Naughty Pictures or Sexy Words
Which works for you?

Conventional wisdom says men are aroused by visual stimuli, and women are aroused via the written word. Is this true? We suspect it's simply stereotypical blathering.

What are the differences between how men and women are aroused? Which is it that gets you aroused - naughty pictures or sexy words?

For women, the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time.  —Isabel Allende

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From Stacy
No question about it...sexy words do it for me.  Most of the porn my husband likes to watch is hard core...they meet and start fucking and that's it.

I have several favorite authors of erotica that get me so hot and wet, sometimes if my husband isn't around to take care of me, I just go ahead and take care of myself.

From Jill
Female 40 here.  Naughty pictures, sometimes the more hardcore the better.  But ohhhh sexy words...I just love it when a man says things to me in bed that I would slap them for in any other situation.

I love for him to say such things as "You're just my slut aren't you?", "You're just dying for my big cock to hit that cervix aren't you?", "Suck my cock bitch like your life depended on it", "You're just my little fuck whore aren't you?", "Get on your knees, lick my balls and beg for my cock".  Oh the list goes on. 

Likewise, when I say things to him like "Fuck me harder with your big cock", "May I please lick your balls, suck that big cock and take your cream in my throat", "You love fucking your whore", or his fav "Shoot that cum in my pussy to mark your territory". 

Is it me or is it getting hot in here?

From Pat
My wife and I have been married for over 30 years and enjoy our sex more today than ever before. Part of that is her modeling for me. I guess I have about 500 photo shots of her and 6 DVD's, mainly stockings and lingerie shots but I have some great d-i-y porn of her and a very horny young black guy I shot about five years ago, the two of them enjoying themselves with some pretty uninhibited stuff, good for me to see my wife being very horny, with mouth, pussy and anus fucked by such a sexy young guy.  Run on our big wall mounted screen this is her favorite as well as mine and never fails to arouse us big time with some great sex to follow.  So, for us, it is pictures every time.

From K
Both turn me on but I LOVE for my boyfriend to talk to me. I prefer for him to bend me over and take me from the back while making comments like "take this dick" or similar comments. The dirty talk turns me on. I also enjoy watching DP's but have not found a way to cue my boyfriend on my desire to watch it while in the act

From Franco
 I would have to say that both pictures and words do it for me. They both turn me on. Whether I go with pictures or words depends on what the situation is. If what I want is some quick satisfaction, then I will go with pictures.

Seeing beautiful naked women will get my cock nice and hard fast. My preference is seeing a woman spreading her legs, showing me a hairy pussy. I enjoy all pussy, but I really love a hairy pussy. As soon as I am hard, I will masturbate till I shoot my load.

On the other hand, if I feel like taking my time, I love reading sexy and dirty stories/words that turn me on slowly. Once I am hard, I keep on reading, then when I can't take it anymore, it's time to masturbate.

When I am with a woman, it is a great turn on to have her talk dirty to me. If she tells me to eat her hairy cunt, and that she wants my cock in her mouth, or to fuck her hard, wow, that is a big turn on. In fact, the previous entry from the reader talking about her hairy pussy, that was very erotic. [see Lush's entry below]

From Lush
For me, it's definitely words. So I told my boyfriend my deepest secret. I needed to hear the dirty words from him about my black cunt hair which I personally feel is so provocatively lewd and obscene looking on any woman. I needed to be praised, loved and scolded by his deep, sexy British baritones for being such a naughty, lazy girl and having so much black cunt hair growing so wantonly on my pussy. I needed to hear him threaten to expose my lewdly hairy, messy, urine scented vagina to friends and a hostile public. I needed him to say aloud how much he adored my secret, sexual cunt hair which I consider to be the most private, taboo part of my body.

Our private talk can be laughably infantile, but it works for me. I want to be called "baby", "kitten" and "puss". Shamelessly, we can make dialogue like, "Kitten, you naughty girl, have you been exposing your secret, black sex hair to other men? Why haven't you shaved your pussy? Your cunt hair is rough like brambles and so full of lice. Daddy will have to give you an enema and put a butt plug in your rosy ass hole. Then you're going to go doggy on your hands and knees, spread that oozing, stinky pussy to my face while I sit and pick lice from your disgracefully unladylike black bush. Afterwards, if you're good, i'll apply red lipstick on your hairy pussy lips to make them look prettier. Then, oh baby, then I'm going to fuck your black haired, gaping twat so hard, you'll scream for mercy."

Dirty words about my hairy private parts totally gets me going. I admit our dialogues don't happen as often as I'd like because he works punishing hours but when it does happen, it's magic.

From William Scape
I used to buy porn magazines when I was younger. Those pictures don't really excite me anymore. I could write about having sex with any woman and get aroused. I have a vivid imagination and that's what helps me achieve the maximum effect.

Pictures should leave a little to the imagination. Porn magazines don't do that. Whenever I look at a bikini model or swimsuit edition, I am always thinking to myself "what does she look like naked?" Porn pics are all "in your face" leaving the imagination nothing to play with.

I love words, I love being able to sit down and play with words and come up with stories on the fly. I do that a lot on a daily basis. Unlike xxx images, my stories seem to stick with me. I have a mental hard drive full of so many stories I've written, thoughts I've had, etc.

Give me a photo of a Latina covered in whipped cream, then give me a photo of a Latina with her legs open holding a pocket rocket. I will look at the Latina in cream and get more out of it, maybe even come up with a 2 page erotic story. The xxx photo however, won't really give me anything to dig a hole with.

From Wild Angel
For this 53 year old female; Between pictures and words? Words. Definitely.

Having read through previous responses, actually the category breaks down further; Naughty Pictures, Sexy Words, or Erotic Writing. Perhaps the question was meant to compare pictures and writing, because they are both virtual realities. Then you would compare Sounds to Sight. (as in; the breathy moan of your partner, vs the sight of their face contorted with pleasure)

I believe that (for the most part) men are high on the visual stimulation scale, and women are higher on the written stimulation scale.

When I was younger, I did my share of watching Adult movies, and looking at Erotic photos. And there are still some photos that send a zing through my senses. But as someone earlier pointed out, usually it has to be less of a photo of graphic sex than a photo that shows true intimacy, or a connection of the partners, or an appreciative artistic visual of the human body.

But reading an erotic story can almost always get some kind of sexual humming going in my body.

From Frank
I'm a 45 yr old man, and words definitely work better for me.

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