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From Fist Fun Bun
I really enjoy anal play, first discovered it in my late teens. I was masturbating, and rubbing around my balls, and my fingers brushed my anus, and that felt good also. I started to rub my anus, and finally eased my finger in; it felt really nice. Anyway, that's how it started, I tried different objects in my ass to see what felt good, and have tried different toys, and eventually worked up to sliding my own hand in me.

My fiancée and I were playing around a while back, and she was giving me head, and I asked her to finger my anus while sucking me. She did, and I eventually came as hard as I did the first time that I masturbated. She has fingered me several times since then, and enjoys it. The other night she had a couple of fingers in me while giving me head, and I asked her to put more lube on them, which she did. I then asked her to stick another finger in, she did, and then I asked for another, she did, then she tucked her thumb in, and I asked her to go deeper. 

She said that she was not sure she could, but I assured her that she could, and that she was not going to hurt me. She put more lube on, and then pushed, her hand went in just to the knuckles, and she said she did not think that it would go in. I again assured her that I was ok. She pushed harder, but I could tell she was afraid to push to hard. I grabbed her elbow and pulled her arm/hand toward me, and her fist eased into me. It was incredible, I let go of her elbow, and she slowly slid her hand into me to the wrist. She held her hand there for a few moments, and kissed me deeply. I asked her to go deeper, and she slowly worked her way deeper in me going in and then part way back out, till she thought that she could go no deeper. 

I looked down, and she had her arm in me about 4" past the wrist. My ass felt very full, and she slowly turned her hand inside of me, and slowly fist fucked me. She resumed giving me head, and picked up the pace of fucking me with her fist. I exploded in her mouth, and thought I was going to pass out as she sucked every drop from my cock. She said was very turned on by it, and enjoyed doing it for me. 

We washed up, and then went back to bed, where I spent a lot of time kissing her all over, going down on her, followed by some incredible sex after my erection returned. I look forward carrying out more fantasies with her after we are married.

From Nick
To go some way to answering your points. My girlfriend is openly bisexual and is a regular fister with her long term girlfriend. Both her and her girlfriend are in their early 20's, slender size 8's and have never had children. I have attempted to fist them both but have thus far been unable as my hands are considerable larger than theirs. 

Childbirth may make this easier, then again so may having larger hips as one reader previously mentioned. From watching and talking about their experiences I have to recommend fisting to anyone to try. It does hurt, but once the pain barrier has been broken I am assured it's worth it. After a hard fisting my partner finds it quite painful for a period of time so be advised to leave plenty of time for this. 

We usually have intercourse before and after she is fisted. Her vagina can take some time to contract to its pre fisting tightness and the intercourse post fisting does tend to feel very different. This is perfectly normal.

From Gypsy
I am one of those girls that never thought I would be into half of what I find myself into, fisting being one of them. My first experience (about a year ago) was not a planned event, but was rather awesome. We were on a holiday in California, where my husband is from, and he invited his friend over to play. His friend was actually the first to fist me that night. Although it isn't something that my husband and I do regularly, he has fisted me several times since our first experience and I rather enjoy it, I love the intensity.

From Rogerio
A great warm-up exercise after some nice oral stimulation, insert an average-sized vibrator in your partners pussy. Then (don't forget the lube!) slip your cock in next to it (or, if you don't have one, another toy). Let her get used to it (you enjoy the vibrations along your shaft). Then take out the toys, lube up your whole hand (not just your fingers), insert one finger at a time until all four are in, tuck in your thumb and let her take it from there. If you don't make it the first time, try another day.

That's how I started fisting my wife. Today it's part of our sexual repertoire. Oh yeah; I also started off by "giving the example". Long before trying to fist my wife, she was regularly fucking my ass with her hand.

From Jane
I think fisting disrespects a woman's vagina. Why would you want to stretch it out? Don't hurt your woman, fist yourself up your own bum and see how you like it? You wouldn't so leave her vagina alone!

From Ann
My husband introduced me to this form of pleasure. I was very apprehensive at first, and urged him to be very gentle. That was months ago. Now, I look forward to vaginal fisting as the feeling is indescribable. I have always been multi-orgasmic, but now such climaxes are like volcanoes erupting. Believe me, there is a G-Spot too as I have expelled fluids which is not urine, and shoots out like semen from a penis!

Most of all, once his entire hand and fist is slowly removed, my vaginal opening returns to its normal size. For maximum pleasure I urge all woman to include this activity in their love making. Afterwards when my husband inserts his penis, it has such a light feeling like being caressed with velvet. Its wonderful, a whole new world of fascination and closeness and trust.

From Baron
Just recently my current "lady" friend and I have hit the goal of getting my entire hand inside her.

It started slowly, with just my fingers, then up to four of them. I usually stopped because felt I was going to hurt her. While she enjoyed the 4 fingers, she actually asked me to try to get my entire hand in her on our next romp.

So on our next round, again I went very slow and well lubed. 4 fingers and just a bit of thumb. She moaned, and wiggled around. I pushed my hand in slowly, then BANG it was all in side her. She bucked her hips, wiggled around, yelled out loud with joy. Her pussy was dripping with juice, more than ever before. I don't know how many times she came.

But I did enjoy burying my face between those wide open lips after my hand was removed.

From Loves It
I have to add my voice to those who love it! Nothing turns me on more than lying back, spreading my legs wide, and feeling that slick smooth cool lube all over my pussy while my man works his way in. Once his hand is in, I love it when he leans up and sucks my nipples while he moves his hand around inside me. Little movements are enough. That tightly stretched and full feeling is heaven.

From Anonymous
The first time my boyfriend tried fisting me, I didn't know that was what he was doing. I thought it was a dildo. I get incredibly wet and don't require lube for anything that we've ever done including fisting. I have given birth to 2 children naturally, although my youngest was 7 when he did this to me the first time. He played with me for almost 2 hours and on occasion it would hurt some (the knuckles) but it felt so amazing, I figured I could tolerate a little pain for all the pleasure he was giving me. I couldn't quit screaming, I have never felt anything more amazing in my life. 

