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From Ms Yin
I don't remember how old I was when I started mastrubating but it was such a great feeling as water from the bath hose pulsated on my clit. I would take long baths and have multiple orgasms. It wasn't until many years later that I learned the feeling was an orgasm. I still use water to make me come as well as other methods. I love to mastrubate and make it last a long time.

From Anon
I am a boy of 18. One summer day last year, as it was so hot and humid, I wore my shorts. I set off out on my bike. As I was cycling, I remembered that I had no underpants on, so my willy was freely rubbing against the fabric of my shorts. As I felt a real buzz, I started cycling faster, my willy was rock hard. It was glorious going over bumps, as it heightened the sensation. Before I knew what I was doing, I was standing up whilst riding and bashing my bottom up and down on the saddle. I had the most amazing orgasm.

From Steve
I am turned on by bondage and speedos. The most bizarre thing I ever did with someone was allow him to tie me spread eagled on some rr tracks. I was wearing only a red speedo, was gagged and totally helpless. The tracks were used often by Amtrack trains. he sucked me and then untied me flipped me over and tied me back up face down. he then slit a hole in the crack of my speedo and fucked me.

During this time we could hear the sound of an approaching train and it got both of us off. he untied me in plenty of time and we both sat alongside the track as the eastbound train finally passed by 12 minutes later. I would love to have a repeat of this.

From Anonymous
Love the website, at last thought provoking subjects and the ability to comment. Masturbation, yep doin' it to ourselves, long may we continue, in my early fifties and at the moment partner and relationship-less, it fulfills a basic need. In fact any guy who says he doesn't is either brain dead or a liar. And let's face it, whatever you wank to is doing it for you or why would you be, you get the point.

A plus side for me is being able to ''hold off'' when having sex with a partner, either to be a gentleman and wait for the lady, or better still hold her right on the edge and watch her moan, writhe and see just how crazy I can drive her! Which in my meager experience often makes them very um? appreciative. Keep doin' it guys, use it or lose it.

From Linda
I understand I am being written about. When my husband told me that he was posting on this board, I just had to go in and read what he wrote. He is the one with the fetish fantasies. And it is true what he says. I shake, he jerks.

His favorite, believe it or not, is just a plain skirt and panty hose and plain black shoes. He says simple is sexier. I put his penis between my feet, knees and where ever I can get it to shake along with me. I missed all these sessions for the longest time. Now we can have them anytime we want, and we're loving it.

From Amine
Mm, I like to masturbate furiously while my hot boyfriend nips and pinches my erect nipples and runs his hands and his soft lips down my body. I can normally get off within three minutes or so this way, and I know he loves to feel me seize up in his arms when I climax. Then, we'll trade off, and I'll watch and help him pleasure himself. It's incredibly erotic when his voice cracks, and he's breathing and moaning for me to kiss him and touch him.

We're the absolute champions of clandestine mutual masturbation; we've even gotten away with this on the couch at his parents' house with his family in the next room.

From Dale
Anonymous (see entry below) Masturbation is not only something secular/non-christians do. Plenty of Christians masturbate with no guilt. Guilt over masturbation comes from faulty teachings. The bible is virtually silent on masturbation.

Losing your salvation by masturbating is quite simply a works theology. In other words, if I just try hard enough and don't do it, then I'll be acceptable with God and everything will be okay. Sorry, that does not line up with the Scriptural concept of grace.

If you feel convinced that your masturbation is a sin, then by all means do not do it, because for you it is sin. However, please do not be guilty of the other sin of putting words into God's mouth that He never said in order to lay an undue burden on the freedom of believers! Which is that God created sex and masturbation to be celebrated and enjoyed.

From D
While in my hot tub last night I thought of sharing a technique others would enjoy. Remove the hot tub filter and insert a length of hose, large enough to just fit into the filter inlet. If the hose is too small, wrap the 'filter' end with duct tape to size. 

Now the working end is NOT put over my cock.. That would be dangerous. The hose is held at the end a pipe. I use 12 inch length of 3 or 4 inch plastic pipe, that I have drilled twelve 1/2 holes in to allow the in-rushing water to strike on, and flow over, my cock. The flow, suction and sensations are controlled by hand. Talk about amazing. 

I'm writing this to pay back for other advice I've appreciated online. Add getting a foot massage from the jets while getting the masturbation blow job of a lifetime. Happy tubbing.

From Wendi
I love watching my boyfriend masturbate and I turn him on by massaging my nipples and bush while he slowly strokes his penis. But what I love even more is masturbating him. I mean sometimes he enjoys it more than when I suck his penis. Sometimes, I will strip him, tie him spread eagle on the bed and slowly tickle and tease him to full erection, and then I slowly lubricate his cock and begin to massage it. It blows my mind to watch him squirm and sometimes I will tickle his nipples which get so incredibly hard when I rub his cock. 

I have such a feeling of power over my stud. He is all man but watching him writhe, squirm, and sweat is incredibly sexy. Here's a guy who was varsity lacrosse captain in high school and the class jock and I have him tied up on my bed and I am torturing him to an intense orgasm. Just hearing him groan as I slowly masturbate him and my hand slips up and down his thick and fat cock it a total turn on for me. I also love to massage his huge cock head and when I do he groans like a sissy. 

When he finally comes it is the most intense thing I have ever seen. This jock fires like a cannon and there have been times when he has soaked his entire chest and face with sperm. I have seen his large nipples covered with his sperm and I absolutely love it. Those last few minutes as I torture his cock and he is getting ready to climax are the best thing I have ever done to a boy and I love every minute of masturbation with my studly boyfriend.

From Tman
There are two favorite types of masturbation aids that I use on a daily basis. But first let me tell you all a little about me. I am a white married male age 53. I have been in a loving relationship with my wife for 29 years. The wife knows that I masturbate on a daily basis and I often perform for her as well as her for me. I have been masturbating since I was eight or nine years old and have enjoyed it all these years. I have little to no hang-ups about jerking myself off.

I use porn magazines to get me aroused. I'm fond of most pornography, women, men, and especially amateur nudes and couples. Once I get a full erection I will sit in front of a mirror and watch myself jerking off. I have a very nice body and I get turned on by me. I will edge several times using my own saliva for lubrication. I try to come just a bit to make the session last as long as time will permit, sometimes up to 2 hours. When I can no longer stand it I will either come or stop and wait till later to have my wife finish me, this keeps me in a very high state of arousal for hours. I just love it.

