Mutual Masturbation and Self-Love
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From Micky
I masturbate alone on occasion but I don't think my wife does very much at all if any. We do however include it in our lovemaking. It's mostly because of me because, as I have told her many times, I find it very erotic and exciting not only to masturbate while she's watching me but to watch her as well.

My favorite way is when she's laying on her back with her legs spread wide enough for me to kneel between them. While she's rubbing her clit with one hand and massaging her tits with the other, I've got my cock in hand positioned right over her pussy, pumping back and forth. I just love jacking-off with my cock pointing right at her face while she's looking right at me just waiting for my juice to start spurting. Sometimes she'll stuff a couple of her fingers deep into her pussy then hold them up for me to lick off. I can tell when she's getting really close when she stops for a couple of moments and then begins again after her orgasm subsides a bit. I like to hold my orgasm off until she's done that three or four times and then I'll let go and pump my load of cum all over her pussy while her fingers are busy rubbing all over and into her pussy. 

Probably my second favorite is to kneel beside her and masturbate while she's giving me a blow-job. Like I said, she doesn't like me to cum in her mouth but up to that point she gives me really great blow-jobs. I'll pull my cock out of her mouth and continue jacking-off for a bit with the tip of my cock just inches from her face and I watch as her eyes are glued to the end of it. I've told her that I fanaticize about coming all over her face and her surprising remark was for me to go ahead and go for it. I haven't done that yet but someday I just might. Anyway, I've stuck my cock back into her eager mouth while still continuing to stroke myself and get to the point where I'm about to explode so I pull it out, aim at her tits and let go. 

From Anonymous
Yeah, I've always found the idea that you only masturbate because you can't have "real sex" odd, too. I'm 21 and I've been masturbating since I was about 10 years old. My current relationship is the longest I've had, at 5 months. Also, I'm transgender (a boy in a girl's body) and consequently I often feel uncomfortable about my body. So, being naked and intimate with a partner can be difficult. 

For me, having sex with my partner is a totally different experience from masturbating on my own. When I masturbate, I usually don't take off my clothes at all and I touch myself through them (still very effective) I also like to read erotic stories, so it's very much "in my head." With my boyfriend (who is also trans), I usually undress at least partially and I've gotten to the point that I'm okay with him touching me - it turns him on so much, it's worth it. 

Sex with a partner for me is very intense and sometimes a little scary, compared to masturbation which feels safe, comfortable. Also, my boy is pretty vanilla, so my leanings toward bondage, rough sex, etc. - that aspect of my sexuality does not get expressed very much with him. I like both, but they give me totally different things. 

I couldn't replace masturbating with sex, or vice versa. I've been feeling a bit odd about masturbating while I'm in a relationship (thanks so much, society!) but at the moment, since we're separated by distance, it hasn't been an issue.

From mr. j.s.
A favorite for my wife and I is to take a shower together she will sit on the ledge of the shower with her fingers strumming her clit while I stand facing her stroking my cock and rubbing it over her face and tits (very soft and saggy love the way they feel).

We try and come come together, her finger deep in her snatch and my cock pointed in her face or at her tits, and I will blast streams of cum on her face as she shudders all over her fingers. mmmm.

From Dave
I masturbate alone, and assume my wife does also occasionally. Mutual masturbation is certainly part of our sexual activity. We both enjoy stimulating each other and watching each other slowly come to great orgasms. I'm stimulated watching her come several times and she has found I can come harder if she squeezes my testicles when I finish.

From Meri
If anything, it enhances sex with a partner. Of course, for further intensity with a partner, you can always flop down in a chair across the room from him and make him watch for a few minutes first. I've never gotten a negative reaction to that one! Get him to do it for you, too. Enjoy!

From Stiletto Heel
I must concur with the person who posed the original question and say that I've been with the same individual for umpteen years and although the sex has been less than desirable for quite awhile I must admit that I have always masturbated even in the beginning when the sex was more novel and consistent—as of late with a blue jelly vibrator thankyouverymuch.

I too have never thought of myself as a perv but never knew how common the act of masturbation was. Everyone does it and I respect those who own up to it. "I do it best for me!" That's my mantra...nothing is a replacement for the real deal BUT masturbation helps perfect technique, endurance and control...I enjoy it!

From Reader53
Until I met my wife I'd never thought a woman would be ok with my masturbating...I love it and the best part is, she loves it more. Nothing gets her candle flickering like me working myself over...she gives me her soft, large delicious breasts to suck on while I beat myself off...recently she was on her back working her clit something furious...her head was hanging off the edge of the bed and positioned myself so I could put my cock in her mouth while she masturbated...oh  my  god.

From Eri
We often masturbate together since our early teens. We have rituals. Most common is that I am sitting in an armchair frigging my bean. He will use my saggy tits with his dick squeezing them to a fuckable commodity. After a while he starts watching me and we are talking dirty, very dirty. Then the big decision his hot globs of seminal sludge over my dangling boobs, my crimson face or into my open mouth. As a housewife I prefer swallowing as there are less cum stains, as a slut I prefer gulping down too. 

