Men & Women Revealed

What you really ought to know

We've all heard that men are from Mars, women are from Venus, and neither sex communicates well with the other. Poor communication leads to poor relationships and lousy sex. So why not take the opportunity to improve our social intercourse, in and out of the bedroom, right here Inside The Erotic Mind?

Guys, what do you wish women knew about men? And gals, what do you wish men knew about women? Don't be shy, step up to the mike (so to speak) and tell the opposite sex what you think they really ought to know about you.   —Helen

Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.   —Katharine Hepburn

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From Anonymous
I can not answer for other men, but I know many who would agree; what we want is an end to the stereotyping, the nonsense of, "All men do......" It is as insulting, destructive and mean spirited as, "All women do...." Frankly, women, if you do this, it is amazing you have any sport of good relationship at all.

By stereotyping we all, men and women, sabotage our own chances of happiness, and place on public display our own complete ignorance..

From Anonymous
Here, here Steven [see Steven's entry below]- To men and women everywhere, throw out your expectations of what a man or woman "should" be. If you find someone you can hold on to, hold on to them tight. Hold onto their love handles, hold on to their body hair. When I met the man I was to marry, he was unemployed, 13 years my senior (still is, incidentally), and not looking for a younger woman. I could easily have been with a man with a sweet job, house, money in the bank... but I wanted a man who was full of life and energy and who fit me well.

I feel so sorry for women who bypass good men for financial reasons - money can buy a lot of stuff, but not love or happiness. Truthfully, my husband's poor career choices are always a source of trouble for him (he's an artist, not too stable), but at least I know he'll never want to work late nights - he wants to come home to his wife and kids! When women complain that their husbands work too much or focus on their career too much, I can only tsk tsk them in my head for having chosen the wrong man. Don't blame it on him. Similarly, men who chose women based on looks alone end up in the "I get no love" trap. Maybe all those heartless lookers should look for the money-driven workaholics and they'd all be happy.

Well, choose wisely, my friends. Everyone is a potential mate, and there are billions of gems just waiting to be picked up and polished. We need only to step back for a moment from our ridiculous notions of the perfect mate. That's what I had to do before finding mine.

From Steven
What I'd really like is for everyone to take a step back and evaluate their "mate wish list" from scratch.  For instance:

I understand women find it terribly unfair that so many men want thin women.  For me, I like curves, so long as their weight is healthy.  I don't care for underweight, but rather healthy, which means not too heavy and not too thin.  Some men like women who are underweight, which is a problem, but I don't think that includes the majority of men.

It is a little too easy to say that men hold women to an unacceptably high standard.  Some men do, but then how about the reverse?  How many women find unemployed men or men with low paying jobs attractive?  The amount of effort required to have a lucrative career is at least as much as the effort to maintain a healthy weight.  Men are sexist for wanting women who aren't overweight.  Women typically get a free pass for only wanting men who have good careers.

How about men's obsession with large breasts?  Well, is it fair to write off potential male suitors because they're bald?  What's good for the goose . . .

I'm just suggesting that both sides of the debate have too many expectations of what their mate should be like.  Think about what is really truly important to you in a partner and seek that out.  If you do an inventory of the things you want in a partner including a lot of those assumptions (be those assumptions "thin" "rich" "perfect skin" "cool car" "younger/older than me") and you find that your mate needs 5 or more things, then you're setting yourself up for disappointment.

My $0.02 as someone who has been happily married for a decade.

Good luck to all!

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