When he told me that he had actually fisted me I had no idea. I was surprised he could get his whole hand inside me. He has done this several times since and it has never failed to give me the most mind blowing orgasms I have ever had in my life. I actually came so much he checked to make sure I wasn't bleeding, but I wasn't, it was just a river of cum. 

I am concerned if there are any health risks to this because he is a big guy and he gets his fist along with a large part of his forearm inside of me and don't know if any damage is being done. But I don't have any pain afterward and it has never made me bleed. Just makes me want to feel his fist inside me again.

From Anonymous
The following article is from "aidsmap news" page, and addresses problems of severe trauma and transmission of hepatitis C virus caused by fisting. This is an important issue, please read.
http://www.aidsmap.com

From Camille
Hi All. Thanks for the wonderful forum on fist play. I was nervous in my initial outings in the area. My husband had suggested it and my girlfriend swore by it. The short version of the story is that it has become my absolute favorite sexual activity in the world.

I'm small -- 5'2 and about 101 lbs. As others have indicated, being able to take a fist inside is not really a function of either body size or "looseness." I'm a fitness nut (runner, lifter, cyclist) and I can honestly say that my fitness, particularly in my abs and lower abdominal/rectal/vaginal areas all help the matter.

I self-fist both vaginally and anally and I adore both my husband's hands and my female partners in me. I think a lot of the process has to do with trust, and confidence in one's self. Fisting is the absolute best bonding experience that partners can share.

I'm fairly 'accommodating' up front. I can open quickly and take a hand up front with little more than a little saliva as lube. In back, a healthy amount of lube makes it easier, but the game is 90% about getting used to the idea in your mind.

Love reading about everyone here's experiences. I hope we can all keep these lines of important communication open.

From Rebecca Gemithy
Fisting is the ultimate ecstasy. You women nailed it right on the head. It's a little painful, but It's fun being stretched out. I don't know with all the abuse I do to it now, if it will turn me into a loose goose, but I can't help it. it's an addiction.

My boyfriend has a really long & thick dick, (my first big one) and after our first year together of having something so big in me, I've noticed I'm not sore after we have sex anymore. I'm finally used to it. I had secretly been fantasizing him to fist me for a little bit now, but I was embarrassed. I pictured me drenching myself and his fist with lube, and have him slide it up in me. One night, I was terribly horny and just grabbed his fist & aimed it into me. He got the message. After we got that accomplished, we realized that got me even more in the mood for intercourse. We are having amazing sex!

By the way, everything shrunk back into place shortly after he removed the fist. I don't know if long-term fisting on every day can be bad on it. But I can already say that thought cannot make me give up the ultimate pleasure of when something so wide is expanding every cell inside of me. I'll chance it. Hell, maybe when that does happen, I can always slip more of something in me.

The main point I'm making is just do what feels good to a certain extent. I don't think it matters if you're tight, average, or loose, we are all women who share the love of orgasms. At first, I was scared he'd think maybe I'm not tight anymore, but I know I'm still tight, and he still reminds me.

So I hope women will not think that their men thinks they're hobags if they can fit their fist in. At least my boyfriend didn't. He was almost as excited as I was.

From George
Girls and Guys if you read very careful the post in this section you find that there a 2 things that need to be met.

1. She must want this very bad, I mean it is a great turn on just for her think about it makes her wet.

2. She has to relax and push out against your hand as it goes in.

As your hand goes in fold the thumb down into your palm and close up your fist as your hand enters. Once in you can give her a massage from the inside out. Oh la la! If the first one is not there you can forget about number 2, it will never happen.

I have fisted a lot of women in my time and the ones I did really wanted it.

From Rienne
I had been curious about trying this for the longest time. I had been raped when I was 18, and sex has always been something that was an unpleasant chore, something I did for my partner.

Well, now, almost 15 years later, I asked my husband to try to fist me. The reason for this was that I wanted to reclaim my body, make it do what I wanted it to rather than what the man wanted. It took several long sessions over the course of two or three weeks to actually be able to do it, and I can honestly say it was the most mind-blowing thing I had ever managed. 

My husband spent hours stimulating me, both with his tongue and with his fingers. I asked him to work on my anus for awhile, and I spent about 15 minutes with a vibrator in there. It was wonderful, and I could feel my whole pelvic area relaxing. I rolled over onto my back, and opened my legs. It may sound weird, but it was a real turn on to be that exposed, and knowing what was to come. He worked his fingers in deeper and deeper, and finally brought his thumb into line with the fingers and started to push. That was the tough part, because for a minute it felt like everything was on fire. I made him stop for a few minutes, and then he worked on it some more. After several tries, he finally pushed past the "ring of fire" as I called it, and I felt the lips wrap around his wrist. 

It was as full as I had ever been except for when giving birth. It was still quite tight, and he had to be very careful with his movements. At this point I reached down and started stroking my clit, which was fully exposed from the hood. I had the most mind-blowing orgasm of my life. I squirted everywhere. I felt like I had won a major victory.

Ladies, if your lover is willing and able, I would recommend you try this. There is nothing like it on earth. Just talking about it makes me hot...I can hardly wait to feel his hand up my cunt again.

Oh, and one other thing. I find it more pleasurable when I am hair free down below, as there is less pulling.

From Dale
My wife was always nervous about having her pussy fisted. She has had four kids and her pussy is very wide. I have worked her up to it and soon had my whole fist inside her. She really enjoys it but acts like she doesn't realize my whole hand is inside her. She comes really hard and it gives me great pleasure

From 'Q'
I've been fisting myself for a while now, and always enjoyed it. Last weekend I was with a partner who really wanted to try it for himself. It only took him about 10 minutes with a little lube to get his whole fist inside. That's the biggest hand I've taken inside, and it felt wonderful.

The orgasm I had was so intense that I couldn't speak or tell him to stop or anything. After a couple of minutes I just had to push away from him to stop. It was fantastic!

So yes it definitely is possible and it's very enjoyable!

