Oral Sex For Her: Cunnilingus

Talking with your tongue

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From June
What a precious gem the Internet brought forth, when being very horny I typed in Oral Sex and found this site! As a female who adores a man's mouth on her stuff, I was pleased to see that a few men know where it's at. I'd like to offer one of my favorites. I call it the 'peek-a-boo.'

I like to be started off preferably on a couch with my lover on his knees in-between my legs. I like him to push my skirt up very high until my panties are exposed. Then I like him to slowly lick and kiss his way up. Emphasis on SLOW. When he finally gets to my crotch, I want him to slide my hips forward, part my legs just enough for him to get his head in, then put his mouth on my pussy and just breathe. The feel of hot breath and lips there begins my descent into ecstasy. Then I want him to kiss and nuzzle it for awhile. Basically, I want him to make out with my pussy. This relaxes me and gets my pussy creamy in no time.

Once my juices start oozing out, I like him to slide the crotch of my panties to one side and hold it there. My pussy is usually on fire at this point and the cool air of exposure takes my breath away. The pressure of the elastic of my panties as he holds it to one side really increases my pleasure. Now the tip of his tongue can make magic. This position also plumps and squeezes the folds of my pussy so that when his tongue begins to lick and flick the sensation really gets my clit throbbing. It's like my clit is hiding and the harder he tries to get at with his tongue, the more intense the pleasure. The more he pulls on my panties the hotter I get because now the panties feel really tight around my ass too and I love that feeling. It's like my pussy is peeking out of its hiding place and his tongue has to lick and slide in the folds. This causes a man's tongue to be very stiff and firm.

I usually start grinding my hips at this point, a signal that my throbbing clit needs to be sucked. Tugging on the elastic really plumps me into a perfect position for sucking and once his mouth and tongue start, I'm getting close to blasting off and when I do, oh my... it is the best thing ever. Now he can take my panties off. In the time it takes him to do that, my clit is ready for more action and I'll have as many orgasms as he's willing to provide.

Give this a try. If she doesn't like it she'll tell you. But if she's like me and loves pressure on her clit, eat her with her panties on for starters. You'll give her amazing pleasure!

From Anonymous
Men should realize how much pleasure a woman gets from having her pussy licked and sucked. Oral sex is different for us. When men get sucked, they feel powerful and dominant. Oral pleasure for women makes us feel submissive. Whenever a man puts his head between my legs, the feeling is so awesome that all I can feel is tremendous gratitude that he is doing this for me. 

I've been very fortunate in this area and have had some masterful pussy eaters. Nothing is better than a hot tongue licking your pussy, followed by fleshy lips sucking your clit. Swirling and flicking of the tongue is great too, and you must take your time. I have a warm place in my heart for every man that has given me delicious orgasms from oral sex. 

The feel of a hungry mouth between my legs puts me in a trance from which I'm only released when I ride the wave of a powerful back-arching orgasm. At that point I want to be fucked stupid. A man can practically do anything he wants with me after eating my pussy to orgasm. Men, if you truly want to dominate and control a woman, learn to make magic with your mouth and tongue. Most women love this. I know I do.

From Patrick
When I eat a female's pussy I take my time and kiss and lick her legs, belly, mound, thighs, etc. I lick every thing except her pussy lips! I take my time and make sure she is very wet. I lick her very slow from her asshole and move up close to her pussy lips. 

I open her lips a bit and tell her to hold them open. They always do this. I start to lick deep inside of her while she holds herself open. Then I take one hand and place her fingers on her pussy. I tell her to finger fuck herself while I lick her from her asshole to her clit. I stop her and lick her fingers a few times. They always love that.

While she is finger fucking herself, I lick deep and slow. I hold both of her ass cheeks in both hands and kiss and lick till she humps, moans and comes hard.

From Mikki
I only see my lover once every other month or so because we live 900 miles apart. We chat every evening via IM and it is wonderful but nothing compares to actually being with him. His tongue - Oh his tongue - is just magical. He teases me via IM all the time, telling me what he wants to do with his tongue and oh that turns me on and I find my clit hard and throbbing and my pussy so wet.

He licks and kisses and nibbles his way up my legs until he is lying between them. When we're not together just the image I have in my mind seeing his head between my legs gets me all hot and bothered!

I want so desperately to have a mirror next time we're together so I can see what on earth he is doing to me. He starts out by gently licking and kissing my pussy lips. I can just barely feel his mouth and tongue and lips but oh my god it is so good ....

He next proceeds to just barely touch my clit with his tongue and that sends my hips pounding against his face. He is persistent - he alternates between feathery touches with his tongue to sucking my clit like it's a cock ... then when he takes a finger and starts to fuck my cunt - this is usually when I start to gush into his mouth and I hear him moan with pleasure - his tongue and lips continue assaulting my clit and pussy then when he starts to finger fuck my asshole it is like nothing I've ever experienced. He is relentless - I know he'd be content to eat me literally for hours - and I continue to come, filling his mouth with my hottt jizz - over and over again....

