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Women: During The Act
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Could You, Would You?
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Right or wrong?
Men dare to reveal
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Your Fantasy 3some
MMF or FFM?
Taking Care of Business
On the sly...or so you think
Your Masturbation Aid
Books, videos, toys...?
Oral Sex for Her
Talk with your tongue
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How to blow his mind
Swallow or Spit
What's a person to do?
The Taste of Cum
Yummy or icky?
Why the deception?
Harnesses & Dildos...Oh My!
Pegging your partner
Let us count the ways...
Breasts & Nipples
Do they drive you wild?
Male Nipple Play
Men, are you into it?
Browsing for Cupid
Online love or heartache?
Could it work?
Sex After Marriage
Who's doing it...or not?
What's going on?
Why Do People Cheat?
Is the grass really greener?
It's complicated...or is it?
What do Women Want
Hint...it's not size
What do Men Want
Hint...it rhymes with 'vex'
Stretching the Truth?
My ex-wife used to literally beg for it. The whole thing started quite unintentionally. I often used to have 2-3 fingers in her. One day, she asked me to try and get my whole hand in. I couldn't get it right without hurting her so we abandoned the exercise. A few weeks later I found a website which dealt with the subject and gave some very valuable tips on how to do it.
I was very excited and returned home with the good news. My ex got so wet just discussing it that I did not have to use any lube at all. It probably took in the region of 10 minutes to get my whole fist inside her and once there, she went ballistic! She erupted in a series of intense orgasms and also ejaculated for the first time. She actually preferred fisting to normal sex and claimed that the wonderfully full feeling was what rocked her boat.
I might also mention that after the first experience, she would prepare herself by working herself up with a cucumber -- the bigger the better and often comes a few times like this before being fisted.
When I fist my wife her pussy does widen out, but:
1) It doesn't stay that way because we don't fist every day. We try it like once a week (I don't recommend "quickie" fist fucks - you need time). And we actually manage to do it about twice a month (it doesn't always work). With this frequency of fisting, and after about three years, I do not notice each fisting getting "easier" than the last.
2) I like it. After a fisting her lips remain open, exposing a rosy, sloppy-with-lube cunt that just begs to be eaten out. And if I fuck it I find the looseness to be very sexy. After all, I caused it.
So I say If you are both interested - try it!
From Older and Wiser
But, and this is a very big but, be warned that her vagina will stretch, and the more you indulge in fisting, the longer it takes to contract - in other words, like Nick mentioned [see Nick's entry below] "Her vagina can take some time to contract to its pre fisting tightness and the intercourse post fisting does tend to feel very different. This is perfectly normal."
Over time, the contracting just doesn't happen easily. You've got to work for it. So, if you want a nice tight vagina, think twice before fisting on a regular basis, unless you have the will power to do regular and intense kegel exercises.
Let me tell you, and this is experience speaking - don't do it. Whatever thrill you get from fisting is not worth the time and effort it takes to keep those muscles tight. And guys will tell you any damn thing just for the thrill of getting their hand up your cunt. Just wait till you end up with a loose vagina, see what they say then. Your cunt becomes the typical joke of too big vaginas, especially for guys with normal or smallish penis.
It's just not worth it. It's not like you can't get your jollies off in another way. Get some toys, try new positions, but fisting? Just say no.
From Fist Fun Bun
My fiancée and I were playing around a while back, and she was giving me head, and I asked her to finger my anus while sucking me. She did, and I eventually came as hard as I did the first time that I masturbated. She has fingered me several times since then, and enjoys it. The other night she had a couple of fingers in me while giving me head, and I asked her to put more lube on them, which she did. I then asked her to stick another finger in, she did, and then I asked for another, she did, then she tucked her thumb in, and I asked her to go deeper.
She said that she was not sure she could, but I assured her that she could, and that she was not going to hurt me. She put more lube on, and then pushed, her hand went in just to the knuckles, and she said she did not think that it would go in. I again assured her that I was ok. She pushed harder, but I could tell she was afraid to push to hard. I grabbed her elbow and pulled her arm/hand toward me, and her fist eased into me. It was incredible, I let go of her elbow, and she slowly slid her hand into me to the wrist. She held her hand there for a few moments, and kissed me deeply. I asked her to go deeper, and she slowly worked her way deeper in me going in and then part way back out, till she thought that she could go no deeper.