From KellBell
I am in awe, I want so desperately to be fisted. I have a guy who is great in the sack and I think wants to fist me but doesn't know what to do. I am waiting dreaming and juicing. He has tried in the past and gotten to 4 fingers easily, I want it I know I can take it, just need him to commit.

From Fantastic Fister
I'm a big guy with big hands. I knew about fistfucking, but never thought that it would be something I could do to a woman without hurting her. However, a series of coincidences just made it happen.

The first and most important factor was that I changed from water based to silicon based lubricant. I was dissatisfied with the water based for anal sex, so when I run out of it I bought the silicon variant. It is much better. Doesn't dry out, lasts through the whole intercourse and give a better glide. (No, I'm not selling the stuff!) The buttfucking is nicer for both her and for me.

The second factor was my woman's position. She was lying on her belly with a pillow under her, to raise her butt up. She was a bit dry in her pussy and I just wanted to grease her up some.

The third factor was the position of my hand. It was positioned like when you stretch out your hand to shake someone's hand. Vertically.

My four fingers slide easily into her. The thumb was left outside. I started wondering what to do with the thumb. Put it into her asshole or try for the pussy? Or just leave it outside? I went for the pussy.

The thumb took a lot of space. My fingers couldn't go further in, so I curled them while at the same time pushing in what has now become a fist. I got a lot of guidance from my woman. I was afraid I might hurt her, but she said it was alright.

Her vagina was pressing so hard around my hand that it hurt. Me, not her. She enjoyed it a lot. I kept my fist pretty still while she moved her body very slightly back and forth. After a while she came with a scream. It was obvious that she enjoyed this a lot.

I drew out my hand in a reversed variant of going in. She thought she would have a sore pussy for the rest of the day, but she was OK. No problems.

I used my left hand, although I'm right handed.

Did it with another woman and repeated the procedure, except I was more confident and knew how much to push. Used my left again.

We have talked about trying this in her anus, but I'm a bit skeptical. Wouldn't want an accident to happen. 

What made it possible was that silicon based lubricant. Buy it!

From Sirus
In response to Anonymous re his partner not wanting to try now because she thinks she can't get past 4 knuckles. You asked for responses from people who had overcome that stage. I have.

My partner and I had explored vaginal stretching at my request as that had been my favored form of masturbation for years. I had one child vaginally with a previous partner 5 or so years before this event. We were being intimate and got to the stage where he was working his hand into me. He had only ever gotten three fingers 2 knuckles deep previously. I asked him to go further and when he got to all five fingers about 1 1/2 knuckles deep, tried to go further but I had to ask him to stop because it hurt. We got a little further, but over the course of 5 months or so, nothing changed.

Then (miracles! wonderousness!) he had been studying female ejaculation (his fetish), and without discussing it with me, stimulated me to the point of 'squirting'. Immediately after that, as if by magic, my pussy lips were wrapped around his wrist, his hand filling me in the best way.

So, my intense stimulation, massive lubrication and his amazingly effective armature technique combined to give me both of my now-favored orgasm types.

From Sarah
Anonymous [see entry below], either you are very young, or you're just not thinking. Numbing the area is bad! 1) The pain is your wife's vagina is her body's way of saying, 'wait, something is not right here.' It's possible you can do serious damage without realizing it. And 2) if the whole point of fisting your wife is for her pleasure, than numbing the area is counter-productive. I mean you want her to feel the pleasure - right? So why numb it? 

As for assuming she can take a fist because she can take two dicks. Penises don't have knuckles, doncha know. And  even though called a 'boner' they're certainly not as hard as the bones in your fist - even when hard, penises are still relatively flexible. 

Forget fisting, and buy your wife a big fat dildo, better still, a vibrating dildo.

From Anonymous
I believe you didn't understand my posting, She wants to do it but because of trying it twice without getting in all the way she is kinda taken back as to trying it again. I was just wondering if anyone out here had an answer to making it more easy on her. As for myself sure I would love to be able to go all the way but not at the cost of hurting my wife. I was thinking of putting some kind of lube that might make it numb at the same time using regular lube. 

I'm pretty sure that my wife can do it since she has had two cocks in her pussy at the same time and went wild doing it. My main reason for wanting to do this is to bring more enjoyment where she can come a lot from what I have read that will happen. 

So once again if someone has any other ideas that worked for them I would like to know about them. once again thanks to all

From Frank
In response to Anonymous [see entry below]. Whoa, wait a minute! Not everyone can accommodate a fist. Come on, stop a minute and use your common sense - your wife is a small woman and can't have kids the normal way, and she says four fingers hurt. Doesn't take much thought to figure out you should simply stop trying to fit your whole damn fist into your wife's vagina. 

Honestly, is it so important to your sex life that you have to fist her vagina? Good grief, man, surely you're reasonable enough to realize that sex is at its best when it's enjoyable to both partners, and obviously fisting is not enjoyable for your wife. 

From Anonymous
Hi, and I hope someone out there can help me with this. I have tried to fist my wife twice and have only been able to get as far as four fingers in without her saying stop it hurts. I have used a lot of lube as instructed and have gone very slow each time. She is a small girl only standing 5' tall and couldn't have kids the normal way. My hand isn't large. Is there anything else that I can do that will help me get all the way in. 

Also since we tried twice and didn't get there she now says that she doesn't want to try anymore because she thinks its a waste of time and that she just can't do it. If anyone has had this problem and has over come it can you please tell me how and what you did to make it work. thanks for reading this and hope to hear from you soon.

From Ripley
Some of the replies seem like crap, while others kinda reflect our experience. My partner was not so much into it, it just happened. During foreplay we often insert a few fingers, on one occasion I had all four in, she could feel it was more than usual and looked down to see. What she saw (and felt) must have excited her, she began to moan a lot more and get right into it. Slowly, with my thumb tucked into my palm, my knuckles disappeared. That was painful for her, but she kept going. The worst pain is when you get to the thumb joint as this is the fattest part of my hand anyway. At this point she asked me to stop, her hands reaching down to grab my hand, the mood was nearly ruined. It was too late but, my hand was in, after this my hand tapers down. 