From Rick
I appreciate the thoughts from "Incredulous" [see entry below] about buying a book, but I've got several already. As far as reading it or any of the books that I already have purchased, my wife won't read them cause she has a guilt trip about reading erotica. I'm trying to work on this with her, to explain that there is nothing wrong with learning more about your partner.

As far as the bruising of the nose, it is her that is pushing down on my nose, cause she likes the intense pressure, I guess due to her clit being somewhat small and hidden, and/or she is really bucking.

My techniques (once I get down there) are very similar to the third paragraph described by "jho" in her entry below. I use extra fingers to tease her anus as well as one or two inside her vagina, plus my tongue moving at the same time.

I'll give it a shot without so much nose pressure, and whenever I can get the job done without bruising, she'll feel better about the next time. The reason she pushes me away is that she is embarrassed about her liquid discharge, not the pain of the pressure.

From Incredulous
Rick, surely you're kidding us. [see Rick's entry below] You've got to realize that in bruising your nose digging around for your wife's clit is also bruising her? It's little wonder she's pushing you way. 

There's plenty of ways, various positions, to reach a deep clit without hurting yourselves. Get yourself a How-To book, try "Box Lunch: The Layperson's Guide to Cunnilingus" by Diana Cage, [Available at Amazon.com / Amazon UK / Amazon CA] the best cunnilingus guide ever to hit the shelves. Read it together, it's the way I found out what my wife really likes.

From Rick
I love to perform oral sex on women, and see, feel, and hear their reaction. I've only been with my wife of 35 years in a monogamous relationship since we first got married. She used to love it, but now she seldom allows me to even get close to her navel before she pulls me away. If I ever do get down there, she enjoys it immensely, but just at the time of orgasm she pushes me away (a big turn-off for me). I guess she's embarrassed with some fluid discharge at the time, but I love it an have told her so. Her clitoris is somewhat buried and it takes a lot of pressure to get there, so my nose ends up bruised the day after, and for about one more day. She says she is embarrassed by the bruising of my nose, and thinks everyone that sees me will "know" what was going on. I keep telling her that if anyone ever asks (they haven't), I'll just tell them that I bumped it in the garage.

Doesn't make any difference to her. She's set in her ways and seems to be "cooling off" even though she has had great orgasms occasionally sitting on my face. Again, I still love it, but she has this guilt trip of having done something wrong at the time.

Not sure where this will end up, but I may have to encourage her for some couple counseling, and maybe a bit of testosterone therapy. A bit frustrated here.

From Ghost Rider
There's nothing I like better than a session of good oral sex with my other half. If we have the time to indulge in the preparations, I first like to talk her into letting me give her a shave or a good trim. Then I go run a good hot tub of water and use bath salts or bubble bath and get her to let me give her a bath. It has a good erotic effect on both of us. After drying her off, I like to give her a good body massage, using oil. Between the bubble bath and the massage I get her really relaxed. 

I then like to start some foreplay and start kissing her around the ears and neck. I progress down to kissing all around her breast, over the top, underneath, in the valley between her breast, and finally start kissing and sucking the nipples. I slowly work down from her breast, kissing all of the body to her stomach. I then turn her over and start kissing around her neck again and work down to her waist again. By taking my time, I usually have goose-bumps standing up all over her. I love to move down to her legs and ankles. I start kissing up her legs and by the time I get to her clit and labia she is well lubricated and ready for me to kiss and play with her. 

After playing a while I like to start sucking on her labia and move up to her clit. Man, when she goes off, it makes me feel 10ft tall just knowing that I did that to and for her. It is well worth running the risk of getting a cauliflower ear to have the pleasure of enjoying oral sex with her and knowing I cause her to have this kind of enjoyment.

From J.T. Benjamin:
As I throw in a couple of commemorative copper engravings of the Great Emancipator, (.02 cents, that is), let me say the idea of orally driving my lover orgasmically insane is a big turn on for me, (and for her, obviously). I take great pride in my cunning skills, so let me give the low down on how to go down.

1. It's not just a pussy down there, it's a whole lot of wonderful things. There's the pussy itself,  the very sensitive lips, the clitoris, the little  knob just below the clit, the anus, all kinds of  fun things to do in that happy little playground. I like to pay special attention to each, going from  one to another, making the rounds, then coming back again, lingering a little longer, going somewhere else, and then back yet again. Not just with my  tongue, either. My hands are always busy, too. For example, while I tongue her clit, I might also be stroking her g-spot with my finger, or maybe playing with her anus simultaneously.

2. Comfort is important, of course. Lately, I've been propping my lover's ass on a pillow while she lies on  her back, elevating her hips slightly to allow easier access. I lie on my stomach.
3. I take my time, too. I don't know about six hours, though. Thirty minutes is about the most my lover can stand before she grabs me by the hair and demands that I fuck her.

4. My all-time endurance record was one hour. My all-time frequency record was 23 orgasms before she lost count (Swearing on a Bible, here.) As far as intensity goes, she's fallen to the "little death" twice while I've been between her legs.

5. Most importantly, I talk with my lover about what she wants, what she likes, and what she doesn't like, and I obey her every whim.

