responsible, kind, loving, sweet person. Brazil is my latest hunting ground. It seems like the women down there are more open to anal sex. 

My Brazilian girlfriend prefers, however, that I use a condom when fucking her ass. One time we didn't have any lubricant so I grabbed a stick of coco-butter lip glass and broke off a chunk and smeared it all over the condom and her ass. But it was like little white chunks and it took me forever to get them to dissolve. The next day she discovered the damage I did to the lip gloss and as soon as she realized what I'd used it for, she laughed her ass off.

From Brad
For about six months, back in 2002-03, I dated, and lived with, an Irish-German woman who fantasized about being fucked up the ass. Unfortunately I never did shove my pole up her sweet derriere. 

One day something happened which is so erotically charged that it is really rather ludicrous. Claire and I were lounging on the bed on a Saturday or Sunday, watching t.v. Claire was eating baby carrots out of a plastic bag that she'd grabbed out of the fridge.  I told her, and this still rings in my head, "Stop eating those carrots or I'll shove them up your ass". I remember her kicking me half angrily and half probably excitedly, though it happened so fast it was hard to tell. Anyway, she ate another carrot, at which point I grabbed the wet plastic bag from over on her other side. There were only four little carrot left, but that was OK. I got up on my knees, sat down on the backs of her legs, and pulled down her pajama bottoms, revealing her full, pale, shapely buttocks, which she clenched in embarrassment. Hard to describe how exciting the next minute or so was, with Claire wriggling and pleading and squirming, but suffice it to say that I slid the four remaining carrots up her cute little butt hole and reminded her in no uncertain terms that I was "the boss", even making her say out loud that I was the boss.

From Barbara
These messages make very interesting reading and prompted me to think if my husband ever considered or wanted a man inside his anus. As he's never said anything to me in 25 years of marriage I guess the answer is 'no' especially as we have always enjoyed anal and recently we struck a more intimate relationship with an old friend whose wife had died and during one lovely weekend at our house he penetrated me anally. But the thought of another man inside my husband remains very intriguing and I wonder how I'd feel and react to seeing it.

From Anonymous
To Jimbo [see Jimbo's entry below] If you trust your girlfriend, you have a communicative relationship, and she has security about your commitment to her, I don't think you should hesitate whatsoever about being open with her about your anal enjoyment. I am assuming that the main reason you are embarrassed is that it might imply that you are not straight? But if it feels good to you, then go for it and explore your fantasies! 

Gay men who have anal sex do it because they like the sensation - not because they are gay. They are still men, and it feels good to them! Besides, not all gay men are into anal sex. Sexuality - straight or gay - isn't defined by what specific sex acts give you pleasure, but rather, who you are attracted to sexually and who you are actually having the sex with. 

If your desire to be anally penetrated raises questions from your girlfriend about your sexually, simply affirm her by telling her that she's the one who turns you on and the one you want to have sex with!

From Jimbo
I get really turned on thinking about my girlfriend fucking my ass. I don't know how this happened but its become a big fantasy. Recently she agreed to anal and I fucked her ass which was amazing. Then another night I said she could do the same to me with her dildo. It was great although I don't know how much I want her to know I like it, as a straight guy I feel a bit embarrassed by this. 

What do people think, should I be so embarrassed? I love her to get a strap-on and tie me up really.

From ALT
I'm female and interested in fucking my boyfriend anally. The idea really turns me on, but he's a bit apprehensive (anal is not really his thing and he is not looking to fuck me that way). He is willing however. I want to make sure I don't hurt him and make him feel good. I know the prostate is a pleasurable spot for a man, so what toys (strap-on's are appealing to me because it's as if I am man fucking him) and lube should I use and what would be the best way to perform the act?

From Anonymous
The first time I tried anal sex I was pretty nervous. I'd had several boyfriends before who pressured me to try it, but I never trusted them enough to go with it. I'm glad that I waited (like the way some people feel about losing their virginity!). My wonderful partner was and is very loving and patient (don't underestimate the importance of lube). I have to say that not only can it feel fantastic, I love the all-over feeling of relaxation that needs to happen in order for anal sex to be comfortable (for me, anyway). I just give myself up to it. A vibrator or a dildo in your pussy at the same time can be a turn on for both—he can feel it through the vaginal walls.

I am contemplating buying a Strap-on because it's my fantasy to give him something like the pleasure he gives me. I like to imagine myself thrusting into him. He's the first man I've been with who I sometimes want to trade places with sexually, just to know what it's like.

From D
I love anal. I love being on top and riding it. I am in control of how deep, how fast and forceful the thrust is. It's a guaranteed double orgasm for me and one great big orgasm for him. What is more enjoyable is when he's in my back door and I have a dildo in my vagina at the same time. To top it off, if I can put my Vibrating Egg (Thank you for that Doc Johnson!) on my clit - it couldn't get any better.

From Tam
Hi Dale [see Dale's entry below]- I can put a female perspective on a few of your questions.

Yes, anal can be a bit smelly and messy. That can be avoided if you know you're gonna do it (quick trip to bathroom), but if it's a spur of the moment thing...well. I think if you're really into it, and the moment, then its not an issue. Keeping a towel by the bed (at all times) isn't a bad idea and all it takes is a quick wash-up afterwards. 

If you're gonna be fussing about things like that then you won't enjoy the moment. It took me a while to get used to not worrying about 'is there a mess' but with the right person it's not an issue. My lovely man just brought in a warm wash cloth to clean me up and that just brought home what a special guy he is.