When I told her my fist was all the way in her she took a good look at herself with my wrist hanging out of her, and began to really grunt, long throaty grunts. We had used plenty of lube, and she was ready and willing which is what made it possible. I could withdraw my hand until my thumb joint was stretching her again before pushing it back in, I kept doing this for about 30 seconds. She came so hard and loud, begged me not to stop, pushed down harder, then tried to get away only to push back down again, she came for well over a minute or so, once the orgasm subsided, she still begged me not to stop and she immediately came again. It is not only possible, its fuckin' awesome to watch the first time around. She is a slim woman who had not had children at this time, was about 25yrs old and she loves it, she's now 38.

From Katt
I've only been fisted once, but I suspect it was only a means to an end. At the end of two nights of wonderful multi-hour long foreplay with plentiful lips, tongue, fingers, and lubrication (in which he was doing all the giving and no receiving), he surprised me (pleasantly, after a moment of worry) by clenching into a fist. Just as I was finally relaxed and beginning to enjoy it, he withdrew and whispered that he wanted to make love to me. After all that attention, and given that he was a cute, thin guy (I am 2 or 3 inches taller and much heavier), I had some expectations. He surprised me again when he took off his pants. If he wasn't as thick as a beer can, he didn't miss it much. That night was wonderful and only painful occasionally, but I don't think I would have let it happen if he hadn't already proven his fist would fit.

He went to sea shortly afterwards, and when he came back about a month later he was much less patient and giving. After a VERY painful evening we gradually lost touch, which is good as he eventually revealed himself as a jerk when he asked if my sister might be interested in a date with him

From Anonymous
My partner loves having my hand inserted into her vagina. We got into it by accident and now we have progressed to objects. Once stimulated her vagina is quite flexible to cope with surprisingly large objects including bottles, bed knobs and once a soda bottle.

From Anonymous
I love being fist fucked! My husband in no time had his whole hand and up fast his wrist in my cunt. I held on to his fist as if it were the last think I would ever be fucked with. He manipulated my vagina and organs with his fingers and I had multiple orgasms. I leaked out all over his arm and the bed.

From MD_MKE
I have always begged to be fisted. It was something I was curious about. Well, it finally happened, and I love it. I think the both of us were surprised. I think he was even more surprised to find me riding and grinding his fist and really enjoying it as much as I had hoped. I want this to happen again. I certainly hope this wasn't my first and last experience.

From Lizbeth
My husband changed his opinion of my vagina after I had my daughter. He saw what it could endure and he got a bit ambitious. He tried putting several fingers in at once and I didn't enjoy it. It became very uncomfortable after three. I suppose after practice an entire fist would be possible, but it's not that important to either of us.

From Shybut curious
Actually I have more of a question. I recently found out my husband wanted to try fisting, so we did. He says he enjoyed it. I don't want to ask for fear he will think I don't like it. So can someone tell me what enjoyment a man gets out of fisting a woman? Just wondering.

From Judith
Vaginal fisting is out of this world - I really mean that. I am lesbian and have only ever done this with my long term partner. It requires trust and patience and more lube that you think. We worked up to it over several months and I think the fact that I do yoga and have very good muscle tone to be have been instrumental in having done it. Having to have had several kids is a bit of a myth, you do not need to be 'slack', if anything good tone and control is what matters. Also it does not loosen you, if you are doing things right you should not get any bigger as such, remember to do your pelvic floor exercises.

The orgasms I have when her hand is inside side me transcend anything else I have ever experienced and I frequently ejaculate when being fisted (very very sexy). I find that having her slowly open and close her hand inside me really works my g spot, but another trick we have learned is for her to gently rub the very top of my vagina where it meets my cervix. It makes g spot orgasms seem pathetic, and seems to flood my vagina with my own lubricant. This flood remains inside until her fist is withdrawn and tons pour out of me like hot milk. Vaginal fisting = TRUST, PATIENCE, LUBE = orgasms that can make you faint (not kidding). 

From K. Leslie
For a well-written text on vaginal fisting, pick up A Hand in the Bush: the fine art of vaginal fisting by Deborah Addington [available at Amazon.com / Amazon UK / Amazon CA]. She gives lots of good advice (from the perspective of both insertive and receptive partners) and includes an excellent anatomy lesson explaining the whole process.

That said try this with someone you trust implicitly, use A LOT of lube and go slow at the beginning. You will probably have to "work up" to it over a number of sessions. Enjoy!

From Jen
Hi I'm Jen and I wanted to say how much I love fisting! For you girls or guys out there you have to try it! It gives the biggest orgasms in the world! My cunt gets so wet when ever I have a fist in my pussy! But what makes it even better is when my partner begins to eat me out! I love it! I just lose total control and I get so horny I'll do anything to him. 

You have to try to get your partner's fist or fingers into your pussy while his penis is already in there! It's so hot I can't control myself. I get orgasms one after the other. So far he's gotten up to the end of his fore arm! And believe me it hurts! But in another way a kinky nice horny feeling! Just get your partner to eat you out while he or she is doing this you'll love it! It feels like you in heaven!

From Susan
If someone had told me I'd enjoy fisting I'd have thought they were a freak. I was wrong.

My boyfriend introduced the practice because it was something he'd been wanting to try. We have a great sex life and when he said he wanted to try it, I agreed. He took plenty of time working up to the point where he could eventually insert his entire fist. I think just a few sessions were required before he actually did it. Now, I won't say it didn't hurt because it did, especially trying to get that thumb knuckle in. But the oddest thing made the pain go away. Whenever he licked my clit, I felt very little pain, in fact, it felt good.

He licks my clit the entire time, totally concentrating on my vagina and starts shallowly pumping. If he pumps too aggressively it hurts, so he does it shallowly, but intensely.

This produces the most intense orgasms I've ever had. Admittedly, I don't orgasm very often (rarely) from vaginal intercourse. Usually, just clitoral stimulation sends me flying. Fisting along with clitoral stimulation is just too intense to describe.

