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From Amanda
I absolutely adore large labia. I'm bisexual but currently with a man (who also loves my large labia). I see women with tiny labia and I wonder what the pleasure in that would be. I love to be able to touch a woman and feel a lot of skin. When the lips become wet, they are so full and juicy. I only wish I could be a man and penetrate a woman with large labia, I can imagine how sensual it would be to have thick folds of skin sliding on my personal areas.

I did however use to be very shy about mine, when I was younger. At first I never noticed, but one day I was about to get a shower and my mom made a comment about how my labia looked like "a cat with its tongue stuck out". I was actually very embarrassed about that for a long time. When I met my current boyfriend, I was extremely shy, but I was open with him and talking to him, I realized he, as well as a majority of men, prefer thick lips. Now, I take what my mother said as a comment. I realize that having a "cat with its tongue stuck out" is very sensual.

Truth is, don't be afraid of what you have, ladies. Thick, thin or lopsided, all vaginas are absolutely the most beautiful thing in this world.

From Pete
Thanks for a site that can help correct misconceptions for at least a few women. It's sad to think that so many others won't see this, and will be ashamed of their "condition" to the point of avoiding sex, not letting their partners fully enjoy their pussies, or even (horrors!!) having surgery. What a waste!

I address this to the women who feel bad about their labia, and I assume heterosexuality, as lesbians most likely have an easier time figuring out that they don't have anything to worry about. Large-lipped ladies, please think about a few things:

1. We males happen to be turned on visually (not only that, but a lot). So if there's nothing to see, what fun is it? Not that tiny little pussies aren't beautiful too, but to me thin little demure lips tucked inside a crack where I can't even see them just aren't nearly as gorgeous. I'm not sure where the idea started that men prefer little "girlish" (supposedly) barely visible pussies. Maybe it all came from the odd particular taste of Hugh Hefner for airbrushed fake-looking, barely pubescent pinup girls, but I thought that era ended in the '60s. Take a quick look at a few current porn sites and see if you still think "all men" don't like prominent pussylips. Au contraire!

2. I couldn't care less whether other men have similar tastes, but a quick look at the posts on this forum suggests that a strong majority prefer generous labia. And I doubt it's "just because they were looking for a discussion of large lips."

3. People have a range of physical characteristics, and at least as wide a range of tastes and preferences. Given that, changing yourself to fit what "everybody" likes would be impossible, so why even try? How many boyfriends/husbands do you want, anyway? If only 10% of the available males would naturally, enthusiastically appreciate your "oversized" sexy parts (and I'm sure the percentage is a lot higher than that), you'd still have thousands to choose from.

4a. We men, or at least lots of us, are also turned on by variety. Ample labia provide more options for visual and tactile entertainment; it's just that simple. Hanging down, bulging in the panties, spread open like a butterfly, gaping a little bit open from behind (ohmygod!), sucked into one's mouth...there's more to play with.

4b. The same goes for coloration. Some women in this discussion seem embarrassed by their dark or multi-colored labia, but wow, those are the best! Not that there's anything bad about little monochrome pink lips that blend in with their surroundings, and fortunately there are guys who love them, but I don't find them as fascinating. I'll never tire of the way my (Asian) wife's almost purple-black labia contrast with her gorgeous brown butt. And then spreading that sweet treasure to see the bloom of delicate pink shades inside... Mmmm! Yes, I'd be happy if her (average+ sized) lips were a bit bigger, but that's nothing like a determining factor; it would just be a little (so to speak) bonus. She totally turns me on as she is, and that's because of who she is and how we make love together.

4c. Asymmetric lip lengths? No strong preferences here, but some length discrepancy is more common than not, and certainly not a turnoff. Variety is a fine thing, and I sure wouldn't worry about it or have it "corrected."

5. Let's dispense (again) with the myths that large labia indicate having had lots of sex or masturbation (not that either is bad, by any means). Maybe some legitimate confusion comes from the fact that an aroused pussy swells and opens like a lovely flower (and no doubt that's part of the attraction). But if your guy has that kind of antique hangup, you need to educate him ASAP or move on to someone more mature.

6. Instead of obsessing about how your actual or prospective lover might react when he sees your pussy (based on dubious assumptions, rumors, or adolescent comments), just screw up your courage, pull down your knickers, and spread-em! ...at an appropriate moment, with lights on. If he isn't awed by what he sees and feels, move on! You're better off finding out sooner than later. Not to mention the (slight, I think) chance that he'll be repulsed-a guy like that deserves to be stuck with someone as shallow and ignorant and plain-vanilla as he is. Why would you want to be "lovers" with someone who doesn't appreciate you as you are? It's hard to know for sure, but having luxurious labia probably makes you more desirable to more men. I see no reason you should think you're less attractive. Lucky you! Again, though, you probably only need one out of the many possible choices.

7. Unless there's a compelling medical reason for it, which I suspect is very rare, please do not even consider labia reduction surgery. Until reading these posts, I hadn't heard of the discomfort/chafing problem associated with size or asymmetry, but there's got to be a better way to deal with that. Soft cotton panties, tucking 'em in, lubing 'em, something. As for aesthetics, enough said above, I hope, and the "bikini bulge" is the opposite of a problem, in my view. There's hardly anything more alluring than a fit, healthy woman, comfortable with her sexuality, displaying a nice gap between her legs, and a suggestive labial curve showing through her pants... Yow!

Sorry this is so long, but someone needed to say it.

From Don
Please, please, please women leave your vaginal lips, clits, and breasts alone. Please, please, please understand that they are all beautiful, and just maybe it is the differences between them that are exciting. About the only exception to such that I can imagine is when any one of those parts is of such large size that it in some way hinders your everyday life.

Even the tiniest clits and vulva lips are feminine and exquisite, and, for the record allow delightful licking and sucking. The biggest, thickest, and longest are just as exciting, pleading for attention and loving. The tiniest breasts have exquisite nipples. Please, please, please be intensely proud of who you are as you are. If you want to trim and/or shave, Bravo (!) for having the pride and courage to show us who you are and what you have.

From Anonymous
My wife has large labia and we love them. They fold around my fingers while I stroke her pussy, and they turn me on when she has shaved her lips - they look even bigger. It is lovely to suck on them, and they help her to reach an orgasm She does not mind her lips showing, and is happy to show me. Ladies enjoy your labia, however large they are.

From Anonymous
I have large outer lips which I am fine with. The thing I am self-conscious about, and that I rarely hear women talking about or see pictures of, etc., is that right above my clit, where the lips end, and the mound begins, there is this distinct cleft or something. 

I can hide it with hair, but I would like to be able to wax it all off, but then I am so self-conscious of this weird cleft thing! Help! Has anyone ever seen what I am talking about? I also have a somewhat large 'mound' (I am not sure if there is an actual term for this area, but basically the front of your vagina, where most hair usually is found). It kind of bulges out.

[Anonymous; talk to your doctor, or go to a local women's clinic, and express your concern. Could be it's something completely normal and nothing to worry about.]

From Confused 18 yr old
Thank gosh I've came across this web page. My minoria are long, I feel so disgusted standing in front of the mirror seeing them hang loose. When I wear a bathing suit, when I wear anything, they seem to stick out. And I've honestly thought about getting them surgically removed. Now that I know I'm not the only one who's experiencing this, I am sooooo relieved. 

I still have to say that the smaller, the better. But guess what? Some people are born with bigger breasts then others, some have nicer eyes, some are tall, some are short. Who are we to say what's nice?

From Renee
I appreciate all of the messages on this message board, but I have to say that I think many of you contradict yourselves. A woman's body image is a very tender, complicated and complex thing. There are no right answers for everyone and many shades of grey.

I am a very well educated woman with a Ph.D. in third-wave feminist literature. I also write and study erotica. I teach young woman to enjoy and embrace their bodies with all of their differences and quirks, as these are what make them individual and beautiful. I believe that statement entirely and without reservation and I have had a labia reduction.

I had one labia that was much larger than the other and it made me uncomfortable. I was not uncomfortable in terms of what others (sexual partners, etc) thought. I was simply uncomfortable with the way that it looked and felt to me. So, I had it changed.

My body is about me. Your body is about you. How on earth can someone take the line that you must 'love your body' and then ask for a man's perspective on how it looks?

Great to all you men who enjoy the individuality of the female genitalia. You should. They are all different. Mine was, and is still, unique to me. But really, I don't see how your input factors in. To me it's like seeing a male protestor outside an abortion clinic. I've always wanted to stop and ask, 'When was the last time you were pregnant my dear?'

From Todd
It's not just a question in my mind that a lot of men prefer small lips but rather that this is a misconception! I agree with all the positive reviews; I clearly love, adore, cherish, desire, fantasize, and lust for those magnificent large, meaty vaginal lips! They are the most beautiful thing in the world.

I think it is an enormous mistake to even consider doing anything to get rid of them (unless there is some physical discomfort; and even then I'd really suggest exhausting all conservative measures such as shaving/or permanent hair removal, lotion etc etc).

Like the one comment, my wife's labia aren't very large, and I want to know how to enlarge them; I'm hoping that pregnancy has a positive influence, but being a doctor, I realize that it doesn't necessarily relate to frequency of masturbation; number of sexual partners, or prior deliveries.

I love my wife for a lot more than what's between her legs, and maybe that's part of why I have no worries of how her body could change.

Anyway, large lips are definitely a treasure!

From Pete
I am saddened and amazed when women get breast implants, and I have the same reaction to labial surgery. I have yet to see fake breasts of any size that come close to being as erotic as the tiniest natural ones, and the idea of trimming pussy lips is mystifying if not tragic. The doctors who exploit or invent fears about oversize labia are some disgusting human beings.

