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From Amber
I believe at times it is essential to fake an orgasm. I have had lovers who try and try and it just doesn't happen. So I fake it and they walk around the house with this king of the world attitude for the rest of the day. For me my mind as well as my body has to be stimulated, and if that doesn't happen, it's just easier to say "Yes dear, I did come."

From ETM355
My wife is pretty orgasmic, but even she readily admits when she's not getting there.  She will even tell me that she thinks she tries too hard at times.  I don't feel bad if she doesn't have an orgasm during intercourse. Sometimes that happens. I like getting her off orally even more than during intercourse anyway. 

Now, I don't know that I can absolutely tell if a woman faked an orgasm during intercourse. But I think I've got a really good idea of how to tell during oral sex. I can only do it if the woman is okay with it though.  Basically, I gently insert my the tip of my index finger into her ass; just up to that first joint.  As I'm going down on her, I move it in all directions just a fraction of an inch. When she does have an orgasm, I feel it coming in the anus first.  I know that vaginal contractions can be faked using kegel exercises. Anal contractions can be simulated as well. But there is clearly a difference between those and the irregular and intermittent spasmodic jerks that occur in the anus when a woman (or a man for that matter) is having an orgasm. So when I feel them start, I just wiggle my finger a little more as I continue licking, and that eventually sends her right over the edge.

 I really enjoy it when I can make a woman come that way, but sometimes I can tell when my wife just can't get there.  No big deal.  We just try again another time. 

From Doug
I can't say I've ever faked it.  I often "bypass" ejaculation so that I can practice extended intercourse. The purpose is ecstasy, not orgasms as such. That might follow a massage, a tantric massage, and from Taoism the first several stages of orgasm, of the 7 or more various schools have described, before intercourse even starts. There is never a rush.  The entire process can take 6 hours or more.  Mood building and "energy" are very important parts of the whole.  It takes all the pressure off to produce "orgasms".  Ecstasy is more predictable. It's very meditative sex. All outcomes are good.

From Jen 
I put pressure on myself, I think.  If a guy is eating me, or doing something to pleasure me, I feel like, is he bored?  Is he tired?  Is he thinking, “Come already!”  And then I can't really get into it.  I've faked it to get it over with and to make the guy feel good, but the truth is, I don't think it's the right thing to do, and it's not fair to either of us. We both lose out.  But I feel inadequate because I can't get it out of my head that he's frustrated by how long it's taking me.

From Beth
I also have faked, when I was young and stupid.  The psychological result was devastating.  Not only did my boyfriend think he had me all figured out (he didn't), I never felt like I could go back on that lie and it just sat there, ugly between the two of us.  Blech.  I get all goosebumpy and gross just thinking of it. I vowed never to do that to myself again.  If a lover is pressuring me I just say, "I can't, we have to stop, give me a few minutes."  Usually, resetting my mind is enough, or else I just tell him or her I can't and we decide what to do next.  There's lots more fun to be had.

From Dangerous Bill
Perhaps it's because women have been taught by movies, novels and folklore to think that normal women can come by vaginal penetration alone, and in no time flat. So they fake it in order to appear 'normal'. Count up the number of movies where the heroine has said, 'Okay, you've had yours. Now do something for me.' Instead, they always seem to get off together.

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