I've read this over and I admit it sounds like I'm bragging. I don't mean to. What I'm trying to say is that I love to give cunnilingus, and my lover loves receiving it. I work very hard to find and do things that please her in  bed, and she says that I'm successful at them. Frankly, (and now I am bragging,) we both think our sex life is fantastic.

That's my two cents.

From Trish
John is absolutely right! [see entry below] Become the pussy! There's no greater pleasure than to receive the appreciation of a man's mouth all over my pussy. It shows an indescribable craftiness I must admit, a lot of men don't have. By the way, the way I score my SO has been in the time he takes to prepare me for my "treat", and if he's doing it just for me or for us. Creativity always gets bonus points.

From John
As for tips, I have just one: get into it! Lose yourself in the act. Every woman that I've ever discussed this with has informed me that they can tell when their partner is enjoying him/herself. I believe that is the key. Devour. Taste. experience. BECOME the pussy. Use the force Luke.

From Pussywillow
There is nothing better than having your lover spread your pussy lips wide and admire you in all your glory before proceeding to lick and suck. If he is patient, it is all the better...not diving for your clitoris like it was a magic button...but licking the folds of your flesh and sucking them into his mouth. Deep penetrative kisses with his mouth and tongue will open your pussy to him. At this point, he may be wise to slide a finger or two into you slowly, curling them towards your pubis. You may be well pleased to lift your hips and gyrate with his movements. He will lap and suck with each thrust you take. 

Moaning and crying out only serve as encouragement for him to continue. Let him gauge your pleasure through your sounds. He'll feel just as rewarded as you. Rock against him, swivel your hips, press his tongue hard against your clit...it's all good. Have him fuck you with his fingers, adding more as you become more aroused. And for God's sake...Watch! Nothing is more exciting than to see him devouring you eagerly...his head bobbing between your legs...mmmm.

From Darkeyeddemon
Performing oral sex on a woman I am greatly attracted to is as great a sexual experience for me as any other. I enjoy the responses, the smells, and the closeness. Also it gives me a sense of control and accomplishment. It's a mutual power trip if both are equally involved.

From jho
After reading an exceptional entry from slokiss I just wanted to add my thoughts, from a girls view, on the topic. I don't feel that having a man go down on you is a privilege in itself. What is a privilege is having an educated experienced man going down and savoring every bit of you.. Now that's explosive. I myself have no trouble reaching multiple orgasms from oral sex, if done right! There are too many men walking the planet out there, clueless. Slokiss' description of what a lady likes is indeed what a lady WANTS! Teasing is good, very good. Taking it slow and driving your partner insane is what its all about. I can cum in less than 2 minutes. But is there any reason to rush? Bad oral sex is just that...bad! Take your time, enjoy your lady and she will be convulsing and begging for more. Having shared my thoughts its only fair I share my wants and needs as well.

I am divorced but I must say my ex was incredible in this department. I love nothing more than for a man to slowly lift my skirt and tease me thru my wet panties with his whole face and tongue. Slowly moving them aside...Gently caressing my clit with his nose and tongue. I prefer the erratic licking and tonguing, instead of a repetitious mechanical tongue. Its all about the teasing. One minute its there and the next its somewhere else...

Fingers are good but I found that a tongue is more of a turn on. I really like his nose moving back and forth on my clit while he is F@ck*ng me with his tongue. Feels like 2 tongues ladies. I do say, ask your guy to do this. There is also a certain electric shock that rivets right down my legs when my clit is sucked gently on and off. Right there that is where I start grinding my hips and lifting up off of whatever it is I am lying on. Right before I am coming, that is when I like a finger just hanging around by my wet pussy caressing its entrance I have been told how fantastic it is to actually feel it pulsing. Just when I am about to explode, I like that finger deep inside me thrusting back and forth while my clit is being nibbled and kissed. I tell ya there is nothing better than good head. I look forward to finding that special man who can make me feel this way again, and when I do I will kiss the ground he walks on.....

From Anonymous
Last night after a long hot bath where I had gently teased my pussy, my husband laid my towel wrapped body on my chaise lounge and spread my legs. He had never done this before and the unusualness of it made it seem more erotic. After he spread my legs he buried his face against my pussy and took a deep breathe. Then he gently parted my private lips with his fingers and gently kissed the whole area. I rocked against his mouth wanting more. He slowly licked my clit and rimmed his tongue around my vagina. His slowness aroused me greatly and soon had me begging for his cock. He teased me with a finger slightly inserted and continued to gently lick. I had a magnificent orgasm against his mouth. Bath time has taken on a whole new meaning.

From Tetsuo
Quite possibly the best thing on the planet. I only wish when I had a partner to experience this with, we weren't in such a hurry to get it over with. These days, I am eager, ready and willing, but the problem is finding someone to do it to. Life is just too busy, and the right one just hasn't come along. Don't get me wrong, it's not a matter of morals, it's a matter of taste. I'm picky about my food, I'm picky about my women. If I can't respect them, then I can't sleep with them.