From Anonymous
Yesterday my boyfriend fisted me and I completely dilated. It was tight going in, and then I dilated and he could bring his whole fist in and out with no problem. I guess I will be ready to have a baby when it's time!

From Mrs. Buggrrl
Although I'd rather be undertaking the action in question, I felt compelled to respond. Fisting can happen quite quickly, or quite slowly depending on the woman (or man, I suppose), state of arousal, comfort with partner, etc.

My wife and I both enjoy fisting and being fisted, and have very different readiness times. She can pretty immediately take four fingers or more, but I can't. It's not a matter of childbirth or having an extra stretchy vagina, or of author license, but a matter of lubrication (real or store- bought), willingness, and sometimes patience. Fisting shouldn't hurt, unless that's your intent.

From Gillian
I had it done to me on Christmas night of 2003. My partner could not have given me a better gift. I never thought it was possible for someone to take that many fingers, hands, arm whatever and put it in side me, but he started out with 1 finger and slowly worked his way up to 4. Managing to get to the level of his palm.

As he began to play with the inside of my vagina, within a matter of minutes I had lost control. It was the most amazing and intense orgasms I have ever had. Yes it was orgasms - I must have had one every 30 seconds and I finally needed to stop when I couldn't breathe. When it was all done I was his slave and would do anything for him. Absolutely the best I have ever had!

From Zeke
This topic has been rather well discussed here as to the capability of women to be fisted however I think what has been missed is the experience involved for the person doing the fisting. A few years ago I broached the subject with a lesbian couple that I was close to and after repeated inquiries was given the opportunity to give it a try.

I was given a lot of guidance and instruction given that I am a male with somewhat large hands and needed to go very slow. Once I was all the way in I was shown the light with regard to an amazing detail of fisting! You are so "involved" with the female vagina when you have your entire hand in that you detect and feel every nuance of the female orgasm! Every twitch and spasm of the vagina plays out in close symphony with the recipient's audible orgasm. It was quite a revelation! In addition it is quite erotic to have one's hand deep inside another person's body!

From Rambo
I believe I am on the verge of giving my wife a complete fisting after a recent experience that left her unable to control her physical emotions. She has always enjoyed being fingered to help her achieve a state of natural lubrication prior to intercourse and has often said its as good as having sex with a penis. She has often achieved an orgasm through being stimulated by fingers being inserted to simulate normal sex.

Recently we were engaged in foreplay and she spread her legs as a sign for me to work on her exposed vagina. She was already moist and it didn't take long for me to insert two then three fingers. The thought of a woman being fisted came into my mind and I began pushing my hand further until all the fingers and my thumb were inside. I continued pushing and twisting my hand gradually moving my cupped palm to the bottom of her by now receptive vagina. Thinking how much further I could go I almost had my hand covered by her well lubricated vagina when she begged me to stop, screaming that she was about to climax.

She was obviously enjoying being fisted though neither of us had referred to the subject. Her thighs tightened around my arm to try and delay her orgasm but she she had gone over the edge and it was out of her control. It had only taken five minutes and I think she was surprised at the speed of the effect of this new sensation but also annoyed at the same time that it didn't last longer. It was wonderful to see the effect that fisting can have.

From kethry
This is something my partner and I do on a regular basis, and something we've both done with other partners in the past.

I'm lucky enough that I've never found single fisting to be a problem, we use aqueous cream (which is available from any chemist, cheaply, in the UK at least), and while this is gooey and tastes foul, its better than KY in that it goes a bit longer before drying out. I'm not entirely sure it can be used with rubber though, so there may be safe sex issues there.

My partner usually just lubes his hand up and slowly slides straight in.. he's got big hands, bigger than anyone else who I've done fisting with. But the sensations are absolutely amazing.. I love it when he twists his hand inside me, I think it rubs against the G-spot or something, it just feels so very very intimate and I feel so stretched, its amazing.

From misterfister
I have been fisting for a few years now. My wife at first just put up with it. Then she would not admit it but she loved it. In my opinion it takes a regular schedule of stretching to fist comfortably. If you are going to do something you may as well do it right. Both involved must trust each other and devote time to fisting to enjoy it. The pain mentioned above is not necessary. If you stretch on a regular basis (once a week ) fisting won't hurt.

The main thing is a safe knowledge of what your limits are. Let's face it the tissues being stretched are fragile. Also a TIP - always stretch toward the rectum or you could damage the bladder. Anyway we use large toys , and practice. Another TIP - the hip bones dictate how much can fit in there.

From Jenn
As lesbians, my lover and I obviously aren't "traditional" in any way shape or form when it comes to sex. We've tried fisting quite a few times, it works, however it takes lots of work to get the vagina to the point where the fist fits without extreme pain. I won't deny that it feels incredible, but if you're extra sensitive in your vagina like me, I wouldn't recommend it. I was swollen for days! that sucked!

From Alysse
The first time he fisted me, he was playing with me as I was lying on my back with the flat part of my feet together, making a sort of box with my legs. This was what we eventually began to refer to as THE POSITION. As his long, slender and well manicured finger toyed within me, he suddenly announced he was going to fist me.

At first I was breathless, so I just nodded approval. My excitement was combined with fear of the unknown. Slowly, my fear gave way to trust. He took his time and used plenty of lubrication. I loved how this sexual adventure felt, and adored watching the expression on his face as he spread me further and further. His fisting me had made me feel like a virgin all over again.

From that point on, my trust in him was complete, so much so that I actually looked forward to the time when he would say, "It's time for your pussy exercise, so take the position." Yes, I was afraid at first, but now the very thought of his magnificent hand fisting me makes me wet.

From Cindy
WOW! My partner and I have tried this and LOVE IT! I have had children so it was much easier for her to fist me. Not only do I love the feeling of her fist, but the emotional stimulus it gives me when she is fisting me and looking into my eyes - that is where real orgasm starts.

I am working on her. She has not had children. My hands are larger than hers and it is taking some time. She must be relaxed in order for this to happen - and it will. Then I will be able to make love to her like she does me. It is wonderful.

