Fellatio Cum Choking & Gagging

What is your reaction?

I've got a question for the men out there (although women are welcome to chime in as well). Gentlemen, imagine the following scenario: your woman is down on her knees in front of you, doing a fabulous job with her mouth of getting you to blow your load. You're getting close and maybe you've got your hand gripped in her hair, or you're at least holding her head, or guiding it.

Now she is really enjoying what she's doing and but she starts choking and gagging reflexively. She isn't in any actual danger of choking. However, the gag reflex causes her to make obvious choking sounds and she may even be actually gagging and retching, but she's intent on your pleasure so she keeps going. Meanwhile, you're really close to coming and the urgency is upon you.

My question is this: What is your reaction when this happens? And please be totally honest. I'm looking for straight answers. —Rose B. Thorny

"Hold on with a bulldog grip, and chew and choke as much as possible."  —Abraham Lincoln

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From Samantha
I love sucking on my boyfriends huge cock.  He is very dominating and I am very submissive in the bedroom.  We have sex every night.  It is mandatory that I must suck cock and submit myself to a hard long mouth fucking before he makes love to me. Usually I will have cock in my mouth from 2 to 3 hours before anything else can happen.  About 3/4 of it I am so choked out that my nose starts to run my eyes water I start to vomit he makes me gag myself with his huge cock until I start peeing. I love every bit of it.

From Badgirl
On this subject I agree with having a safe signal of some kind and guys if you don't care enough to back off if she needs you to well then you just don't need to have that done at all.

I myself have suffered with gagging if it gets too rough and it has never bothered any man I've been with and they have all had enough respect to back off if need be! And giving head well that just happens to be one thing that yes I will get off on just doing it and hearing the sounds he makes, it tastes so good. But to each is own

From April B
This very topic is the reason I have learned to deep throat and control my gag reflex. I don't want anything getting in the way of me giving my man pleasure...even if it exists naturally. I LOVE having my mouth fucked (if it fits the current mood) I've neither been in a situation where I choked on semen nor have I been with a guy that would not back off/out if I was choking or gagging.

But if I ever find myself in a situation where a guy doesn't pay enough attention or care enough about me to back out and make sure I can get air in my lungs....his penis will never feel the back of my throat again.

From Stephen
There can be a fine line between extreme pleasure and terrible discomfort, and crossing that line is unnerving, and can be decidedly NOT sexy. But for some reason, staying just shy of the line can make the risks so worth it.

I had a lover for a year and a half who became totally aroused with me in her mouth.  Very often upon meeting up, almost regardless of where we were, she would smile and coyly ask me, "do you have a little snack for me?" Now THAT's a sexy question, no doubt about it.

She was good, she was very good, and in the most discreet ways, often in rather open places, she could get me off.  And it was not the least bit unusual for her to climax when I spilled into her. Unlike another writer who describe his attributes as "massive", etc., I am blessed with a nice "average" set of equipment... very functional, thank you very much, and not an undue burden to either of us. And so, Ria had the capacity for just about almost all of me in her mouth, for extended time, with out crossing the line. And in many configurations, when she felt the mood for that, the risk was pretty small. But our preferred way, taking time, in private, took us to that edge of extreme pleasure.

I would kneel alongside her. She laid on her back, with her far shoulder propped by a large pillow so she was very comfortable, but also elevated just enough to hold me fully in her mouth. I would rock gently back and forth, sometimes holding her far shoulder so she would rock with me, and sometime we would freely rock in our own time.  Rocking together would cause some slight in-and-out movement, maybe an inch or more (a lovely, lovely visual to be sure!). In the midst of doing this it seemed like we would spend the whole afternoon together this way, but assuredly it was 10 minutes, maybe more, I never really knew. We would rock, and we'd both be hanging right on the precipice of intense orgasms. She would gently work my balls, with a little lube she might play with my asshole, in-and-out just a bit, and the point is, I was very deep in her mouth.  Really just to the edge of gagging for her. 

One reason for going so slowly is that this gave her the chance to focus on relaxing, relaxing deep in the back of her throat, to be able to have me in there without gagging.  (not the "face fucking" of porn videos, the aggressive pounding... as others have written, when it's time for that there are better places!)  We'd reach a moment where she might begin to squeeze my sack, or press hard against the root of my cock... she might work her finger a bit more deeply into my ass, or just plunge in as deeply as she could.