From Tony
response to Slokiss [see Slokiss entry below] man you are a lifesaver I tried everything u said on my girlfriend and she loved it. In return I got the most intense blowjob of my life. Since that day we have woke each other up either with me going down on her or her on me. U know your stuff man.

Also I have a trick. While in the stage where your really trying to get her to cum hard for u, try sticking your thumb in her pussy and your ring or middle finger up her ass. Then make them meet while tonguing her clit, going at the same speed with your tongue as u do with your fingers. Now don't just all of the sudden stick your finger in her ass, because this method does not work for most girls, and even if it does if it's there first time it can be a shock. First tongue her cheeks and hole a little bit and if all goes as plan she'll start to shift her hips and arch her back in a way that the hole is easier to access for you. This shows that she is expecting it and all ship are ready to go as it were.

And remember a women's pleasure is derived from a lot more than just her pussy. explore her entire body with your tongue and hands. Ice is on of my personal favorite ways to get a girl in the mood. But, anyways my point is I've personally dated women that u could make orgasm by barely touching their pussy, simply because of the way u touch the rest of her. And my biggest advice is, LEARN HOW TO MASSAGE! Don't just learn one way to massage either. Just like sex some women like it hard and fast and some like it soft and slow, and often these two coincide. I've found that if my girl isn't in the mood, after a sensual full body massage she is. Hope this is helpful.

From Anonymous
I am very happy to hear that there are other men out there that enjoy eating pussy, as much as I do. Before I was married, I had a many marriage proposals due to my pussy eating skills! Now that I am married, not a day goes by that I don't think about eating my wife out...I love to wash my whole face in my wife's pussy and sometimes I enjoy smell by sticking my nose in the kitty and inhaling. Needless to say this makes me HARD as a rock....Kudos to all the pussyeaters out there and keep pleasing your women...

From Neil
Well, well. I have been more fascinated with eating a woman than just about anything else sexually, for all my adult life. It is in fact more pleasing to me than my own getting off (well OK, almost). While I have been given many compliments on my technique and the results, I still feel that I could do much better, if I had more direct instruction, and perhaps more practice. And, as does AJM [see entry, below], I have a particular fascination with a female backside. I am quite positive this area needs further study and research.

From R
It was always hard for me relax when a man, including my ex, went down on me. I always felt I was taking too long to come. Maybe it was the technique. I also thought my cunt was rather ugly, and I was embarrassed so maybe that has something to do with it. I'd like for another opportunity to try though!

From Liz
I'm 50 and hubby is 52 and we enjoy active sex. I enjoy fellating my husband (and swallowing) but expect in return him providing me with not just bags of TLC when sucking me but also a good technique that reflects his desire to go down on me and want to love me with his lips, teeth, tongue and to bring me off lovingly in his mouth. 

I hate being rushed and expect my husband to make love to me at my pussy with his mouth just as I do when I suck his cock. I am not an expert but get the distinct impression that oral sex is a one-way street for most men - the few men I've experienced in recent years (in addition to my husband) are not very interested in cunnilingus but arrogantly expected me to fellate them. The fact that I did (and enjoyed it) indicates that too many women are not prepared to demand a pleasurable and satisfying oral in return from the man they are sucking.

From Mansa
My husband loves to suck on my cunt. When we watch movies at night, he usually sits on floor between my legs and I gently brush his hair. Often times he turns his head around and dives under my skirt. I get the signal what he wants and spread my legs a little and move my cunt close to his face. He just pushes my panty aside if I am wearing one. His warm juicy lips touch and soon start sucking my cunt. He gradually pushes his face in and sucks my cunt while making sounds like 'umm,ummm". I find it hard to resist and my hand automatically presses his head inside. I wipe my juices from his mouth when he is done and resume watching movie. 

After a while, I lay on floor, my head between his legs and suck his cock while he watches movie. Sometimes when too tired from work, I fall asleep with his cock in my mouth. He loves that.

From SuperMan
Here is what I do. I like to start at the top by kissing all over her neck, then playing around her ear and back of the neck. Then work my way down to her tits and circle around them over and over finally working to the nipples and gently stroking them with my tongue, also during all this I try to use my hands to keep rubbing her waist and thighs. Then I like to keep kissing and licking her stomach from side to side .. and then I like to lick right over the panties for a while ... and then finally taking them off and then sliding the tongue down her thighs up to her knees and then coming back up and back down several times while my hands are moving around her butt and waist. 

Then I like to get really close to the pussy and kiss the thighs from side to side going over the pussy and breathing but not really touching it ... I keep doing this and get so close to the pussy that she things I am about to touch it but I don't .. and then I will just breath really hard on it like I am about to attack it and then I blow some air on it and lick the thighs again .. and then I like to lick the pussy lips for a while and play with the vaginal opening for a long time and then I will go back to the thighs and keep playing with her as if I was getting close to actually licking the clit until she doesn't expect it .. and then I go right above the clit and lick it softly .. by now she is grabbing my head and forcing it down on her clit .. keep working softly above it and then move down slowly with your tongue until you are right below the tongue and then flick it up hard .. she will moan here definitely .. which really turns me on to keep going at the clit and few more soft strokes at the clit and she is having it.

