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Here's a peculiarly male problem, impotency. The older I get, I find heretofore 100 percent reliable parts occasionally let me down. No I ain't talkin' 'bout the Chevy. So, what do you say to her when the pan flashes, but the old musket misfires? Sorry, the powder must be damp?

Any of you guys confident enough to admit to impotency, a system crash in the middle of a performance? Have you ever looked into her eyes, desperately apologetic and mouthed that old chestnut, "Gee, that's never happened before"? Or, did you carry on hoping she didn't notice and pray for an instant 'reboot'?

Ladies, how do you handle impotency? Do you try to be supportive "Aw, Honey, it's okay. It happens." Or, as I was instructed, "You're exhausted. Go to sleep. We'll do it in the morning." Or, have you expressed alarm and disappointment. "What the fuck happened!"  —Bob

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I very much liked the comment of Jane and other kind ladies who are understanding of male impotence, and that love making can be so enjoyable in many other ways.

I am now 78yrs and still have the hots for a woman, even not the most youthful and beautiful. I am not really well hung, in my youth I sometimes failed to get a hard on with a first time lover through over excitement. I also suffered from premature ejaculation, again first time with a new partner. Usually after sleeping peacefully together all night, I would have a good hard on in the morning and very successfully make love .

I am content to just kiss, cuddle, finger, bury my face between the thighs or bottom of a woman for hours on end, make her come and come again.

From Teb
I'm 67 years old and 5 ears ago my problem came on all at once. I could not stay hard and I had been married for 42 years. I questioned everything in my life and in my mind and found no answers. I believe we went as far as a couple could go looking for help. Trips to Doctors, pills, machines, even other people still did not help. My wife stood my me but I was giving up on myself mentally. All my years I had never felt that low in my life. We have had ups and downs over the years but our love and sex life had some how helped see us to a better day. I had never been this down in my life.

I went to see one more Doctor who after some tests told me blood was leaking past a valve when I laid down. That was why the pills were not working but he had a fix. A direct injection was his fix which I can state 100% it works. I have heard for years people will do almost anything for love and I can at this point that is true. I have been using direct injections for the last 3 years. I have a very strong needle phobia so I know what love will drive one to do. The shot lets me last longer and makes me larger so we are feeling things anew. What was the end of a world for me or us has opened a new door for us. How have I handled all of this, not very at first and if was not for the love of my wonderful woman I would have given up years ago. So I can say, Love your mate be it woman or man.

From Anonymous
I suppose I am a woman in the minority - it matters a lot to me. Not only does it seem personal (even when you are told the good old "It's not you, it's me"), a nice hard man signals to me that he finds me desirable, attractive, sexy. Yes, women can get off in a multitude of ways, but sometimes an old fashioned fuck is nice.

I suffered from loss of libido and went a few years of not being able to acheive orgasm. I constantly bugged my doctor about how to get it back to only be told,"too bad, so sad".

At least there are solutions out there for men to try. The men I have been involved with that have had a problem with the old softy have been reluctant to discuss the issue with a doctor, and in one case, outright refused.

From Jess
I don't handle it well. When it happens I feel inadquate, get grouchy, annoyed with myself and everything and everyone around me. Even the dog shys away.

My wife of 32 years has no issue with my now and then softy, and actually prefers masturbation, oral sex, and has a love affair going with her hitachi magic wand. Magic indeed. The point for her is whatever outside, rather than the 'old in and out' inside. For her, viagra is an abomination. And actually I have to agree. All it does is give me a stiffy, but not the ever important mental lust. What good is a hard-on when the desire to use it is not there.

So ok for her, not so ok for me.

From Bi-girl
Who cares? As long as the tongue and fingers work, let's get to it baby! And there's always kissing and all that other good stuff too.

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