From Anonymous
I haven't masturbated ever since I made the commitment to myself and God that I wouldn't. He's told me that it's wrong through prayer and experience and it's really affected my relationship with Him. The pleasure is never be worth its consequences... stop while you can. 

Sacrificing your relationship with God is something you'll regret. I was straying into temptation again when I found this site 5 min ago, but reading and replying actually stopped me. God will totally help you out with this battle if you're willing to fight it.

From Q S
I don't know how some people will react to this, since it's an issue of public vs. private sex, but I don't own my vibrator, I only "rent" it.

Only by accident a year or so ago, while treating an injury at one of the local swimming pools, I learned the joys of Jacuzzi jets. I was treating a torn thigh muscle and occasionally needed spa therapy. Sometimes the water would bounce off and the force pounded my cock head through my suit. (Always speedos, of course, to keep everything from moving around.)

It was surprising and even distracting at first, so I decided to take the risk and see what the jets could do by sitting directly in front of one. Good lord, what they can do....

If the pressure is right, you settle down in front of one and let it work it's magic on you. There's no stress and it's not tiring like masturbation. If you go about it quietly, nobody knows what you're up to while you still get an exhibitionistic thrill. It's made for some of the best, most satisfying and relaxing orgasms I've ever had.

Somebody caught me once and I thought I was up shit creek. It turned out she was turned on by the same thing. Sitting there, looking at each other with eyes glazed over, we couldn't say a word, we just smiled and fed off each other's excitement. We came almost simultaneously, but she left quickly and I never got to talk to her then and never saw her again.

The real problem is containing the cum afterward. Being a man, that means a quick hop to the change room to put on a condom before entering the tub; I don't want to create a mess that affects other people.

If you haven't, try it sometime. I come every time I go swimming. For any other men or women who have tried it, do you enjoy it as much as me?

From Teddy
Sugar and Mel [see their entries below], after reading about the electric toothbrush I decided to give it a try. I was so hard just thinking about it. I took the toothbrush into the shower with me and rubbed the spinning bristles over the triangle on the underside of the head of my cock. It was amazing. I never thought about using such a simple everyday thing to masturbate. Highly recommended.

From Edward
Before I knew anything about sex, several of us cousins were playing in the yard in a makeshift tent. I was about 6 years old or so. One day, one of the girl cousins said - let's show our pee pee's to each other. My brother pulled out his penis and she and her sister pulled down their panties. I also pulled out my penis. We looked at each other but didn't touch.

This girl cousin was a year younger than I was, but after that, we often would get together and show ourselves to each other. She would spread her pussy and I made sure she could see my penis and balls. I always had an erection when with her alone.

I don't remember how old I was, but I first learned about masturbating from older playmates. I first tried it at about age 10 or so. I used Vaseline for lubricant and had trouble keeping hold of my penis. I kept sliding off the end.

However, I kept pumping and eventually had a very intense orgasm that lasted several minutes. It was so intense that my eyes went closed and my whole body was tense with pleasure. I soon learned to stroke my penis efficiently and continued to have orgasms on a regular basis.

One day I was out in the woods and took off all my clothes and was masturbating. I was probably 11 or 12 by now. As the climax started building in my balls, I suddenly had several strong contractions and ejaculated my first sperm. Before that I might get drip or two, but this was my first real climax.

I still enjoy masturbating outside whenever possible. However, nothing can match those early days of seeing my younger cousins's pussy and later masturbating before I could ejaculate. It never felt so good as it did then.

From Shawn
Wanking conventionally before cleaning up the bathroom sink (I am a clean boy). I love standing at sink, resting balls/cock on cold porcelain sink at my moment of ejaculation, the chill makes me swoon. I lean my forehead heavily on the medicine cabinet mirror with the pleasure. 

I read somewhere about crushed ice smashed against the perinium at moment of ejaculation but never tried that, probably same effect but wetter to clean up. Gives me a good reason to finally clean up the sink, too.

From Emily
I remember when I began masturbating. I had just received my computer, (I was around 12 or 13) and I was looking up pictures of people to draw. Yet suddenly something new flashed before my eyes, and I viewed my first porn site (BDSM hentia, if you're wondering). I was curious, and afraid, so I clicked out quickly and didn't go back for a while.

Soon after the incident, my curiosity became to strong to me to overcome, and I looked up some more. Though I looked at pornography, I still did not touch myself. I can't remember what exactly started it, but somehow or another I began experimenting with my fingers. At first I remember feeling awkward, but after the first few times the feelings got better and better until I experienced my first orgasm.

These days I still masturbate frequently. I'm trying to cut it down, because I've found that if you do it too much then it begins to loose some of the 'magic'. If you wait for a week at a time, the sensations are really heightened. There's just nothing better than coming against your own hand.

From Happy hubby has humping helpmeet!
The one thing that gets me beating off more than anything else is watching my wife humping her pillow. I love it when she lies face down on the bed, with her legs spread apart, pumping her round ass furiously up and down, as she pounds her pussy against her pillow beneath her pelvis. The sounds are almost as hot as the sight of her masturbating against her pillow - her moans and squeals of pleasure, as well as the sound of the mattress springs creaking faster and faster. 

My wife has also made love to the bed, which involves humping without a pillow under her. She also had sex with her stuffed animals and bunched up blankets - all while I watch her and masturbate. By the time my wife is finished bouncing her pussy on her pillow, I'm ready to fuck her!

From Mel
Hahaha, Sugar [see Sugar's entry below], I use an electric toothbrush as well. I'm glad I'm not the only crazy person, that thought of using this. I find it more intense and works just as well, if not better than a vibe, and it's cheaper.

From Sugar
I love masturbating. I find that an electric toothbrush works wonders.

From Dave
My wife and I masturbate together. She has a couple of vibrators she likes and I use a simple leather cock strap and plenty of lube. However, the most effective "aid" we've found is watching and helping each other get off. 

Our favorite is masturbating together in a hot steamy shower. She uses a waterproof vibrator to stroke in and out of her pussy, while I pump my cock. We take our time and encourage each other. Watching each other come heightens our orgasms.

From Jeff
I would love to masturbate in front of a group of women. I can't help but thinking about a group a of clothed women who demand that I strip and play with myself until I come. They demand that I eat my ejaculation and laugh and humiliate me as eat it. I would make sure that I shave my pubic hair before any of this took place.

From Anonymous
I have just reunited with my old girl friend who at one time played out my masturbation fantasies. While we were talking, she asked me what my favorite session was, and I told her it was all good. But the one time is when we were coming home from some club and she had on a pink dress that was printed in black roses, with sculptured stockings to match. 