Most women enlightened enough to explore this site probably wouldn't consider the surgery, but in case any readers are leaning that way, please stop and think. Or even (what an idea!) ask some men what they actually like. Or check out a few porn photo sites to see whether only small-lipped women are popular—I'd venture to say the opposite is true.

As with other attempts to change one's self to fit a notion of what "all men (or women) like," this is self-defeating. By trimming your labia, you will turn away, or at least disappoint, the men who are fascinated and turned on by those gorgeous, colorful, changeable, fascinating, unique pussy lips... ...in exchange for some superficial guy who doesn't want you the way you are. What good is that?

From Jen
I don't know what the big deal is about the size of a girl's labia. I mean, if I were a guy, I'd want a girl with a big full pussy. As a woman I often fantasize about having a mouthful of pussy to suck on. My own is what I would consider big, probably from years of masturbation.

From Jessika
I am female and think large labia minora are beautiful. I think it is very feminine when they are exposed from the outer labia. Makes me jealous of those girls that do have long inner lips.

From John
I just love the female genitals. My girlfriend had the largest pair of inner labia I had ever seen, and it was so exciting and sexy. A whole mouthful of labia has got to be the biggest turn on. The sight of those big pussy lips around my penis was almost enough to ejaculate. She has since had a reduction (to my horror) because she said she was no longer confident and uncomfortable. 

All I can say to those of you out there that feel you have over-sized labia, if you are not uncomfortable, be proud of what you have got. The larger the labia for me has to be the best.

From Helen
Hi there, what a subject! But it moved me in a way. Small Clit, Big Clit, what is big or which one is small. I don't really care, strikes me at first. But the more I read (you) participants the more involved I became to the matter and all of a sudden I made a gist.

 If you have a clit in a bigger size and don't have the excitement? What will the feelings be? If you have a small one like that one I have and have the excitement. You do as me, masturbate in a daily needful routine and love it. If the girl with the big one have the urges, she masturbate in a daily needful routine too. 

So my humble interposition is, the sexual fantasies. The excitement which bring you to do loveable things with your pussy, Big Clit or Small Clit. Your mind as well as mine is what we are born with. And if you are the horny type which have the needs for orgasms every day (as me). Don't get involved with a person without those needs except for, having a lot of indulgent and do it by your own hands and fingers. Cause the person close to you can be Mr or Miss right anyhow. Life isn't all about sex. It's personal. The rest is the everyday act. Enjoy it! And please, you participants! Don't give up writing to this lovely site. Love You!

From Anonymous
My boyfriend loves my thick, full pussy lips, and I do, too. He was also the only lover I've had that noticed I only have one labia minora. A doctor pointed it out to me when I was around 21, during an exam. Of all the pap smears in all the years... only one doctor has mentioned this. That's what I find strange.

Anyway, my boyfriend is very gentle about it. He'll gently chide me about being one-lipped, but he really loves it's uniqueness.

I've noticed a lot of Asian women have those compact, tight looking little porn star pussies, and I think they are gorgeous, too. I guess I'm always curious about those who are different than me.

The female vulva is an art form, no matter what the shape.

From Anonymous
I have big, juicy, luscious lips. For the first time in my life, thanks to this blog, I say that with pride. To heck with Howard Stern advising his bimbo guests to trim their lips. To heck with the plastic porn standard that women feel they need to measure up to. To heck with guys who do not embrace our natural beauty. To heck with years of my big pussy complex.

I am a woman with big, juicy, luscious lips. And I am proud. I feel a revolution in my pants (and my mind).

Thank You.

From Dragon
I dearly love large, full labia. I have never seen a woman's pussy that was too large. A woman's lips swell and become softer and warmer during intercourse and I think very full pussy lips are just gorgeous. A handful of warm soft labia, (and I have large hands) is wonderful, both before and after sex. In nature, large labia are an indication that a female is ready for sex, which is just fine with me.

From Andrew
It strikes me how many women are self-conscious about their long labia, without realizing all the different shapes of female genitalia. My wife and I have been avid and social nudists for many years, and many of our lady friends have long labia. Its not age-dependent either - one of the longest sets we saw was on a 20-something friend of ours. In her case, the inner labia easily protruded by an inch below her outer labia. Like us, she is also a smoothie, so its very obvious. Clearly, she is comfortable with how she looks down there, and has never thought about having them altered. 

Perhaps if more people were comfortable with social nudity, these negative body issues wouldn't come up as often.

From Anonymous
Hey guys. im definitely not as old as anyone else on this site, im in my teens. As a teen, I started noticing that everyone else's labia was smaller, or more 'normal'. I became self-conscious and really scared. I thought about what I should do and I thought that there has to be some surgery to be done. 

Now that I read this site I can see that guys don't really care, but im still scared to show my boyfriend. What would he think? I keep telling him that I'm self-conscious and that I don't want to do much but know one day, since we have been together for awhile, that he will see me and im afraid he's going to say something. He's young, what does he know about what's  beautiful and what's not? This really worries me and I can see that other women have had this problem too and its comforting to know that I'm not alone.

From Rochelle
I noticed my labia were odd when my boyfriend asked why they hanged out. The one is a bit longer than the other but only one really sticks out. It's also dark in colour, but I'm fair in complexion. When I was younger I rode on a bicycle and knocked my lips on the bar of the bike when my foot slipped. I always thought it was that, but now I think differently.

I also feel that they shouldn't only show girls with beautiful vaginas on porn, because it makes the males think that is what it should look like. When actually everybody looks different.

From Anonymous
I'm 20 years old and when I was younger, 10 or so, I would masturbate not knowing later in high school I would be different from most girls. I would always feel embarrassed taking showers with my friends and when I got more into sex I was so afraid of what guys would think. I never let a guy touch me down there until I was 16, then losing my virginity was so scary I was sooo nervous.

Even now my man tells me how sexy and beautiful it is but it's hard to be different. I'm glad I'm not the only one. Thank you to everyone who has posted on this site its helped me sooo much.

From Mandy
I have large labia, and thought of surgery until i had a tummy tuck and lost feeling in my thighs and surgery site. I just want to say thank you to all the men that are so wonderfully intrigued with women's natural beauty. I guess my husband is not the only great guy out there. Thanks.

From Bill
Hi Everyone. Firstly, let me say, what a fantastic site! Absolutely brilliant! I am in the UK, and can honestly say that there is no bigger turn on than a pair of large pussy lips, the bigger the better. For me it is the ultimate in sex appeal.

From Adrian
As a male reader of this site, I am pleased to say that I believe that a large Labia is one of the most attractive things on Earth. In this day of sanitized porn where the demand is for women to have almost pedophilic genitalia I find it refreshing that more women are becoming comfortable with themselves.

I am a thirty six year old man and can only claim to have been with two women with large genitalia. I can add though they were the most erotic, sensual and satisfying women I have had the privilege of knowing. I love to give oral (its an obsession that lots of us British men adore!) and being presented with very small labia and or clitoris is always a disappointment. Most small tidy women think that all men want to spend an hour looking for their micro dot or desire the teenage looking small lips. Well I believe they are wrong.

A sex should look like a sex and not a pre- pubescent air brushed image. My biggest problem is finding a women that is blessed with large labia / clitoris. So women take heart, there are guys in the world that don't have those hang ups.

From Anonymous
I'm a 23 yr old girl who has the same insecurities as most girls on this page. I slept with 3 people before my boyfriend. I never really thought of my labia as being different until my boyfriend of 2 years said to me "you have the pussy of a porn star" I wasn't sure how to take that. And then he said "I bet it wasn't like that when you were a virgin." But the truth is, yes it was like that when I was a virgin. I see no change from then to now. 

I think men think you are a slut if you have a large labia, when that has nothing to do with it. Men really need to realize that it doesn't mean we have slept with a lot of people. And to all you girls afraid to have sex. Don't be! Sex is amazing. Tell the guys to take it or leave it. Accept who you are and you will find a guy who will love everything about you. And I'm happy to see plenty of men find it irresistible

From Anonymous
I recently had surgery to reduce the size of my large inner vaginal lips because one side was longer, and it was uncomfortable many times as it chaffed in my underwear. In addition to physical discomfort, I did not like the way my labia looked. Quite frankly they looked ugly to me. I learned to be pretty comfortable with my physical features when it came to intimate relationships. Except for my boyfriend sometimes got lost finding my vaginal hole, or when the longer labia got in the way, they didn't really pose a problem. But I was uncomfortable with this part of my body for a long time. I felt different and insecure in this area. 

To make a long story short, I am so much happier now every time I look between my legs and see beautifully shaped, much smaller inner lips. It is a relief from a physical and emotional pain that I lived with every day. I would say surgery is not for everyone, but if you are truly uncomfortable and feel inferior due to large or misshaped inner vaginal lips. I would say don't limit yourself from a fairly simple procedure that can literally change your life. (I say it can change your life because sexuality is so tied up with identity in our culture/world). 

My one piece of advise is to do your research and find a doctor that has a lot of experience and a good reputation for good results.

From Kari Marino
In high school I was always insecure about my vagina. I have big labia minors and for a long time thought I was the only one in the world with them. Turning sexual activity I would try to hide them from my partners, even my boyfriend of a year and a half. 

I’m now nineteen and I’m becoming more aware and comfortable with my vagina. Guys love girls who are aware of who they are, and if the guy doesn’t like that about you then they are insecure about themselves. If you love yourself, vagina and all, then others will love everything about you too. Trust, big labias make for great oral sex. Keep your head up girls!

From philstranger
As a heterosexual male in my late 40's, I have had much experience with clits and labia. I think these are the most beautiful site on earth whatever the size. It is sexy not only for the intrinsic artistic value..but enhances the beauty of the female, both heart and soul. 