From forever t
Last night it happened to me for the 1st time. I didn't realize it, but my partner had been preparing me for it. I've thought about it, and even wanted it... but never had the courage to ask... well last night I was asked. I said yes. It did take a lot of trust on my part, and a lot of time on his..:) he touched me all over for hours before even going to bed...but it was worth it, was a very good experience... I'm looking forward to the next time. but not to soon.

From Anonymous
My partner and I were seduced by another couple at a swing party. The woman said she really liked being fisted. My partner and I looked at each other and shrugged. While I busied myself with her breasts, my partner worked on getting in. He was doing okay but couldn't get past his fingers (although the woman was screaming for more). Her partner, being experienced at this, lubed my partner's hand and gave instructions on how to curl his fingers and rotate his hand as if slipping on a solid bracelet. I was amazed as I watched my partner become buried in this other woman half way up his forearm. Afterward he said his hand hurt from the squeezing force of her orgasm.

From Gil
Alright Ladies, I suppose I will have to be one of the first to say yes definitely it is possible not only for a woman to take and entire hand inside, but also for a man (including myself) to take an entire hand and most of my wife's fore arm inside. As many of you have mentioned, it takes relaxation and even more important, trust for a partner to get in. It is not only comfortable (once one attains the capability,) but absolutely wonderful!

I am not in the last bit gay, I am just aware that the anus, prostate, and some points well above the rectum can create sensations that are akin to your "G-Spot."  For women, the wall between the vagina and the rectum is very thin, so stimulation of this area adds additional stimulus to both areas. There are nerve endings that, when stimulated, will fire simultaneously and heighten the orgasmic sensation. 

Some women can take a hand in each opening at the same time. My wife has had both of her hands in my rectum at once (on occasion.)  With time and patience, as well as a great deal of care, anyone can probably attain this capability. The fear of not being able to close up is false, too, as long as one does not injure (tear) oneself. Slow and easy, and be aware of what you and your partner are feeling is the watch word. I hope that this clears up the subject a bit. If you decide to try this, please DO be careful, read some of the how-to's on the web, and be sure that your partners practice cleanliness and clip all finger nail.

From Asteria
My husband and I have enjoyed fisting long before the birth of our first daughter. We find that it creates a deep emotional connection and closeness. It takes complete awareness of each other and forces us to take the time to enjoy each other. Usually my husband starts with a nice full body massage to relax me, which I must admit gets me very aroused. He slowly works his hands all over my body, finally ending up at my vagina. We make sure we use plenty of lube, something oil based rather than water based so it doesn't dry out, as mentioned before. It's so much more than a sexual experience for us. 

It takes so much trust and an indescribable emotional connection to do this. We both greatly enjoy doing this, mainly because we rarely see each other and this brings back the closeness we loose over time. Just remember if you're going to try it, it takes time, patience and above all trust and love.

From Jade
There have probably been enough responses to this issue already to be clear on the fact that it is indeed possible. However, I would like to address a few of the comments that some have made about the potential 'enjoyability' factor involved. In my opinion, fisting is more of an emotional eroticism than physical. The amount of trust and consideration it takes to achieve this is phenomenal, and it enhances non-sexual factors of a relationship in couples who participate in the practice. The sensation is almost transcendental in its intensity, and can be achieved with minimal discomfort when carried out with patience and respect.

I echo someone else's observation that the vagina itself doesn't dilate, that only the cervix does, which isn't involved in the penetration and is therefore irrelevant. I have (with my husband) on occasion taken his whole hand, both before we had children, and then more recently after our second child and although I felt that it was easier to relax, the sensations were not diminished at all. I hope that this little addition helps to explain what the attraction is, I have to admit that when I first heard of fisting I couldn't imagine ever doing or enjoying it, but I was very wrong. As far as tips on doing it goes: relaxation, lubrication, and trust.

From Johnny Tender:
Hey, if a baby's head can come out of it...a fist can go into it, right? The vagina is a wonderfully versatile instrument, much like a baseball glove...once broken in it can hold anything...line drives, pop up flies, and hot scorchers...it takes a pounding and keeps on grinding.

From Siobhßn:
JT, that was a saucy answer! Yes, if a baby can come out of it, theoretically anything should be able to go in. But, as I said, at the time a baby is coming out, the woman is quite open, a condition that takes some hours to achieve. In the stories, fisting always seems to happen very quickly, and even if a woman is receptive and wet, I would think it would still take some doing to get an entire hand in there that fast. Or should I put that down to writer's license, like a lot of other goings-on in erotic fiction that don't quite mirror what happens in actual life?

From Huggy:
Not speaking from personal experience, but from what a friend of mine has to say on the subject...... According to her, Yes it is possible, though it must be done gradually. Working up to it, and she says a good lube goes a long way in helping out with this. She goes on to say that if the person couldn't move their hand at least a little and flex their fingers, then what would the point be? It would be kinda like a dead fuck if they just put it in and didn't do anything. She has given birth to 4 children, two single births and then twins this last time, all vaginally!

She states that while she is sure that she has been stretched a little but she doesn't think that she is a gaping maw by any means. She would imagine that giving birth helped somewhat with stretching muscles and increasing what her vagina can tolerate without discomfort. She assures me that she gains pleasure from this, if she didn't she wouldn't do it. As far as women who haven't had children, she nor I have anything to offer on that. But I would imagine that if it is done with patience and gentleness that it can be done, but would they enjoy it? I dunno! I am all for trying new things but I think this is one I will skip....

From Debra Hyde:
Well, you're right on a number of points. I've experienced natural childbirth twice and done some fisting and what comes out doesn't feel -- or proceed the same -- as what goes in. A baby's birth requires hours of labor and specially-produced labor hormones which cause dilation and effacement. Fisting does have some effacement happening, but I'm not sure about dilation. I'm inclined to say no.

Fisting also takes a lot of time to achieve, so in that respect, the stories are wrong. The how-to books say relax, use tons of lube, and you partners better give yourself a good 45 minutes to an hour to achieve it. Now, maybe that latter parameter changes with vast experience, but I'd have to ask around to see for sure.