She still had these items, so she put them on. It was heaven all over again. She even invented new ways of getting me off, like putting my penis between either her feet or knees and shaking it just as fast as she could go. Now we do this more than ever, and she enjoys it now more than ever. It doesn't matter how many times I want it, she complies with no argument. 

I fantasize about her all day at work, and the fantasy comes true just about every night and every chance we get. It's a beautiful thing.

From Brian
The form of masturbation I like is with a detachable shower head. I lay on my back with the shower head setting set to a constant streaming motion. As I use the shower head, I run the water across my hard underside. I moan and groan till I come. This requires many hours of stimulation. I find that as I moan louder hoping that the neighbors can hear me, I get even more excited till I come all over my belly. Sometimes I bring in my tv and watch a porn flick. 

From Anonymous
Masturbation doesn't have to be anti-social. I find that picking up the phone combats that whole angle very nicely. It's a total trip to share, to get off on someone else doing something so private and being the only one to be part of it at that moment. 

It's also similar, in a way, to voyeurism in that even though you're sharing the experience, you're both alone in the environment that normally keeps that activity away from the rest of the world. Part of me always feels like I'm in on something I'm not really supposed to be. Extremely naughty, and a hell of a lot of fun. Highly recommended!

From Penelope
While studying anthropology it was been pointed out to me that the only thing wrong with masturbation is that it is anti-social. As a married woman of twenty years with a healthy sex life with my husband and an insatiable appetite of my own, I find that masturbation keeps me faithful.

From Mel
Masturbation has always worked in strange ways for myself. I have distinct memories of first masturbating at the age of 3. (I would literally teach all the neighbourhood kids how to masturbate when I was 5) As a teenager I picked it up again, which was helpful because, as a virgin, if I hadn't I probably wouldn't have explored 'inside the vagina' or even known I had an opening.

Now, it's helpful to know how your body works/operates and what techniques give you pleasure, so as not to be completely clued out on what works for you. Although, since hitting my 20's I've discovered my secret talent for being able to orgasm in my sleep, without even touching myself. It can happen up to twice in one night, where I'll just 'go off' for no particular reason, besides that I'm turned on. Although it usually happens if I don't masturbate for a week or so. Either way, I HAVE to masturbate or I start doing strange things in my sleep!

From Rose
On the first day of my period, I don't want to be penetrated by anything, so I lay with my lover, give him a oil massage on his organ, give him a titty to suckle, and he'll masturbate. He especially likes it when I play with his nipples as he comes. Cuddling is sweet afterwards till sleep takes us. 

From Anonymous
I love to masturbate, the feeling is more intense than the orgasm you have with sex, all though I love fucking too, I currently have two steady partners. I'll spend hours on the internet getting my clit hard, and either rub it with my hand or any one of my vibes or both. The way you feel when you are on the verge of coming is unreal, you want to scream!

From Anonymous
I am a 51 year old male who loves to masturbate every chance I get. I have discovered something new, though. I stroke it until it gets hard and then I wrap toilet paper around it. This serves 2 purposes. First, the paper is wrapped around just above the head and the faster I go, the more it tickles and orgasms are heightened. Second, the paper catches the sperm so I don't make a mess wherever I am.

From Bruce
I am a happily married man in my early 50's. Have been married for 30 plus years. We have an average sex life. I started masturbating in my early teens and if any thing it has continued and increased to this day. I am by myself quite a bit and I can't resist. 

I usually fantasize about another man or men. I have never really had a gay experience but would like to. I have started shaving below and it is quite the turn on. I also have a fetish with men's underwear. I love pictures with men in the skimpiest. The web has been great for this. Wouldn't it be nice if all your commenters could get together on some desert island. What a party.

From Omar
I've been masturbating since I was 14. I'm deeply into bondage and have a strong foot fetish too. I usually imagine a woman tied up and gagged, while I play with her feet & lick her toes. Some of my ex-girlfriends would let me tie them up and/or indulge in my foot fetish. I've never hurt any of them in real life. But I find myself aroused by the sight of a women all tied and especially gagged. Have had this since childhood. While masturbating, I usually play the sounds they make when they are gagged in my head. I just find all this too erotic..

From 54 year old man
I would like to see another man masturbate, but don't know how to make that happen. To see him become erect I think would be a turn on. I don't really care at this point in my life to engage in anal sex or even oral, but maybe mutual masturbation, or just watching him jerk off and come on himself would really turn me on. I'd also like to masturbate in front of him, just to watch his reaction.

From lucky hubby
I'm lucky enough to have a wife that is willing to share my fantasies with me. She knows I have a panty fetish, partly because her scent is so incredible, she often snags her sisters panties, and forces me to wack-off while she teases me with them, or she'll tell her sister to change in our bathroom before swimming , just so I can enjoy my fetish, and tell her about it when I'm done, her sister smells great too.

From Jason
I love warm fur, not just ay fur but warm lambs shearling or some fur coats. I love fur and a gas stove flame. I love to watch Rachel Ray and have my small portable gas burner there and gently warm the fur up, wrap it around my cock and gently but with slight firm tightness. I fanasize about fucking her before the thirty minutes are up. I can come three or four times, so much I have to quit. I can't take it no more.

So women if your cold get the perfect gift for your man a fur pair of gloves from WallMart, the extra soft real lambs skin car wash gloves, and get ready to eat some cum or in hotel rooms the hair dryer provides some warm and kinky fun too.

From Geoff
I have several masturbation aids, including butt plugs and vibrating cock rings, but I have to say some of the stories that can be found on the web now are my favourite aid. One of the ways I use the cock ring is to just slide it on and lodge it just behind the head of my penis. I then start to read a favourite story and just let things develop. In no time I'm hard, then I just switch to cock ring on at slow speed. Gradually my excitement mounts, sometimes I have to switch the toy off and on again as I try to time my climax with someone in the story. When I do manage to, I cum loads - hands free!

The other masturbation aid is a GOOD lube. I use Pjur, which is a superb silicone lube, it last a long time on the skin surface and is very very slippery. Then having lubed up I take things as slowly as I can. I can last out normally for about an hour, but the climax is just so intense when it happens.

From Jim B
Having posted some time before in the 'Adult Sex Toys' section, I have mentioned my very own bare feet and toes as my favourite playthings. Smelling these soft fragrant cuddlies turns me on without comparison and I've done this for many years on a regular basis from ever since I was a toddler. Few understand this curious passion, especially myself being a male, but to me it's second nature.