Orgasms by your own hand (or by means of a rabbit vibrator between my legs) are so different and much stronger than those during mere fucking. I think many couples have their sexual life in a similar way, but don't dare to confess.

From Brit
I am 78, my wife 75, been together for 13 years. We are sexually active, just about every other day. My wife likes to occasionally masturbate me, has a really talented style.

I am 6'1" and she likes me to stretch out on my back while she kneels at my waist. She wants me to close my eyes and I did for some time until the urge to see what she was doing caused me to squint partially, opening one eye. I noticed that she was staring directly into the mirror that is about 10 feet away on my right side. I guess she liked to watch herself so I never let on that I knew what she was up to. I found it exciting and stimulating. She would sometimes cup my scrotum with one hand whilst stroking with the other. She would sometimes gently scrape my nipples with her fingernail, causing them to grow. Sometimes she would bend over and suck them. That drove me up a wall. 

Our first sessions were in the Jacuzzi with the water swirling. She would soap up my hampton and bring me almost to climax then back off. This increased my ejaculation. That was around ten years ago and it shot right out of the tub onto the tile floor. I could never understand what she got out of it, me getting the best of it always. She told me she likes to watch me squirt. At 78 it is little more than clearing the glans. She still enjoys watching me ejaculate and giggles like a youngster. 

I have asked her to let me do her but she will not. Her button is very sensitive and I am only allowed a few seconds to massage it. She climaxes very quickly after I enter her so a few years ago I could stay erect and bring her to climax a second and third time. Now after I ejaculate I immediately go flaccid so I can not bring her to climax again. 

Strange thing is, when she wanks me the sensation is huge. Whenever I wanked by myself before marriage I would get a thunderous headache and feel really fatigued. Messed me up for a day. When she does it I have no negative effects whatsoever. Must have been some kind of guilt trip. 

I had a friend who once said he preferred to wank over intercourse. Said he could have whoever he wanted and she would do anything he asked her to whereas sex with a girl was never as good as he thought it would be. I like it anyway I can get it......great sex and foreplay or a good hand job.

From Alex
It's wonderful to read such happy and healthy stories about masturbation. I love to masturbate and do so several times a week, sometimes twice a day. My wife and I have been married for over 10 years, but in the midst of raising a family, work, school and other daily chunks of chaos, our sex lives at times don't mesh. That's when a good session of self love is in order.

Variety is key. Sometimes it is a quickie in the shower, my balls and cock coated in lotion. In the summer I try to sunbathe nude, and that often ends with me skinny dipping to wash off the long ropes of cum I have jerked free. Other rare times I will linger with my penis, watch some porn, read erotic stories, satisfy myself anally with a large dildo, using just saliva and pre-cum to bring me repeatedly to the edge.

During all these masturbatory celebrations, the woman I dream about is my wonderful wife, sucking me, riding me, her large breasts jumping in time, beneath me with her face in a twisted mask of rapture as we pound each other to ecstasy. At last I allow myself to come, shooting two or more jolts in to my mouth, the rest pooling on my chest and stomach. When I can't make love to my wife in person, I find that masturbating to my thoughts of her is the next healthiest and happiest thing.

From Pbr
Massage is an excellent paradigm in which to place sexuality since conceivably masturbation is self massage, and sex is partner massage that helps to maintain the "nurturing" quality that most people prefer to experience in sex.

For women, sex could be thought of as internal massage, and although possible by masturbation, much of its emotional component is lost by that method, as well as the spontaneity of having a partner participate.

For men, it could be thought of similarly, and self acceptance of masturbation, while effective, loses much of the satisfaction of having a partner spontaneously participate, in theory, increasing the sexual excitement, if not the efficiency.

As a practical outlook, isn't that why humans were made with the libido to appreciate sexuality in each other?

From Barry
I love to masturbate and recently had a thought of my sis- in-law. The other day, she wore denim shorts and sat across me. Whilst talking she opened her legs and I could not stop imagining what she might have underneath. I only had on my joggers and soon enough could not hide the fact that I was STIMULATED.

She noticed, so rather than get embarrassed, I told her why and that I would love her to watch me masturbate. Before she could answer, I pulled down my joggers and started to touch my penis head with a swirl motion. I asked her if she minded and she got up and took her shorts off and walked towards me. We soon were naked and she was wanking me and I was making her pussy very sticky. I'm so glad for that moment 'cos now we enjoy the thrill of doing all sorts of things but for no-one else's info.

From Anonymous
My first wife was very liberal and open minded (and pretty enough too, with good figure, brown hair, pointed tits.) She knew that I masturbated regularly ,watching porn pics beside. Once she caught me during jerk off. She demanded to show her how I liked masturbating and the best pics, that excited me.