I haven't achieved full fisting, but it's because I can't relax enough and I have endometriosis which abutes one wall of my vagina and limits my physical comfort (which keeps me from relaxing -- you can see the circle there!). We've gotten as far as all the fingers, up to the last knuckle. And that's intense enough for me. There's plenty of fisting porn pictures out there, in case you want to look around. Many show double penetration.

From Jessica:
Hi there; um...being a nurse...I can't let my fellow ERWA's remain in ignorance. (A large assumption on my part!...). But during labor, the only organ that goes through dilation and effacement is the cervix. The vaginal walls stretch but they do not thin out like the cervix does! Just my two cents worth.

From Kristin
Yes, it is possible. And it was one of the greatest learning opportunities of my life. The first, second, third, and fourth times we stopped short of his whole fist. However, with practice I learned to isolate the muscles that control the tightness of the mouth of the vagina. I am sure that the stretching he had already done helped a great deal, but I learned to relax that muscle almost on command. So the women that you see in the flicks where they do it really fast - they are experienced. I can do it now at the drop of a hat. It is a learned skill with some wonderful side benefits. Once I learned how to totally relax those muscles I learned to tighten them almost rock hard - obvious benefits there.

Someone else mentioned a worry that they would get a hand stuck. If that happens douse your hand with olive oil and stimulate her in any way that gets her aroused. Once she gets really aroused you should be able to slip right back out.

From Knight Owl
I really appreciate a woman who enjoys large object penetration and fisting, and have some experience with the activity. Though I don't claim to be an expert on the subject, I have studied it for years to gain an understanding and assurance that it is safe to perform. So, I'd like to share a few things I've learned with those who wish to know more about it.

First, to anyone who thinks a woman may have to give birth to be fisted, this is totally inaccurate. I had fisted my wife (of many years) prior to the birth of our child, without a tremendous amount of practice. Though we often used large toys or multiple toys simultaneously during foreplay, none were as large as my entire fist (which is no bigger than average). However, during foreplay one evening she thought she was ready to try it, and after some gentle massaging, my hand slipped in. The feeling was quite intense, and she couldn't handle it but for a few minutes for that initial instance, but it caused no damage or lasting pain - just a slight tenderness for a day or two.

Also, to those who believe/claim that such an act (at least occasionally) permanently loosens a woman and "ruins" her for normal intercourse, this is also not true. Sure, she will be looser immediately following the event, but it won't last. A woman's body is an amazing creation, as anyone who has studied the cycle of pregnancy-childbirth-recovery well knows. By design, it is capable of enduring far more than a hand, and returning to its natural state. In fact, after my wife gave birth, we didn't have sex for a while (recovery time and too busy with the little one), but when we got back to it, she was too tight to even take the toys we used to play with. A fist was out of the question!

There is a general misconception that the "looseness" of a woman is directly related to the size of things passing in or out of her vagina, when in reality it typically has far more to do with the tone and condition of her PC muscle. This is where simple Kegel exercises can help. They strengthen the PC to allow a woman to squeeze whatever is penetrating her. There are actually other health benefits to these exercises, but I won't get into that here. If you're not familiar with this, I highly recommend you investigate it on your own.

Lastly, I fully agree with some postings here, claiming that the sight and feeling of a loose pussy can be extremely stimulating when it is the result of such an erotic, intimate act of passion! Furthermore, my wife has never complained about the feeling of post-fisting sex, and I personally love how my cock can then slide easily in and out of her. Of course this is matter of preference, so not everyone would relate to this. On occasions when her pussy has been especially stretched, she or I can always add a few fingers or a toy along with myself if "necessary" (or maybe just for fun). This makes for an extremely erotic moment.

Just remember, if you choose to try fisting, don't forget to apply (and re-apply) plenty of good lube. The average woman is not going to produce nearly enough to allow fist penetration without unnecessary discomfort. For first-timers, I also suggest you read Deborah Addington's book A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting. It is probably still the only published "guide" on the topic, stressing other important factors such as a well-groomed hand, patience, and constant communication with your lover. If you choose to indulge, I wish you the best on your adventure!

From Anonymous
I am a 48 yr. old married male. I was thrilled to run across this site, and read some of the entries. I want to share that I especially loved reading that some women truly enjoy being stretched and opened. To me there is absolutely nothing more feminine, beautiful, nor more erotic than a large, loose vagina. 

I have only an average sized penis, but I love to have tender gentle intercourse with a mature lady that is is as loose as possible. There is nothing, and I mean nothing that compares with slipping my fingers in to a woman that is large and wet. My wife and I have began to experiment with some gentle stretching and it thrills me to no end! 

I have felt this way for years, and it seems to me the be the greatest shame when a lady is embarrassed about her vagina. To me, big is beautiful, and bigger is always better. This is the first time that I have ever shared on a forum of this type, I look forward to reading and sharing more.

From Trixie
Well, I have not had children and really thought this was impossible. Am delighted to say I have been very pleasantly surprised. The secret - my boyfriend used plenty of Silk - just the best lube and went very slowly and gently.

From John C.
Sixteen years ago I watched with terrible apprehension as a prominent obstetrician` used his last resort and shoved his hand (and arm) in to grab first one and then the other of my twin sons, and drag them down into a position from which they could be born. In awe, I asked him "How did you do that?" He winked and said, "Try it someday. But not for a while!"

When I did, it was not easy. It depended upon her degree of relaxation. And I don't think it had anything to do with our subsequent divorce! My two subsequent partners sometimes liked that sort of thing but not often. But there did not seem to be much difference in the elasticity of their vaginas in relation to the number of children they had borne. Jan delivered 9 of our 10 children vaginally, including the twins. Noreen's two children had been delivered by caesarean section. Nola's four children had all been vaginal births. (This is sounding a bit like one of those blindfold tests!) If I was presented with one of those vaginas right now (Oh Please!) I am sure I could not tell which one it was!

