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From Robin
As a male just turned 50, I think I got around a fair bit before getting married. Never seen a ugly vagina, labia or clitoris and I have seen well lets just say a far few up close. I absolutely love performing oral sex. Big inner lips, fine by me, large clitoris great, where's the problem. Make a bulge in your swim wear, my god, have you any idea how sexy that looks to a male. (If thy are so large as to flap about in a strong wind then you may want to do something about them, either that or put some bigger pants on) I'm sorry I could not resist the last comment.

If some brain dead idiot has past a derisory comment about your bits feel sorry for the pathetic moron he or she is obviously feeling inferior or threatened in some way which is thier problem not yours. Yes I know what it's like, I do understand as a male living in England that is circumcised (yes it's exactly the opposite here than in America) it's the cut men that get all the verbal abuse (and physical sometimes) from both male and female. I have had horrible things said and done to me as well as being rejected by women on more than one occasion. Please do not let the stupid comments of the ignorant get to you.

 I married my American wife twenty years ago who I meet in England she loves my willy (penis) even though she sometimes jokes (I hope) that it's a little small. She has the largest clitoris and inner lips that I have ever seen, and I love them and her.

Enjoy your life, it's to short to worry as to what others may think— sod them. Have fun and as we say here in Yorkshire... Love you all.

From Doug
I've been a nudist for many years. I've seen hundreds of ladies sunbathing, their inner thighs, labia, and all that, showering, shaving, peeing, every conceivable circumstance except sexual at the clubs. My girlfriend, after shaving for the first time a couple of years ago, noticed for the first time that her inner labia and clitoral hood stick out a bit when she is just standing there sometimes and more when she is sitting. She was concerned about their size. I took some pictures of her and then we went on the net and looked at a whole bunch of vulva pictures and the like. We both got turned on and distracted from the pictures by the real thing.

I shave my face extra smooth before I start oral sex with her smooth pussy. Something that turns her on immensely is when her labia and clit are erect, I insert my upper lip between her inner and outer labia and with my lip press her labia against my tongue on the other side and move it in and out of her vagina stimulating her entire inner labia and clit on both sides. When her vaginal muscles contract in a certain way and her legs are spread wide and up high, sometimes the tip of my tongue can stroke the edge of her g-spot when I'm doing this. It is totally amazing to experience her reaction to that. I can't do that with my upper lip in the same way with small labia.

For decades one of my big fantasies was to have oral sex with a woman with a good amount of labia and a large clit. My girlfriend is big enough that it has satisfied that fantasy and it's every bit as great as I had always imagined. Of course her having screaming orgasm after screaming orgasm with such stimulation is very encouraging to me. I could do it until my neck gives out.

It turns out that she is very normal, larger than the smallest and smaller than the largest. However, while looking at hundreds of lovely unique pussies of many varieties we didn't see a single one that was unattractive.

This year on vacation at a nudist resort for 2+ weeks she noticed that many of the women had inner labia peeking out. She even tanned her inner thighs with full confidence and had no concerns about peeing for distance in a group out in the woods. Nobody stops and stares, nobody says anything, it isn't a big deal of any kind for anybody. Back in the 50's and early 60's seeing any inner or outer labia was relatively rare and almost nobody shaved. Now, an awful lot are shaving or trimming and labia are far more visible. I've never heard a negative comment from a nudist man, or woman, about large and visible labia and clit. I prefer them larger but small is just fine too, just have to adapt my methods to the local anatomy and enjoy myself enjoying her. 

 I had NEVER heard such negative comments as those presented here by a few until relatively recently, maybe 3 or 4 years ago, and never from nudists. These comments were always from the ignorant and fearful, people who were not comfortable with their own bodies, people who would never go to a nudist club because they don't accept themselves much less others.

From Ginger Anne
Frankly, what I want to know is what asshole decided what constituted a "pretty" vagina? I will bet he has an ugly penis! So there!

And, how many people are really going to see it anyway?! It is not as though any of us live in a society where we walk around with no pants and out legs spread open!

I have larger labia. I love them. They are soft and full and both my boyfriend and I enjoy playing with them.

Really. Haven't our insecurities gone too far at last?

From Susan from Canada
I just stumbled upon your website and I am so glad I read it. I too have felt rather self conscious about my rather 'meaty' labia. After reading your column though, I have to thank your male contributors in particular. The gentlemen who said they were so 'turned on' by very obvious labia and clitoral viewing made me feel that my private parts are indeed very sexy and sought after by more than just a few of the male population. 