Occasionally, I stroke my cock as I let all of my senses dwell on the erotic virtues of my peds altogether. A climax is guaranteed within short delay, dramatically boosting the perception of my heavenly footsmell. It is an exhilarating instance that drives me wild, over and over again. To me, there's nothing in this world that can beat this form of self-love.

It happens that I simply get off while I'm sniffing my little piggies, without the use of a 'helping hand'. Sometimes I even cum precociously as I'm watching my bare soles and tootsies wriggle in the mirror or in front of my cam. As much as I wish to postpone this eruption until the smelling part, there's no stopping it then. Instantly I'll grasp a foot and smell it passionately while I'm spontaneously losing my load.

I used to feel ashamed about my self-centered foot fetish, but I now I've accepted it as some kind of wonderful gift.

From Richard
I love to masturbate thinking about the guys at work. I am bi-sexual and very straight looking. Just about all the guys and girls at work know about me. I just enjoy touching them and grabbing their asses while no one is watching. They enjoy it as well. 

I can jack-off for about an hour just thinking about all those married men at work and other places I have given head too. Then I love to tell girls about it while I am sucking on there titties and I am working my way down to there creamy wet pussies. Man Life is great.

From William Scape
I really think music is a good MA, I use it a lot myself. As I listened to Sean Paul's "gimme the light" and I beat off while fantasizing about Marisa this Puerto Rican chica with a big ass bouncing her bon bon on my dick as I sat on my back in the bushes just after it rained. She had on black flip flops and a belly chain made of pearls, it got me going!

I listened to Bachman turner overdrive's "takin care of business" and every time I listen to that song I fantasize about fucking this curly headed chick named Joanne on a red couch, I'm on top of her, her legs up over her head she's wearing red flip flops red lipstick red finger and toenail polish "takin care of business" the song says as I'm fucking her she sits there licking her lips whispering "ohhhh..fuck" again and again, I finish her off doggy style as she sits there her head down letting me take care of her business, I'm slappin her on the ass my hands are gripping her ass cheeks and I finally spurt all over Joanne's ass, wonderful!

From Jaded
Erotic reading seems to do the trick for me. At twenty- four I haven’t had sex but do seem to have a lot of sexual fantasies. Reading erotic stories just fuels the cauldron so-to-speak and primes me for a more intense orgasm while masturbating. There’s nothing like finding an author that’s able to use just the right combination of words to set off a hot fantasy in my mind or even better provide mouth-watering descriptions in their writing. For some reason I just find it more stimulating than looking at pictures of men on a site like "For The Girls". Hey, even reading some of the responses here is kind of making me hot right now.

The only thing is I find it difficult to find erotica that’ll intrigue me. Anthologies are great since you’ll most likely come across an author you’ll like and can later search for other stories they’ve written. For me I seem to be attracted to stories where the woman would drive the guy nearly insane with her teasing before she finally allows him to come. There’s something about building a guy to that point and beyond or just watching him come for me that I find extremely erotic.. And reading about it, getting the picture in mind, practically feeling his cock pulse and squirt in my hands as he looses control, knowing that he’s responding to what I do is just too hot.

I have a lot of fantasies, some of which are a bit surreal. Without them masturbation just wouldn’t be nearly as fun. During the act either the streams from the detachable shower head or the vibes from the infamous Pocket Rocket/Water Dancer seems to work best for me.

From Andrew
Masturbation has always been a frustrating alternative to great sex with a partner. I did not masturbate until after marriage and then only because of frustration over lack of frequency. The primary aid for many years was pornography but masturbation was always a cheap unsatisfactory satisfaction for a necessary sex release.

I am happily married and am truly in love with my wife and children. Frustration over needing more sex releases than marriage sex offers has driven me to seek alternatives to masturbation. I have experimented with massage parlors, titty bars, internet chat rooms, etc. The most satisfying aid to masturbation has been the phone. I now regularly practice phone sex mutual masturbation with a partner other than my wife. (I was not sure whether to place this under the category "Is Phone-Sex Cheating" or "Your Masturbation Aid".) I do not see it as cheating on my wife. I see it as an aid to more satisfying self-release masturbation.

I have found a phone partner where our masturbation sessions are mutually rewarding. This has made masturbation more of a "we" thing rather than an "I" thing. Also the release of the masturbation is much more rewarding and lasting.

From Anonymous
Along with the obvious pleasure of masturbation, I so enjoy, though haven't actually had the pleasure, of observing masturbation. Want so, to experience watching someone, male or female bringing themselves to climax in just such a perfect way. Excites me so to think of it.

From John
My favourite aid for masturbating is usually pictures of women's anuses. I love to see close-up photos of their bumholes in magazines and I usually end up spurting all my semen over the pictures !

From Anon
When I was younger, it was magazines and adult store pulp books. The usual, Playboy photos, Penthouse Forum "letters," but also magazines with women of power, i.e. Catherine Bach as Daisy Duke (sexual power), Sports Illustrated, Flex, Muscle and Fitness (physical power).

Then, it was photos and magazines. One summer sublet during my college years had no curtains on my bedroom. "This is really cramping my whack offs," a perturbed me said to a friend. "The neighbors can see right in." The friend asked, "Why don't you cut out the lights?" I replied, "Because then I can't see the pictures."

Already, however, my vivid memory and imagination had started to take over. So strong were these mental images that they have never starred a current lover. I don't want her in real life competing with such a strong fantasy image of her. Now, while I have videos and magazines in the house and photos on the laptop I take on business trips, I mostly get off to the images in my head. Even if I'm prompted by a photo or a passage of prose, I rarely look at it while soloing, instead storing it in human memory for later usage.

From Cam69
A fellow Boy Scout gave me an 8 page bible [I believe Cam69 is referring to the infamous Tijuana Bible, the deliciously naughty comic] on a camp out. I was about 12. It gave me a hard on to read and my dick felt funny. When I got home I hid it in the woods in an old tree and would go out and read it several times a day. I would rub my dick and have great feelings but no ejaculate. Then one day I came and it scared the hell out of me, but not enough to stop. 

I continued to masturbate through my teens, college and marriage. My wife loves to masturbate and we do so together and separately. We have none of the shame we had during our earlier years. We have attended masturbation sessions with like minded couples and have found that about as stimulating and erotic as you can get. We are not interested in swinging and most of the couples we masturbate are not either. We watch movies, each other, play games, and talk about sex experiences and fantasies. 

My wife and I agree that this has been the most freeing experience that we have had. The couples involved are not "model" types. There is a vast array of body sizes and shapes. Ages vary from the mid 20's to the early 70's and one of the best looking women there is around 60. The openness and honesty that this has created would do lots of people some good. It is to bad that this society is so sexually repressed.