I love to look and admire the natural beauty of the female form and the flower that blooms with love. I, and most other men I know, love to love and caress this special place. I see no reason a woman would want to surgically alter this God given grace.

From OTE
I love em big. I can wrap them in my lips and caress them with my tongue. I love em small. Just barely enough to catch them between my upper lip and tongue.

Being a Bob, I see them all as beautiful and so so desirable. So ladies, keep them the way they are. Who would want all your labia to look the same? And along with the other postings from the men, will you please quit the size nonsense? If your partner has a problem with the size, you have a problem with your choice of partner.

For you ladies with large labia, you can eliminate irritation from hair with a short trim. Not a wax. Sheesh if I wanted a teenager, I would move overseas where it is legal. Also, keep the lube handy and use it. Besides the lube making it feel better, it will help eliminate irritation from fingers and really slow the man down. If the man has a problem with that, you have a problem with the man.

Big, small, love em all. Yes I am a Bob. So what is the next level after Bob and what do I need to learn to reach that level?

[For those of you not familiar with 'Bob' from Eve Ensler's Vagina Monologues: Bob appears in "Because He Liked To Look At It", a scant few pages that immortalizes Bob as the lover every women wants in her life.]

From Lell
I have had large labia all my life and all my partners, well all 3 of them, have always quoted how large I was which made me insecure and feel ugly. I doubt I can ever afford surgery like a lot of people do if they feel they have a problem. I am 45 years old and fed up of feeling different, but learning to live with it, this stops me from doing many things and feeling comfortable with a partner.

From Sweet Mary
Hi there everyone. What a site, I am amazed. Many thoughts I had before are now scratched out. No worries whatsoever. I always have had large labia minora as long as can remember. And it has not became smaller as times goes. 

Of course sisters, guys don't really now, at least many of them, how to handle large labia. That's my own experience. So guys, be sensitive and handle them carefully with your big fingers. Mine is sticking out really good and when I get excited my minora kind of stiffens up and moves upwards. They are quite sensitive. I can tell you readers, when I am in my bed under my cover I always caress them with pleasure. And as sensitive as they are they react very nicely to my touches. 

And I do have to say to be honest. I like to feel them stiffen and my imagination then always gets my fantasy working. I think I have a little penis and I get really horny touching myself. Therefore I will give a compliment to this girl "Fancy" writer in this forum which I found really know how to use what she and her friend have between their legs. Thank You!

From Alchemist
In my limited experience, I've seen only two lovely ladies up close and very personal. One had a small clit and small inner labia (minora) and the other had larger of both. They were both absolutely perfectly fine and lovely.

My girlfriend with the larger labia did have one get pulled in once during intercourse and it was VERY painful. It was pulled in by the hairs from inside the outer labia getting pulled into the vagina over the inner labia. We both decided to try shaving about 2 months ago. Neither of us intends to go back to hair. We really like it. No more labia getting pulled in. Everything is unbelievably slick. Oral sex is way better. And when her inner labia get all puffed up with blood and her sweet clit is way erect and sticking straight out I can do such amazing things with my tongue and lips. She just orgasms so long and hard as I'm sucking and tongueing her doing things I could never do with much smaller labia. It is an amazing experience. And then the gush of the honey sweet amrita. Big lips? All the better for kissing.

While my girlfriend was at first concerned about "what people would think" with her labia poking out, it quickly became a non issue when it appears that a large percentage of ladies do have inner labia large enough to show. And I think that's just great. Have fun with what you have. Don't even consider surgery and the possible numbness and other problems for some imagined ideal.

From Joe
A couple of comments first before we get to the 'nitty gritty' (which is exactly where?). It would be difficult to actually look at the vagina, since this is an entirely internal organ. The proper term for the external female genitals is the vulva. However, in deference to a female colleague who named her activity book "The Cunt Coloring Book", I will use the "C word". 

I have no idea how many women I have been with (I don't keep score) both fore and aft. Add this to the point that I am a long time nudist and collector of art and I have probably seen enough cunts and assholes to populate a small city. In that time I have seen exactly one cunt that I would consider ugly (think giant clam shell including the colour) and one truly ugly asshole (think frozen radish). In neither case was I deterred from fucking them. Once the female scent (avoid perfumes!) gets to the limbic (primitive) part of the male brain, the woman could look like Godzilla and it would make no difference to the activity to follow.

Note I have said nothing about relationships. Relationships depend on what is between the ears, not what is between the legs. If you are in a 'relationship' that depends highly on the appearance of your cunt, you are in for more trouble than any rational human being wants to face.

From Dave
What!? Cosmetic surgery to make a pussy more visibly attractive? Utter insanity. Do any of the ladies know any guys who'd have their dicks surgically straightened or lifted or whatever except maybe to repair a serious injury. These are functional body parts, not intended as works of art. If there's anyone, male or female, that insecure about their genitals, they need therapy not surgery.

From Mel
I'm glad I found a site where men actually claim to like larger lips or any shape of the vagina lips. But, not all men have the opinions expressed in this website. I looked on a "love and relationship" discussion board, and all the men seemed to agree large lips were a turn off. All they did was make fun of women, and nickname them 'meat curtains' and how they are always grossed out by any parts that hangout as it reminds them of "female balls" from behind. They also said most men have these opinions towards women's genitalia. They said friends will ask them, after having one night stands, whether or not the women had "meat curtains" and how nasty it is.

So for the longest time I was really down about it, assuming, what I have must be a huge turn off. Thank goodness for this site because I now feel better that not ALL men think like the ones on that board.

From Jessy
It is so good to finally see a site like this. When I was younger, I was very insecure about my inner lips. They are longer than my outer lips and a little uneven. They have a slight grayish color at the edges. I would look at these girls in magazines and see their tiny vaginas, with hardly any labia at all, and they were completely even-toned and pink, I thought there was something wrong with me. I finally got up enough courage to actually show my mom my vagina at age 16. She actually started laughing, because I had constantly told her of my insecurities about it, and she said she expected my inner lips to be dangling 6 inches down (and even that isn't abnormal). she told me that I was perfectly normal, and I was beyond relieved. My insecure came back when my best friend saw my vagina, and in disgust said, "ewww! your vagina looks so different from mine!" I wanted to punch her.

I've been with plenty of guys and no one had ever said one word about it, and that makes me feel better. But I have heard that some guys think that the bigger the girl's lips are, the more men she's been with, which is so completely wrong. I look the same as I did before I ever had sex. I've also seen sites dedicated to larger vaginas, which is wonderful, because we are all beautiful.

Thank you so much! I only wish there was information like this when I was 13!

From Succulent
Wow, I'm soooo glad I found this site. My exposure to most porn mags, and pics on the internet (which I look at to see what a man's ideal is) feature women with perfect little lips. As I compare myself, I feel flawed.

I was shaving today and it was so frustrating to keep those damn lips out of the way! My labia minora is small (I keep trying to stretch it to cover my full majora lips!) and the inner lips protrude. I found myself thinking, "yuck!", but I know this message of hatred toward my body is wrong! 

My vagina gives me SO much pleasure - I can have an orgasm from the stimulation any outer part of it from the clit, to over the opening, to the middle, to the sides - and they're all slightly different. 

Why does the media try to put women into little self-defeating boxes - let's free and enlarge our minds...love your pussy!

From the Editor:  You rock, Succulent! 

From Rich48
Ladies, particularly the younger ones. Please, believe that men love the way your genitals look! Take a mirror and have a good look at what you have. And then smile, because it is a beautiful thing. So you have big lips. Or small lips. Or maybe one is longer than the other. SO WHAT? From a purely cosmetic point of view, why would you risk a medical procedure to change it? Who will ever see it besides your GYN and your lover?

As an analogy, let's think of the penis. Some are short. Some are long. Some are fat. Some curve to the right or left. Do you get turned on looking at your lover's penis? Do you think he is worrying if you like the way he looks? I doubt it! If you are a young women, the guy you are with is probably quite inexperienced himself. Most likely his major point of reference when looking at your genitals is porn. Not the best reference guide. So if he says something stupid, don't take it to heart.

I can understand a young woman being insecure about her body. This insecurity is a strictly a factor of youth and inexperience. As you get older and have more lovers, you will become more secure in your self. Don't waste time worrying if one breast is big or smaller or you labias hang down too much. Every guy I have ever spoken too found it too be a turn on.

I have been married over 21 years and it is still the biggest turn on when my wife spreads her legs open and lets me see her vulva! She has average size lips, but when she was pregnant her lips were SO swollen, they were maybe double their normal size. What a turn on! Even now, when she is really turned on, they swell, and turn dark red. What an incredible sight! Why would you want mess with that?

I have read about some women with very long lips + 3 inches. They had complained that their lips were pulled into their vagina when having intercourse and they found it very painful. That might be a legitimate reason for having surgery. Otherwise, find something else to worry about!

From Anonymous
I have larger labia minora and they're a darker colour on the outside, and roughly about 2 years ago that bothered me so much. I never really looked at porn or anything, but whenever I did see a vagina it was always very small and pink. Even on the educational videos; which I think is what really upset me the most because I figured if it was on a video like that, then those ones must be normal, because every single vagina on there was the same. Small and pink.

When I was younger it never seemed to bother me at all because the only thing I thought about it was It's just a vagina. However, two of my friends were telling me this story of how they found this porn site on the internet and the women on there were "large" and "un-even" and they kept laughing about it. From then on I had a problem with the way I looked down there.

At the moment? Not so much, really. I'm 18 now and I think I've come to some-what accept it and I understand now that every woman is different down there and it's the variation that keeps things exciting.