Personally, I have always loved a man wanting to spread me wide open to get a better view and then taking in a mouthful. It was great to read some of you find it sexy. I will never feel 'less than' ever again.

From Anonymous
I guess my lips are medium sized. Often, they are not visible at all, or just a tiny bit shows, but other times, they are much more obvious. A lot depends on my state or arousal (they swell and spread) and where I am in my cycle.

Sometimes, wearing tight pants, there is some discomfort, but nothing that isn't solved by a little adjusting.

I love my pussy, changes from childbirth included.

The only time I would consider surgical alteration is if my lips were so long that serious physical discomfort, not resolvable through other means, was involved.

My lips are very sensitive and it is highly erotic for me when DH [Dear Husband] nibbles them softly with his lips and breaths his hot breath on them during cunnilingus.

I'm glad to hear so many men appreciate a lovely "flower" in full bloom. Mine seems to, and that's good.

From Anonymous
Ok, so here is my rant about body image and large labia, etc. I've always thought that my inner lips were large but for a long time I just didn't care and every time I messed around with someone, they never seemed to care either. I dated someone for 2 years whose only experience with naked women was porn and he only once asked if my lips were normal and I just said I guess and it never came up again but he was still obviously very turned on by me.

Then after I broke up with that boyfriend, I messed around with someone new and he seemed really into me but mentioned to his friend, which got back to me, that he thought that my lips were large. I was hugely offended even though he never said they were gross or bad and still always tried to mess around and have sex with me. For several years after that I was always very self conscious and would constantly ask guys if they thought I was gross or hated me now because they saw how I looked and pretty much all of them would just react stunned and not even know what to say. Many would just say shut up, you have the hottest pussy ever and would think I was fishing for compliments.

A later ex-boyfriend of mine was very patient with me and would always assure me that I wasn't gross or "deformed" as I started to say, and would constantly ask me why I would be gross just because my labia were a little big. Then (sorry I'm almost done with my stories before I get to my point) throughout my freshman year of college, I would always say you think I'm weird, you think I'm gross, etc while messing around with someone and they would always act confused and assure me I wasn't and I was still stuck on this then finally this one guy, frustrated with me said, "The only thing that's weird about you is the fact that you think you're weird." And then I realized that maybe he was right and maybe I had been overreacting all this time.

Now, not to say that I'm not self conscious anymore, because I still am, but I realized that confident guys who have actually gotten around and have seen different vaginas realize that there is no normal. This goes for everything...there is no normal and I think people just need to realize that they are who they are and maybe they're not perfect but seriously, who is perfect?

After I became hung up on this idea of being gross and deformed, I haven't had the same intensity or ease of climaxing and I think it's definitely because unconsciously I am stuck on the fact that I'm gross. And I think confidence is what will ultimately turn the other person on, and definitely saying "I'm so gross, etc" will not do anything but kill the moment or make the person look for something that's gross on you if anything.

Anyway, even if there is something about you that isn't considered beautiful by someone, there will be someone else out there that does find you beautiful and ultimately the longest lasting and most loving relationships come when people are themselves and appreciated for who they are.

From Anonymous
I too am blessed/cursed with larger inner labia. I actually think it may be that my outer labia are just small. I have never really liked the way my labia looked for as long as I can remember. I am now 40. After having 2 children they seemed to have gotten a little bigger. I have seriously thought of having labiaplasty. However my fiancé says if I do he will leave me. 

I have never had any man complain about them but I also haven't really displayed them. Before my fiancé I was pretty much a sex in the near dark kinda girl. He says he loves the way I look down there and that I should be happy with what God gave me.

From Debs
Hello, im a 21 year old female who basically has men crawling at my knees, the only problem is, as soon as a guy shows interest, I immediately think to myself, "well wait till you see my pussy, you wont be so excited" My labia minora are large, and basically nasty looking. I hate them, I feel it makes me look ragged, and skanky. It's hard knowing that your most personal spot on your body needs to be hidden even during the most intimate times. Im considering getting them reduced, But my boyfriend feels its not needed.

I know I wouldn't survive if anyone made a comment about my pussy.

I will leave them for now, seeing as I'm intimate with a guy who loves them, but maybe later in life I will go and get them reduced.

I just wish I would see more women on tv with the same vagina that I have, maybe then I could convince myself its more normal than I initially thought. I've heard people talking about how degusting they think large pussy lips are and that's made me feel even worse. I would like to know the stats on how many women worldwide have large vaginal lips.

Just needed to share.

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