From Amine
I find, that as a female, the most effective technique for me involves either the high-powered water jets on the detachable shower-head, or my hands, preferably whilst (and I know this sounds odd) wearing nitrile gloves. It really enhances the sensation.

From Anonymous
I love to masturbate while riding my motorcycle knowing someone will see my hard cock.

From Anonymous
I love to put plenty of Vaseline on my penis. I then turn on the computer, to a board like this, or look at female wrestling or go to one of the sites features couples making love naked. I start slowly rubbing my cock. It becomes engorged and I keep slowly working it until I reach the point of no return. My orgasms are generally fantastic.

From Josh
I love jerking off when I know somebody might be able to see me. The newspaper is delivered to my house around 4:00 on weekdays and the girl who does the paper route has huge boobs. So, around 3:55 I make sure the door is open, leaving a full glass storm door between her and me. I start jacking off on the floor and make sure to start coming when she walks up to put the newspaper in the mailbox. It's great to know that somebody is watching.

From Anonymous
I am a woman. I love to masturbate through a black satin skirt or dress. My husband too. He often rub himself on the skirt I wear and to cum on it.

From Liz
I love to masturbate with the jet in a pool. The last vacation I went on we were at a condo and I was in the pool and found myself very hot so with people in the condo across from me with one person sitting on the porch I scooted back towards the pool wall with one hand pulled my bathing suit to the side and let the hard and fast water from the pool jet beat up against my clit while I looked at the person on the porch of the condo - I don't know if they knew what I was doing or not but when I came I about screamed.

From Anonymous
I have had a foot and leg fetish for as long as I can remember. What really gets me hard is watching a well-dressed professional woman sitting somewhere and shaking her foot up and down. Especially with a skirt or dress on.

I had, at one time, a girlfriend/fiancé who knew about this, and she purposely dressed that way. What would happen is that I would touch and caress her legs to the point she would start to shake her foot up and down very rapidly. And there were all kinds of configurations. Skirts, long black nightgown, her teddies, and best or all her nurse's uniform.

Anyway, where all this is leading is that whenever I experience one of these pleasure periods, I have to go somewhere and masturbate because this is a serious pleasure for me. It also got to the point, when I was younger, I would put on women's clothing, sit at the bathroom mirror, shake my legs and masturbate. I used to go out at night stealing girdles and stockings trying to imitate my sixth grade teacher, who used to shake her feet often. I got so obsessed with this, I would purposely go looking for it, especially at the mall food courts. And I still do, with great success.

From Anonymous
I have always enjoyed masturbating and especially while I look at magazines or videos of beautiful women masturbating or having lesbian sex. I especially like scenarios of lesbian bondage and the initiation of straight women into girl-girl sex. Another fantasy that always works is of a young married couple being initiated together into queer sex.

From brother-in-law
I masturbate a lot when I fantasize about my hot sister-in- law. I think about what it would be like to eat her out and touch her lovely body every where. I think about shoving my hot hard cock into her as I masturbate my cock to hardness and as I cum I imagine myself shooting deep into her and giving her my baby. I masturbate a lot thinking of doing these things to her.

From V
I love masturbating. I like to think of sexy girls I saw during the day and like to wear silky shorts. I start slowly imagining them touching me and then my penis creams and I can feel the pre-cum in my shorts. I like to feel my thighs. I rub against the bed slowly but then let myself go and usually about 30minutes later my penis is gagging for it and I imagine girls in their sexy work outfits giving me oral sex as I shoot my come. As I orgasm I think of sexy names like Louise or Stacy that I say out aloud.

From Michael
The mind plays such a significant role as a toy itself. We all have something that turns us on. Over the years, I've come to realize it's not just a woman being naked but to strike a certain pose, a special look or angle. I love a sexy woman's behind. I find it innocently erotic. Such a private part bare for me to see is a turn on. But also, confessing to this very question is a turn on for me as well.

The part about Masturbating for someone excite me. The best part is when I'm totally nude and being watched, and stroking, the good sweet erotic naughty feeling that overcomes one in such a heated state. You want it to last forever. A slave-like feeling. almost ready to come, but not quite, it is so totally submissive and erotic. So I say no toys but more letting your mind and body submit to this extreme pleasure. I am turned on at my confession.

From Cathy
I try not to get stuck in a rut doing the thing by myself. Sometimes I get very elaborate, music, candles, sexy attire. Other times I need a release and I jump in and do the deed. There are those times that I hide behind the bathroom door though I live alone, it is my special time. I will give you my most used method.

I enter the bedroom and reach under the bed grabbing my Hitachi Wand. It is plugged in and ready to go. I keep a sock over it so it stays clean. I stretch out on the bed usually still dressed. I start by putting the soles of my feet together it makes the feeling more intense though I can never stay in that position. Starting on low I rub it up and down finding the spots that feel the best. I'll rest the wand there longer and then quick move away. This Is a strong vibrator. I will touch my nipples as I grind against this toy. I get to a point and I try and sneak as I threw it in high gear. I never last that long after that.

From Anonymous
When I drop off my wife to have her nails done its time to play when I get home. My favorite magazine and dildo are enjoyed. I enjoy inserting it in myself and going in and out. I also bring my legs over my head before coming and try to catch some come in my mouth. Its warmer than I expected but does not taste bad.

From Horny Professor
I enjoy teaching spring and summer classes where I teach as a tenure professor. For years, I have enjoyed looking out my office window (where no one can see in due to the type of glass) and seeing hot young female students in short skirts and sandals. They would sit on the campus lawns reading books or writing something or talking to other friends. There have been many of them that make me feel so hot and wet. I have been stroking myself beyond ecstasy at least three times a day when looking with binoculars at them. They have such smooth thighs and nice sandaled toes. I have had sex with one college student who I enjoyed touching her under her skirt and laid her on my couch one afternoon.

From Sappho
I think I came out of the womb self-fucking myself. When I was younger, I would use a pillow, or I had a large doll that I would rub against. (Once I even tried my cat....didn't work--the damn thing was too squirmy) Anyway, I never used to be able to get off on just my fingers until I met my fiancé. It was only about two years ago that I started getting off on my fingers alone....and I loved it!!

I'm afraid to say that I am quite a boring masturbator. I have a dildo, but I prefer my fingers. That's it. But this leaves me free to do it anywhere. I can get off in cars, right in the living room, anywhere I have a few minutes alone. I love it. It's hard getting rid of the juices, though.