I looked down, and she had her arm in me about 4" past the wrist. My ass felt very full, and she slowly turned her hand inside of me, and slowly fist fucked me. She resumed giving me head, and picked up the pace of fucking me with her fist. I exploded in her mouth, and thought I was going to pass out as she sucked every drop from my cock. She said was very turned on by it, and enjoyed doing it for me.
We washed up, and then went back to bed, where I spent a lot of time kissing her all over, going down on her, followed by some incredible sex after my erection returned. I look forward carrying out more fantasies with her after we are married.
Childbirth may make this easier, then again so may having larger hips as one reader previously mentioned. From watching and talking about their experiences I have to recommend fisting to anyone to try. It does hurt, but once the pain barrier has been broken I am assured it's worth it. After a hard fisting my partner finds it quite painful for a period of time so be advised to leave plenty of time for this.
We usually have intercourse before and after she is fisted. Her vagina can take some time to contract to its pre fisting tightness and the intercourse post fisting does tend to feel very different. This is perfectly normal.
That's how I started fisting my wife. Today it's part of our sexual repertoire. Oh yeah; I also started off by "giving the example". Long before trying to fist my wife, she was regularly fucking my ass with her hand.
Most of all, once his entire hand and fist is slowly removed, my vaginal opening returns to its normal size. For maximum pleasure I urge all woman to include this activity in their love making. Afterwards when my husband inserts his penis, it has such a light feeling like being caressed with velvet. Its wonderful, a whole new world of fascination and closeness and trust.
It started slowly, with just my fingers, then up to four of them. I usually stopped because felt I was going to hurt her. While she enjoyed the 4 fingers, she actually asked me to try to get my entire hand in her on our next romp.
So on our next round, again I went very slow and well lubed. 4 fingers and just a bit of thumb. She moaned, and wiggled around. I pushed my hand in slowly, then BANG it was all in side her. She bucked her hips, wiggled around, yelled out loud with joy. Her pussy was dripping with juice, more than ever before. I don't know how many times she came.
But I did enjoy burying my face between those wide open lips after my hand was removed.
From Loves It
When he told me that he had actually fisted me I had no idea. I was surprised he could get his whole hand inside me. He has done this several times since and it has never failed to give me the most mind blowing orgasms I have ever had in my life. I actually came so much he checked to make sure I wasn't bleeding, but I wasn't, it was just a river of cum.
I am concerned if there are any health risks to this because he is a big guy and he gets his fist along with a large part of his forearm inside of me and don't know if any damage is being done. But I don't have any pain afterward and it has never made me bleed. Just makes me want to feel his fist inside me again.
I'm small -- 5'2 and about 101 lbs. As others have indicated, being able to take a fist inside is not really a function of either body size or "looseness." I'm a fitness nut (runner, lifter, cyclist) and I can honestly say that my fitness, particularly in my abs and lower abdominal/rectal/vaginal areas all help the matter.
I self-fist both vaginally and anally and I adore both my husband's hands and my female partners in me. I think a lot of the process has to do with trust, and confidence in one's self. Fisting is the absolute best bonding experience that partners can share.
I'm fairly 'accommodating' up front. I can open quickly and take a hand up front with little more than a little saliva as lube. In back, a healthy amount of lube makes it easier, but the game is 90% about getting used to the idea in your mind.
Love reading about everyone here's experiences. I hope we can all keep these lines of important communication open.
From Rebecca Gemithy
My boyfriend has a really long & thick dick, (my first big one) and after our first year together of having something so big in me, I've noticed I'm not sore after we have sex anymore. I'm finally used to it. I had secretly been fantasizing him to fist me for a little bit now, but I was embarrassed. I pictured me drenching myself and his fist with lube, and have him slide it up in me. One night, I was terribly horny and just grabbed his fist & aimed it into me. He got the message. After we got that accomplished, we realized that got me even more in the mood for intercourse. We are having amazing sex!
By the way, everything shrunk back into place shortly after he removed the fist. I don't know if long-term fisting on every day can be bad on it. But I can already say that thought cannot make me give up the ultimate pleasure of when something so wide is expanding every cell inside of me. I'll chance it. Hell, maybe when that does happen, I can always slip more of something in me.
The main point I'm making is just do what feels good to a certain extent. I don't think it matters if you're tight, average, or loose, we are all women who share the love of orgasms. At first, I was scared he'd think maybe I'm not tight anymore, but I know I'm still tight, and he still reminds me.