I've seen men penetrated and can't say the hair issue ever seemed to be a problem.

Yes, one guy can feel the other guys cock in a DP. That's one of the things my guys loves best.

While we're on the 'ass' track, are others out there as enamoured of licking and being licked? Looooove it.

From Dale
Ok, ok, I'm glad we're all talking about this, because I've had a million questions for a hundred years. Count me in as one who's not interested in actually performing anal intercourse, for a variety of reasons. However, After having read all the comments here, my curiosity is peaked a little more than it ever has been before. I don't know if I'll try anal sex, but I do know that it's extremely arousing to read about it here.

From CalGuy
I am a 35 year old bi-guy and love anal sex. Your partner has to be gentle and caring and if he works you in well enough, there can be many hours of hard pounding. My favorite position is doggie but me on my back, legs on his shoulders work really well. If only I can find a male/female couple to do the entire threesome gig, that would be awesome.

From She
Anonymous, I agree: A finger is one thing, but a dick? No thank you. [see Anonymous' entry below]. I know there are women who enjoy anal sex and of course that's all fine and good. But I wonder how many women feel obligated to enjoy anal sex because it's high profile in the porn industry.

The porn industry is making millions off anal sex because it was finally something new to bring to the screen, and as an added bonus, it's something that had a bit of a taboo attached to it. The sex toy industry enjoyed a huge jump in bucks as butt plugs suddenly became a hot item. So the sex industry is making a bundle on anal sex. Got to love that.

From Candice
I had tried anal sex once, and it was painful. I know now that it was largely due to the inexperience of myself and my partner at the time. But that was then, this is now. I love anal sex - and it's all due to the patience, love and all things good about my boyfriend. I had started to think that I was frigid or a prude (not!) but it was just that I didn't have the right partner until now. I know my sweetie was a bit surprised as to what really goes on in my mind - I have a very active imagination - but pleased. I finally admitted to him that yes, I was interested in trying anal sex, but a bit scared too.

We talked about it, he explained the "steps" to me on introducing me to it and I thought, "What the heck?" So we started getting me ready. We bought a smallish vibrator for me. The deal was only he could use it on me, I could not use it solo. I must admit that was a turn on right there to me. A weekend to ourselves, the new vibrator and a new tube of KY and we were set. I'm not much of a writer, so bear with me, please.

He took plenty of time with foreplay...he likes to give me a good tongue lashing anyway (and he's very good at it) and he spent much time with my pussy and clit and breasts (all very sensitive). He made sure that there was plenty of KY at all times - very important. He introduced one finger slowly all while applying his tongue to my clit. If it matters, he was on his back and I was sitting on his face for part of this. When he started with the vibrator, he didn't pause in his attentions to my pussy, and lubed the vibrator well and often.

From Anonymous
I'm open-minded, so the one and only time anal sex was ever suggested by a lover, I was willing to attempt it, though I couldn't commit wholly to it. It was a "let's see how it goes" process. Needless to say, it didn't go very far. I don't even think he got past putting the head in before I felt like I was being torn apart. It was quite painful, so I asked him to stop. (For the record, I do think that I might be a little tighter anally than the average person). He obliged. We were just experimenting anyway. A finger is one thing, but a dick? No thank you. To each is own, but sex for me is about pleasure, not pain.

When it was first brought up as "something to try", I told him, "Sure, I'll let you fuck me in the ass if you let me fuck you in the ass first." He was very adamant that he was not interested in having his ass penetrated. So I asked him, "So why do you think I would be?" He told me that it just seemed more "natural" for women. ( I guess his line of thinking was that women are already used to being plugged.) My response, "More natural for women?! I already have a hole made for fucking!"

Nevertheless, I was still willing to try. Who knows? I might enjoy it, though I suspected that probably wouldn't be the case as indeed it wasn't.

From Jimi
We swing about once a month and my wife's favorite position with her main partner is anal (while providing oral to a second partner). She is a fiftiesomething lady and now finds it uncomfortable to accommodate a well endowed male in her vagina. However, she has no problems taking a guy of any size in her anus and has never had to use lube and doesn't object if the guy opts not to wear a rubber for anal.

From Anonymous
On the night my boyfriend and I were going to have sex for the first time (causing me to lose my virginity), neither of us had a condom. Of course we didn't realize this until we were through with foreplay and really ready to go. I suggested anal, as I'd heard it felt amazing and really get off to the mere idea of it. Neither of us had ever tried it (we're kind of young and inexperienced at 19 years old), so it was interesting to try to figure it out.

So, we got out the baby oil (we learned later that using baby oil for lube is NOT a good idea), rubbed some on, and took a shot. It hurt. A lot. Not really a stabbing pain, but a constant, damn that really hurts, dull pain. I made him pull out and gave him a handjob instead.

We didn't try anal again for a couple months. Both of us sort of read about it and sent each other emails about what we were learning. It sounds like we were researching, but it was actually pretty cool. I've been "obsessed" with porn for years, so I naturally knew all about Tristan. I looked up her website (puckerup.com) and got some good tips. We finally got the proper lube (jelly, not liquid... like the consistency of hair gel kind of), and used a lot more than we originally did. We had to play around to get the right angle, but once we did it was amazing on this end of things... and he didn't have any complaints either. I came three times and I think I woke his entire family screaming... oh well. We'll definitely be playing even more... maybe with him taking it next time.