As I fulfilled her wish, she suggested to masturbate together. The mutual masturbation became an important part in our sex life, sometimes supplemented with softer or harder video watching.

I loved direct my cumshot on her buttocks. Her maidenly shaped butts were impeccable, an attractive target for my ejaculation. She was lying on her belly, straddling gently her thighs. I was kneeling above her, between her legs , grasping her bottom by my left hand, and pushing my rod into the long split between her buttocks with the right one. A standing lamp illuminated sharply her wonderful naked body. There was a direct contact between my penis and of her silky skin during jerking off... As she laid on her tummy she also fingered her pussy. Often we reached our climax simultaneously, I pushed the glans by my finger to her anus, and let the milk out. It was fantastic to caress her bottom and my rod simultaneously and to smear the white semen widely with my cock on her skin! I always spurted bigger amount then at normal sex.

Near to the bed a standing mirror helped us to enjoy the whole scenario. It was fantastic, and one of my favorite fantasy to masturbate at the present is those nights together.

From Snowman
I find this topic interesting and stimulating. I believe that sharing masturbation is one of the most amazing sexual experiences. One of my greatest turn-ons is when my wife lies back and masturbates in front of me while I watch and/or caress her. She gets totally lost in it and I often whisper fantasy scenarios for her to focus on as she moves her fingers over herself in that special way women do when masturbating. Her orgasms are always very strong when we do this and we always follow with frantic sex. I find it an immense privilege for her to share this with me and that she trusts me so totally that she can open herself up to me in this way.

Sometimes I have come to bed to find her lost with her head thrown back and her fingers feverishly rubbing herself. She knows what a huge turn on it is for me to find her like this - very special.

I also love our mutual masturbation sessions - sometimes with vibrators and sometimes not. Another really decadent favourite day's entertainment is where we settle down in front of a porn movie with a bottle of wine and masturbate in front of each other very slowly, before the tension becomes too great and we fall on each other.

Masturbation is great! I masturbate frequently and am certainly happy to know my partner does too - it can only be healthy for a relationship.

From Victor
On 8 August 1990, 2 days before my 23rd birthday, I lost the woman I truly love to cancer, her name was Peta, she's of Greek descent 24 years old. After months of her death, I feel her spirit touching me in a sexual manner. I finally discovered the joy of masturbation after the loss of a love so true.

And if you all are widows or widowers who experience spiritual sex, feel free to share your stories on what it's like without a partner in your life.

From S.B.
I love the Big M, and have for as long as I can remember. After I met my man and settled down, nothing changed except that now I have more to feed my imagination. But here's the catch: my guy has no problem with jacking off. In fact, he does it a LOT, fantasizing about me. The problem is that he doesn't like me to masturbate in his presence, although he does it all the time. He says it makes him uncomfortable, like he's not doing an adequate job, but he IS, it's just that a lot of times he finishes before I do, and I'm NOT just going to lay there and suffer! HELP!!

From Sappho
I wish masturbation had a bigger place in society. I love to masturbate. When my fiancé and I had been forcibly separated, masturbation became the only way I could fall asleep. When we're together, I usually masturbate after sex. I can't help it—I am just never finished.

Some nights we're just too tired to actually have sex, but we're still horny, so we'll masturbate next to each other. It's great seeing him stroke it, and he loves licking up all my juices once I come. Orgasms are great—I can't say that enough. Masturbation is an art.

From Dick
This August will mark 30 years of marriage and we have been masturbating together and privately for the whole time. Personally, I make the time for at least one or two extended pleasure sessions each week. I get naked, gather my "supplies" (towel, lube, magazines or browse pics online) and embark on a delightfully satisfying leisurely masturbation session. I almost always bring myself to the brink of orgasm several times before finally taking flight. Producing and tasting pre-cum is a special little reward on my way to ejaculation.

Some of the most incredible orgasms are experienced at the end of a three day "preparation," wherein I stimulate myself to the edge on the first two days and then let 'er rip on the third. The anticipation, pressure and volume of the ejaculation are far superior to the quick wank. And yes, I've become quite adept at typing and clicking with one hand...

From NN
I am a student, living with another girl in the same room. We both masturbate a lot. Now we do it the same time having pleasure to watch each other and listening to the panting, moaning, crying in delight and the dirty words. I like her crimson, grimacing face telling me the stage of her arousal and the very quick up and down movements of her fingers jerking her big swollen clit. We have our explosions close together and make a lot of noise.

The girls in the adjoining rooms think we are lesbian. Perhaps we are a bit. I think often about licking her slimy pink. I don't dare yet to do her the favour, but I think I soon will, as she utters some perverted words relating to this often just before going up the chimney.

From M
I am married and have a good sex life, but I find that my drive is greater than that of my wife's. So I masturbate a lot. sometimes she will let me do it in front of her. A major fantasy of mine is to masturbate for a group of women, but my wife is unsure about this.