So I hope women will not think that their men thinks they're hobags if they can fit their fist in. At least my boyfriend didn't. He was almost as excited as I was.
1. She must want this very bad, I mean it is a great turn on just for her think about it makes her wet.
2. She has to relax and push out against your hand as it goes in.
As your hand goes in fold the thumb down into your palm and close up your fist as your hand enters. Once in you can give her a massage from the inside out. Oh la la! If the first one is not there you can forget about number 2, it will never happen.
I have fisted a lot of women in my time and the ones I did really wanted it.
Well, now, almost 15 years later, I asked my husband to try to fist me. The reason for this was that I wanted to reclaim my body, make it do what I wanted it to rather than what the man wanted. It took several long sessions over the course of two or three weeks to actually be able to do it, and I can honestly say it was the most mind-blowing thing I had ever managed.
My husband spent hours stimulating me, both with his tongue and with his fingers. I asked him to work on my anus for awhile, and I spent about 15 minutes with a vibrator in there. It was wonderful, and I could feel my whole pelvic area relaxing. I rolled over onto my back, and opened my legs. It may sound weird, but it was a real turn on to be that exposed, and knowing what was to come. He worked his fingers in deeper and deeper, and finally brought his thumb into line with the fingers and started to push. That was the tough part, because for a minute it felt like everything was on fire. I made him stop for a few minutes, and then he worked on it some more. After several tries, he finally pushed past the "ring of fire" as I called it, and I felt the lips wrap around his wrist.
It was as full as I had ever been except for when giving birth. It was still quite tight, and he had to be very careful with his movements. At this point I reached down and started stroking my clit, which was fully exposed from the hood. I had the most mind-blowing orgasm of my life. I squirted everywhere. I felt like I had won a major victory.
Ladies, if your lover is willing and able, I would recommend you try this. There is nothing like it on earth. Just talking about it makes me hot...I can hardly wait to feel his hand up my cunt again.
Oh, and one other thing. I find it more pleasurable when I am hair free down below, as there is less pulling.
The orgasm I had was so intense that I couldn't speak or tell him to stop or anything. After a couple of minutes I just had to push away from him to stop. It was fantastic!
So yes it definitely is possible and it's very enjoyable!
From Fantastic Fister
The first and most important factor was that I changed from water based to silicon based lubricant. I was dissatisfied with the water based for anal sex, so when I run out of it I bought the silicon variant. It is much better. Doesn't dry out, lasts through the whole intercourse and give a better glide. (No, I'm not selling the stuff!) The buttfucking is nicer for both her and for me.
The second factor was my woman's position. She was lying on her belly with a pillow under her, to raise her butt up. She was a bit dry in her pussy and I just wanted to grease her up some.
The third factor was the position of my hand. It was positioned like when you stretch out your hand to shake someone's hand. Vertically.
My four fingers slide easily into her. The thumb was left outside. I started wondering what to do with the thumb. Put it into her asshole or try for the pussy? Or just leave it outside? I went for the pussy.
The thumb took a lot of space. My fingers couldn't go further in, so I curled them while at the same time pushing in what has now become a fist. I got a lot of guidance from my woman. I was afraid I might hurt her, but she said it was alright.
Her vagina was pressing so hard around my hand that it hurt. Me, not her. She enjoyed it a lot. I kept my fist pretty still while she moved her body very slightly back and forth. After a while she came with a scream. It was obvious that she enjoyed this a lot.
I drew out my hand in a reversed variant of going in. She thought she would have a sore pussy for the rest of the day, but she was OK. No problems.
I used my left hand, although I'm right handed.
Did it with another woman and repeated the procedure, except I was more confident and knew how much to push. Used my left again.
We have talked about trying this in her anus, but I'm a bit skeptical. Wouldn't want an accident to happen.
What made it possible was that silicon based lubricant. Buy it!
My partner and I had explored vaginal stretching at my request as that had been my favored form of masturbation for years. I had one child vaginally with a previous partner 5 or so years before this event. We were being intimate and got to the stage where he was working his hand into me. He had only ever gotten three fingers 2 knuckles deep previously. I asked him to go further and when he got to all five fingers about 1 1/2 knuckles deep, tried to go further but I had to ask him to stop because it hurt. We got a little further, but over the course of 5 months or so, nothing changed.
Then (miracles! wonderousness!) he had been studying female ejaculation (his fetish), and without discussing it with me, stimulated me to the point of 'squirting'. Immediately after that, as if by magic, my pussy lips were wrapped around his wrist, his hand filling me in the best way.
