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From David
If you consider personal ads and setups as "blind dates," I have a pretty good track record.

Met my wife on a blind date. Met my previous two girlfriends on blind dates. Met the sexual partners between wife and previous girlfriend on blind dates. My best friend met his wife on a blind date. A close friend of my wife and myself met her fiancée on a blind date.

Desperation? Nah. With personal ads and the Internet cousins that have overwhelmed them, I found a couple of cool things. No. 1, crafting an ad was akin to crafting a little commercial for yourself. It allowed you to show your personality, sense of humor, interests, etc. or to see that in another person (I always steered clear of any ad that said the woman liked "good times." Well, who the hell doesn't? You wasted that space instead of telling me what you consider a good time).

No. 2, you had to talk on the phone before meeting. If I can't talk to someone, why am I going to waste my time meeting them? Even in the hottest relationship, you've got to stop fucking at some point and talk. Doing it over the phone without the distraction of the mutual physical analysis allows the true person to emerge.

I found the people who answered personal ads, got set up on blind dates, enrolled in Match.com or whatever often aren't desperate or physically unattractive (in all the connections I made, only one was unattractive and several were jaw-droppingly attractive). They're interesting people who often don't have the time and/or patience for the usual "dating scene." Sometimes, they don't have the time because they're busy having the experiences that make them interesting.

If I got kicked back into the game tomorrow, I'd be out in the bars and clubs, just to be around people and bathe in the good energies. But I know my chances aren't any better there than on a blind date.

From D
Having been on several blind dates, I recall one five years ago. I was set up by my mother and didn't want to go on the date. I finally convinced myself that it would be nice to have a woman as a friend, and gave this lady a call. The date was nice. We talked all night, then parted. This morning I woke up with the same woman, my wife. Not all Blind Dates are bad.

From Ess
Some 25 or more years ago a blind date led to an 11 year relationship. More recently, on-line personals have led to several "blind dates", only one of which was a "one drink and I'm outta here! Alone!"

I have made several pleasant friends, and met one man where we both agree we feel we've known each other for literally years; we're trying to find suitable partners for each other, but in the absence of such, we pleasure each other whenever we meet.

I think blind dates are GREAT fun and if I'm single in another 30 years time, hope that I'm still enjoying them even from my wheelchair!

From Penfold
I went ahead and had the blind date and it was actually very good. It seemed we had a lot of things in common and it progressed surprising well and a little chemistry went a long way. I was happy that I finally took that step into the breach.

Unfortunately all pluses have a minus and as things were progressing quite well for a while all of a sudden a change of direction from her side of things. The old "I don't think this is going to go anywhere and let's just be friends." came into effect.

So the bottom line is if you trust the person arranging the date then give it a try. You never know something may come out of it. As to blind dates being a sign of desperation I am still undecided. Further research is needed.

From Dorothy
Mine wasn't desperate. I was in a comfortable relationship at the time. Some friends set us up. After spending the evening in his company (among friends) I couldn't have picked him out of a crowd because I was too nervous to look at his face. Why nervous? Because of the electrical charge I got when I took that first look at him. I went home that evening and told my boyfriend that I had just met the man I wanted to marry. And about six weeks later, I did. That was over 22 years ago.

I'm all for blind dates.

From Debbie
I have been out of the dating scene for quite some time and stepping in again at 41 (my birthday was two weeks ago) is at times humourous/fun and at other times frustrating. None of my blind dates have turned into anything..but in hindsight it's been good re-learning experience..it's affirming to know that men attempting to get back into the dating scene in their 40's share some of the same feelings that i do..Some of it is fun. One time i went out with a man who turned out to be a devout Baptist - I am a Unitarian . In spite of it we were laughing about our obvious differences..

From Suze
Blind dates can be great fun. I married one. Lasted 30 years! *grin* Then it went to hell.

I've been on several blind dates arranged by friends since my divorce 5 years ago. I guess some might see it as being desperate. I'm not and maybe that's projected. If you feel that way, it could telegraph. I have learned, however, which of my friends really knows what I hope for in a date, a relationship, and my blind dates have been the kind of persons I felt good about being with. The one time I accepted a blind date from an acquaintance it didn't feel good from the moment we laid eyes on each other. Both of us finally had a private moment, said as much, and split, leaving some surprised matchmakers in the restaurant! *laughing* So, I can let someone else take the matchmaker role from time to time, but I make my own blind dates best of all. If you want to meet someone, have you tried online personals? Lots of people are meeting that way. Relationships are just as iffy as pre-Internet days, but you also have a "safe" way to meet people and get some of the important stuff discussed early on. The real date is almost anticlimactice in that scenario.

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