I find it a very pleasing act, ad can do it for up to an hour at a go, just bringing myself to the point of climax and then slowing down to prolong the pleasure. I don't just concentrate on my penis, but arouse other areas of my body, and use a vibrator up the anus at times. I have also done it on video for my own pleasure.

From Anonymous
I love to masturbate. I have on occasion used various objects in lieu of a vibrator. I used carrots, bananas, candles, an end of a hammer. My husband even inserted a cucumber inside of me. What an intense feeling that was. I mostly think of past occasions of lovers. I think about my nipples getting sucked and my breasts massaged. My clit gets really hard-I rub it and explode.

From Allie
I love it and can't get enough of it. After having struggled from past sexual abuse, I find masturbation a very positive and cathartic way of expressing true sexual pleasure from old pains. I cannot get enough free time, but the moments I do have, I enjoy myself immensely. I also like to share this with my life partner. We both enjoy watching and performing for each other; sometimes with the lights on and sometimes with candle light flickering in the background.

Masturbation is a free and healthy choice of self-love and being kind to one's body makes it all the better!

From Otis
My wife and I regularly masturbate -either for ourselves or each other. Masturbation is a continuous part of our sex life, during, after, or before - we get involved and love it. Our sex life is the best! My wife recently phoned me while playing with her rabbit vibrator - wow! What a shag we had later!

From Brandy
There is nothing wrong with masturbation after marriage. (My opinion) There is nothing weird about it, and it should no be a problem unless your husband doesn't like it, or he doesn't know. Alone-time is something everyone needs, sexually and otherwise. It can also be extremely rewarding to occasionally bring your partner into this alone time.

From Haras
I believe it to be one of the most self loving things you can do to please yourself. Whether you have a partner or not. Let them participate, let them watch. Its a way of giving yourself such release. Sex with a special someone is awesome too, don't get me wrong, but all juicy acts should be shared- and appreciated. Plus I think its arousing in the most delicious of ways.

From Terri
My lover (whom now happens to be my ex-husband) masturbate for each other. I loooove to watch him fondle, stroke, jerk, his penis. We masturbate, fuck, then masturbate and watch each other come!

From Therese
A few weeks ago I accepted an invitation from my landlord (he's in a wheelchair). I ate at his place and one thing led to another. I now regularly masturbate for him - opening my shirt, revealing the fact I wear no panties... you get the picture. He touches himself while I get off on the cold handle of a spoon. We have developed this relationship - while we never touch or mention it, we get off on me displaying myself and masturbating.

Part self-love, part exhibitionism, part titillation I guess. I find myself hurrying down to his apartment on some days. After coffee, I let my straps down and he looks at my tits. Our eyes never meet when I do it. I finger myself and get really wet... for him? For Me? I don't know, but it sure gets me horny.

From Viva
Masturbation is a great solution if you have no partner or if you and your partner like to masturbate for each other. I masturbate regularly. I get naked and start with my breasts and then I all for it. my partner loves to see me masturbate for him he gets really excited and he masturbates back for me and we come together it is great.

From Anonymous
For more than 45 years I masturbate on a regular basis. And it provides me with great enjoyment. For lubrication I use massage cream. My wife loves to watch me when ever possible and eagerly awaits my juices, which I ultimately deposit in her mouth or on her breast. She then rubs in the precious fluid, or I lick her clean, and we share the juice's taste and critic it "It's delightfully sweet today" or "slightly bitter, you must have eaten a lot of meat dishes lately"!

After I masturbated and juiced her, she usually uses her golden vibrator and pleasures her clitty, while I may fondle her breasts using lots of massage oil, suck on her nipples or insert one or two fingers into her cunt hole and massage her G- spot. I also encourage her and comment how pretty her cunt lips look. She gets her lips waxed on a regular basis. When she masturbates or I pleasure her with my fingers or tongue, her lips swell up beautifully...nice and puffy. She often begs me to slow down two or three times to delay her final orgasm. And after she experienced her very powerful orgasm, we cuddle and rest for a while.

Frequently she will massage my cock or she will watch me masturbate again until it will get hard. I will then pleasure her by rubbing my cock over her cunt for some time and then insert it into her wet cunt hole for another round of joyful fucking. Uninhibited sex enhanced by mutual masturbation is truly great fun!

From Herman
In Germany we say no sex with a partner is as good as you imagine it while jerking off ­ I found that to be very true in times!

From Anonymous
As a "technical" virgin of 39, I can tell you that my brief boyfriend experiences were nowhere near as pleasurable as my current self-love sessions.

I also read Betty Dodgson's book Sex For One and tentatively bought my first toy (after I was encouraged by a trusted family member to learn to enjoy myself even though I'm single). I've added to my collection and now have a "toy box" full of fun things. I love my Vixen Creations and my Wahl coil electric vibe - and Liquid Silk is the best thing ever!

To be honest, self-love (to me) is the most wonderful gift I can give myself. I also don't have to worry about STDs and being with someone I don't love (or who's a jerk) just to have a sexual relationship. I can satisfy myself and play out any fantasies I have and be safe at the same time.