So, my intense stimulation, massive lubrication and his amazingly effective armature technique combined to give me both of my now-favored orgasm types.
As for assuming she can take a fist because she can take two dicks. Penises don't have knuckles, doncha know. And even though called a 'boner' they're certainly not as hard as the bones in your fist - even when hard, penises are still relatively flexible.
Forget fisting, and buy your wife a big fat dildo, better still, a vibrating dildo.
I'm pretty sure that my wife can do it since she has had two cocks in her pussy at the same time and went wild doing it. My main reason for wanting to do this is to bring more enjoyment where she can come a lot from what I have read that will happen.
So once again if someone has any other ideas that worked for them I would like to know about them. once again thanks to all
Honestly, is it so important to your sex life that you have to fist her vagina? Good grief, man, surely you're reasonable enough to realize that sex is at its best when it's enjoyable to both partners, and obviously fisting is not enjoyable for your wife.
Also since we tried twice and didn't get there she now says that she doesn't want to try anymore because she thinks its a waste of time and that she just can't do it. If anyone has had this problem and has over come it can you please tell me how and what you did to make it work. thanks for reading this and hope to hear from you soon.
When I told her my fist was all the way in her she took a good look at herself with my wrist hanging out of her, and began to really grunt, long throaty grunts. We had used plenty of lube, and she was ready and willing which is what made it possible. I could withdraw my hand until my thumb joint was stretching her again before pushing it back in, I kept doing this for about 30 seconds. She came so hard and loud, begged me not to stop, pushed down harder, then tried to get away only to push back down again, she came for well over a minute or so, once the orgasm subsided, she still begged me not to stop and she immediately came again. It is not only possible, its fuckin' awesome to watch the first time around. She is a slim woman who had not had children at this time, was about 25yrs old and she loves it, she's now 38.
He went to sea shortly afterwards, and when he came back about a month later he was much less patient and giving. After a VERY painful evening we gradually lost touch, which is good as he eventually revealed himself as a jerk when he asked if my sister might be interested in a date with him
From Shybut curious
The orgasms I have when her hand is inside side me transcend anything else I have ever experienced and I frequently ejaculate when being fisted (very very sexy). I find that having her slowly open and close her hand inside me really works my g spot, but another trick we have learned is for her to gently rub the very top of my vagina where it meets my cervix. It makes g spot orgasms seem pathetic, and seems to flood my vagina with my own lubricant. This flood remains inside until her fist is withdrawn and tons pour out of me like hot milk. Vaginal fisting = TRUST, PATIENCE, LUBE = orgasms that can make you faint (not kidding).
From K. Leslie
That said try this with someone you trust implicitly, use A LOT of lube and go slow at the beginning. You will probably have to "work up" to it over a number of sessions. Enjoy!
You have to try to get your partner's fist or fingers into your pussy while his penis is already in there! It's so hot I can't control myself. I get orgasms one after the other. So far he's gotten up to the end of his fore arm! And believe me it hurts! But in another way a kinky nice horny feeling! Just get your partner to eat you out while he or she is doing this you'll love it! It feels like you in heaven!
My boyfriend introduced the practice because it was something he'd been wanting to try. We have a great sex life and when he said he wanted to try it, I agreed. He took plenty of time working up to the point where he could eventually insert his entire fist. I think just a few sessions were required before he actually did it. Now, I won't say it didn't hurt because it did, especially trying to get that thumb knuckle in. But the oddest thing made the pain go away. Whenever he licked my clit, I felt very little pain, in fact, it felt good.
He licks my clit the entire time, totally concentrating on my vagina and starts shallowly pumping. If he pumps too aggressively it hurts, so he does it shallowly, but intensely.
This produces the most intense orgasms I've ever had. Admittedly, I don't orgasm very often (rarely) from vaginal intercourse. Usually, just clitoral stimulation sends me flying. Fisting along with clitoral stimulation is just too intense to describe.
From Mrs. Buggrrl
My wife and I both enjoy fisting and being fisted, and have very different readiness times. She can pretty immediately take four fingers or more, but I can't. It's not a matter of childbirth or having an extra stretchy vagina, or of author license, but a matter of lubrication (real or store- bought), willingness, and sometimes patience. Fisting shouldn't hurt, unless that's your intent.