For those of you who are curious and have never tried it before or are working on getting it right—don't be discouraged by a bad experience! We learn from our mistakes. Sure, it might hurt to start out with, but you'll get it right. Be patient and tell your guy/girl to do the same.

From Rain
Dane asked if the receiver could orgasm from anal sex. The answer is most certainly yes! While not everyone can achieve it, I'd say a sizeable percentage of the people who enjoy anal sex can get off from it. Interestingly, I've run into more women than men who can come from anal sex; one would think that the prostate would give men the "edge" here, but perhaps women's more fluid orgasmic capacity wins out. As well, a lot of women seem able to have unusually intense orgasms from anal sex; I'm not sure whether this is because of indirect G-spot stimulation, psychological factors, or who knows what, but it's undoubtedly nice regardless! My girlfriend and I have both managed to orgasm from anal stimulation, but neither of us has orgasmed from receiving anal sex per se.

Anal sex can be tough to get the hang of, but it's certainly worth it. The books that've been recommended are quite good; everyone who's interested in anal-eroticism should definitely own one or both. The Morin book, Anal Pleasure & Health: a Guide for Men and Women, is more comprehensive, while the Taormino book, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, 2nd Edition, is more specifically oriented towards sex (rather than general anal health). The Morin book gets the edge if you have to buy just one.

[Editor's Note: We also recommend the Anal Sex with Liberator Shapes site.]

From Josie
Perhaps I can add my thoughts on anal intercourse. When I first met my husband I was in my early thirties back in the mid seventies, I hadn't had a man in my anus and when he suggested it I was very frightened, remembering lots of old wives tales. But my husband was very kind, gentle, and used lots of lubrication for his first penetration. Over a period of about ten minutes he worked his penis into my anus by going in, then out, and back again, each time entering me a little deeper, until fully in, all this accompanied by my gasps of ecstasy and enjoyment! 

Once fully in he began a slow in-out movement, building in pace until he was moving at some speed, without any pain incurred by me, my anus fully relaxed and able to accommodate his length and girth, he eventually climaxing. From that very cautious start I immediately became a believer! 

Then, about ten years ago, we swung for the first time and one of my partners asked if I enjoyed anal sex and I had no hesitation in saying 'yes' as long as he was as gentle, caring and loving as my husband. He was and at regular intervals since during swinging I've been very relaxed with anal intercourse with a variety of men, young and my age, all penis lengths and girths, but hubby remains my main backdoor man!

From Debbie
I tried anal sex years ago. The guy was very gentle, and no lube was used. It was great. After that I tried it again and it hurt like hell, and well, I just could not relax and the pain took over so it was unsuccessful. Recently, unexpectedly it was tried on me again (without lube). My partner really took his time and even though it was painful, it was as though he knew when to stop...insert more...stop...insert more, etc. Finally, in it went and I felt as though I was in "hog heaven." He was sooo patient. 

I dream of the next time we are together just so we can try it again. I hear a lot of people mention lots of lube, but on the other hand I hear of all the messiness it can create the next day or two. I didn't have that problem with my partner just going in and using the lubrication that was already there from the two of us, and because we were so hot and horny, I believe my body just created its own wetness. 

I say to anyone who hasn't experienced it, go for it. It's great! I'm glad I did it! (Patting myself on the back)

From Bi-girl
I like it on occasion, like when I'm very very horny. Right after an orgasm is good but my man is usually done for the night after I come.

I love it when he fingers my asshole when he's going down on me. Nothing in the world like it. It makes my orgasms that much more mind-blowing.

I was with a guy once who was obsessed with my asshole. He peeled a banana and tried to stick it in my butt hole. Of course it was too soft to work but he kept doing it as he ate the banana. He also kept sticking his fingers in and would suck them afterward and say "Ummmm..."

He couldn't get hard enough to fuck me so he had me finger fuck his ass while he jerked off. Okay he was a little weird but it was fun in a kinky way.

I also had a guy who wanted to eat my ass while I slept. It drove me crazy because I was dog tired and I needed to get at least a few hours sleep so I could get to work on time later that morning. Otherwise I would have been all for it.

From Micky
I love anal sex its the best tight and hot . The less movement the better, just the thought of being up there in her ass as well as from behind - it's a double whammy. I love being inside a women's arse, I can't think of anything I like so much. I am big and inside is best it's sooo tight and unbelievable. 

Once you find a girl who likes it you won't do anything else. It's so god damn HOT in there its like a raging furnace, no wonder it was the work of the devil years ago and taboo. If it's the arse or vagina, I take the arse every time. 

My cock just fits in my girl's ass and it touches the walls. I come and nearly pass out with all that lack of space in there and its never flaccid, I come again and again, it's so muscular and clamps the whole penis. Slow and hardly any movement no need the tighter the better and the look on your partner's face slightly painful water in her eyes and holding her breath she loves me in there. I can masturbate her and we explode in a frenzy. I like to teach the rites of the back passage.

From Anonymous
I will never ever get tired of this position, the back door man will always be there. If it's the trade man's rear entrance then I am at the back. I think I might be obsessed. The girls I like have big black butts and I am white. I love the visual thing of my big pink cock thrusting doggy style into her butt cheeks. The black or golden brown buttocks cheeks parted so I can enter her vaginally or anally is the best. I can come real hard from behind, it's a visual stimulus. 