I've also learned what it is to really have an overpowering orgasm - wow! I hope to share my sexuality with a special man in the future but even if that doesn't happen for me, I can enjoy my sexuality in a healthy and fun way. Everybody should be able to do that.

From bleachie
Just because we are married why should we give up loving ourselves? It's too much fun to want to quit anyway.

From Sandaidh
I masturbated while I was married, and I'm sure he did too, although he never "flaunted" it. Various reasons, but mostly because our li bidos were SO far apart on the scale, even before I hit peri-menopause. When I hit peri-meno, my libido literally went through the roof, while his went down in the basement and hid. So, now I'm single and self-love because it's the safest sex I can have until I can be with the man I prefer.

From Peter
Good for you ERWA for celebrating masturbation. Most of us know, but are unwilling to say, that some of the best sex we've ever had, was with our selves. After all, only we know what we really like. We know how we like to be touched, how we like to be teased, poked, prodded and played with. I'm sure this goes as much for men as it does for women. Even if we have a regular and very much loved partner, it is sometimes difficult to ask for the thing that turns us on most. Alone, this is not a problem. We can do whatever we like and there is no one to look at in the morning and think, "did we really do that?"

In other words, it's sex without inhibitions getting in the way. Some people can get this with a partner. Lucky them. For those of us who can't, masturbation is a wonderful alternative.

From dick
Having read Dodson's Sex for One and then writing articles for her web site, I heartily agree with those masturbators who take the time for themselves. Hell, we all enjoy quickies, but the real pleasure is found in a leisurely, extended session with one's self. When we were young, most of us didn't have the privacy to fully enjoy ourselves, much less the knowledge and experience that comes with years. Although I certainly have other interests and hobbies in my life, after some 40 years of masturbation, you could say I've earned my degree.

Anticipation of an afternoon with myself certainly gets the heart and mind racing. Perhaps there's a new magazine in the mailbox, a video on my xxx satellite channel or a new web site. I like to get naked and comfortable, sometimes after a nice hot shower. I usually sit on the sofa, paging thru pictures or watching the tube, teasing my cock to erection. I'll start out dry (without lube), tickling the glans and just below it. After a bit of visual stimulation I'm at full attention and maybe dribbling some nice sweet pre-cum syrup. I like to taste my sweet/salty fluid. When I find an image(s) that really excites me, I'll add the lube. ForPlay is the best; a fairly thick gel that stays on the genitals and doesn't dry out quickly like other lubes that claim to be more slippery. Adding the lube intensifies the stroking and stimulation, of course.

I'll begin the ritual of bringing myself to the Edge of Orgasm. I'll do this several times, each attempt becoming more precarious and intense. Occasionally I'll add some anal stimulation; slender ribbed vibrators or small plugs. In a while, I'm really buzzing; my cock is oozing pre-cum and begging to explode. I go back to that one favorite image (my favorites are 40+ women with large, meaty labia and prominent clits, posing in simple unstretched spread shots or squatting so their lips hang down naturally) and begin a running start to the Edge. The orgasms are always incredible! Solid ropes of white cum arc forth from my 6.75" cock,

My wife and I masturbate regularly together and privately. We even penned Solo Journal full of steamy, kinky private accounts. We're always looking for variety. We've masturbated over the phone from separate rooms, done outdoor j/o photo shoots and masturbated with special friends. There's nothing like sharing such an intimate part of yourself. My wife's favorite toys are the Eroscillator (screaming orgasms) and a pink jelly cock.

We encourage all singles and couples to take more time for themselves and to share. Masturbation is such a joy!

From Vol
I masturbate because I have to, not because I want to. It is more joyous if a trusted, loving but absent friend is sharing it with me in one way or another (nudge, nudge; wink, wink), but is still woefully inferior to the 'warm and fuzzy' feeling of embracing another human being about whom I care, and who returns the feeling. At times it can be physically satisfying, but for my psyche, solitary masturbation is the saddest thing on earth. Well, not as sad as war, poverty, disease, etc., but you know what I mean.

From Willie
My wife of 7 years and I did not start off masturbating together, but can't imaging why we waited so long to start. After years of pleasing each other I simply said "why don't you help me" one day while I was licking and touching her. From my vantage point between her legs it was an unanticipated fantasy come true!

Not only did I learn new pressure points that were very special to her, I saw the variation in her interests that really helped me to become a better partner.

I have always loved the smells and moisture that arise from those beautiful lips when they are most excited, but now I can see it happen as an observer while very up close and personal. I love to see her clit grow and the labia change their shape and texture as we both take turns touching and stroking. I have learned the thrill of licking the moisture off of her fingers to stimulate me while she is in mid-stroke of herself.

We have had finger wars where we both touch at the same time. I have tried to mirror her intensity and location on the opposite side of her anatomy. I have put my penis inside just an inch or so and they held myself away enough so she could masturbate with me inside.