And then I'd come, and when I came, she wanted me all the way in.  If it had been a while, and I had a lot of junk, it could be a trigger for gagging regardless of the relaxation.  As incredible as climaxing this way felt for me, she was having her own climax, she was totally, fully involved, and she never wanted for the moment to break. 

Those times when it was just a little over the line she'd get the red eyes and the stretched expression.  She'd need a drink to help her throat relax.  But she never, ever wanted to quit.  She wanted it all the way, and if every once in a while it turned into almost too much, so be it.  I've never climaxed any more intensely in any other way, or with anyone else. 

That fine line is real, and I know that it's very different for different people.  For my present lover, the woman I'm happily spending the rest of my life with, the line is drawn well away from any risk of any discomfort... that's just who she is.  There are far better reasons for a successful relationship than depth and risk.  But the rewards can be extremely memorable.

From Cat
Over the years. I've had men who have pushed themselves down my throat and not let go. If I'm not doing what you want, tell me! There have been times when it's past that point of no return, you can't breath! Men can be very selfish when it comes to this. What fun is forcing someone to do this? If  You don't care for the person why would you ever want them to do this?

Yeah, I hear the guys saying a blow job is a job. No, no, no! And IF they vomit on you how could you even get mad? You caused it. I have said after that has happened 'If you EVER do that again it's over.' I have also turned the table and forced their head down in me. They didn't like it.

Sex, making love, fucking, whatever [you want to call it], is suppose to be pleasure for both. Get it together!

From Anonymous
A woman here (just chiming in). I have rarely had this issue, probably because when I go down on my partner, which we both love, it is a giving of prolonged, elaborate oral pleasure and not a "face fuck". It is a distinct thing from fucking, in the same way cunnilingus is from fucking.

Of course, it's always great when he's enthusiastic and starts pumping a bit, but save the hard thrusting for my pussy, please! (it will be much more appreciated:)

I've heard it said that for women, oral sex is about passivity (it is for me..I really get off on that sensation of being completely exposed and passive as he drives me to nirvana with his lips and tongue) and for men, it is about power/domination. A generalization, but perhaps some truth to it. (men thrust, women yield; men are outies, women innies. Yes, women also thrust and men also yield, but I am referring to predominate tendencies)

I don't think it's necessary to apply judgement to these tendencies, if they exist in a particular individual. I think, if anything, they just reflect physical and psycho-sexual differences between the sexes (or even between individuals regardless of sex, of course)

 I'm sure some women love a good "face fucking", but I'm not into discomfort during sex. A good hard fuck in the pussy is one thing ("hurts" SO good!) one in the mouth/throat quite another.

 I really get off on driving him wild while he is the more passive of the two, and he does too (though I think his drive to thrust and take control and his desire to control that impulse when he's in my mouth can be distracting, and he sometimes chooses to stop the fellatio and move on to fucking so he can do what he feels the need to do at that point without causing me discomfort. I think this is one reason some men find it hard to cum from oral; they are too distracted by having to restrain their natural impulse to FUCK and fuck HARD as they approach orgasm.)

So, for us, fellatio is sometimes foreplay and sometimes the main event and it is his call. Either way is wonderful!

Once in a while, that involuntary gag reflex will kick in anyway (too deep for a second or large volume of cum; he is both fairly large and packs a large load) and if it happens before orgasm, we both just sort of pull back for a second and then resume. If during orgasm, I will usually dribble or spill it all instead of swallowing, just in self-defense. Neither event is a mood killer for either of us.

If I gag or choke for a moment, it is no different than if he has to stop cunnilingus for a second to reposition or cough. A very minor delay and distraction from the ongoing activities.

It comes down to being in tune with your partner and sharing a mutual respect, be that a respect for her penchant for being face fucked or not or his for oral as foreplay or as the main event and in all others respects.

From Bob
My reaction?  OH, CHRIST! SHE'S GOING TO BITE ME!

From Rose B. Thorny
So you're saying it's a mood killer, then.  Okay.  Thanks.

From William Vest
Here's my two cents.  First, NO VOMIT! God that's disgusting! My girlfriend loves to be dominated and forced, the whole rape fantasy and sex slave/dominant thing. She gives great head and does anything to please me. I can't throat fuck her but she does try (which is a turn on). But she also has a gag reflex thing and neither of us is into the vomit thing. Talk about a mood killer! But it has gotten there with her gagging and me about to come.

She continues to try, which is a turn on, but the gagging also gives her a great chance to take my penis out of her mouth to say a few perverse things and then continue. It's actually pretty good because it lasts longer.  My girlfriend has said that if she feels like she's going to puke then she will stop.

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