Ben Wa Balls

I have received a lovely set of gold Ben Wa balls, and naturally are expected to use them. Does anyone have any experience with them? Do you worry about them "wandering" or disappearing? How long can you safely have them inserted? And any other indelicate questions you can think up answers to.   —Cathy

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• Balls, Bullets & Eggs - Experience the mystical pleasures of the ancient Chinese Ben-Wa Balls. Insert balls and any movement you make will send shockwaves of pure delight coursing through your body. Get zen & get off! They also exercise your vaginal muscles, resulting in more control during sex and stronger orgasms. So discreet, no one will know you’re wearing them! A great gift item, too!

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From Robert in Euless
I've recommended these goodies to a number of women that have a condition known as as prolapsed uterus (or prolapsed cervix)... usually after a childbirth or two. Sometimes the cervix drops downward into the vagina following childbirth which creates two distinct pockets (fore-&-aft) within the vagina.

My general favorite is the duo-toned ben wa balls (slightly smaller in size when compared to a golf ball) will reshape the vagina to a forward (anterior) directed shape that will line the entire vagina up to get the best g-spot stimulation.

For those women I have know that suffer from a severe prolapse (or just when I want a different sensation), I present them with a pair of the larger "hand exerciser" balls with those wonderful chimes inside. These are meant to be twirled in the hand, but if you drill them out, use a body-friendly cording to connect them and coat them with a body-friendly material to seal them against rusting... these larger balls actually make for a tighter fit and whether used for pre-sex preparation or for use with masturbation, they produce a level of toning to the vagina that has to be felt to be believed (by both partners). A pre-sexual wearing time of at least 6 hours provides great results.

Oh, and since the subject has come up a few times within this topic... ben wa balls cannot drift away and become lost within the body. I've also heard this worry expressed by a number of women I've known. With the exception of the tiny Os (the opening of the cervix which is only a few millimeters in diameter) the vagina is a "closed unit." Please do not worry about inserting the balls and having them drift throughout your body.

From Anonymous
My friend bought me a pair of small gold ben-wa balls that were not very much fun. They fell into the toilet and were lost forever. He tried again. The Smart Balls that he sent are just fabulous. They strike the perfect balance between subtlety and excitement. I can wear them all day without having to stop what I'm doing to relieve my sexual tension, but the slow buildup does lead to fabulous orgasms when I decide to have them. They give walking and exercising at the gym a new, pleasurable dimension.

From Jillian
Hey, "Anonymous", get a larger gauge of balls. Before I got the duo tang ones, the individual pearls I had were smaller and fell out with me, also. The Smart Balls are weighted differently and have a couple different sizes. Also, my new boyfriend is not as good a lover as the one I mentioned in earlier posts. With him, neither of us can feel the balls. I actually wonder if my muscles aren't pushing them up instead of down or out. I am working on this hypothesis. Also -- you can't feel them in doggy-style position. Ya know, angles and gravity and all..... Ciao for now!

From Anonymous
Ok I bought the Ben wa balls. I couldn't wait to try these gold weighted goodies. I bought them to help tighten things up in this area because my new boyfriend is not very large and I was hoping if I tighten things up it would help. 

Well I kind of laid the cold metal against my clitoris...coool. I laid on the bed and pop those babies in. Cool I thought! I walked around in them while doing chores and took forever to finish cleaning because they kept falling out after about 5 minutes. I feel like damn am I that loose? 

So I'm like ok next time we make love im going to leave them in. I left them in and he didn't even know they were in there! These balls just aren't working for me! What can I do? I've been trying to use them off and on for a week.

[If you want to tighten things up, read How to Exercise Your PC Muscle]

From Rogerio
To Endy [see Endy's entry below] I bought my wife some "balls". I don't know if they are technically Ben Wa or not. They are metal, each has another ball inside that jiggles around with the users movements and they are tied together with a string and also have a string that can be used to pull them out.

My wife never uses them for long periods of time and the best results we get are when I insert them in her pussy and then eat her out. She will contract her vaginal muscles and squeeze one out and I will push it back in with my finger while at the same time licking all around her beautiful shaved cunt. With a little coordination, the balls are soon coming and going in a smooth fucking motion.

The advantage of the balls here in relation to a vibrator or a dildo is obvious. She can have them inside her while at the same time leaving the outside of her cunt totally free for my tongue.

Of course I also use them. To get them in my ass my wife first has to perform some "stretching exercises". The best are with her fingers. One at a time until all five are in - when we are particularly horny, this can lead to her whole fist "popping" into my gaping hole.

Then come the balls. When they are in I really don't feel much, so it's not the destination that counts here as much as the journey.

I love the feeling of my ass stretching as they are slowly pushed in and I love the feeling when my wife pulls on the string, bringing a ball to the entrance to my hole and then I "push" to expel it. The feeling is like that of taking a shit. When you do it repeatedly it is great! And if you are doing it and coming at the same time - then it is out of this world!

From Endy
So I've seen a lot of posts on ben wa balls by female users, but only one by a male. He seemed to have a good experience, but I'm a bit concerned about losing them up there. It seems like it would be incredible anal stimulation, but I'm concerned they won't come out. Have any other men used them out there? Or ladies, have any of your men used them?

From Jillian
Update from the field Ok, I have two new updates on my personal experience with the ben wa balls. 1) Jessica [see Jessica's entry below]- Based on what I know about basic female anatomy and from my own experience in this personal journey, the ball getting way up inside for 1/2 hr. is not unusual. When your muscles started to relax their grip, the ball starts coming back down (gravity!).

The second item involves the cleaning of the balls. I recalled a post where someone said to boil the balls afterwards because of the seams. Perfect sense! So I did this, and I must've done it too long, because when I went back to the kitchen, the pretty outer coating had boiled right off! And, they were kinda melted, like the coating was warped around the metal ball. Ruined.

Back to the store I go. This time, instead of the independent pearl-like balls, I got the duo-tang [often called Smart Balls]. These are way cooler than I had thought. You can feel the weight move inside of the balls. And they're tied together, so mentally I know they can't possibly go anywhere untoward. I actually like these way better than the pearls.

So Jessica, try the Smart Balls. I really think you'll be much more comfortable with them, and they just feel better!

From Jessica
I inserted mine today for the first time, just wanted to see how they worked. I too, was like "What are they supposed to do?" so I sat up to see if I could feel them more. Well, I think this movement just sent the balls up higher because one ball was in there for 1/2 an hour! That was scary!

Is this a sign of tight kegel muscles? Or what is going on? I'm kinda confused! Thanks for your thoughts!

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