Great stuff!

From Kathy
I wonder how many other women have had this experience. I'm in my mid-40s now, happily married for almost 25 years, and I find myself masturbating more—and enjoying it more—than I ever have before. It's not just that my husband has slowed down some, although he has, but that I've speeded up, and that I look forward to the times when I can masturbate, not as a substitute for intercourse, but as a genuinely pleasurable and completely satisfying act. 

We do masturbate together sometimes, but the best times are when I'm alone. I've given myself some of the best orgasms I've ever had lately. One of the consolations of perimenopause, I suppose.

From Camber
As a married woman in her late 30's I make masturbation a part of my daily ritual. I take extra time in the shower every morning. I have a detachable shower head and sit down in the seat in my shower. I sit back and spread my legs and let the water pulsate on my clit, it really starts my day off right. When I have more time and the kids are gone, I love to light some candles around my bed and put on a sexy pair of high heels. I lay back against my pillows and either use just my fingers or a vibe. I love to take my time and have an amazing orgasm. 

Masturbating is very important to me and makes me feel so good. I love sex too, with hubby or someone else, but I can always count on self loving!

From Anonymous
I gladly admit that I am a masturbation freak. As a matter of fact, I have already given myself an orgasm twice today. I love it. There is nothing better then getting out of the shower, jumping in bed and touching myself. Even if I am not thinking about it, as soon as I start to dry off and touch my pussy, I can's stop, I have to pleasure myself. 

I am happily married, and my husband loves to watch me masturbate. Having him watch me is a huge turn on as well. 

From Dawn
I once had a lover that always needed to see me make myself "sweet and wet." He would watch me begin and seem to mimic the strokes of his cock to the strokes I was inflicting on my clit.

It turned him on that I use my fore and middle fingers of my left hand to pull back on the hood of my clit, exposing it, glistening and percolating in it's own pre-cum. With the pad of my right middle finger, I use olive oil to facilitate my clit rolling smooth, stirring a stream of cum from it.

He would watch me, his mouth watering, whispering to me how pretty I am, how pretty I am touching my pussy. When my spurt would begin to erupt, he'd cover it with his mouth, sucking hard, sucking my stream in deeply. He'd then proceed to squeeze and push into me. Digging and pounding me for yet more hot creamy cum, swabbing it all back up with only several more strokes or so, and then coming very shortly afterward. It was the greatest cycle: coming to get fucked.

It got very tired though. He was selfish and never completely finished me off.

From Cheryl
I had my first orgasm by masturbation. I was in my later teens and had already had non-orgasmic intercourse with my high school boyfriend.

I never masturbated much early on, and was always afraid of being caught. I lived in a dorm in college, and was caught masturbating by my roommate. I knew this because I heard her across the dorm room moaning and getting herself off. We never talked about it, but it was strangely erotic.

In my marriage I masturbated regularly early on, even though my husband could get me off multiple times. I've made myself come after sex, or just late at night when I could not sleep. I would masturbate quietly while my husband slept next to me.

Now, after 25 years, neither of us is embarrassed to masturbate in front of each other; although my husband does it more often (in private and with me) than I am inclined to do.

From OTE
Both of us have masturbated for beaucoup years, but never realized this intensity until we got together. With our heavy investment in vibrators (no, I'm not threatened by technology), masturbation is and will continue to be an integral part of our lovemaking. M'lady's latest investment was in a Hitachi wand with g-spot stimulator. Wow! Holding it for her, being careful about how much pressure to apply cause it is heavy, her orgasms are explosive.

I used to think I had pretty good sex prior to m'lady, but now I just term it "my sexually assisted masturbation days." Even the best of the old days wasn't as good as these days of masturbating alone. I give all the credit to m'lady for peeling away the curtains of my sexual ignorance. She says I have done the same for her.

From Rob
My wife and I have been married 17 years and enjoy a great sex life. One of the highlights for me is our mutual masturbation sessions.

We will put on an adult movie and sit across from each other and watch each other masturbation. We both find it highly erotic.

Occasionally I will take a video or her having an orgasm and watch it later in my personal masturbation sessions.

We know each other masturbates alone and have no problem with it. We both think it has really added to our sex life and we highly recommend it.

From Dawn
I do not think it's strange to masturbate though one is married. I'm a stay at home Mom and masturbate almost everyday. Sometimes, even after making love, I masturbate to pull off an induced and forced climax. Since I'm multi-orgasmic, even after my husband comes, I'm sometimes still plateauing, so masturbating more intensely spends me. 

My husband loves this and it always makes him come back for more. We have a Demi Moore-Ashton Kutcher dynamic going on, I'm 44 and he's 29 and we make love just about every night except BlowJob Week.

From Ethan
I stumbled on this site several weeks ago and have since thoroughly enjoyed its content (in more ways than one, as many of the posts have inspired some most excellent new developments in bed with my girlfriend, so thank you for that). Cheers to everyone for sharing so many honest and unique viewpoints.