As he began to play with the inside of my vagina, within a matter of minutes I had lost control. It was the most amazing and intense orgasms I have ever had. Yes it was orgasms - I must have had one every 30 seconds and I finally needed to stop when I couldn't breathe. When it was all done I was his slave and would do anything for him. Absolutely the best I have ever had!
I was given a lot of guidance and instruction given that I am a male with somewhat large hands and needed to go very slow. Once I was all the way in I was shown the light with regard to an amazing detail of fisting! You are so "involved" with the female vagina when you have your entire hand in that you detect and feel every nuance of the female orgasm! Every twitch and spasm of the vagina plays out in close symphony with the recipient's audible orgasm. It was quite a revelation! In addition it is quite erotic to have one's hand deep inside another person's body!
Recently we were engaged in foreplay and she spread her legs as a sign for me to work on her exposed vagina. She was already moist and it didn't take long for me to insert two then three fingers. The thought of a woman being fisted came into my mind and I began pushing my hand further until all the fingers and my thumb were inside. I continued pushing and twisting my hand gradually moving my cupped palm to the bottom of her by now receptive vagina. Thinking how much further I could go I almost had my hand covered by her well lubricated vagina when she begged me to stop, screaming that she was about to climax.
She was obviously enjoying being fisted though neither of us had referred to the subject. Her thighs tightened around my arm to try and delay her orgasm but she she had gone over the edge and it was out of her control. It had only taken five minutes and I think she was surprised at the speed of the effect of this new sensation but also annoyed at the same time that it didn't last longer. It was wonderful to see the effect that fisting can have.
I'm lucky enough that I've never found single fisting to be a problem, we use aqueous cream (which is available from any chemist, cheaply, in the UK at least), and while this is gooey and tastes foul, its better than KY in that it goes a bit longer before drying out. I'm not entirely sure it can be used with rubber though, so there may be safe sex issues there.
My partner usually just lubes his hand up and slowly slides straight in.. he's got big hands, bigger than anyone else who I've done fisting with. But the sensations are absolutely amazing.. I love it when he twists his hand inside me, I think it rubs against the G-spot or something, it just feels so very very intimate and I feel so stretched, its amazing.
The main thing is a safe knowledge of what your limits are. Let's face it the tissues being stretched are fragile. Also a TIP - always stretch toward the rectum or you could damage the bladder. Anyway we use large toys , and practice. Another TIP - the hip bones dictate how much can fit in there.
At first I was breathless, so I just nodded approval. My excitement was combined with fear of the unknown. Slowly, my fear gave way to trust. He took his time and used plenty of lubrication. I loved how this sexual adventure felt, and adored watching the expression on his face as he spread me further and further. His fisting me had made me feel like a virgin all over again.
From that point on, my trust in him was complete, so much so that I actually looked forward to the time when he would say, "It's time for your pussy exercise, so take the position." Yes, I was afraid at first, but now the very thought of his magnificent hand fisting me makes me wet.
I am working on her. She has not had children. My hands are larger than hers and it is taking some time. She must be relaxed in order for this to happen - and it will. Then I will be able to make love to her like she does me. It is wonderful.
From forever t
I am not in the last bit gay, I am just aware that the anus, prostate, and some points well above the rectum can create sensations that are akin to your "G-Spot." For women, the wall between the vagina and the rectum is very thin, so stimulation of this area adds additional stimulus to both areas. There are nerve endings that, when stimulated, will fire simultaneously and heighten the orgasmic sensation.
Some women can take a hand in each opening at the same time. My wife has had both of her hands in my rectum at once (on occasion.) With time and patience, as well as a great deal of care, anyone can probably attain this capability. The fear of not being able to close up is false, too, as long as one does not injure (tear) oneself. Slow and easy, and be aware of what you and your partner are feeling is the watch word. I hope that this clears up the subject a bit. If you decide to try this, please DO be careful, read some of the how-to's on the web, and be sure that your partners practice cleanliness and clip all finger nail.
It takes so much trust and an indescribable emotional connection to do this. We both greatly enjoy doing this, mainly because we rarely see each other and this brings back the closeness we loose over time. Just remember if you're going to try it, it takes time, patience and above all trust and love.
I echo someone else's observation that the vagina itself doesn't dilate, that only the cervix does, which isn't involved in the penetration and is therefore irrelevant. I have (with my husband) on occasion taken his whole hand, both before we had children, and then more recently after our second child and although I felt that it was easier to relax, the sensations were not diminished at all. I hope that this little addition helps to explain what the attraction is, I have to admit that when I first heard of fisting I couldn't imagine ever doing or enjoying it, but I was very wrong. As far as tips on doing it goes: relaxation, lubrication, and trust.