From Nick
Can I make a plea? It may sound like male chauvinism but I dig ladies who completely shave their pussies. I love cunnilingus, always have done, but not when the pussy is lost somewhere in a forest of thick pubic hair that gets in teeth, on the tongue, at the back of the throat choking me to death! 

My wife has kept her pussy fully shaven since just after we got married in mid 80s and says her enjoyment is a thousand times better than when she didn't shave. I am able to kiss, lick, suck inside and outside her pussy and please her a lot longer than those awful old hairy days and I've managed to give her orgasms on a number of occasions thanks to my uninterrupted appreciation of her pussy. 

She says it's fun to check the look of surprise on another guy's face, sucking her through panties to start with, then removing them to find her fully shaven, a sight they obviously don't expect that is both sexy and exciting! From experience I know that my wife's fully shaven pussy mode is not common. So, why are ladies loathed to shave?

[Editor's Note: Nick, check out the entries in To Shave or Not to Shave... for a variety of opinions about shaving.]

From nlj
I dunno about technique. Eating pussy to me is like a kid eating a great big slice of watermelon. I just aim to get my face as wet as possible.

From George
I was in an accident when I was 28 years old that broke my spinal cord and my back, so I am paralyzed from the waist down. I though that sex was all over for me. I thought that I was a pretty good lover BEFORE my accident. How wrong I was. I found that I am now able to please a woman better than before the accident. The pleasure that I receive too....is a thousand times more than what it was before my accident. I would also surprise myself too at times. 

That one guy that was talking about six hours of doing that? Well, I wasn't counting the hours or keeping a log of any sort but I once spent an entire week with one lady. She was eventually my wife and also the most exotic woman I have ever been with to date. I never tired of making love her.

I am now 57 years old. I have not been with any woman since she passed away over 6 years ago. I would love to find myself in another relationship with a woman that really love "receiving" oral sex. I would go anywhere on earth to find a lady like that.

I haven't dated, because there is just too much going around for me or anyone to be hopping from bed to bed in search of this lady of my dreams. I really have to "know" a woman to be able to make that kind of love to her. Like several people said in the articles that I read, to "become the pussy" to try to anticipate, to know what she wants next, or more of, or less of. That really takes knowing that woman. And that is a lifetime project that I look forward to should I ever meet a lady like that again in my lifetime. 

2. Hold her feet while you eat. Not too long, fingers are useful, but in the early stages, if you softly hold and massage both feet for a few minutes, this gives her the confidence to play with your head or change her position. Kiss soft at this time and when the little interlude is over, you'll both be in the right frame of mind to move on to phase two.

3. And a little feedback if you please...I don't think my girl was too into oral sex pre-me, she likes it now but not like some ladies I know who will walk up to you in mid-afternoon, slip up their skirt and emboldenly insist on you having a taste of their sweetness. Is it possible to change a girl from shy to a "lift a leg and brush her lips against yours every other day" kind of girl?

From Lis-uhh:
After reading the entire section on female felatio I felt the need to add another two cents. The art of going down on a woman totally depends on how much a man is into it. If he's not into, he's not going to do a good job no matter how many moves he has.

My husband was quick to perform such acts while we were dating, but after the nuptials about a year ago, he hasn't been quite as eager. So, one night I handed him the electric razor, hopped up on the dining room table, spread my legs wide and waited with anticipation.

He left for a moment, returning shortly with another razor, and with the slowest motions possible shaved off every hair I had. Once he was done, he slowly and methodically rubbed flavored oils over every inch of my baldness. He lifted one leg then the other over his shoulder and began what turned out to be about 3 hours of the best oral sex I have ever had! His tongue knew no shame. It swirled, and tickled and flicked every inch of skin that is there! He was like a pianist with his fingers, working every square inch of my pussy. Slow, then fast. Hard then Soft.. I moaned in ecstasy over and over and over. Once I could not move another muscle, he slowly entered me and slowly made love to me, all of the time whispering my name. I will never forget that night, and felt that it was due the recognition it deserved by posting it here.

From Melissa
In steps new boy...man...god...if you will. It was strictly a physical attraction thing and he was amazing. As any man with real confidence and interest in pleasing women would, he realized straight-up that I was clueless the first time we were ever together. This I was a little embarrassed by, but he was awesome. He quickly reassured me that there was nothing to be embarrassed about, except for possibly my taste in selfish and insecure men. Then he very simply asked if he could give me a few lessons.

Needless to say I about jumped at this chance. That night, he flat out sat me down and went over every last detail of my anatomy and his - hands on. Then asked me what I wanted, would like... this kind of thing. Once again, sensing my inexperience and shyness...he took over and told/showed me some ideas ... i.e. oral sex.

Of course, every few minutes or so I'd start to get all weird about a man with his head between my thighs and would start to pull away, but he'd pull my hips back to him and tell me relax and just kind of nuzzled me for a few minutes until I calmed back down. He didn't hum, kiss, bite, lick, lap, spell the alphabet...anything. Just kind of nuzzled and occasionally would say something about how cool it was that I'd let him teach me all this and how lucky he was. All of it was mind blowing. He spent all that time just helping me relax. No fancy techniques. No weird positions. No fast hard movements.