In my actual sex life, I am extremely liberal and open, enjoying any and all kinds of sex from soothing, passionate love-making to triple-X-rated down and dirty nastiness, bondage, pain-infliction, threesomes, in public, in private: if it's sex, I will take it. And yet I've always had a somewhat repressed attitude toward masturbation that really stumps me.

To begin with, I lost my virginity at 15 and had already been with four girls and two guys before masturbating for the first time at 18. I wonder if it's at all common for people to refrain for so long even after having sex regularly? I'm now 22 and have had a very liberal sex life. I've been with my current girlfriend for a year and a half. Our sex was the best I'd had the first time we were together, and since then has somehow continued to get progressively better. 

I enjoy and often request that she masturbate for me during our lovemaking sessions. Watching her use her red jelly rabbit vibrator on herself is the most erotic and exciting thing for me (aside maybe from watching her finger herself while I lay right between her legs and help her along with my tongue). A few times she has requested that I masturbate for her, and while I've obliged her, I feel extremely uncomfortable doing it. I masturbate fairly frequently at home when she is at work or otherwise gone, but it's a joyless and un-erotic experience. The urge hits me and I find myself annoyingly unable to concentrate on whatever I wish to be doing, so I do it as quickly and easily as possible. 

For me, it really has much the same mindset as urinating; a distraction that has to be quickly relieved before I can continue whatever work I'm doing at the moment. It usually takes no more than five minutes, a few quick strokes on the shaft, come, clean myself off real quick, and then I'm back to the daily grind. It's not that I'm in any way embarrassed or have some shame stigma about masturbating, I don't think it's morally objectionable in any way or other similar BS. I don't quite know what it is.

So. After reading all the posts from everyone else, I get the impression that many people enjoy elaborate and intense self-love sessions. Anyone out there actually not get much out of it?

From Horny Housewife
Like everyone here, I enjoy masturbating. I've done it since I was a pre-teen and though now in my early 40s and happily married, I still enjoy masturbation. I love sticking my fingers up in my cunt and getting all those sweet juices and rubbing them on my clit until I come. There are plenty of times that I just want to masturbate openly at home and wish I could get my husband to masturbate freely, too. 

I know he jacks off, and I don't mind. We have plenty of sex, but I enjoy taking care of myself sometimes and assume he likes taking care of himself once in a while. We've only had a few mutual masturbation sessions - usually if masturbation is involved in foreplay, it's me giving him a handjob and him fingering me. I think it would be so hot if he would just start wanking away right in front of me and I could do the same. 

Am I the only one who feels this way, or are there others who just want to play with their clits or cocks while watching a good movie, etc? If it ends up with actual sex, great, but if not, hey . . . as long as I come, I don't care!

From Mark
A number of years back, I bought my ex a slim vibe I got at an adult bookstore. I didn't really think she'd take much interest in it—I sure was wrong. After she gave herself her first orgasm with it, she was hooked!

She would pull her clothes off and lay flat on the bed. She then put the vibe on the side of her clit, never inserting it. Her eyes always were closed, and she never moved except to slightly adjust the position of the vibe on the side of her large, swollen clit. Her nipples slowly got hard, and her lips gradually turned purple. She said she was oblivious to her surroundings as soon as the vibe first touched her clit—she said the feeling in her clit was so strong it kind of put her in a trance.

I knew she was about to come when her nipples would be rock hard, her lips a dark purple, and a 'sex rash' was spread over her boobs. Then she'd let out a loud 'ssssssss' and raise her hips way off the bed and her abdomen began to jerk. I had been kneeling down next to her stroking my dick, and when she started to come it sent me over the edge, and I sighed as I shot streams of cum on her belly, and stroked her pretty blonde hair as I did. It was kind of a daily routine with us, but I loved it!

From Lin
We are in our late forties, married for nearly 25 years, and both my husband and I masturbate when we have our 'private' moments in our relationship. I use a mix of fingers and vibrator and fantazise about being fucked by a young very good looking guy with a long fat cock. 

My husband will masturbate in his den over images in a mag or porn video. We find nothing wrong with jerking off as individuals since we always join up in our marriage bed for some very satisfying sex together two or three times a week.

From Dawn
I always feel as though I've sorta lived a sexual life slightly wasted since I've never masturbated with another person. Now it's a big fantasy of mine. Wonder if I'll ever get another opportunity, especially with another woman?

I would love to show her how I come while she shows me her way. I'm sure if we engage in this way we'll end up uxoriously 69ing and come into each others' mouths.

I want this with another woman so our pussies mirror each other. Does hers reflect mine? Is she coming (?) and watch how she makes it happen. I want to read her face so I can know when to suck her.