At first I thought about surgery (although I knew deep down I would NEVER go through with it), but it's very expensive and risky. Not to mention my mother (who is a nurse) would never let me go through with a procedure like that, because it's so un-necessary.

Now when I think of my vagina I don't get so depressed over it anymore because I think of the good qualities it has (it's not like there are any bad ones). I think it's very pretty. I mean, it blends from a nice dark purplish colour to a gorgeous pink. Also, it's so much more interesting than those "plain vaginas". (not that there's anything wrong with those ones) You have so much more to look at and play with. Also, sex should be a lot better considering there is a lot of erogenous space.

I really wish that so many women weren't so concerned with this. There are many other, more important things to develop grey hairs over. If any man said that he didn't like the way your vagina looks, then he's obviously not worth anyone's time and is very ignorant.

I can see how someone saying that you have an ugly vagina would hurt, but it's totally ridiculous to think that, that person's opinion even matters when it's such a bad one.

From Billybob
It is amusing for a man to read this and see women obsessing about whether size matters. The fact is that there is considerable variation in vagina size among different women. And the big factor is childbirth. If you dazzle a man with your pert pussy and settle down with him, you will make a baby together who will stretch those lips way way back. That's what life has in store.

The man who cringes at meaty lips is only concerned about having more of what he is used to. He is comparing you to the women who impressed him most before. Why didn't he stay with them then? Because relationships connect over more than just the fleshy bits? Right. Then the man or woman who would give any partner grief over the size or shape of their genitals isn't worth staying for and is likely to leave when nature changes your shape anyway. Keep your bits - lose the man.

From Anonymous
I just love the big saggy lips, I think that is so sexy. I wish my wife had them is there a way to stretch them to get that look.

From James
I will keep this short and to the point, large labia / labia minora is beautiful in my humble opinion. It is sexy, and attractive, and frankly more to love, kiss, and touch. I think it is one's own choice to change their anatomy, but one shouldn't do it because one's partner. Sadly the majority of partners aren't forever, and your next may actually love and embrace what the good lord gave you. 

For me, I love it, maybe because I am an oral freak, maybe because it feels good during love making, or maybe because it looks hot ! If you're one of the lucky ladies with a larger labia, good for you, it's not a bad thing, its wonderful!

From Ghost Rider
Leah, [read Leah's entry below] after reading your post I sat for a full two to three minutes just staring at your posting on my monitor. I can't believe that anyone would be crude and cruel enough to tell a woman that. The problem is not your labia but the gray matter that is supposed to be between your boyfriend's ears. You should definitely not consider surgery on you labia. Unless you are really hung up on this guy and would even go so far as to eat crap for him, were I you I would start considering a different boyfriend. 

The way you described your labia as being meaty tells me that you have a prize that a lot of women would almost kill for. As I have answered other postings and have told ladies, your body is yours. It is the way God made it. Appreciate it and love it for the way it looks. A woman's body is the most beautiful creation that God created and put on this earth. Just because a man doesn't like something doesn't mean you have to go alter your body to please him.

From Mary
Oh my god! Leah [see entry below], I cringed when I read your story. You must have been crushed and hurt, and your self-confidence shot to hell. I can't say I don't think much of your boyfriend, sounds pretty much like a jerk to me, and a clueless one at that. 

Can you even imagine what would have happened if the tables were turned and you said, "well, honey, I love everything about you, but your dick is too small (too thin, too bent, whatever) and I feel uncomfortable giving you a blow job. But you can have it fixed via surgery..." The shit would hit the fan, and he'd be gone. 

It's pretty obvious to me that men like lips, period. Big ones, little ones, fat ones, skinny ones, they're all fine. The only requirement is enthusiastic friendly lips. 

From Leah
Like many of the women that have contributed to this topic, I didn't think twice about the size of my labia until this size issue was brought to my attention. during a moment of unfettered honesty, my boyfriend confided in me that he loved everything about me and would never change me... but that he thought that my labia were "meaty". I was shocked! I had no idea that labia came in different shapes and sizes - I had never given them a second thought! And I certainly didn't know that there might be a "wrong" size.

Long story short (hehe, no pun intended), I discussed the issue with my boyfriend at length, and he mentioned that there was a surgery to "fix" this. (Note all the quotations I'm using... I still don't think that there is anything wrong with me by any means). My boyfriend didn't pressure me to look into the surgery, but he did say that when he gave me oral sex that he felt uncomfortable. As you can imagine, this made me VERY uncomfortable. I have never been overly insecure with my naked body. In fact, I do soft core solo porn over the internet to pay for school. But hearing that my boyfriend was uncomfortable made me very self-conscious and I have looked into labiaplasty and have gone so far as to set and cancel three appointment dates.

To be honest, this story doesn't have an end. I'm conflicted and a bit confused. Reading this forum was helpful though, in that now I know that I'm not repulsive to the entire male population (my boyfriend also suggested that a dislike of "meaty lips" was pretty much universal among men). Thanks for having such a useful site!

From Dave
My missus has small lips and I've always got along with them fine (up until we split recently!) but it's always been my fantasy to have a girl with large labia. There's nothing wrong with the smaller variety but the larger ones would be one huge turn-on for me - whether even or not!

From Real Guy
I am constantly amazed at how many women want to change the appearance of their vagina somehow. Whether it is "grooming" (cutting or shaving) their pubic hair or this insane idea of having surgery to make their lips smaller. Who told them that small vagina lips are sexy to men? Society? Media? Their male friends or lovers? I ask you, what society or media? Not Time magazine or the 6 o'clock news. And I seriously doubt women go around asking men what they think.

The source of this perpetuated myth of small lips or minimal pubic hair being attractive is from one source - present day pornography. The point is this:  Why in the world would women want to use pornography as a source of information about how their bodies should look? Besides the fact that many women oppose pornography and feel it degrades women, do they really want to look like porno stars? How in the world is looking like a porno star making you feel better about yourself? And ultimately, once you acknowledge that altering the appearance of your vagina is to make your vagina look more like that of a porno stars, do you really believe this is what your man wants you to look like? Did you ask him? 

If women began this simple, honest, direct and ultimately healthy communication with their lovers I think they might learn a lot. Many men do not give two shits about the size of a women's lips. And, if it was something important to him, then the couple can talk about it. If it makes the women feel good to do that for him, so be it, that is fine. Who knows, maybe he finds larger labia attractive. In fact, many cultures do. Do an internet search for hairy pussies and you'll be inundated with websites. Obviously, the idea that all men prefer little hair on pussies is a complete myth.

Just be honest, with yourself, your partner and your body. You'll probably learn a lot. And, it's undoubtedly the best and most genuine prescription for feeling good about yourself.

From Carl
Large Labia are beautiful. Small labia also are. Big and small clits are both just wonderful and appetizing. I love them all. Small breasts and large ones are mutually beautiful. A tall woman can be stunning but so can a shorter one. Slim and small is provocative, a large and ample woman is just as delicious. Women simply are the most wonderful, beautiful and sexually advanced species/gender on the planet. 

Us men pale in sexual potential; but we don't mind being men cause most of us really do not know exactly what it is like to be as sexual, beautiful and orgasmic as certain women are. We have the consolation prize of having all this eye candy. Especially in the warmer months. Thanks for putting up with us ladies. Don't be offended if we gaze awestruck, kisses, hugs, licks and nuzzles...

From Anonymous
I never really thought about the lips. I have a lot of experience in oral sex, and as long as there is a enough lip surface to gently suck into my mouth, I don't need more than that.

My wife's is the only one I've ever actually entered, and it is tight and I can feel the lips surrounding my maleness, again that's all I need. When she rides me, the lips rub against me enough to enjoy, even if they aren't really big lips.

I don't need her to get cosmetic surgery for fuller vaginal lips. They suit me just fine. Just please honey, never shave yourself clean "down there"!

From LabiaLover
Hmm. Can't understand people who don't like big labia. In fact, now that this has been brought to my attention, I can't remember ever seeing a pussy I did not like the look of. But I think on balance I like larger lips rather than the really small ones. But much more important for me than size and shape is colour-- I like dark-skinned women and I love the way their labia go from dark almost purple or nearly black on the edges to that delicate coral pink inside.

From Meri
I think this whole situation has much more to do with personal insecurity than anatomical abnormality. I actually took a peek just for kicks and to be honest with you, I'm not really even sure what 'category' I fall into. I guess I never really paid attention. They're there, there mine, they fulfill every function they're supposed to and then some and I've never had any complaints. 

Responses to that first slide between them, and all other activity has resulted in quite a bit of appreciation and a damn good time, so I can't imagine ever wanting to change. I think the only valid reason for such a procedure is if they're seriously abnormal in some way or causing pain/infection, etc. 

Love what you've got, girls and if you have any doubts, read the guys' posts; I'm not hearing anything but strong enthusiasm from them. Thanks for the input (no pun intended) boys!

From Jenna
Anyway, this whole idea of "fixing" your pussies is dumb. I just hate how some men think that means you've been 'round the block if you have large labia, but then again, maybe it's a good thing that they speak up about it...so you know that's the time to leave them...'cause then you won't have lousy sex with a lousy man who is ignorant of female anatomy. He'll probably be saying later on "oh I know where the clit is" and goes for the opening...some men are complete dumbasses and honestly girls, it's not your job to educate them.

From Sergio
To all you women out there: You are beautiful and please, please remember that to us men (and I guess women) the shape and size of your vagina, labial lips and clit is immaterial. Long, short, fat, thin, meaty, or dangling ... your pussy and every fold and crease of her is simply exquisite and a constant pleasure to behold, love, lick, nibble, suck, squeeze and worship, repeatedly. OoooEee! More.

