Ben Wa Balls

I have received a lovely set of gold Ben Wa balls, and naturally are expected to use them. Does anyone have any experience with them? Do you worry about them "wandering" or disappearing? How long can you safely have them inserted? And any other indelicate questions you can think up answers to.   —Cathy

"There are a number of mechanical devices which increase sexual arousal, particularly in women. Chief among these is the Mercedes-Benz 380SL convertible."  —P.J. O'Rourke

Recommended sex toy shops:

• Ben Wa Balls and Love Balls are one of the oldest types of women's sex toys. These toys can range in size from smaller glass balls to larger balls with a small bead inside them for added stimulation. Originally designed to be placed in the vagina to increase sexual pleasure during sex, Ben Wa Balls have the added benefit of strengthening the PC (pubococcygeus) muscles. Many women start with larger balls and move to smaller ones as their muscles get stronger. It's orgasmic exercise!

• Balls, Bullets & Eggs, oh my! Such diversity, such pleasure. This class of small versatile toys are wonderful unobtrusive, easy to incorperate into couples play, and just as much fun going solo. insertable, or clit play, either way, balls, bullets and eggs are inexpensive and effective. A great gift item, too.

From Husband
So my wife of 35 years, having experimented with many other toys, had not tried Ben Wa balls yet.  I had heard about them for years, with all kinds of commentary, but didn't try them until this weekend.  It was our anniversary beach trip at a luxurious beachfront inn.  I had bought her a negligee that was like the one I had got her for our honeymoon so long ago... And with a little prurient thinking, slipped over to Amazon and bought two sets of Ben Wa balls in two sizes, both with the connecting string. 

First I surprised her with the negligee... And then, the larger balls.  She was hot to give them a try, having read about them in 50 Shades. After a lot of sex talk, fantasy play, and warming up, we lubricated them liberally and I inserted four of the five into her vagina.  The fifth one dangled out and bumped against her anus, which she loved.

I must say, they worked incredible to heighten her orgasms when I went down on her clitoris.  I gently pulled on the string to make them move (but not come out), and when the last one in (the one nearest me) tugged against her vulva as it pulled her open from inside her while I licked, she loved it!  Her orgasms were intense, a little different, and really fun!

She said they did nothing for her when standing or walking, but in conjunction with oral sex, they were great.  She left them in until we had intercourse, but we are going to try intercourse with them in soon, too!

From Stevielg
My wife recently started using Ben Wa balls.   She was introduced to them by her daughter, who (the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree) seems to have no inhibitions about trying new things!  These suckers are amazing!  She has several, but her favorite is the Smart Balls.  She’ll put them in and just wears them for an hour or two before I come home.  Wow!  When we finally come together, I can tell she’s all wound up.    She backs up to me and gives me that look, like, “I want you to put your hands in my pants and feel how wet and horny I am.”  OMG , I love that look, and I love to slide my fingers past her belt,  over her smooth crotch, opening my fingers around her clit, and then back and forth over her engorged lips -  just dripping!  At that moment I become lost in her exquisite sexuality .

The advertising for these things always features the health benefits of exercising your kegels.  But, the sexual benefits are truly there.  Ben Wa balls are one of those sex toys that really delivers, as least for us.

From Anony
Ben-wa balls cannot, I repeat cannot set off shop anti-theft or security systems. Absolute hogwash whoever told you that. Shop anti-theft systems all use some form of RFID technology and there is no such RFID trigger componentry or tag in Ben-wa balls. The metallic quality of Ben-wa balls (and indeed any other metallic items - coins, jewelry) will not set off such systems. On the other hand if you wore Ben-wa balls through the security system at an airport (which /is/ just looking for concealed metallic objects) it will almost certainly set the system off and um.. you'll have an interesting time with the airport security folk.

From Anonymous
My friend bought me a pair of small gold ben-wa balls that were not very much fun. They fell into the toilet and were lost forever. He tried again. The Smart Balls that he sent are just fabulous. They strike the perfect balance between subtlety and excitement. I can wear them all day without having to stop what I'm doing to relieve my sexual tension, but the slow buildup does lead to fabulous orgasms when I decide to have them. They give walking and exercising at the gym a new, pleasurable dimension.

From Rogerio
I bought my wife some "balls". I don't know if they are technically Ben Wa or not. They are metal, each has another ball inside that jiggles around with the users movements and they are tied together with a string and also have a string that can be used to pull them out. My wife never uses them for long periods of time and the best results we get are when I insert them in her pussy and then eat her out. She will contract her vaginal muscles and squeeze one out and I will push it back in with my finger while at the same time licking all around her beautiful shaved cunt. With a little coordination, the balls are soon coming and going in a smooth fucking motion. The advantage of the balls here in relation to a vibrator or a dildo is obvious. She can have them inside her while at the same time leaving the outside of her cunt totally free for my tongue.

Of course I also use them. To get them in my ass my wife first has to perform some "stretching exercises". The best are with her fingers. One at a time until all five are in - when we are particularly horny, this can lead to her whole fist "popping" into my gaping hole. Then come the balls. When they are in I really don't feel much, so it's not the destination that counts here as much as the journey. I love the feeling of my ass stretching as they are slowly pushed in and I love the feeling when my wife pulls on the string, bringing a ball to the entrance to my hole and then I "push" to expel it. The feeling is like that of taking a shit. When you do it repeatedly it is great! And if you are doing it and coming at the same time - then it is out of this world!

From Jillian
Based on what I know about basic female anatomy and from my own experience in this personal journey, the ball getting way up inside for 1/2 hr. is not unusual. When your muscles started to relax their grip, the ball starts coming back down (gravity!).

The second item involves the cleaning of the balls. I recalled a post where someone said to boil the balls afterwards because of the seams. Perfect sense! So I did this, and I must've done it too long, because when I went back to the kitchen, the pretty outer coating had boiled right off! And, they were kinda melted, like the coating was warped around the metal ball. Ruined.

Back to the store I go. This time, instead of the independent pearl-like balls, I got the duo-tang [often called Smart Balls]. These are way cooler than I had thought. You can feel the weight move inside of the balls. And they're tied together, so mentally I know they can't possibly go anywhere untoward. I actually like these way better than the pearls. So try the Smart Balls. I really think you'll be much more comfortable with them, and they just feel better!

From Jessica
I inserted mine today for the first time, just wanted to see how they worked. I too, was like "What are they supposed to do?" so I sat up to see if I could feel them more. Well, I think this movement just sent the balls up higher because one ball was in there for 1/2 an hour! That was scary! Is this a sign of tight kegel muscles? Or what is going on? I'm kinda confused! Thanks for your thoughts!

From Alarista
I love my Ben Wa Balls. I would put both of them inside me, then get on top of my boyfriend. It would take just a few minutes before between all the stimulation I would climax, it was awesome to have the feeling of them inside me with him. The only down side was I could hear them clacking against one another as we moved, that was kind of a weird noise.

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