From Ronni
I love to masturbate. Sometimes I do it 4-5 times a day. I started when I was a child (don't remember how old) but I would hump furniture, stuffed animals, anything. My favorite way then and now was to lie on my stomach and use my fingers. By the time I was in late teens and early twenties, I realized I was having multiple orgasms from masturbation. Now, although married for 12 years, I still love to masturbate. My husband knows this, and he says it turns him on to know I do it. 

I masturbate while he's at work several times a day, but it only gets me hotter and hornier for him. I only recently got a vibrator—or rather my husband got me one. I love to suck him off while using the vibrator. One night just last week, I was sucking him and using the vibrator on myself when I got the urge to pull out the vibrator and rub it on his penis. He and I both got off on that. Since then, he's used it once more on himself while I took turns sucking him and giving him a hand job. I have to admit, I got really turned on watching. Of course, then he immediately was ready to take care of me. I often prefer for him to masturbate me instead of penetration although he makes me come soooo good with penetration and oral. 

I also recently got him to participate in mutual masturbation with me. I don't know why, but I just come so much faster watching him play with himself, too. We still enjoy regular sex, but I think this adds a new dimension. 

Tonight, I plan to put on a porn DVD and ask him to let's just play with ourselves while we watch. I usually suck him off for a while and then we end up doing doggie so both of us can still watch the DVD. I think that if I ask him to let's watch and masturbate, that then I can see at what point he gets really turned on—see what he likes, and he can see what I like about the porn. Maybe it will give us some new ideas, too. 

I often wake up in the middle of the night and masturbate, masturbate when I wake up, a couple of times during the day, and even after we fuck, I still want to masturbate. Sometimes my husband masturbates me, and sometimes he lets me pleasure myself. It's all good!

From Anonymous
I like jerking off in front of my wife, but one of my favorite methods involves a bit of danger. When I'm really in the mood and she's not, she'll take me out on the front porch in the dark and kiss, suck, and rub me until I'm really turned on. Then she'll take off my clothes and go inside with them, locking me out with only a bottle of lotion. The only way I can get back in is to go some 150 feet out into the yard where I have to jerk off, then retrieve a key which she has previously hung on a fence, and do all this without getting caught. The danger of being seen really adds to the experience and makes me come very quickly.

From Lara
I have been married twice and masturbated during both marriages. Now im on my own I still do it I love to stroke my clit for hours stopping every so often so I can make it last as long as possible. When I was married my hubby used to love watching me do this. I could be just sitting watching tv and playing with myself and he would take out his cock and start stroking himself too. So I don't think it matters if your married or single if you enjoy masturbating (oh and I do) well then just go for it.

From Star
I can understand what "Me" says about manipulating her boy friend's penis. [see Me's entry below] This is the same method my wife uses to reach orgasm. It's masturbating using my penis as her tool.

After 38 years of marriage, she seems to have lost interest in foreplay, kissing and necking, etc. Our routine usually begins with an afternoon shower, normally, Sunday afternoon.

I finish showering first and get the KY Jelly, tissues, etc., on the bedside table. After she's finished showering, she'll join me in our bed, apply her KY and almost immediately asks me to mount her, missionary style.

She commences to use my penis to very lightly massage her clit and vagina entrance area. I am not circumcised and there is a 'Dime sized' florette of soft, loose skin gathered around the very tip of my erect penis. She uses that bunch of loose foreskin to very softly touch and massage herself.

As she begins to arouse, the pace picks up and the pressure she uses becomes somewhat more firm. After three or four minutes, she is moving my penis very rapidly, with short, very light strokes, softly caressing the entire area within her slit.

She begins breathing heavily, gripping my thighs with her legs. She moves my penis ever faster until she comes. When she can no longer tolerate the light rubbing on her now ultra-sensitive clit, she simultaneously retracts my foreskin and thrusts upward to take me inside her. She holds tightly for a few moments and then it's over.

I'm then left to make myself reach orgasm by thrusting into her as she lays quietly and patiently until I finish. The entire process takes perhaps five or six minutes. She uses tissues to wipe herself and immediately leaves the bed and begins dressing.

I'm satisfied, but somehow feel that I've been used for her pleasure and satisfaction. ...for her masturbation. I miss the kissing, petting, necking, holding, ......sigh.

From Me
My wife loves to watch me masturbate. Lately, I've started coming on her tits. Last time, I masturbated furiously, my cock inches from her face and came all over her tits. I sucked on her nipples got my mouth and lips nice and creamy and then french kissed her while she masturbated. Next, I want to come on her face. I know she will let me.

From Robert
I have been masturbating since I was about 12 and I had my first ejaculation as a result of standing against the washing machine! I have a good sex life but still masturbate at least once a day and sometimes up to 5 times. I do this mostly naked, sometimes in the shower and sometimes at night if I am driving and I feel particularly horny. 

I find coming when I masturbate so relaxing, different from penetrative sex, as I can be much more in control and I can decide if I want to come quickly or take a long time. Sometimes I can masturbate for an hour or more, that feels great. I'd love to masturbate with my wife and help her and she help me but it's not her thing.

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