My partner loves it she feels I am a king in control holding her hips ramming her from the back. She is imagining all sorts of things. I get so hard I thrust harder I can control it. My girl is petite and actually has a big butt disproportionate to her slim frame. I feel like I am going to break her. Big huge man inside small young thing. All about what we get off on. I cant leave her butt alone. I think I need some help but my girl says don't stop. slap her ass as I fuck her. Oooh it's good.

From Hal
My wife enjoyed anal sex with each of her partners well before we met and married (1975) and we have ever since. Now in our sixties we continue to lead an active life and enjoy nightly sex of one form or other. For the first time in our marriage, for a bit of fun, we decided to swing a few months back. We met up with a few couples our age, background etc and one the husbands had a particularly large penis and amongst other things he took her anally. 

Result of this is that she can no longer feel me when I go in, or I don't generate the same excitement as her swing partner did. For the time being we'll continue to swing with this couple and my wife will of course continue to be satisfied, but for how long?

From Baron
My current "lady" and I both enjoy anal sex. Given and received. Of course it starts with a good anal cleaning.

It started when I asked to fuck her in the ass, she said fine, but I will get it as well. Oh boy am I ever glad she made me take a dildo in my ass. A small thin one at first, but now the ones we use are larger. I like the softer rubber ones shaped like a real cock. The feeling of being facedown on the bed as she slowly inserts it inside me is wonderful. Even when she just inserts it and leaves it in me. The look is also a turn on. Yup she has taken pics. We have progressed to butt plugs with the harness that holds it it place. (both of us have our own)

Our two new toys are: She has "dildo" panties with two dildos attached that are inserted into her. She bought me a "larger" butt plug. It's black, curved, about 6" long and 6" around at the base. It does hurt some going in. But Ooohhh! I can only get it in while on all fours.

From Femme Fatale
I love anal sex! But it did take a while to get used to. The first time my boyfriend and I did it, it hurt so bad, but I didn't want to stop because I wanted so badly to enjoy it. We didn't do it for quite some time after, but then talk about it and we discussed it, I really wanted to keep trying, and he told me he did too, but he didn't try it again because he said it looked like I was in a lot of pain. I explained to him I was up for it, but we just really needed to be lubed up, I needed to be more relaxed. 

We tried it once more, it wasn't so bad, but he came in my ass, and the next day was hell. I had to keep running to the restroom all day at work! After that, I wasn't so sure about it anymore for a while. But after some more time passed I really wanted it again. this time, we used a condom, lots of lube, and had a drink or two beforehand. We went really slow, he used a condom, and took the condom off and finished in my pussy. Oh my gosh that was so much more enjoyable! I came and knowing that he enjoyed himself was so great! Now that we've found our routine, we both love it!

From David
I like anal sex with younger women 18 to 21. Especially if I can get their anal cherry. I love to be the first to get my penis in their virginal butt. I like everything about it. I like licking it too. I come so hard during anal sex because it's a taboo subject. It's dirty, filthy, and trashy but I love it.

From Anonymous
The one item I didn't see mentioned was hemorrhoids. My wife had had hemorrhoids while she was married to her first husband. Consequently they did not engage in anal sex but a few times. Later she had an operation that eliminated the hemorrhoids but her husband died not too long afterwards. I was surprised when I was grinding up against her in bed one morning in the spoon position and she asked me if I would like to take her in the ass. Of course I said, YES! 

She got on her knees and after I lubed her rectum and my penis, she took my penis in her hand and inserted it slowly taking her time to work it in. Once my dick was completely up her ass it was like she couldn't get enough and kept wriggling her ass back and forth pushing against my groin trying to get more in as deep as she could. She had several orgasms while she told me how much she loved having me fuck her ass. After about five minutes of hard pounding I came, moaning loudly and pouring a tremendous load of cum into her anus. 

Since that first time, we have anal sex a couple of times a month and it is always fantastic. I try not to do it too much because I don't want the novelty to wear off but sometimes it's all I can think about, getting my cock firmly planted up between her delectable buttocks.

From Lily
My ex husband and I use to have anal sex all the time. I loved it when he would put it in and we would both come so hard our toes curled. We would then fall asleep with him still in me. How I miss those days. We loved to spoon and he would go so slow to get it in then we just hate to take it out. 

He was always game to try new things and loved it when I finally got him his very own butt plug. I would insert it and he would insert on me, it was great. We even inserted his plug and went to dinner and out dancing wow was he ready when we got home. So if your clean and take it easy with good lube you'll really enjoy it.

From An Anonymous Lady
My boyfriend and I tried anal sex in the missionary position. I hate to sound sheltered but, I did not know about that position. I always figured anal was just with the guy behind the girl. Well, in the beginning it really did hurt like hell! 

After some time I was surprised to find that I was actually having an orgasm that felt so good and so powerful that I started crying. I felt embarrassed afterwards, because I did not think I could actually come from that. I always thought that type of sex was dirty and unacceptable, but I see it a little bit different now.

From Dave
My wife and I enjoy it occasionally as a change of pace. If she's really turned on she likes getting pounded hard from behind. Position is important. She has to be on her knees with her weight supported by a low table or chair. We always use plenty of lube and I make sure to penetrate her slowly. 