From Mel
I never even realized I had longer labia until I came across a discussion board with women complaining and I suddenly became self-conscious. Until then, I always assumed it was normal. They are symmetrical, smooth, pinkish in colour and protrude about an inch past the outer lips. I think it looks really cool to look in the mirror while standing and see two pink lips peeking out. However, when I'm lying on my back, I think it looks ugly. I feel they get in the way, because you have to fold them back (like butterfly wings) They look SO much bigger from this angle, that I wish I had smaller ones. But, I'm not exactly losing sleep over it.

From Savanna
I'm a 19 year old girl that has larger labia and I'm not going to lie and say that I've never been self conscious about them, but throughout the past couple years I've realized that it's not even something to waste worrying about. I'm a virgin but I've fooled around with probably 20 to 25 guys, and out of all of them only 2 ever made a comment about the size of them and all they said was that they were big, not that they were gross or ugly. However, there were 5 or 6 that told me that I had the hottest and most perfect vagina that they've ever seen and they begged me to let them go down on me. And then there were of course the ones that didn't even say anything. 

So I pretty much learned that most guys don't even care one way or the other and they are honestly just interested in hooking up and don't care what it looks like. And then there are the few that will say something, but most of their comments will be positive. I still get a little nervous when I begin to fool around with a guy, but I now know that no matter what happens it doesn't even matter because there will be the next guy that comes around that will love your entire body, including your lips, and just not to waste your time on those that don't.

From Anonymous
Wow, I am 22 I have always been self-conscious about my big lips and large clit. When I was a virgin they were the same and I felt ugly about it. I worked as a waitress at a strip club and became even more self-conscious because many girls looked clean with no skin hanging and the girls that did have big lips "got around". I always felt like guys labeled girls with big lips "hoes" I have wondered if it was from masturbating too much? I am glad I came across this site. I feel a little better but am nervous about when I get older and have kids, are they going to get bigger?

From Michael
Attention all women with large labia! Much mystery and allure surrounds the genitalia, both male and female alike. There is no right or wrong answer regarding labia size so stop worrying! What it really comes down to is the preference of your intimate partner(s). 

Personally, since I was old enough to know what labia were I was into "well endowed" women. I prefer to have something outside her body besides her breasts to stimulate, explore and play with. Some other men don't find large labia the least bit attractive. So listen, don't fret! Sooner or later you will find a partner who truly appreciates what you have. (And by the way, it's exotic and very uncommon so be glad!) When you do, let him/her worship them like they deserve to be worshiped! By all means!

From Anna
First, thanks to everyone, male and female, who has written in and shared their feelings about how much they love large labia. It's great to know that there are plenty of people out there who can appreciate this beautiful attribute on a women's body. Especially the men, as you have helped me to become more comfortable with my own large lips. 

But we can be careful about how we word things. Large labia are not abnormally large at all, just large. There is no 'normal' sized labia, just a spectrum from small up to large. The plastic surgeons who make a fortune off of labia reduction surgery want us to believe that larger labia are abnormal, when it's no more abnormal that having blue eyes instead of brown, or black hair instead of blond. I don't know the true percentages of women with large labia, but I suspect it's probably similar to the amount who have small labia--in other words, just a normal part of the spectrum.

To Hungry Eros [see entry below]---you said it perfectly!! Most guys who seem to truly love sex also seem to be the ones who love large labia! And it's true that the smaller ones are just viewed as more 'neat' for Playboy's photos, but when it comes down to it, nothing beats having all that sensitive flesh for both partners to enjoy!

From Hungry Eros
I want all women to know that most guys I know that really love sex, really enjoy erotica, enjoy being good lovers, also really enjoy large labia.

My lover now is the first woman I have been with that has abnormally large labia and I feel so lucky!! I doubt I could enjoy regular sized Labia as much now.

Maybe smaller ones look better in pictures or are easier to pose. But in real life, the larger ones for reasons of sensitivity and just feeling for both parties is definitely where it's at!

From Christina
I have to say I have been considering having labiaplasty for a long time and now that I finally have the money I'm definitely going to do it. I'm 20 years old and since I was very young I noticed that my large labia and clit looked different. I never paid much attention until I saw a programme about plastic surgery where a women was getting her labia reduced and since then it has been playing in mind. 

I would never think about having this type of surgery for any men or sex unless it was really painful. I feel hugely embarrassed about the way my vagina looks that I feel disgusted when I look at it and see all that excess skin, I strongly believe that surgery is my only option. I have the utmost respect for all the ladies who like and admire their large labias because I certainly feel disgusted by mine regardless what anyone says.

From Carol
Re: Too Unique [see entry below]: I've also had uneven labia for as long as I can remember. One side is small (can't say normal, because what's normal?), and the other is much longer. Although I was self-conscious about the way they looked, I didn't hate them. 

I had a few lovers before I married, and honestly, it seemed that each one was delighted with the longer one! That side got all the attention. I'm 55 now, and married for 31 years. My husband was astonished to learn I was a self-conscious about my uneven labia. He said it make things way more interesting then a perfect matched set. Got to love that man, and I still do. 

So, Too Unique, don't be ashamed of your uneven labia. People tend to pick up on what you're uncomfortable with, and in turn that makes them uncomfortable. Relax, and enjoy. And your partner will also. 

From Too Unique
For as long as I can remember, I've had uneven labia and I've always hated them. I've been reading the comments and already feel better. Most only talk about long labia, not uneven ones. What are guys opinions on them? Do you even care? Is it a turn off?

I feel I am too "ugly" down there to receive oral sex...yes, I have - but I don't feel like I enjoy it to the fullest considering I'm so ashamed of my uneven labia. One is normal while the other is twice its length. I've only had one partner and feel really comfortable with him- just not with my asymmetrical self.

I have been considering surgery on just that longer labia for awhile now and then I found this site. But I still am ashamed and want to know how guys REALLY feel about uneven labia. I don't want to risk damaged nerves, yet it's uncomfortable and rubs me the wrong way down there. I don't know what to do and want advice and other opinions than myself.

This site is great and more people should know about it.

From LJB
How tragic that any woman would even consider surgery on her labia. As a man, I can tell you that ALL labia are very very beautiful, whether large or small. The large ones just give us a little more to nibble on! 

Please, ladies, keep what you have and don't be at all ashamed or embarrassed by such unique and wonderful body parts....you are absolutely certain to make a man very happy with your labia, regardless of size, shape or symmetry. Your mindset needs to change, not your body....trust me on this one!

From Ghost Rider
The reason I like a large labia is because I find it attractive. No it's not just something to do or play with. It's part of the lady. It's natural. It's something that I can stimulate and help make the lady experience sexual feelings. It is the same thing on a lady as a guy having a foreskin. Put your mind at ease. A large labia is nothing to be ashamed of. Be proud of the way God made you. A woman's body is one of the most beautiful creations that God did. 

When you are young or when someone, through ignorance, made a malicious, cutting remark about your appearance, I realize it can throw you into a tailspin. Please ignore their remarks and remember you are the way God made you Young, beautiful, and full of life.

I don't know how your Moms are but a Mom should be someone a young lady can go to and talk over any problem that arises. A Mom should be open minded and listen to the daughter, giving her the best advice she can. If it is a problem that she can't advise on, she should make an appointment with a doctor, or someone qualified to advise her and her daughter on the subject.

A woman or girl should never resort to labia reduction surgery just because they have a large labia. For this, there should be a medical reason to resort to this. There are so many nerves in this area. It would damage nerves and cause partial loss of feeling in this area.

From ScaredTeen
I just wanna say thank you to the other women and teens that have written a message for others to read. Yes I do admit I have large lips myself and to tell you the truth I feel uncomfortable even just looking at them. But until I have read some of these helpful messages it's kinda turning my vision upside down. To tell you the truth I wonder why the guys like large lips? Is it because while makeing love there's something fun to play with or etc? 

But I have noticed while going to the process of growing up. Maybe an older female with large lips could help me understand a little bit better though. I have noticed my lips get real sore and I mean not just from sitting or riding a bike but just your casual soreness I guess. 

But Anyway this site rocks and I glad I read some of the others entries. Everyone God Bless and take care.

From Anonymous
I hate them and im so sad. they make me feel so ugly and I can totally relate to all of you. seeing this is really great but I am way too self conscious to feel pretty with them. I am only 16 and I just learned about all of this today and can't talk to anyone about it. my friends wont understand and I want to talk to my mother about it but I don't know. I wish I knew what to do

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From Chanel
Thank you to all the men who have posted their opinions. I am a 19 year old virgin with large lips and I thought I was abnormal until I went to this site. I have a boyfriend and I always prayed when the time was right that he would like my vagina. But after reading every single comment on this board I realized that it is a turn on for some guys. Thank you for boosting my confidence.

To all the other young girls who feel like I used to feel, if he doesn't appreciate your large labia then you should leave him alone.

From Ghost Rider
Ladies, I find large labias to be an asset to a lady. I love to find a large labia. I immediately think "Yummy". There is nothing like sucking a woman's labia into your mouth and stroke your tongue over it. I dislike finding one that is so small that I really don't have enough to properly draw into my mouth. 

You ladies have my apology that there are jackasses out there that are suffering from stupidity or ignorance and hurt your feelings or make some of you feel insecure about yourselves. It would be the same difference with guys. How would they like it if you ladies ran across an uncircumcised cock and threw a fit or was insulting about it. I wasn't circumcised as a baby, I'm not now, and I never will be circumcised. I like the way I am and intend to stay that way. Anyone that don't like it, I say "Screw Them." No pun intended. 

Unless there is a medical reason for having labia reduction surgery done, if I were you ladies I wouldn't even entertain the idea of having it done. There is enough of us guys out there that appreciate you that you don't have to worry about the situation. Anyone that doesn't like your larger labia, tell them to do with out. 