From Anonymous
What I have found to be a real turn on while masturbating is a pair of pantyhose or nylons. The best are black brown or white sheer pantyhose. God it feels so good to have them on while you stroke your penis. I still live at home so I usually wear my mom's. I have been doing this since the sixth grade and to this day I have not been able to come inside but it would be way more orgasmic that way. One day I will get the courage to buy a pair of my own and really go wild.

From Judy
Like J I would also like to leave a message for Jules and just hope that she occasionally reads through the old posts here. Warning this message contains Christian content.

In the Old Testament there's a lot of stuff about procreational sex. This makes a lot of sense, the Israelites were a minority and by breeding quickly they gained power. In the New Testament Jesus made it very clear that not all the customs of the Jews applied to Christians. (If they did there'd be a lot of very complex kitchens out there.) Our God is a loving God who gives us guide lines for our own benefit. He guides us away from sex outside of marriage because of STDs, unplanned pregnancy and the emotional bond formed during sex. By masturbating you protect yourself from these bad things which your God does not want you to have to experience. Don't feel guilty as J says feel free. Guilt is the work of the devil trying to find a way to separate you from your God.

From Jack S
I recently discovered a forum on the web that allows you to video-cam yourself masturbating while willing women watch and comment. This is very exciting to me, and heightens my orgasm knowing women are watching.

From lola
I'm surprised no woman has written about showers and water jets in Jacuzzis...the best, most intense orgasms of all time come from them. Get into the hot steamy shower, and adjust the water stream so it is one firm, solid column. Remove the shower head if you must. Sit on the shower seat and direct the warm hard snake of water toward your pussy. Move yourself around to feel the water softly strike your lips, your cunt, and most wonderfully of all, your clit. That space just above the clit itself, where that big nerve climbs over the mound, is the place where I need it the most.

Or use a shower massager, on a hand held hose, for the most exquisite and close-up pressure on your clit. Tease yourself a little; just as you feel the pressure build to come, move the strong surging water down to your cunt, and let it fill you. Then move it back to your wanting clit and feel the most tremendous orgasm sweep you up and over into clenching grinding soaring trembling nipple-hardening spasms.

Or lay back in a hot full bathtub, relaxing. Then turn on the jets and lift your knees. Scoot your bottom over toward the hardest jet, and rest yourself just an inch or two from the nozzle. Gently move your cunt up and around, down and in, toward and away from the hard jet of strong current. Hold yourself there as long as you can stand it, even after your cunt begins its long slow coming. Feel the water take you higher and higher until you feel your cunt squeeze so hard you think you'll faint. Hold yourself there just five seconds longer than you think possible, and feel yourself reach a new dimension of orgasm. Fall back into the tub and relax. When you get out, touch your tender cunt and feel the wet, slippery evidence of your pleasure.

From nina
I was interested in the response from lola regarding gratification from shower and Jacuzzi jets. I, too, thoroughly enjoy the stimulation of water directed on my clit. I am fortunate enough to have a Jacuzzi at home and frequently run a deliciously scented bath, relax and ride the pleasures of well directed blasts of water against my cunt. I throw a leg over the side of the bath and angle myself so as to obtain maximum pressure on a very erect clit. it requires so little effort and I find myself orgasming rapidly several times over.

From WJD
I have a slide show on my computer, mostly couples having sex and women using vibrators that sort of thing. While I am watching I like to relax and masturbate. I use a silicone sleeve which is smooth one side and has lots of mini-nipples on the other, it's nice because you can flip it inside out depending on your mood.

I am shaved completely smooth and like to use a lot of lube...

My three main toys are a vibrator (standard cock-shaped, blue) a butt-plug and a vibrating egg. I think the plug is my favourite - you are missing out if you don't try one (NB get LARGE size) it's a unique sensation when it goes in and it will pretty much stay in place during the action, leaving both hands free...

I want to try some other toys, but I have limited opportunity to visit the sex shop, anyhow, I'll let you know....

I don't think it's wrong to enjoy yourself.

From M
I like visual aids and fantasies. the web is a great provider of live - web cams, so I have all the visual I need, but to indulge in my fantasies every now and then is great.

From Christian
I fantasize a lot myself and sometimes use a drumstick and oils. I like to put Carmex, a lip balm, or some other menthol camphor type thing on my clitoris. I will also drag fabric across my pussy, concentrating on the inner lips and clit, to get myself more excited and wet. I then start stroking the clit. My boyfriend sometimes talks to me on the phone while I masturbate in a very sexy voice, giving suggestions and setting up fantasies involving sex acts between us. I would like to get some vibrators eventually and see what it feels like.

From John
Male sex toys and Shave down below.......If you don't try these your missing out. We all masturbate so why not make it better. Ask any girl and she will swear by her vibe. Well you need to find the right toy for men and it makes masturbation that much more incredible. Adam and Eve try these three. The Virgin, the midori and cyberskin pussy. I still use my hand when I'm watching a porno and the guy is getting a hand job or masturbating but head or sex use one of these toys and it feels like you really are doing it....Have fun...I do

From Ciera
I bought a massager at the drug store that really does the job. It has several interchangeable tips on one end and an infrared head on the other end. The end rotates for easy positioning, which alas also makes it drift at the worst times.

My teenage son rarely comes in my bedroom, but of course I eventually left it laying on the bed and he noticed it and had to play with it. I told him I bought it for neck pain. He tried it out on his neck. Then I saw the lightbulb go on over his head when he associated the vibrating sensation with the word 'vibrator' and literally threw it on the bed like it bit him, his face an image of revulsion. It was funny, but embarrassing. Now that he has heard how much noise it makes, he knows why I am so lenient about letting him spend the night out with friends.

From Anonymous
I enjoy stroking and massaging my penis when I fantasize about a hot blonde, blue eyed goddess "Theresa". I saw her just recently for the first time going into our workplace wearing a short dress and sandal flats. My penis tingled and creamed a little in my pants. When I got home, I slipped my penis out of my pants and fondled myself till I nearly passed out gasping for air. She is so hot. I can't stop thinking about her.

From Allie
I love to masturbate. Getting off is sometimes the only highlight of my day. I use instrumental music like Yanni as a background turn-on, and visual stimulation, too. I love video porn and music, it really gets me flying out of my own skin.

I use an electric plug-in vibrator. I don't have to wait too long to come when I have it buzzing around and around my clit. I like to use my whole body to feel an orgasm. I rub my breasts, my ass, and then my mound. My inner heat feels so good, so natural and clean. Sometimes, it only takes me minutes to cum, but then some days, I'd rather take an afternoon of self-pleasuring because I want to be more intimate with myself.