Once he knew I was very comfortable with all this and wasn't going anywhere, he got down to business and would do all the little techniques you've heard and read about a thousand times, BUT (emphasis) he always, always, always would go back to the nuzzling, rubbing his cheeks across my thighs, kissing my belly or talking to me a little between the orgasms or teasings.

This, my friends, is the secret to any kind of sex and it has to do with understanding not what she says, but what she is feeling and what she wants to feel. And from personal experience, even when its not your first time with this girl....act like it is. Go over every detail of her body ... inside and out ... slowly ... softly with your hands and lips....there is no particular order.... then NUZZLE her until she is totally relaxed ....now you can start your fancy maneuvers and strokes... but always remember, you don't want to seem like your goal is to just MAKE her orgasm...look at your mouth and hands more as catalyst for her relaxation and ultimately her euphoria.

For the first time in my life I completely let myself be taken care of by a man. It was the single greatest lesson in my life, one that I absolutely love to learn over and over again. And to be honest, the two men in my life who have been able to understand all this....I absolutely worship/ed....not to mention want/ed to do anything and everything for their pleasure also.

From Susan
One of the reasons I married my husband was because of his "pussy eating" ability. The first time we had oral sex I came so often I thought my heart would give out. This is one of the things he loves to do for me.

Once he starts down on me with that tongue of his, I'm know I'm in for it. That tongue just sets me over the edge. His tongue in my pussy and a well lubed finger in my ass, and I'm gone. I come so fast and so hard. I've even hypervenilated a few times.

I love that tongue so much I even wrote him a poem about it for a Valentine's gift. He travels a lot, so whenever he reads the poem, he thinks of me, knowing I miss him as much as I miss his tongue.

From FD
There's nothing I enjoy better than going down on her. It's the intimacy. It's the reactions I get, when her legs clamp around my head. It's the way it feels on my tongue--forget the taste, which is good enough, the *texture* of those parts on your tongue can't be beat.

She had a number of lovers before she met me, and I was the first guy that ever went down on her. I will never understand guys that don't perform cunnilingus on their ladies.

Fellatio, I like well enough, too, but cunnilingus is my favorite. The nectar of the Gods, it is.

From Gordon
It is wonderful....to do..to give...and to receive... I simply love and am turned on by a long slow process of kissing a woman from head to toe with very deliberate attention paid to her nipples and special place. Often this is accompanied with a firm body massage for her to worked out the stress and knots from working. I love to linger on her with my tongue, tasting her and drinking in her fragrance........wonderful. It is such a turn on to slowly feel her become relaxed....aroused....wanting...demanding....enjoying. Nothing better.

From Slokiss
I'm not posturing to be the expert on the art of eating pussy, but find that the line at my complaint window remains un-staffed. Not that that certifies me as an expert witness, but the jury would indeed be listening to the following discourse, and no doubt her honor would be squirming  in her seat.

Squirming, by the way, is a good thing.

1. Licking. It has been my experience that the licking is a forgotten art. For example, with her knees pulled up, there is the perfect opportunity to lick her "like a big dog". That's a University of Georgia back-woods-ism that translates to "with long slow hungry strokes"

Long delicious licks should be applied from her puckered anus to her clit...or from clit to anus if your role (as the eater) is that of a caboose (from behind). Now keep in mind, this is not a starting point, rather it is somewhere in the middle, no puns intended. There is something electric about what a woman does while in an advanced state of arousal that likens to receiving a shock when your tongue, or for the more adventuresome, a probing tongue, toys with her anus. She will "pulse" with every lap of your tongue.

You may even render a verbal chirp of surprise. To me the verbal expression along with the spasm of pleasure is a treat.

2. The fingers. Make DAMN sure your fingers and hands are clean and well groomed. I'm talking about no hangnails or poorly manicured fingers. Sharp edges on nails against the softest flesh on the planet do not mix well. It's a significant courtesy to be prepared to handle her most delicate parts, and so easy to accommodate.

3. Teasing. I'm talking about licking all around it while coming close enough to initiate a little body-roll on her part to follow your tongue. I have found that a wide, flat tongue sliding from her vaginal opening to her clitoris, can be a technique that will yield a stolen breath or two.

Largely overlooked is the satin soft crescent between her opening and clit.

This soft surface is most responsive to slow lingering strokes that almost include the clit itself...but not quite. Not yet. It seems all the press goes to clit-crushing kisses and probing tongues, but there is so much more to enjoy at the intersection of a woman's thighs.

The art of licking a pussy should include, as a subset of that pastime, the art of teasing the clitoris. Early on, the best lick is one that never touches her pearl.

You can prompt it to come to attention easy enough if you are patient and gentle, but that is only the initial phase of clit-teasing. They do respond nicely to soft little kisses from parted lips. Tongue is not necessary right away. Remember, we're not playing "beat the clock" here.