Also, as well as sucking on and licking the labia, I find that a percentage of ladies like to be licked the full length of their clit hood. Really ladies, I must confess that I haven't found any part of a ladies vagina that I don't like.

From Anonymous
I am one of the estimated 5-20% of women with large labia minora. I remember first thinking about this around the 9th grade, freaking out that something was wrong or that they were "icky". I've only had 3 lovers (the last of which is my husband of 15 years), and quickly got over my fear after they didn't react horribly to them. After reading the posts on this site, I have to say that my opinion of them has changed, and I actually feel like they are special and unique. I would NEVER have surgery to "correct" this so called problem that really is a blessing.

I wanted to ask the men here, what was your reaction when you first encountered a woman with large labia? Were you surprised, as it's not that common? If men grow up looking at porn stars and Playboy, they may not have much of an idea that large labia really do exist.

From Sarah
I can't believe so many women are so insecure. It is anathema to me to consider surgery on such a sensitive part of the body that can bring so much pleasure - there is so much potential for nerve damage with surgery! Eeek!

But, if your large labia cause you pain, perhaps that is a good reason to have surgery.

I do not have large labia—though I guess I never really thought about it before - but sometimes it is painful to ride a bike as I am asymmetrical and one lip tends to rub. I can understand how the condition might be very painful for some women.

But I do caution you—a man does not love you for what your cunt looks like. He loves you for what it feels like and what you do when you are using it. This is like worrying whether your breasts are a 36B or 36C... you might care and he might notice, but ultimately it is the overall package and your personality that will catch a man's attention, not a specific physical feature.

From Guilty Gal
My story is this when I was about 13 years old, my cousin accidentally left her small, batterized back-massager at my house before flying home, far far away. At first I just used it on my back, but in some adventurous moment, I discovered the orgasm. I became obsessed with this incredible feeling and would use the vibrater multiple times a day until my pussy was numb. This went on for a couple years! Thinking back, I cringe. Since then, my labia has grown enormous. My theory is that my daily orgasms were shooting hormones into my genitalia that made them long and wrinkly much before their time.

I expressed my concern to my mother who took me to a doctor. The doctor told me it was all healthy and normal, though I couldn't help notice her double-take when I spread my legs.

In terms of my experiences with men, the first man I allowed near my lower region was a guy from high school who I didn't know before that night, and wasn't going to know afterward since we had just graduated a couple months before. The guy did not seem appalled by my long labia, but he did not play with them, lick them, or even get near my clit. He just sort of sucked on the vaginal opening until I got incredibly bored. I was relieved that I wasn't a monster, but knew I wasn't exactly normal either.

Then I went to college and met my first boyfriend. He was sexually inexperienced, and I felt comfortable that he didn't have much else to compare my genitalia with. We dated for a long time and had a fairly mutual break-up. On one of our last nights together, we got drunk and he went down on me, then told me that I had a great pussy and to only be with someone who would appreciate it. At first I was thrilled to hear him compliment it, because I had never asked him what he thought about it. Later I wondered whether he only loved my pussy because he loved me, and I started wondering who were these men who wouldn't appreciate it.

I go back and forth, between not thinking much about my labia, and being incredibly hateful toward them. I'm glad to know some men like large labia, though I don't have a good sense of what percentage of men that is, since perhaps only men who like large labia would be searching the web for websites related to it, such as this. Maybe you guys should wear a sign so I can find you...

From Doug
I was watching a show with my wife one night on the women's network, and they were discussing this process of "mutilating" the glorious gift some women were blessed with. Yes I LOVE large labia and I am not afraid to admit it. The program was talking about how surgery could alleviate the self consciousness some women feel about having large minora. 

I think that they need to discuss these matters with a professional. A therapist not a plastic surgeon who is out to make money by what my wife and I perceive as deforming what these women were given. I am not alone in this way of thinking. 

Try visiting www.sexylabia.com 

[Wow! We love this site. Many thanks, Doug.]

From Denver
With regards to what Denise has mentioned [see Denise' entry below]. I would like to say that most men don't really care what your vagina looks like. If they're in love with you why would they care? Maybe for some people the large labia are rather uncomfortable and they may consider surgery, just make sure you get a good surgeon. Sometimes scarring occurs and you are left with scar tissue instead of labia.

As for being ugly, my partner says ALL vaginas are ugly. And penises are ugly. He says, they don't care what they look like. If your partner is happy with them than why should you care (except for the pain etc they cause some). 

My partner gives me oral sex but just folds back the labia to get to the clitoris. It's not a big deal. I am told 25% of women have large labia.

It's not as if men have perfect penises or that their balls are the same size!

From Denise
I have read nearly all the comments about large labia (majority good) and how they are beautiful but fact of the matter is that they really aren't. I know there are a lot of comments from men saying that they love large labia but not to be rude the majority are well into their fifties they are just glad they can still see a pussy let alone notice a few flaps of skin hanging around. 

It's fair enough to say that some men do appreciate large labia which is a personal preference but I personally don't give a shit about what men think. I have asymmetrical labia and I'm thinking about having labiaplasty not because a man doesn't like the look of my labia but because I'd rather look down there and see something pretty not over hanging flaps of creased skin. 

A lot of women are saying its sexually gratifying to have large labia but I just think it's uncomfortable and can often get extremely painful. So why use lubricants if you can just get rid of the extra skin, so why not have it trimmed if that's what you really want. I think that if someone is thinking about having labiaplasty they do it for their own reasons and not to please anybody but themselves. If other types of surgery are accepted why should this one be any different?

From Todd
Wow, as many of the men have commented, I have never considered this to be of any issue whatsoever. I absolutely love to go down on a woman for as long as she can take it, and it has every thing to do with the feel of her inner skin on my tongue and how she physically responds to it. It's the way she moves and twists bucks, with the sounds and aromas thrown in (both very powerful sexual motivators), but never in my 33 years of sweet single life has this ever been a deciding factor (or any factor) in my opinion of a woman.

Now that I've read many of these comments... my last girlfriend and I were together for a few years, but I remember when we began seeing each other she was very shy about letting me perform oral sex on her - which was torture and a mystery to me, because I know women like it and judging by their reactions they experience something I don't believe we men will ever understand. Several months after we began dating I remember she had asked me whether or not it bothered me that she had a small clitorus... never did I put two and two together until today, nor ever did it bother me. I had noticed it was smaller than other women I had been with, but I didn't care.

Would I have supported her had she ever brought up the idea of having cosmetic surgery to enlarge any part of her there (or anywhere on her body, for that matter)? Absolutely not, in fact I would have done anything in my power to deter her from such a silly idea, including begging, crying, pleading, chaining her to the bed, or promising endless slavery to her to cease her madness! 

My concern would be that the surgery could kill some of her sexual receptiveness through potential nerve damage, scar tissue buildup, or whatever implants were placed there. In the end, having the surgery done to make herself 'more desirable to men', or whatever, would actually ruin the real reason I liked getting my face in there in the first place, the bucking and twisting that she may not feel as strongly now that she's 'all better'.

Finally, there are deeper issues. No sooner does this part of her body get 'fixed' than she finds something else less than perfect. This is the issue here, lack of self-worth.

Don't do it, ladies. Just please don't do it.

From Anonymous
To Jessica [see entry below]:  I think it's great that you were close enough to both your parents to be able to express your concerns to them, but it's sad that your mom's reaction had you thinking something was wrong with you. But that's not surprising since so few women really have an accurate idea of what real women really look like. 

I never thought there was anything different about my larger labia until some jackass high school boyfriend said something. I guess every other girl he'd been with had small labia, I don't know. But that put an insecurity in my mind about what's "normal", and so I did a little research. I ended up buying two books, "Femalia", by Joani Blank [Available at Amazon.com / Amazon UK / Amazon CA], and "Petals", by Nick Karras [Available at Amazon.com]. Both of these books are awesome! They show full-on, close-up photos of dozens of women, and the infinite variety and beauty of women's pussies. I plan to hold on to these books in case I ever have a daughter, to give to her at the right time, so she grows up knowing she is normal and beautiful, whatever she has.

Of course finding this site and realizing I'm LUCKY to have something so many men covet, has helped a lot! And could someone tell me how people got the idea that large labias are only on old women?! I know that they can get larger as people age, but with half the female population having large labia at PUBERTY, how the hell did people get this idea? From the magazines that show the young babes with their lips airbrushed out?

From Jessica
I was 12 years old when I first began to notice my vagina. I was taking a shower and touching and looking at myself. I was actually frightened when I felt the long labia. I thought that I had a penis or maybe just a piece of one. I knew that baby girls did not have those, so I was very confused. I asked my mom to look because I seriously thought that something was wrong with me. She was not much help. She freaked out and made me a doctor appointment. The doctor said that it was perfectly normal. I thought that he was a quack. I was sure there was something wrong with me. 

I have always felt very uncomfortable about my lips. I have had quite a few sexual partners, but have only let two of them actually look at my vagina. I especially do not have them touched. It makes me feel very uncomfortable. I just feel like it is ugly. I think it looks like an old women's vagina fell between my legs. I have seen at least five doctors since I was 12 and they all give me the same diagnosis "NORMAL". 

I even tried to talk my dad into paying for an operation. He was very confused that I would want to do such a thing. He went on to tell me that he had been with a lot of women in his time and that they were all different. He said that most of them had larger labia and that my mom's was just very small. I guess that she must look like a baby down there and that is why she was confused when she seen mine. I actually think that she is part of the reason I am so self conscious about my extra long labia. 