I also like to masturbate in the bathtub. I lay my back down in the tub and wrap my legs around the water spout or shower head. The surging warm water feels so good tickling and then pounding on my clit. I lay on my hands with arms down on the tub, behind my neck, and pump my hips to the steady stream of jutting water that laps at my pussy. It's easy, loving work...then I let the bubbles tickle my nipples and ears. Oh, it feels so good and clean, and it's so fun, so awesome!

I like to masturbate with my lover, too, both alone and together. It's a special connection with mind, spirit, and body. Each new orgasm brings special release of its own kind.

From Carmen
I love using toys. I recently got a new vibrator and spent a couple of hours breaking it in. I like watching men masturbate, but I'm a little shy about people watching me. However, I'm all for mutual masturbation.

From Jenn
I love toys and videos! I love my girlfriend to watch me! It's all great...masturbation is something so erotic, and just mmm...sexy!

From imouseboy
The reading of "dirty books", and later erotica has been a longtime pleasure, but usually alone. Self-sex for self. I have come to enjoy masturbation stories, usually about women by women; and masturbating with a woman while she does so also.

The highest pleasure come to me masturbating while suck on a clitoris, or rolling my tongue inside a woman. Very delicious, and very exciting. I hope to read more such stories, and I would be delighted to be directed to that kind of erotica in books.

From Dan
I really love to lie in bed and imagine the friendliest girls I have met that day. I imagine that they are naked in the sheets next to me. We cling together for warmth and then find that the closeness calls for action!

I spring onto my pillow, my cock slides into the sleeve and I'm away! It is usually the missionary or doggy position I am imagining. The eruption is ecstatic and always better than when I'm doing it with my wife. In fact, I enjoy it most when she is sleeping next to me. She is not as turned on as I am by wanking!

From sirch smailliws
When it comes to masturbation I use my imagination most of the time, my imagination is very broad I can fantasize about being sexually intimate with any woman, there is a list of women I use which I am always updating because  I'm a lust addict.

Other times I like to write erotic stories usually about the women I've been rejected by or women I would love to have sex with. I don't look at adult movies or adult magazines during masturbation, I use things like wet lubricant, astroglide as well as ID glide, these are the tools of the trade for me. I am an artist and I often draw nude pictures of women, while downstairs alone in my room downstairs in the basement. my next step is drawing people actually being sexually intimate with each other. there's another masturbatory aid: music, which for me is either contemporary jazz, hard house, classical or techno.

What works best for me is classical because the endings of the symphonic pieces are geared toward orgasm.

From Dean
Well, if I'm going to really contribute to this forum, I s'pose this is where the rubber meets the... No. Sorry. Forget I said that. What gets me off when I masturbate (sounds like a school essay) will vary from one time to the next. Like most of my gender (I think) I'm fairly visual, so mags, videos etc. often work, but the most effective is my imagination.

Sometimes I'll fantasize about the initial stimulus and that will be enough, but more often I'll take that image, or thought and embellish it with people I know or have seen, and have them (or me) do things. I know this all sounds vague, but since the imagination is so vast, I can't think of too many permutations/combinations I haven't actually gotten off on. mm,mff, mmf, ff, flat out orgies, anal sex (a biggie) strapons, me and a guy - with a lady present (just so I can tell myself I'm not gay!), sharing the wife, cheating, mild bdsm.

How many I'll ever actually experience is another question entirely - although I have ticked a few off the list. But I digress... Most often, it's just this mental image that is important, 'cause I'm usually just looking to get off, and not get caught (I live in a bit of a madhouse) but sometimes I can really get into the sensual side of it. I look to be less penis-centric and take the time to slow down; to feel the air temperature, to focus on my breathing or to notice how good it feels to stroke other parts of my body, to imagine I'm actually taking part in these mental movies, rather than just witnessing them.

From Anonymous
I usually fantasize about some incredibly exhibitionistic woman. I guess I'm different from most other men in that I'm more turned on by the thought of a single, blatantly sexual woman giving me a one-woman show than by the standard two-hot-bi-babes fantasy. And when I mean blatant, I mean blatant. Oh, and she rarely has her eyes closed and her mouth open as you see in most pictures or movies. On the contrary, she's usually eyes wide open and smiling wickedly. And, wonder of wonders - she talks.

From Steven
Masturbation is not very exciting to me but it is essential as my imagination cannot be shut off. Thoughts of sexual possibility fill my head with peripheral insistence until I cannot properly think about what should hold my attention.

Added to that, being compulsive, whatever the fantasy, I keep at it, adding and revising until I get it right according to some unknown set of principles of 'rightness.' Then, like a poem, I abandon it for a new one. Some can keep coming back for weeks and even years. Others catch my fancy only once. They do not all lead to masturbation. Some just sit there while others find their way into my writing or my acting.

Whatever the fantasy, I feel the need to tie it to a real person and/or event. People in the abstract hold little erotic appeal for me. It must be someone I know if only through the net, though it is not always someone I like very much or at all. I find that very odd, but true.

Unlike real sexual encounters, I always doze immediately after masturbation if only for a moment. It is a very light champagne-like sleep that refreshes me enormously the way meditation done properly can. The fantasy itself departs immediately as thinking on about it after the fact always makes me sad. I grieve for the lack of the real thing, sentimentalist that I am.

At times I do not realize how truly in need of relief I am, and become quite grumpy until I realize what I am in fact lacking. I have often thought this need to be the reason bears are so grouchy after hibernation. Hungry they are, but more than that, they're horny.

From Robby
I never enjoyed masturbating. My wife always wanted me to. She wanted to watch. I let her watch a few times and it really wasn't anything big for me. I masturbated just a few times a year. I did some reading in some forums one day and decided to shave, or at least trim real close, the whole area around my penis and balls. I masturbate with baby oil or suntan oil (nicely scented) and it did make it MUCH more pleasurable. I now enjoy it and often smell like the beach boy that I already am! sheeeesh, after 40 years.

From Jules
There are many ways in which I masturbate. I really enjoy it, though I often feel dirty afterwards, as if I have done something wrong. I love God, and do not know if this is bad in his eyes. I think that's why I feel bad. I often stick things up me, like candles and bottle necks and on the odd occasion, even a razor handle. Everything stimulates me, and I like to imagine that I am having sex in different positions. I have also tried masturbating using the power of water from the shower, which has been good so far. I sometimes like to raise my buttocks up in the air at point of the climax for a slightly prolonged feeling of pleasure. Try it, it works.