I can usually stroke it hard enough and long enough to make her come but control is difficult. I don't come in her because of the mess it makes later on. When she's done, we switch and it's my turn. I just lie on my back and let her use a penis shaped vibrator in my butt. The stimulation to my prostate is intense and it doesn't take long at all for her to masturbate me to a huge orgasm.

From Lucy
Just wanted to say my partner introduced me to anal play a couple of years ago. It was and is the most enjoyable thing I have ever encountered. Anal stimulation can bring me to orgasm and with his penis in my anus and a vibrator in my pussy it is out of this world, we both receive amazing orgasms.

From Onispq
I just adore my wife fingering my ass while she is licking my dick...very intense experience.

From Anonymous
My wife loves anal sex. We used to do it in a rocking chair. She would kneel on the seat, breasts against the back with me standing behind her. After I entered her we would rock the chair. I just stood there, hands on her hips, the chair did all the work. The best orgasm I ever had was when I made love to her when she had a vibrator in her ass. I now know why you ladies like them.

From Judy
Oh my god, Anonymous [see entry below], I could just hug you for being brave enough to tell it like it is. There's not one single mention of the dastardly after effects of anal sex other then yours. Shame on the rest of us for not being so up-front.

As enjoyable as anal sex is (and remember, not everyone enjoys such stuff so if your partner isn't into it, please don't nag, coerce or pressure them into something they don't want), there is a price to pay, and the after effects are damn lousy. Cum & lube dribbles out hours later (which is really yucky, let me tell ya), then there's the real possibility of urgent diarrhea the next day, due to all that slippery stuff that was so necessary during the deed. Like Anonymous so aptly said, lube and cum does a number on bathroom habits. Alas.

From Anonymous
I love it, but the day after is another story! I have been known to beg for it! I ache for it even as I write. That initial entry, the getting settled and that spurt of hot cum send me out of this world!

I find that all that lube and cum does a number on my bathroom habits! Best to do this Friday or Saturday night so as to get "regular again."

From Anonymous
To all those out there who think anal is weird or gross, you haven't really given it a chance. Years ago, I had a boyfriend with an extremely large penis and then I would agree. But after getting used to it with a smaller patient partner, I find it hard to really let myself go without any anal stimulation. It actually takes longer for me to come. So for all of you who haven't tried it...do! I have a modo...which is...try everything at least once and remember lube and relax!

From Anonymous
A big reason why I am not so crazy about anal sex is it can cause a little bit of bleeding and cramping. I experienced it. I did not tell my boyfriend because I was to upset to even talk about it. I don't see why its so important to him, especially when he talks of how he likes other types of sex with me. 

There was a little bleeding even after using a lot of lubrication etc. I am just not a big fan of it. I don't think its bad for other people. If someone else likes it, I applaud them on finding it enjoyable. I just don't think its for me.

From Mark
To Anonymous (see below): It's not a matter of which place, pussy or ass, is tighter, it's simply all about the thought of putting ones penis in a 'forbidden' hole, so to speak. In other words, it's a mental thing, not an actually 'how it feels. thing. 

What alarms me is that you said "if I had a choice". Please please never forget you always have a choice. If your guy is a decent person, he will not pressure you into doing something you don't like. 

On the other hand, if anal sex does give you an orgasm, then perhaps now and then a little anal play that doesn't involve his penis might be fun. Some women, like my wife, don't like the feeling of a penis in their ass, and especially don't like the thrusting motion. Try a small anal sex toy, or a little finger play. Often a little pressure right there is sexy as sin, but too much is a turn-off. 

Bottom line is, if you don't like it, that's fine. There's nothing wrong with letting your guy know that anal sex is not your thing.

From Anonymous
I tried anal sex with my boyfriend for the first time. It started out so painful and I hated it. I asked him to pull it out but he refused and told me to relax. It wasn't as bad after he kept it in for a little bit. He was really patient about it. I ended up trying it another time with him after that, and it wasn't as bad the second time. I can't say its my favorite as opposed to him putting it in my pussy. I like when he puts it in my pussy more than anal.

The thing I don't get is this... He says I have a tight pussy and that's why he likes sex with me. Yet he says he liked trying anal sex twice with me because I have a tight asshole...so, if both are tight why does he have to want anal sex? 

I don't feel right doing it, the thought of it sounds so weird, but it can bring an orgasm. But I have soooo more of an orgasm with vaginal sex. So if I had a choice I would choose that one over anal any day...

From Roy
Anal sex is definitely a huge turn on with my wife and I. Whoever said that men have more pleasure to gain from the experience than women is absolutely correct. My wife and I love to use a double headed dildoe with each other and it's really amazing how she can make me come just from laying back and feeling her ram that big dildoe up my ass. She loves the feeling of my nude butt cheeks against her body and I love seeing her big tits shake and bounce around.

My personal favorite with anal sex and my wife is when she wears a strap on dildoe and I lay on my back and she fucks me like a bitch in heat. It's very enjoyable to use my bare feet to play with her big tits and her nipples as well.

From Anonymous
I love watching lesbian porn. Not attracted to men. But the thought of receiving anal from a woman really turns me on. What does this mean? I am not gay, (men do nothing for me). My fantasy is to go down on a women and receive anal penetration from another woman.

From Ali
I'm 40 years old and I recently had anal sex for the first time. I've been curious about it for as long as I can remember, but my husband has always refused to do it. So I picked up a younger guy in a club, we went back to his place and he fucked me in the ass. It didn't really feel any different to normal sex, it just made me feel so dirty. I loved it, and I crave more.