From Jespir
Well, I have had three children, all natural, and my partner has managed to get all 4 fingers and the thumb inside. He only stopped trying because he was afraid he was hurting me, tho he swore he could have gotten the rest of his fist in, had he tried. Although there was a bit of discomfort, I was totally relaxed and we are very comfortable and open together. I think this would obviously be very important to consider. It was, by the way, a wonderful experience.

From geop
I have tried this several times and it is not easy. An experienced, curious partner is essential. I have a relatively small hand, and no matter the cooperation, an ocean of lube and all the time in the world, I have never gotten past my knuckles, not to mention including the thumb. Not too long ago, B and I saw this in a video. She could not wait to try. Even though she had birthed 4 children and then had a hysterectomy and was very relaxed and enjoyed it a lot as far as we went we did not get past the knuckles.

As a partner, I found the experience required a lot of focus and constant awareness of my partner's status. In spite of it all, I found it to be very arousing (as long as I stayed in my head and did not get too lost in what we were doing.) Given a partner who was interested on her own I would gladly have another go at it. But I would never try to coerce or surprise a partner who had the slightest doubt.

From Valerie
I can say I've never had children up to this point, and I was in a relationship of four years with a woman whom I loved to death and when we made love she could get her whole hand deep inside me without much hurt, that hurt turned into pleasure as she moved inside more and more, I loved it. I liked the feeling a lot, made us have a special bond... it was very sexual, but it was tender too.

I don't really want to be fisted now, not that I can't do it, I don't have a steady partner now, and so I wouldn't like that. It's a privilege I give only to special people and it pleases me so much to. She couldn't take much, 4 fingers the most.. it hurt if I went far from that. I always wondered why was I so elastic. Was there something wrong in me, or was I just kinda lucky? 

But anyway, I enjoyed it... I liked it... though I may say once it bled (not much though) but I think it was because I wasn't that lubricated that day. Beyond that I've never bled, maybe was that my hymen finally went off after so much lesbian sex, I dunno. Never slept with men before her, and we seemed kinda like rabbits always heating up. But who said only women who have been pregnant can do it, but I can and I'm sure I'm not the only one!

From Kristin
This is my special secret... no one knows...eleven years ago I started putting three to four fingers in my ass. Not my pussy, I want that tight for my man.

Then I kept it up sometimes 9 times a week for two years, I have big hands. I would lube up and put my elbow below my ass and make a tripod outta my body and use gravity to enter. Have to do this on the floor, set up a towel and some pillows, a nice fan on also helps from getting too hot. Plus I downloaded a lot of fisting videos and watch them to inspire me. Then after three years or so of this I finally got it so deep, up to my wrist. Last year I woke up three hours later with my hand still in my ass. I musta passed out. I have heard that that can happen.

Now I can go really far and found that the curve in the colon is finally straightening out, so I can go deeper. The walls will gulp and swallow your hand and you can feel the ribbing on the walls as you go deeper... feels great.

I go for three 30 min sessions spaced by two to three hours, or if I am really horny I try for two to three hours straight mainly keeping the hand still and moving my fingers, pushing my hand in and expanding my anus muscles.

From Doc
Over the years I have been with a few women who enjoyed my whole hand inside them but the most remarkable was with my girlfriend. She was a small girl, not over 5'1" and about 95 pounds. In those days there was no birth control except condoms and this girl was very mature for her age. She was used to caring for younger siblings and knew where babies came from. She was not about to get pregnant so did not allow me to have intercourse with her. 

I introduced her to oral pleasures and she loved being licked for as long as we had. She lubricated like an oil well and usually had to be careful not to get her clothes wet. As I fingered her I began to wonder just how big she was and began to insert one finger after the other. I got up to four and rotated them in her, driving her up the wall. 

One night after licking her pussy for an interminable period and getting a puddle of juice under her, I decided to see if my whole hand would fit. I gently began to rotate and ease my fingers forward until my hand slipped in her pussy with a gentle squish. As I rotated my hand in her she just went insane - crying, screaming and laughing all at the same time. She collapsed and just shook violently for about a minute. Then she began to cry for me to stop - she couldn't stand it. The feelings were too intense.

I did as she asked and withdrew my hand. she cried on my shoulder and said she would never forget that if she lived forever but she didn't know if she could stand it again. I fingered and sucked her pussy a lot but she never let me fist her again.

I graduated. We broke up and she married a musician. Once years later she came by my business and surprised me. She said, "I had to see my old friend".

I never had another woman have such a reaction to anything I have ever done. That experience will soon be 50 years ago and it is still fresh in my memory.

From Anonymous
After reading everyone else's input I thought I would add ours. My wife and I have both been avid fans of giving her pussy a really good stretching and for the last 9-10 years I have tried to fist her. We have lots of big toys and also use objects like rolling pins, cans and bottles. She really comes like crazy when they are inside her and the problem we have is that when they go into her within a minute she comes. This is great but as we want to feel my hand inside her it never lets her build up to taking my whole fist. 

As my bridge starts to fully go in this is when she explodes. The other night we were watching a naughty vid in bed and she seemed to be wetter and randier than normal, after dildoing her for ages she stood at the headboard and told me to fist her. She squatted onto my hand and took it all. She had to then lay on the bed and let me slowly fist fuck her. I did this for five or so minutes and she put her hand down to feel my wrist and rub her clit. I then started to rub her bum hole and lick her clit at the same time and this made her come. 

It was so intense she actually passed out for a few seconds. We now know to take our time and if the time is right have some fist fun. She cannot do it all the time but she really does love it. Especially if I put a mirror between her legs so she can see how big and wet her hungry pussy is.

From Tagati
My wife and I were introduced to this form of sexual activity while at a swinging session and have on every occasion that we had a few guys around encouraged then to do it as it was pleasurable for her ( she is a great exhibitionist) and when the guys have had enough of this form of foreplay my wife is ready to fuck as she says she swells up quite a bit and feels great cock after this.

We are and have been swingers for about 15 years now - we are married 39 years and are still going. Swinging definitely improved our sex life and fisting is a big help as new guys on the block have not often experienced it.

7/10/07

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