From J.
I'd like to aim this letter to Jules that wrote about feeling guilty after enjoying some solo sex. I have felt this way all my life even to the point of thinking that when something bad happened to me or my family it was because of my solo session I had had.

After a lot of expensive therapy I have concluded that all the bull_ _ _ _ guilt was from my Roman Catholic and old country upbringing. I have decided at 53yrs old to enjoy myself and if I met God someday and he tells my I was bad for all my solo acts, I'm going to ask him why the hell did he make it feel so damn good

I make love better and really enjoy my solo acts when I feel like it. Even some anal pleasure which I really felt like it was a big taboo.

Jules, enjoy your self. Don't wait till your 54 to free yourself. You're not hurting anybody or anything.

From Stephen
I'm in my mid-50s now, and I have a wonderful sexual relationship with my girlfriend, which includes some delightful early morning sessions of getting each other off with our hands. My much more significant experiences with loving myself came during a nearly sexless marriage of almost 30 years. I found many ways to vary my pleasuring, and it went along way to helping me stay in my marriage, until I just couldn't do it anymore.

So I did lots of personal investigating into different ways of feeling great and getting the release. It's not the same as being with someone else, but has it's own healthy emotional benefits, for sure. My entry is long (hmmm...) my entry below is long (mmm, that sounds even better), but it's all about techniques and not what I discovered when I was twelve. Hope some dudes out there find something to kindle their own fun!

I've explored lots of ranges in pressure, anywhere from an entire session with just one or two fingers, very lightly on the underside of my cock, tickling my scrotum, tracing lines on my thighs, and sticking with that to the end, to tight, hard pounding strokes that avoid the head, pushing hard against the base and finding a way to do that for a long time without climaxing. And then sometimes, most times really, I like to vary the pressure in the course of a single session. Lube must've been invented by god for this activity!

One variation on the pressures is regardless of how you've handled yourself before climaxing, to relax. Take your hand(s) away, breath deeply, and then return with just a finger or two, concentrating on breathing slowly. I've had incredible climaxes where my cum just streamed out, no squirting, just an oozing flow. Literally draining.

I've found that when I'm very free for several days it's tremendously exciting to masturbate a lot, 3 or 4 times one day, and then again the next. My whole body and mind get into such a state of deep arousal. I've only experienced this kind of totally sexual feeling with another person a couple of times, but by myself I can go there when I wish.

Vibration... the love of most nerve endings. I was a woodworker for many years, and sometimes when I would be finish sanding something with an orbital sander the end of the object would telegraph the vibrations in a most pleasing way. I found an old shovel handle, with a slightly bulbous end. When I clamped that into a vise with 18-20 inches extended out, and then sanded the shaft of this handle, the very end would give me a slow, deep vibration. Still wearing some clothes I would gently move my whole groin against the vibration. As I got hard, I'd position my cock inside my jeans so it was straight up, and then I could tease the underside with these vibrations. I only climaxed a couple of time while still in clothes (ick...) but it would make me so hard that at times I'd wait 30-40 minutes and then finish myself off. The vibrations also seems to cause me to generate a substantial increase in the amount of semen released.

I like to lay on my bed, or on a couch, and put myself into a backbend my building up large pillows under the small of my back. The tension across my lower abdomen can really enhance the pleasure of climaxing.

I learned from doing this on a couch that I could also get myself upside down my putting my feet over the back of the couch and pushing against the wall. Jerking off upside down has the added thrill of watching my cum stream down onto my chest and everywhere else.

A fun, very accessible toy, is a banana peel. Try to peel the banana into only two or three strips. Eat the banana (and, if you're into fantasy, pretend to eat it the way your girlfriend might!), and then warm it up a bit with some warm water. Get yourself very lubed up, excited, nearly ready to climax, and then put on some more lube, wrap that peel around your own banana, and finish off.

Temperatures can be fun to play with. In the mornings before heading off to work I like to use a very hot wash cloth and just hold it under my sack. Wet and hold, maybe three times. That's it. It's not to climax, but I get such a warm, sexy feeling. I've done something similar when having a long session where I use the gel packs that you can freeze or heat up. Some of them can be heated in a microwave, the others in hot water. Get one very warm, wrap it in a very hot wash cloth and literally get yourself hot at the very beginning.

I became interested in self-stimulating my backside. A slow entry with a finger is very lovely and I started looking for something a bit more, well, filling. I tried some smaller dildos, and they were fun. For a while I had a girlfriend who very much liked anal play, and so we did this together. But for on my own I found a piece of black rubber hose, about half an inch in diameter and maybe eighteen inches long. I plugged the end with a short piece of plastic rod, and then shaped the end to a gentle rounded tip. Once I've got myself relaxed and in a great place, I can run this flexible tube up inside me quite a ways, maybe eight to ten inches. The long slow stroke that I can get with this lubed up, the exit and reentry, combined with slowly masturbating my cock, is deeply and intensely liberating. Sometimes I get it way up in there, and let go. As I approach climaxing, and my muscles are contracting, I can feel little black friend getting slowly moved out. Whoa, some serious internal stimulation there. One added advantage to the hose is that it's long enough that it's very easy for me to use without contorting my whole body around.

Fantasy is fun, and each person's fantasies are very individual I'm sure. One of my best ones, which I use if I have lots of time, is imagining myself as a woman being touched, and licked and kissed slowly and all over, by one lover or perhaps two, a man or perhaps a woman, or two, eventually having her pussy consumed with rapturous and loving attention. It must feel so wonderful to be loved in that way.

Now, when I have the time, and feel the need, I use my powerbook! Over the years I've collected many hundreds of art and photo images of nudes, mostly women, some couples, a few men from all over the internet. Most (95%?) of the images really are about shapes, shadows, colors, settings... very few are really hardcore. It's my play to supply the hardcore images and ideas in my head. I like to start the slide shows from anywhere inside the collection. I keep a playlist on my iTunes of music that feels sexy and has just the right beat for me to beat to, and I'll play this music along with my slide show. If I work gently and slowly, I can go for half and hour to an hour doing this. Sometimes I have the images go fast... 3-4 seconds each, sometimes much longer (15 seconds can be long in the heat of things!). I've had making an album of 20-40 images and then looping these quickly. Lots of opportunities for variations here.

The last thing for me to add is that pleasing myself is important to my life. It rarely impedes any impromptu opportunities with my girlfriend, adds to my own sense of being a sexual person, and provides some deeply satisfying experiences of being me. It's a joy to be me and to make myself feel good in this way. It's great to know that others feel this way as well.


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