The natural instinct is to go right for the goods, digging under the clitoral hood to find her pearl and lick it until she pops her weasel.

Wrong. Well, it's right if you are in a rush, but it does her a disservice when you consider the results of a properly applied licking as the foregone alternative. I've noted that sliding the tongue up her inner lips then dodging to one side or the other in the vicinity of her clit is a nice touch. Slip upward beside it, up over the clitoral hood, pause for effect, and then slip down the opposite side. Do that several times and you will have her squirming nicely try to capture your tongue on "the spot" you are purposely ignoring. It's such a sweet agony she goes though when you take particular care in this endeavor.

If you are into squeals and the like, try biting her clitoral hood and the prize inside with your lips...no teeth, or game over. Do this while sucking her into your mouth and, at a minimum, you will get some kind of verbal response. Teasing is an investment in passion. The more you invest the greater the dividends.

4. Breathing. This is most important in the early stages of consuming a pussy. The heat of a man's breath on an untouched pussy is a good thing...not to mention the sensation I enjoy of feeling her heat on my face before any contact has been made.

Eating pussy is like an enjoying multiple course meal. You don't just gobble the meat course. There is wine to be sample and swished around in your mouth, there are numerous flavors and smells that change as her arousal progresses. If you tend to rollerblade through an art gallery, you miss most of the art in the process. My advice...slow down. Breathe.

Breathe on her pussy. There is nothing wrong with drawing a deep breath to savor her aroma and then exhaling it onto and into her soft thatch of hair, or onto the surface of a freshly shaved blossom. The letter discusses the sights, sounds, and smells. True, true, true. It's all to be enjoyed, and every sense should be involved.

5. Kissing pussy. Oh yes. One must kiss her pussy. The natural reaction of a man is to open his mouth and consume. Eating pussy properly is not done like the episodes we witness in many of the porn flicks.

There is no creativity in having the whole event centered around a tongue that swirls like an eggbeater, not that there isn't a time for beating some eggs.

I have come to learn and respect many techniques, but after you've seen the same approach with no variation, I find myself pitying the poor woman on the receiving end of a "mechanical" tongue. Hell, it's no wonder a woman fakes an orgasm on occasion. I'd fake one too just to get him to stop. The alternative would be to have her clit tefloned for protection. I suspect a pussy can get tired and sore too.

I tend to treat the whole event like a multiple act play, or a symphony with multiple movements. From the lifting of the curtain (edges of her dress/skirt) to the standing ovation and cries for encore - kissing is a frequent requirement. I have found that soft kisses with slightly parted lips (no tongue in the first act or two) will bring something to me that is most amazing. She will kiss me back...with her pussy. God... The trick is to develop a SLOW rhythm of kisses on the closed lips of her pussy. Do not separate them and dive right in. Kiss her. Kiss her softly. Kiss her slowly over and over. She will begin to swell and I can almost guarantee that she will be lifting her hips to meet the next kiss...and the next...and the next...and the one after that. I've coined the phrase of kissing her to infinity. That's how you do it. You'll know she is on the same page with you when you pause to linger with an extended kiss and she sticks with you, pressing upward to match your linger. Oh my...

Application of the tip of the tongue in a lightly grazing fashion will lead to her delight for sure. Try to be random in the earlier stages of this feast. Too many consistent rhythms show a lack of creativity and promote a predictability that can lead to boredom if this is a regular meal. If you are the analytical type, you can always count your kisses. In the event you are that twisted, you may consider dipping the tongue between those luscious lips of hers, probing, flicking, or lingering on every kiss-count that is equal to a prime number. Trust me she'll never pick up your technique and settle for thinking it is entirely random. I can't do that; I lose track of what's a prime number when I get over one hundred kisses. No matter, by then she tucked away in her own private delirium and can't remember her name, much less how many kisses have been given.

6. Singing. Yes, it is entirely possible to make her crazy by singing or humming into her pussy. Mind you, we are not blowing into her guys.

She is not a balloon, nor are you extinguishing the candles on a birthday cake.

The vibration from a low male voice can be a nice addition along with the soft brushing of moving lips. The letter suggests talking to her and telling her how much you love her body and her pussy. Oh yes. You must.

Try doing that with your lips in contact with hers. Moaning is good.

Exhale through your nose and moan deeply using your lowest baritone voice.

You tenors out there may have to add some tongue to supplement the rumble of a deeper voice.

You don't really have to speak loud enough for her to hear you. Just the act of speaking, the movement of your lips and the air escaping as you speak or whisper is enough to tickle her fancy.

7. Back to the fingers. I caution you to make sure she is aroused before using two in the event that all of her children were delivered by Caesarian, or if she has yet to deliver vaginally. Just because a woman is wet does not mean that she is fully aroused. She has an erection just like we do guys, only it is an internal event. Believe it or not, her clit is nearly as long as your cock, it's just that only the tip of it is external. Her erection is equivalent to yours, and the swelling of her clit is the only evidence that she is "up" or "fully erect".