From Mary
Contrary to all the entries here, I really truly dislike anal sex. Yes, I've tried it with various lovers, in various positions, used plenty of lube, and so on. But I find anal sex uncomfortable, not too bad with no movement once in, but thrusting, even gentle and slow, doesn't feel sexy, good, or hot. Just plain old uncomfortable. 

From Mike
I can honestly say that now I have reached the venerable age of 60 and been in the anus of 39 female lovers and had countless men in my anus, that it is the most fantastic sex in the world. Almost all of my female lovers had orgasms, wonderful orgasms with me in their bottom. I have had fabulous orgasms without even touching my own penis with sensitive and caring lovers of the male sex. 

I was raped at the age of 20 by an Arab in the Mediterranean and found that I involuntarily had an orgasm. After that I could not get enough cock up me! Bisexuality has its definite advantages. My wife would also have me with a strap on dildo up to a couple of years ago but as age creeps up then you have to look after your anus! I wish I was 20 again. Enjoy while you are young.

From X
Oh, I can't wait for my first true anal encounter where I'll get the opportunity to feel an erection pressing against my prostate...that feeling of knowing when I am being penetrated that I will be considered the woman in the encounter...and finally get to truly please my friend of 24 years.

From Darragh
I am one guy who can attest to the addictive nature of great anal play. I was fortunate enough to be introduced to anal play by a very forward thinking girlfriend. She was pretty wild and crazy, and I was pretty willing. We started off slow and small and worked our way up. She would have such intensely strong orgasms from anal that I swore they had to be G spot orgasms…no joke. For me, I was shocked how great it felt and how erotic it was to have her penetrate me. Her being in complete control was a turn on in itself. I think what really did it for me was the first time she actually was able to fist me. It was during light bondage play, and though there was a bit of a pain pleasure thing at first it turned into the most exquisite pleasure after she was in all the way. I almost literally passed out when I orgasmic.

Unfortunately, all good things come to an end. She went her way and I mine. I dated a few others who were almost as adventurous, but I was spoiled. I even tried to settle into marriage but our drives just did not match up.

So, Alexis and Marilyn, I know exactly who you feel. You are not alone! Self-pleasure is just not the same as with a wild and willing partner. It’s also hard to start from scratch with a new partner. Someone should come up with a forum for MATURE adults like us so those who are looking for a partner with similar interests can hook up. That way you know right from the start what the persons attitude is going to be. "When sex isn’t an issue in the relationship it is only 5 percent of the focus, when it is an issue it is 95 percent of the focus"

From Matt
Anal is lovely for all concerned, provided you make love in a loving, unhurried way, plenty of foreplay, cunnilingus and analingus with gentle finger probing a millimeter at a time until her anus is relaxed, a little dilated and well lubricated with saliva. Then, plenty of ky lube on your cock and her on her back with her knees to her chest, kiss each other passionately for about 2 minutes increasing the pressure of your cock against her anus very steadily. Be ready for when her anus takes you in and you feel her inner sphincter "snap" around the rim of your glans. It's wonderful and absolutely should not hurt. 

Easy does it. Once in, you can fuck quite rhythmically with long strokes provided there's plenty of lube going on. You wont do any damage. I have to say though guys, it feels just like a pussy with the exception of that initial "going in snap". Have fun!

From Alexis
I only started having anal sex about 6 years ago. I was sort of forced into it by a man I thought I was having a one night stand with, we had 9 weeks of fantastic sex!

Anal was never all that interesting to me until I had it and wow - I couldn't get enough of it.

I'm married now and my husband won't even discuss it. I'm desperate to have it again. I've got toys etc, but it's just not the same.

From Marc
I found out about anal pleasures at 12. My buddies and I had discovered masturbation and had moved on to hand jobs. We were jerking off and talking about what we would do if this or that girl walked in. Next thing you know we are taking turns screwing each other. I tell ya, never let a bunch of 12 & 13 yr old boys alone to long! 

I joined the Navy and got to go to South East Asia a lot. I had a girlfriend in Thailand who would let me take her in the ass pretty regular. I guess I loved the tight firm warmth of it. Now my wife lets me play around some but has only allowed me in once. She tells me to go re-enlist if I want it that bad.

From Sonya
I have always wanted to try anal sex, but my husband shies away from it. He is afraid of hurting me. I have a butt plug that I have used before, and I find it pleasurable, but it irritates me, so I cannot use it for very long. I can't help but wonder if the "real thing" would not be easier to take even though larger. It would feel more natural than the plug.

From The Typhoon
Anal, Anus, Ass, Whatever you want to call it. Its attractive. My girlfriend took along time to mention Anal sex, but when she did I almost jumped on her with my fingers aiming for her backside. Every time we do it, she moans and loves it as much as normal sex, if not more. She has a small fetish also of wanting to suck me off after I reach in her ass. She says she likes the taste of my cum and her ass.

I don't remember her liking her butt, so I guess you can change someone's mind by doing anal sex correctly. I stare at her ass a lot, when she sits down I slide my hand under her and squeeze. She does the same to me, but... I don't see what's attractive about a mans butt.

Anal is the best. Sex but added with a twist. A great twist. My goal is to have my girlfriend forget that sex is supposed to mean fucking in her front hole, and only her ass! Good luck to all men and women who want to do anal with their lovers, or... attractive women who they fantasize about.