I am 20 years old now and I still do not like to have them touched. Even though no guys have ever said anything about them being ugly, no guys have ever said anything about them be beautiful either. I was actually looking for sites on reconstructive surgery when I found this site. It is really nice to know that I am not alone. At least now I know I am not a freak. 

I didn't know that there were so many guys out there who desire large labia. I also did not know that there were so many girls out there that feel the same way I do. Maybe I will start feeling more comfortable with myself and quit looking for reconstructive sites. Thank you everybody for being so open with yourselves.

From Tulips
Since we were just kids, me and my girlfriend have had an inside joke that only us two know the meaning of. We like to call each other tulips. In reference to our vagina's. We mean two Lips too long. We have both always felt a bit uncomfortable about our labia being larger than "normal". It is really funny that we would choose tulips. At the time we had never even heard of a vagina referred to as a flower. Now I can see that it was fate that chose the name. We should look at our tulips the ways you guys do, a beautiful flower waiting to bloom.

From Karen 
Well I feel much better about my asymmetrical long lips! I think it was that I never ever saw any like mine in porn that set me to worrying. I wonder if lip size has to do with testosterone during certain developmental stages - just like for men and their testicles. I read that a fetus' genitalia start neutral sex and develop male or female at some point. Is it extra testosterone that made mine so big? I wonder because I am a pretty tall muscular competitive woman (heterosexual) and I always thought my labia size was connected to this and I was embarrassed. I thought big lips might seem like testicles and would be a turn off to men. SO glad to be wrong!! 

From Dennis
Being a male now of 65, very healthy and horny, married with a woman that "gushes" and has above normal lips size, I would like them larger. We have been nudists since 1967 so I have seen plenty, shaved and not every age. No matter how boobs sag, tummies bulge, and hips widen, pussies do not change much. I find really large lips VERY exciting to see, and enjoy. I love seeing inner labia protruding, it is very erotic and sensual. When you have sex you can look down and see them gripping you. Love it. Please ladies do NOT make them "go into hiding", if anything stretch them.

From Michael
I feel I must comment on this subject. I am a 48 year old man who absolutely adores a well-endowed woman. I have had many lovers both with and without large pussy lips and my overwhelming preference is for large lips. I love pussy period, but somehow the large suckable lips and big clits make it much more erotic for me. I have quite literally become a "pussy slave" on more than one occasion. Please ladies do not destroy or alter the unique beauty that nature has bestowed upon you. Your beautiful lips are an object of worship with me and many of my friends.

From Cat
I am a 21 year old female who has had labia corrective surgery. I had the surgery years ago and since then my lips have came back. I am married happily and won't trade my long labia for anything in the world. Sometime I secretly wonder if my husband is really tuned on by the fact that I do have long lips. I feel if he really did like them he would show it more then he does when he performs orally on me. 

I wish he would voice his opinion like you guys do. Why are guys so scared to voice it openly that it turns them on. I know it is not true of all men because of your replies. But usually when guys talk about it they are talking like it is unattractive. Any comments would be appreciated.

From Anonymous
I am a 18 year old virgin and I had big labia minora since I was 13. I am in love with a wonderful guy that loves me and makes me feel very good about myself.

One night we were playing and we started taking our clothes off. He knows that I don't want to have sex before marriage, and he respects it. He asked me if he can only lick my pussy. I was OK with that, when he got down he said how come you have big labia minora if you are a virgin?

I was so ashamed and I didn't know what to answer. He didn't say anything and he started licking it like crazy. He was playing with them and he said I never been so turned on in my life. The only thing that bothers me is that he thinks that I am not a virgin because I have a big labia minora. I don't know what to say to him. Please help!

We suggest you encourage your boyfriend to read the entries on this page. He'll realize that many women have large labia minora since early childhood and it has nothing at all to do with sexual activity.  

From William
Ladies, Please! You should not feel "different" about having large labia! Coming from a man who is so turned on by a well endowed woman. Do not tuck your lips in, do not be ashamed of you lips! I for a fact am not turned on by the labia of a little girl, I truly love hanging lips...the bigger the better...trust me on this one!

From Natural is beautiful
Attention All Ladies! Keep your labia minora's! Your vagina's are beautiful! I'm 33 and have been married for 9 years. I consider myself to be an "expert" on what women hate about themselves, as my gorgeous, petite wife is always complaining about something on her body! Does this sound familiar? 

Ladies, men love you because everything about you is uniquely feminine - including your larger labia minora's (for those of you who are blessed with large inner lips). Women need to realize that the very thing about them that they regard as being ugly, is actually very beautiful! It's those large "ugly, wrinkly" lips that actually look like a beautiful flower waiting to open. That is very feminine! I believe that imperfection is beautiful. That is what makes us all individually unique! No two flowers are exactly the same, but all flowers are beautiful. To have a beautiful vagina cosmetically altered is sad. It's like peeling the petals off a beautiful rose. 

It's the same with breasts. Most men in my circles prefer small and medium sized breasts. So why have them enlarged? To be honest, all women are beautiful!!! Whether you have large labia, small breasts or a big butt, you're still A WOMAN! So just be yourself and be NATURAL - that's more attractive to a man! If I wanted a perfect woman I would just go to Toys-R-Us and buy a Barbie Doll!

From Duane
My first wife had beautiful, labia minoria, which I loved to tug and stimulate. Just the idea of pulling these out to play with was very sexy, and quite a turn on. This, in spite of the fact that I had always thought the smooth, tucked in pussy with only the labia majoria showing was the 'right' one, and the super turn on. 

I have always loved the 'crack' that women and girls have in their front yards, but when I discovered this distendable pussy, I found a new and delightful variance on the theme, and loved it. Pussy is such a turn on to me, that I find that I love 'em all! So girls, please do not worry about your lovely snatches, appreciate them!

From Anonymous
What kind of mistake is mankind that we a need an electronic forum that is available world wide to comfort people about the attractiveness of their pussy or penis? All of the attributes that make a woman different from a man are desirable to men. Big meaty lips included. Personal preference is one thing, but if a man is disturbed by any of your feminine features, he has seen too few women, is covering for his own insecurities, or is an unredeemable prick.

I think men and women are consumed by their insecurities. Women change their hair color because a man likes blondes rather than red heads. And now, they are cutting off their privates to accommodate some man they dumped a long time ago. Ladies, men are so terrified about their own insecurities (penis size, stamina, physique, bedroom skills, bank account, car, baldness, hairiness) that they don't have a second to spare worrying about your bottom half except to thank God that they get to see it.

Just a man

From JohhnyD
I really had no idea that so many women with large labia felt so embarrassed or ashamed of them. I can only say that I have experienced a range of labia and find the long ones to most erotic and most women who possess them respond well to labia stimulation.

I think everybody has some unique quality that they might not acknowledge about themselves. One on my girlfriends was only 20 and had a vagina so large I could put my whole hand in and rotate (which she liked I may add) but when I first met her she hated it and was constantly saying it was odd.

Please ladies do not wish for any different than what you have. We all have something we may not like but someone will find it attractive. (Example is that my penis curves to the right when erect but I found someone who loves it that way!) Cheers to all.

From Dennis 
I would like to start by saying, I LOOOOOOVE LARGE LIPS! Ever since I can remember I've been drawn to large labia. Whether in a magazine or a pleasant surprise dating. I have perused those labia reconstruction sights and I am appalled. To take a beautiful thing and make it plain and without character is a shame.

My wife has in my experience what I would classify as 85th percentile lips. Beautiful and attractive. She is very understanding of my desires and is gracious enough to stretch on a regular basis (the labia minora) and will even wear the weights I bought her while doing dishes. (nipple weights with the tension screws so as not to be too tight) The longer the better I say, more to suck on. DO NOT BE ASHAMED , embrace the flower God has given you.

From Unicorn
I am 22 and I have large hanging lips and ever since I was very young I have played with them and loved them. I know that there are guys who don't like them, I have been with some, but what these men all seem to have in common is that when I have told them how sensitive my lips are and how good it feels to stretch them, they all start thinking of them in a whole different way. They start to explore them and when they notice how turned on I get when they play with my lips, they also get so horny of just watching me enjoy. You see, one thing that turns every man on, is to be with a woman who enjoys sex and shows it!

But those men are about 7% of all. Then there are about 34% that truthfully have no interest in how your genitals look like, they just think its sexy if you are shaved (and some even like hairy ones) most of the men really love large hanging labia AND THAT IS A FACT!

I have always been a woman who everybody considers smart and reliable and fun to be around. I'm also very open about sex, which is why I get very well along with men since they can talk to me about everything as friends. The thing is, that of all the guys who I've spoken with and who have asked my advice or opinion, 27 of them have told me that they are very annoyed about that some of their friends when watching porn together or etc. don't like large labia. They say that they feel a bit embarrassed and abnormal because they love meaty lips. And that's why they do not beg to differ. AND NOW COMES THE AMUSING PART! The funny thing is that these men who have claimed luscious labia to be unattractive, they are ALL at the same time the ones who have complained about their friends of saying that! They are also big labia lovers but they think it's not an approved fetish and that's why they play the role in front of their friends! I must say, how the f*** did we come to this!?

So girls, instead of being ashamed of your beavers, talk your boyfriends and if you don't want to do that, tell him while foreplay to suck on your pussy (instead of just licking.) And if he only sucks on your clit, tell him to eat your whole pussy and then tell him how much you like it, and you will see that he gets very turned on by it because you're - in his mind- "talking dirty." This way he gets use to your labia and will do it again, and you will notice that he actually likes them lips. Because men will do anything to make a woman moan, partly because it's sexy, but partly cause they feel very competent, like they're very good at pleasing a woman!

