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From Rod
Well, Bob, I'd hate to leave you hanging out there all alone - wait, that's not coming out right- wait! Neither is that!

Anyhoo, as we all should all know by now, the brain is the primary sex organ. I believe the loss of reliability that most (I think) men experience in middle age can be attributed primarily to, for lack of a better term, brain farts.

It's not that sex is any less enjoyable as one ages, but it can start to fall into the "been there, done that" category, so it's much more likely that at any time during the act, including smack dab in the middle of it, one may suddenly, inexplicably remember the Visa bill one forgot to mail, for example.

But to answer the question, yeah, it's happened. Of course if I really have something else on my mind, it'll usually manifest itself well before things get underway, but still, it's happened. As I recall, after explaining that it wasn't "her fault", we shrugged it off, and grabbed the ol' vibrator. Hate to leave a job half finished after all.

From Anon
The first two times it happened, I was in my 20s and the setup was the same - long anticipated date with the woman, almost fully erect moments from the moment I saw her that night, erection raging for hours, then going down. By the time we got around to foreplay, it was as if my penis said, "Hey, I was ready all night. NOW, you want me to perform? You'll just wait until I'm good and ready."

Both times, I made light of the situation. The women had two different responses. The first one made light of it, looking at my penis and saying with humor, "You're blowing your big chance." That night, my erection had clocked out, not to return till the morrow. It didn't affect the ensuing GF/BF relationship we I had in any way. She later told me she wished other guys handled it that way instead of as if it was a signal of some massive malfunction.

The second woman said, "Are you a fag?" in a tone between a joke and a sneer. I was offended at the question, the tone and the use of the derogatory terminology. That night, my erection was only on a coffee break. Once it returned, for the only time in my life, I had sex with someone with whom I was upset. She didn't want it to be a one-night stand. So, my revenge for her remark was to do her well, get her off and never call her again.

Later in life, I wouldn't rise to the occasion out of overall exhaustion, lack of sexual energy and sometimes lack of sexual energy from my wife. But, as I got into my mid-to-late 30s, these instances had a carryover effect. I have performance anxiety. It was a relief to both my wife and I when I finally explained this to her and let her see how much shame and fury at myself I felt. She seemed a little shocked, then said, hey, I know our hump-a-lot, hot sex days are long past, but I still want you and everything you bring as a husband. That helped. I still have performance anxiety on some level. But it isn't paralyzing as it had gotten for a few months.

From Dal
I started having some impotency problems in my mid 50s and still do at times. When they started, I think it was because I was intimidated by my beautiful lady friend. We went to her house and after a while, she grabbed my cock still in my pants and asked me to come to her bedroom. I was so excited to be with this beautiful woman that I could not get a hard-on, no matter how much stimulation she gave me. We kissed passionately and I explored her body, but I still could not get hard.

She assured me that it was all mental and tried to get me to relax and had me lie on my back. She got on her knees and began giving me a blowjob. I still was not getting hard. Finally, she shifted her body around and had her pussy straddling my face so we would be in the 69 position. I gave her orgasms and ultimately I began to get hard and we fucked and sucked each other all night and for the rest of the weekend. Every time I had this problem, she could cure it by giving me slow blow jobs and get me going. It almost always worked, but when it didn't, I still sucked her to oblivion through the night.

With her and others, I can overcome my temporary impotency this way or by first watching some extreme porno. When by myself, sometimes it is hard to masturbate without reading erotica or watching porn. I am sure age has something to do with it and as I approach 63, it is sporadic when impotency is a problem. Viagara and other aids work fine, but they leave me ill afterwards and I no longer use them.

During my mid50s, I bought a penis pump and started using it. It caused my dick to thicken around and gives me an inch or more in length. It is very firm but not always rock hard, but my lover says that it feel great as though it is totally hard. With a cock ring attached, it is even more firm. I hope this helps someone. Thanks for this great forum.

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