From Katrina
My husband and I have a very healthy sex life and have had for the last 22 years. He will give my anal stimulation but refuses to receive any. I have tried fingering him with lots of lube and he says it just feels weird. He also refuses to insert his penis in my ass as I request. He'd rather finger me. We have tried several times to try it. He says it turns him off. Any suggestions? I love anal sex and truly miss it. The fingering is just a tease as I see it.

From Justin
My wife has a rather conventional approach to sex and relies on me to come up with new ideas. Many times she vetoes the ideas.

Once though, while I giving her a back massage, I worked my way down to her bottom. I became so turned on by stroking it that I had to kiss it! Soon I was parting her cheeks and licking her to her great delight! When I finally turned her over to do her other side, I was amazed at how erect her nipples and clitoris were. My wife only enjoys this on occasion and I get very turned on by asking her permission to pleasure her in this way. I've told her in the heat of the moment that my fantasy is that she is a queen and I am her handpicked love slave whom she has summoned to pleasure her. I'm managing to eroticize even her low and capricious libido.

I would welcome suggestions from husbands who, like me have an active sexual imagination and a conventional wife.

From Lilly
I am a lover of anal stimulation! My Husband and I have been using it for about 2 yrs now. Started out slowly with just touching first, then graduated to fingers and then butt plugs (my favorites). Occasionally we do have anal sex but prefer the plug. One thing though is that I am not comfortable doing it to him. I know it is unfair of me and that he does enjoy the stimulation but there is just something about it that I can't get past although he uses some form of anal play with me almost every time.

From Anonymous
I've had anal sex three times and could never get used to it. I wasn't very fond of doing it that way in the first place but did it for my husband anyway. I thought it felt as if I was going to the bathroom in reverse. It was horrible all three times.

From Anonymous
Everyone keeps stating to use lots and lots of lube. I can tell you from experience that yes, you can have too much lube. It will make a rather nasty mess if your lover is not perfectly clean in there - the result is a substance that looks like and has about the same consistency as (but certainly does not smell like) chocolate pudding. I'm not kidding and I'm not trying to scare anyone away from trying it. As a matter of fact my wife loves anal sex  - says it sends chills up her spine - and for a while couldn't orgasm without any anal stimulation of some sort during sex.

From Jon
I am glad to see that, while most of the discussion is about men fucking women in the ass, some men are sufficiently liberated to enjoy the experience ... some admitedly much more than women. If they can get past the cultural and religious taboos, men actually have far more to enjoy by the experience. After all, women do not have prostate glands ... only men do ... and by stimulating the prostate through anal sex, men will have the most fantastic organisms possible ... far greater than through intercourse alone.

As a gay male I can tell you, there is nothing more physically erotic than taking a long, hard dick up your ass and nothing more psychologically pleasing than bringing your partner to climax deep inside you. Many men will reach orgasm without even touching themselves while being fucked in the ass simply because their prostate glands are being so well stimulated. Modern medicine may well find a lower incidence of prostate cancer among men who receive anal sex because of their prostates being well stimulated.

By the way, for all you straight guys that enjoy a quasi ass fucking with a hard plastic or rubber or oak dildo of sorts, they are terrible substitutes compared to a real live cock ... and they can and will irrate your anus and colon specifically because they are so rigid and unyielding. A hard but fleshy cock will yield to your insides and fill the nooks and cranies without poking a hole in your innards. I have taken 12" dicks to the short and curlies with ease, but I couldn't take a 6" rubber dildo for 5 minutes!

For the guy who's wife has the Arab friends, next time you have him over for a three way, let him fuck you instead of your wife ... and you'll see just why your wife loves it so much ... but you will love it even more because it will be banging your prostate on every plunge!

From John
Anal is great, slower penetrations is best and lots of lube. Strap-ons or dildos are better than cocks as they do not go soft. Wife has a huge 10 inch one she use on me .Have had a double penetration in my butt by two cocks, pain at first but what an orgasm at the end.

From Lizbeth
Although I enjoy anal sex on an occasional basis it's something I can live without. My husband feels similarly. He loves my ass, but doesn't have to be in it to enjoy it.

From Rob
When I met my wife in the mid 70s she was already a very big aficionado of anal sex and very much into the ritual of evacuating the anal canal of all waste prior to sex. She was very much into sex and at the time had a number of Arab born sexual partners who preferred anal intercourse to any other. We got married and in time had two children and our sex life took a bit of dive including things anal. Once the children were at boarding school we decided to put some fun back into our lives. 

We re-discovered sex, became far more creative in the bedroom than at time since the kids were born, slimmed ourselves off, got sunbed tans, smartened ourselves up and got back onto our friends party list. We discussed what was then called 'wife swapping' and my wife was very keen that some of our newfound fun should flow from our sexual liberation. She agreed to a discreet ad seeking like- minded couples but while that was waiting to appear, she said that she'd like first to have a threesome with one of her old Arab boyfriends. 

With our new sexual honesty she fessed up that, via her business, she had maintained contact with two or three of them and had sex with them on a small number of occasions during our bad patch. We met with one who came round for dinner then sex but he was only interested in anal sex and, after the two of them showered and she cleaned her anus (and his penis), on the bed she went onto her knees, he entered her and I was absolutely amazed at how excited his anal penetration made her. She was completely lost in a far off ecstasy and orgasmed long before he ejaculated. On that occasion, while he serviced her, my wife sucked me off, me ejaculating well before my wife's anal partner who eventually climaxed some thirty minutes after first entering her. 