From Johnny Tender:
She states that while she is sure that she has been stretched a little but she doesn't think that she is a gaping maw by any means. She would imagine that giving birth helped somewhat with stretching muscles and increasing what her vagina can tolerate without discomfort. She assures me that she gains pleasure from this, if she didn't she wouldn't do it. As far as women who haven't had children, she nor I have anything to offer on that. But I would imagine that if it is done with patience and gentleness that it can be done, but would they enjoy it? I dunno! I am all for trying new things but I think this is one I will skip....
From Debra Hyde:
Fisting also takes a lot of time to achieve, so in that respect, the stories are wrong. The how-to books say relax, use tons of lube, and you partners better give yourself a good 45 minutes to an hour to achieve it. Now, maybe that latter parameter changes with vast experience, but I'd have to ask around to see for sure.
I haven't achieved full fisting, but it's because I can't relax enough and I have endometriosis which abutes one wall of my vagina and limits my physical comfort (which keeps me from relaxing -- you can see the circle there!). We've gotten as far as all the fingers, up to the last knuckle. And that's intense enough for me. There's plenty of fisting porn pictures out there, in case you want to look around. Many show double penetration.
Someone else mentioned a worry that they would get a hand stuck. If that happens douse your hand with olive oil and stimulate her in any way that gets her aroused. Once she gets really aroused you should be able to slip right back out.
From Knight Owl
First, to anyone who thinks a woman may have to give birth to be fisted, this is totally inaccurate. I had fisted my wife (of many years) prior to the birth of our child, without a tremendous amount of practice. Though we often used large toys or multiple toys simultaneously during foreplay, none were as large as my entire fist (which is no bigger than average). However, during foreplay one evening she thought she was ready to try it, and after some gentle massaging, my hand slipped in. The feeling was quite intense, and she couldn't handle it but for a few minutes for that initial instance, but it caused no damage or lasting pain - just a slight tenderness for a day or two.
Also, to those who believe/claim that such an act (at least occasionally) permanently loosens a woman and "ruins" her for normal intercourse, this is also not true. Sure, she will be looser immediately following the event, but it won't last. A woman's body is an amazing creation, as anyone who has studied the cycle of pregnancy-childbirth-recovery well knows. By design, it is capable of enduring far more than a hand, and returning to its natural state. In fact, after my wife gave birth, we didn't have sex for a while (recovery time and too busy with the little one), but when we got back to it, she was too tight to even take the toys we used to play with. A fist was out of the question!
There is a general misconception that the "looseness" of a woman is directly related to the size of things passing in or out of her vagina, when in reality it typically has far more to do with the tone and condition of her PC muscle. This is where simple Kegel exercises can help. They strengthen the PC to allow a woman to squeeze whatever is penetrating her. There are actually other health benefits to these exercises, but I won't get into that here. If you're not familiar with this, I highly recommend you investigate it on your own.
Lastly, I fully agree with some postings here, claiming that the sight and feeling of a loose pussy can be extremely stimulating when it is the result of such an erotic, intimate act of passion! Furthermore, my wife has never complained about the feeling of post-fisting sex, and I personally love how my cock can then slide easily in and out of her. Of course this is matter of preference, so not everyone would relate to this. On occasions when her pussy has been especially stretched, she or I can always add a few fingers or a toy along with myself if "necessary" (or maybe just for fun). This makes for an extremely erotic moment.
Just remember, if you choose to try fisting, don't forget to apply (and re-apply) plenty of good lube. The average woman is not going to produce nearly enough to allow fist penetration without unnecessary discomfort. For first-timers, I also suggest you read Deborah Addington's book A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting. It is probably still the only published "guide" on the topic, stressing other important factors such as a well-groomed hand, patience, and constant communication with your lover. If you choose to indulge, I wish you the best on your adventure!
I have only an average sized penis, but I love to have tender gentle intercourse with a mature lady that is is as loose as possible. There is nothing, and I mean nothing that compares with slipping my fingers in to a woman that is large and wet. My wife and I have began to experiment with some gentle stretching and it thrills me to no end!
I have felt this way for years, and it seems to me the be the greatest shame when a lady is embarrassed about her vagina. To me, big is beautiful, and bigger is always better. This is the first time that I have ever shared on a forum of this type, I look forward to reading and sharing more.