Fortunately, if you have long labia, you don't need to tell men what to do, most men love them and before you know it, they're down there playing with them! Of course some guidance is ok since every woman is unique and likes different things and oral sex is usually at its best when you've known each other a while and he knows exactly what YOU like.

From Kiri
What a great site. I too have been trawling the web looking for pics and info to assure myself that there are other women out there like me. I am 25 and only one of my labia minora is long (the right) and quite thin and hangs out about an inch.

It never used to bother me and my last boyfriend used to tell me he loved my pussy but I have been single for about 10 months now and have suddenly become quite self conscious about it. It's more that I'm asymmetrical that bothers me and after reading all the feedback from the guys I now kind of wish the other side was long to match.

Anyway, I know it's just a phase I'm going through, I think I just need to go out and get some good sex to boost my ego again. Surgery has crossed my mind but what if they get it wrong! I think I will just deal with it!

From Kalipriestess
When I first heard about these surgeries awhile back, I was appalled. I have large labia, minora and majora. My labia minora hang outside the labia majora and one is longer than the other. This is TOTALLY normal, I've heard or read the longer labia minora called the pudendum. (Though it is also used interchangeably with the term "vulva.") And the tissue is wrinkly. That's just what a pussy looks like! Believe me, I know! I'm an Registered Nurse who worked in women's health for over a decade and I've seen more of them than probably anyone else here! (Especially when I worked in Labor & Delivery!)

I also have a large clit, which I didn't realize until the first time I had sex with another woman and found hers to be minuscule compared to mine! I'm happy I have more surface area for pleasure and that it's easy to find - lucky me! (And I've never heard one complaint or negative comment from anyone! In fact, my husband loves my labia minora in particular!)

I highly highly highly recommend the book "Femalia" by Joani Blank [Available at Amazon.com /Amazon UK /Amazon CA]. The book is simply pictures of women's vulvas. You see the whole range of women. I think it's a beautiful book, and hopefully it would reassure anyone that they're completely normal.

For those who ask why does this happen, sometimes it may be a sign of Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS), which I have, something that is more common that people realize. Basically it means that I often produce dysfunctional cysts on my ovaries rather than cysts for the eggs to pop out of. This causes hormonal problems.
For more about PCOS
www.pcosupport.org/ 
This is a site that some might find interesting
www.vaginafriends.com/

I hope this helps someone!

One last thing, I have heard horror stories about vaginal reconstruction causing scarring and pain, as well as the possibility of then being unable to have intercourse. And just remember, even plastic surgery is still major surgery and every time you go under general anesthesia, you risk serious infections, hemorrhage, and even death. Well, that's a happy thought to end on.

From Shannon
I have had large labia since I was 12. When I went through puberty I wondered what the hell is going on down there? I didn't know anything about sex. But I did hear my dad talk about my moms large lips once and how they turned him on, it wasn't until years later I realized what that actually meant! So I never really thought about it much. I only watched a few pornos so I figured that they were just small.

Anyway I've had no problem with getting boyfriends and was not shy at all. No one has ever said anything about my crotch. I would never think to get them clipped. My God. Maybe if they were like seven inches long I don't know. I wondered if anyone else has been well endowed since puberty or was it just me?

From M
WOW! I feel I have finally found an answer...I always thought I was simply afflicted with "ugly pussy." The girls in the magazines seem to have no genitalia whatsoever. I did not allow myself sex until I was 27 and thought "what the hell - it is my birthday." I thought if I didn't date the guy again, who cares. But he did call again. That was the first clue all of the concern was primarily in my head.

I am now happily married. I still often wish my pussy were "prettier." I don't let my husband go down on me (well...once after a drunken evening....)It is sad. But it's a rejoice to know I am not alone. I always thought I was a freak. Now I know I am not

From Lil Cub
I was on the internet looking at plastic surgeons to get a labiaplasty when I came upon this site. I started to cry because there were so many women that have the same issues and problems that I have felt all my life.

I have had a large labia and clit forever and I can remember feeling ashamed of my labia and not wanting to un dress in front of other girls in the locker room or even in front of friends. This also made me feel worse when my first boyfriend asked me "why is she so big?" This made my insecurity even worse.

After years of being with different partners I have been scared to open up and have sex. In my last relationship my ex-girlfriend told me I was probably supposed to be a boy cuz my clit was so big. That was the last straw for me, so now in my current relationship I am so insecure about my big fat labia and clit I want surgery to clip them off. My girlfriend tells me that she loves my labia and clit just the way they are but I don't seem to believe it.

But now that I have read the other women's stories I feel a lot better and more reassured that I am not a freak. I don't think that I want to do through the procedure anymore.

From Loose Lips
Here's a bit of advice for women with large labia who feel discomfort in tight jeans or during sex:

For jeans and biking, simply tuck your inner lips into your outer lips, just sort of carefully stuff them in. Works like a charm. For sex, make sure you're lubed and really ready for intercourse. If you're in the habit of starting with intercourse before you're sufficiently lubed and aroused, yes, it will be painful.

Also, I purposely try to get my lips pulled into my vagina by my boyfriend's penis -- it stimulates my clitoris and the lips themselves are erogenous.

I think women who want to alter their lips or think their pussies are ugly are women who've been convinced by the mainstream culture that women are less than men, that their sexual pleasure isn't important, that it isn't okay to love sex or seek their own pleasure, that they exist for the purpose of pleasing a man. They're hung up on how a man will see their genitals, whether he'll find them attractive. A man who thinks there's such a thing as an "ugly pussy" is a man who doesn't love women. To find out what a man thinks, look at porno mag with him. If he makes critical comments about appearance, ditch him. He's an asshole. You deserve a man who loves you as you are.

A real man doesn't like a woman who tries too hard to please. He likes a real woman, who goes after what she wants, who has her own opinions.

From Lance white
I'm a 50 year male and have always preferred ladies with large labia. I knew that most females who were gifted in this way considered it not a gift but a curse. I was absolutely astounded when a male friend of mine's sister had surgery to trim her's. I would like to help preserve a human treasure. Since this incident I have made it a mission of mine to inform all ladies I know gifted in this way and any others male and female who care to listen just what a normal, sensitive and caring adult male thinks about their wonderful gift.

From Diane
Are you ladies kidding me! ... men love them big juicy lips.. I have never had a complaint... yes they get in the way get a wedge with your panties at times ... or stick or pull ... But for myself they get so wet ! and they do bloom. For me they seem even extra sensitive ..I realized there had to be someone out here with large lips too but.. I treat mine as a prize to my lover... SO far that's what they have become and if you want to talk about pussy whipping a man these lips can do it every time.. The more the merrier I say ! I love them and yes I am and will be always proud of my big sexy pussy.. I fantasize about my man all the time playing and loving them... So forget chopping them of enjoy them and realize men love them and you can too.. I will take my 3 inch long lips any day over some cookie cutter playboy pussy..

From Anna
Just like "Anonymous" below, I never thought there was anything different about my labia until a high school/college boyfriend said something. A few years after we first had sex (my first time), one day he casually told me his first thought that night was "man, this chicks' lips are huge!" I was stunned, embarrassed and pissed off! Stunned because he had never said anything about my pussy before, good or bad, and I had always thought I was perfectly 'normal'; embarrassed because I suddenly felt like a freak; and pissed off that he didn't follow that with any kind of positive comment, that he didn't seem concerned he might be embarrassing me or whatever. I was 19 and still somewhat insecure about my body, so this really stung. We broke up for good soon after.

I did have some positive experiences a year or so before that, with another boyfriend. We were head over heals in love and couldn't keep our hands off each other. He never said anything about my lips either, but one day we were having sex, and we were both positioned perfectly so that we could both watch. The sight of my swollen lips around his cock as he fucked me...I thought it was the most beautiful sight in the world! He also would rub his cock up and down between my lips and I loved that! Back then, my large lips made me feel more 'womanly', like I had more to 'grip' and caress him with.

Somehow though, that last boyfriends' harsh words stayed with me, and it changed my attitude. I just stopped dating after that. I was so afraid what the next guy might think, I didn't want to risk it. I'm 31 now, and I haven't dated or slept with anyone since him, since I was 19. (Looong damn time to be single!) I can't shake the feeling that I'm a freak down there, that I'm "huge", and some guy might be turned off or grossed out. The recent movement to "pretty up" one's pussy by getting surgery hasn't helped. So that's how I found this website, trying to find out if men really do like large lips on a women and to try to feel better about what I have. So to all the guys who've posted saying it's a turn-on, and all the women say they are proud to have them, thank you! I'm starting to fell better, and have hope again that maybe one day I'll find the right guy, one that loves me and my lips!

From Anonymous
I'm 20 and I never felt that anything was abnormal until my first boyfriend in high school told me my pussy was ugly. Ever since I have been ashamed. However, I think that most men wouldn't care because they would be happy just getting some at all.

From Frenchkiss
Just to introduce where I'm coming from, I'm a 36 year old straight male. I saw the same program on TV regarding cosmetic labiaplasty. (sp?) At first I was absolutely shocked that the process even existed, secondly I was mortified that there were so many women out there that thought that having large labia was actually a bad thing. I find that to be terribly saddening. Somewhere in the private hidden culture of our North American erotica have we created some crazy subliminal myth that all women are genitally shaped like Barbie dolls?

The program I watched was on Canada's Life Network. They actually had the guts to show full close up shots of the before and after pictures of 4 or 5 different women that had the procedure done. (As opposed to most American networks that blur out the nipple during a medical documentary on breast cancer or something like that) I watched it with my girlfriend (who, btw, is blessed with beautiful, large labia and clitoris/hood) and I remember thinking how attractive all the vulva's looked in the before pics and how great it was that there is so much variation in femal