Anal intercourse is still very much part of our sex life and post Aids, we are very careful to ensure that even when swinging with friends we've known for decades, we adopt safe sex techniques for anal - and, at 60 plus years, my wife still evacuates and cleans her anus prior to penetration, then douses herself in perfume!

From Scott
I’m a forty two year old divorced guy. I must say, it is nice to find a forum with mature posts that regard a subject so near and dear to my…heart.

I have enjoyed anal play since the tender age of 10! That’s right 10. Playing doctor with the girl next door spoiled me forever! I learned through experimentation that the orgasms brought about through anal stimulation were of a league of their own, so much more intense. Well, as I got older I got more adventurous. The possibilities were unfathomable.

Now, during those younger years there was some concern on my part, of the implications of "being gay". Well, I matured and realized being gay was a matter of love in a relationship and not the physical act that simply expressed that love. Why do I bring this up? Mainly because, I think, most guys don’t know what they’re missing!

Letting go of those inhibitions, and enjoying two way anal play with that special lady can bring things, in every aspect of the relationship, to a whole new level. At the most basic level, why should we expect women to let us do something with their bodies that we wouldn’t let them do with ours. If we were to experience what they experience, well, I guarantee we would approach it in a much more understanding fashion.

Hey, this is one of the only variations where we, as men, can feel something close to what our partners feel through penetration. The added thrill here is that of handing the power and control of the act over to our partner. This is quite a rush in itself, and for both parties. Now, they even have toys that allow the lady to be the giver and that stimulate her at the same time!

First and foremost, for both partners, is to have an open mind! Get all the facts from a reputable source. Be squeaky clean, there are fun ways to accomplish this as well.

Be reassuring, and communicate. I think total relaxation is key, and the only way to achieve that is through trust and communication.

GO SLOOOOWLY, LOTS AND LOTS OF LUBE. No! the lubrication the body provides is not anywhere near enough… get slippery and I mean real slippery!

Anal sex should not be painful if dome properly, for either partner! If you go into it thinking to yourself " It's gonna hurt" then it most likely will. This is because the inner sphincter is parasympathetic, so go into thinking about how good it will feel, instead of dreading it.

For the most part, I realize I am preaching to the choir here, I just think that nobody should be missing out on the fun, male or female.

From Anonymous
I tried anal last night for the first time, although I wasn't prepared for it, we had been all over one another for hours, and he was slow and very understanding. At first, I hated it, I was eager to get it over with, but slowly I felt a mixture of great pleasure mixed with a bit of pain, it draws a fine line. Small and slow entries produced the most pleasure. It'll definitely be a 'rare to none' occurrence for me though.

From Anonymous
I've never tried anal sex. I used to be solidly against it, but I discovered how sensitive that area is. Now that I'm open to it (pun intended) my partner is not. Alas! So I'm wondering about anal self-love. Butt plugs, pearls, etc. I understand but how in the world does one insert one's own fingers? I'm rather flexible but I like comfort too. It does not seem like fun when you've got to contort yourself for pleasure. How does it work with your own hand?

From Subtle Talk
I know there are alot of people put-off by anal sex. For me, I have always known that I was too big to fit back there. So, it has never been about the possibility of fucking a woman's ass. But, since I have had the opportunity to be with women that love it, I have learned that, number one, it is not all about me. If a woman is enjoying it then it is about her. And two, if a woman has never tried it then she can't knock it. 

I have been with plenty of women that said that they did not want to because it would hurt but if you use your fingers correctly or a dildo and she is relaxed then she will see what the hype is all about. Anal is something that you have to be ready for. Make sure there is nothing coming out...Get cleaned up by taking a shower and maybe even a douche. Use some time to get stimulated. Get into some good foreplay and be well turned-on. Use some good lube and by all means relax. Give it some practice, the first time may not be the best but neither was making love for the first time. If done right from both sides you will never be disappointed. If you have a man that is small enough for you to handle and knows how to take his time, then the feeling for both of you, I'm sure would be out of this world. I wish I could feel that!

From Sally
In response to Jack [see entry below], anal sex is not for me either. We tried it several times just to see what the hoopla is about, and frankly neither of us enjoyed it. My husband, he truly does enjoy a backside view, he's an ass man all the way. But like Jack, he has absolutely no fascination with butt-holes and all I can say is thank goodness. 

From Jack
Nope, anal sex is not for me. Maybe I'm "anally" retentive, but I'm just not attracted to the opening of the anus, not one bit! I love a girl's ass, I love to take a woman from behind, doggie-style or standing up, but I have absolutely no fascination for the butt-hole, or putting my fingers there, licking it, or anything, and I don't want anybody fiddling in the area of my butt hole either! 

I'm quite surprised about how many people are into anal sex. I'm curious to know about what the percentages are. Looking at this forum you'd think it was about 90% of people practicing anal sex, but I guess the non-anal sex lovers just stay quiet.

From Sue
I find anal sex enjoyable as an occasional thing. I hate, absolutely hate ramming hard fucking type anal sex. Ramming a dick or a dildo up the ass is a really hurts, it's dangerous (delicate tissue up there, folks, be careful), and hardly sexy. Be nice to your butt, treat it with sensual delight and it will reward you with years of good service.

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