From John C.
When I did, it was not easy. It depended upon her degree of relaxation. And I don't think it had anything to do with our subsequent divorce! My two subsequent partners sometimes liked that sort of thing but not often. But there did not seem to be much difference in the elasticity of their vaginas in relation to the number of children they had borne. Jan delivered 9 of our 10 children vaginally, including the twins. Noreen's two children had been delivered by caesarean section. Nola's four children had all been vaginal births. (This is sounding a bit like one of those blindfold tests!) If I was presented with one of those vaginas right now (Oh Please!) I am sure I could not tell which one it was!
As a partner, I found the experience required a lot of focus and constant awareness of my partner's status. In spite of it all, I found it to be very arousing (as long as I stayed in my head and did not get too lost in what we were doing.) Given a partner who was interested on her own I would gladly have another go at it. But I would never try to coerce or surprise a partner who had the slightest doubt.
I don't really want to be fisted now, not that I can't do it, I don't have a steady partner now, and so I wouldn't like that. It's a privilege I give only to special people and it pleases me so much to. She couldn't take much, 4 fingers the most.. it hurt if I went far from that. I always wondered why was I so elastic. Was there something wrong in me, or was I just kinda lucky?
But anyway, I enjoyed it... I liked it... though I may say once it bled (not much though) but I think it was because I wasn't that lubricated that day. Beyond that I've never bled, maybe was that my hymen finally went off after so much lesbian sex, I dunno. Never slept with men before her, and we seemed kinda like rabbits always heating up. But who said only women who have been pregnant can do it, but I can and I'm sure I'm not the only one!
Then I kept it up sometimes 9 times a week for two years, I have big hands. I would lube up and put my elbow below my ass and make a tripod outta my body and use gravity to enter. Have to do this on the floor, set up a towel and some pillows, a nice fan on also helps from getting too hot. Plus I downloaded a lot of fisting videos and watch them to inspire me. Then after three years or so of this I finally got it so deep, up to my wrist. Last year I woke up three hours later with my hand still in my ass. I musta passed out. I have heard that that can happen.
Now I can go really far and found that the curve in the colon is finally straightening out, so I can go deeper. The walls will gulp and swallow your hand and you can feel the ribbing on the walls as you go deeper... feels great.
I go for three 30 min sessions spaced by two to three hours, or if I am really horny I try for two to three hours straight mainly keeping the hand still and moving my fingers, pushing my hand in and expanding my anus muscles.
I introduced her to oral pleasures and she loved being licked for as long as we had. She lubricated like an oil well and usually had to be careful not to get her clothes wet. As I fingered her I began to wonder just how big she was and began to insert one finger after the other. I got up to four and rotated them in her, driving her up the wall.
One night after licking her pussy for an interminable period and getting a puddle of juice under her, I decided to see if my whole hand would fit. I gently began to rotate and ease my fingers forward until my hand slipped in her pussy with a gentle squish. As I rotated my hand in her she just went insane - crying, screaming and laughing all at the same time. She collapsed and just shook violently for about a minute. Then she began to cry for me to stop - she couldn't stand it. The feelings were too intense.
I did as she asked and withdrew my hand. she cried on my shoulder and said she would never forget that if she lived forever but she didn't know if she could stand it again. I fingered and sucked her pussy a lot but she never let me fist her again.
I graduated. We broke up and she married a musician. Once years later she came by my business and surprised me. She said, "I had to see my old friend".
I never had another woman have such a reaction to anything I have ever done. That experience will soon be 50 years ago and it is still fresh in my memory.
As my bridge starts to fully go in this is when she explodes. The other night we were watching a naughty vid in bed and she seemed to be wetter and randier than normal, after dildoing her for ages she stood at the headboard and told me to fist her. She squatted onto my hand and took it all. She had to then lay on the bed and let me slowly fist fuck her. I did this for five or so minutes and she put her hand down to feel my wrist and rub her clit. I then started to rub her bum hole and lick her clit at the same time and this made her come.
It was so intense she actually passed out for a few seconds. We now know to take our time and if the time is right have some fist fun. She cannot do it all the time but she really does love it. Especially if I put a mirror between her legs so she can see how big and wet her hungry pussy is.
We are and have been swingers for about 15 years now - we are married 39 years and are still going. Swinging definitely improved our sex life and fisting is a big help as new guys on the block have not often experienced it.
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