Her clit, beyond the part you can see, parallels the roof (the front wall)

of her vagina. The letter references this. The area inside of her that is most sensitive, called the g-spot, is found from one to three inches inside her opening on the front-side of her vaginal wall. The surface area varies in size from an oblong patch the size of a dime to over an inch across (at least as far as my research has determined). It's not a magical button or a special secret knob to turn; it's an area on the surface of her skin.

Curling your fingers up behind her pubic bone from the inside will place you in the right spot. When she is fully aroused, the surface of the silken skin inside of her pussy has a rough pebbly texture to it in this special spot. I've even heard it described as horizontal ridges. The point is, it's not buried in the deepest nook of paradise, it's fairly near her opening, hence, you don't have to be an anteater with a 14" tongue, or be in possession of a 10" cock to please her.

The finger stimulation part was good. I prefer to slip inside with my palm facing up, like I was going to cup her pussy in my hand. To set the alignment correctly, try to rest your chin on the heel of your hand after your fingers are inserted. From there, you have access to her crescent, as well as her clit with your mouth and tongue, while positioning one or two fingers in the right place.

Now, addressing the question regarding whether to use one or two fingers.

Even the tightest woman can tolerate two fingers...BUT... for goodness sake, give her a chance to get "hard" too. It's even better to help her pop once by using only your mouth and tongue before using your fingers.

Introducing your fingers onto her g-spot after she's already had an orgasm can often hasten the next and the next...

The technique that I found to be most popular is to use my middle and ring fingers together, again, palm up. After inserting them, you can curl them slightly to add pressure to her sweet spot. Try "walking" them. Move them alternately, almost like you would move your fingers to tickle. This can be accomplished with either one or two fingers. She will go completely nuts over that. Combine that with a patient tongue and you will become the immediate hero.

A word of caution. If you make her too crazy, the bucking starts. Not that bucking is a bad thing, mind you. But consider the laws of physics...if she bucks and you are not fully in the saddle, you stand the risk of driving your front teeth through the soft skin on the inside of your upper lip against a wildly careening pubic bone. 

She will buck like the biggest bull and that is a sight to behold...and hold you must. You may have to forgo the finger thrusts and clutch her ass in both hands to keep from being thrown.

8. Multiples. Trust me, multiple orgasms are not rare because women can't have them, it's because their lovers aren't schooled in the art of assisting them in going there. Now there may be some of you who say, "Yeah right."

But hear me out. The best orgasm is the orgasm after the orgasm. It takes patience and the investment of time and attention to her body to accomplish this. A technique that has worked flawlessly for me requires some focused attention after her first orgasm. I've found that the longer you take delivering her into her first plunge from the high place, the easier it is for her to climb back up and jump (or be flung) from it again. It seems a properly attended woman can climb and climb and climb again. That's a good thing, however implications are that your jaw muscles and tongue can and will cramp over time. I know I've done a good job when I can feel sore muscles in my face and neck a day or so later.

Sorry, back to the process... After she has enjoyed her first flight, remain connected to her with your mouth. The letter mentions more pressure and/or sucking hard/harder on her clit. The accuracy of this advice will vary with the woman. Some get so sensitive after an orgasm that you can't touch her clit directly - it hurts. Even the most sensitive clit will respond to pressure, but I'm not encouraging crushing that little pearl right away after an orgasm until you know how her pussy responds. I'm suggesting that you add pressure a little bit at a time. To do this, keep the flat of your tongue in place squarely over her clit. She will be most appreciative that you are hanging in there, because her orgasm is not like ours. It's like the energizer bunny....keeps going and going...you know the drill.

In the event her clit is super sensitive, do not drag your tongue over it, leave it in place. Press into her. Chances are her hands are holding your head now anyway, and she is pulling you into her. Oh baby...I do love it when that happens. Yes...well...to continue.

If you move your whole head while pressing into her, keeping your tongue glued to her clit, you will witness an event that I've called "making her motor run". Her hips will start to gyrate slowly, grinding into your mouth, pressing against your tongue. Her clit will feel like a little nut, hard as stone. Keeping moving your head. Try small circles, so that the pressure of your tongue forces her clit into the same circular motion without actually moving your tongue against her (at least not yet). Eventually, you can hold your head still and she will continue to move against you with ever increasing urgency. If you are patient, you will feel her speed up and take the orgasmic plunge all by herself. Now THAT...is a rush for me.

Again, it varies with the woman, but you can take her to the high place again and never slide your tongue at all. As she starts to fly once more, move your tongue, or close your lips and suck her into your mouth. You may lose some hair when she snatches a handful or two, but hey...that's a good thing.

9. Who's on top? It is my opinion that any man who really loves to eat pussy has to be on the bottom at least some of the time. We're talking straddling your lover's face here ladies.

For variation, you may consider tying her wrists to the head board, but that's another story.

This technique involves some dialog. She has to know that straddling your face is something you love...a lot. Most importantly, she should be made to understand that your mouth is being offered to her as an instrument of her personal pleasure. Convince her to take her time and "use your mouth".

She should have to option of progressing through the event at her own speed and at her own pace. The whole objective here is for her to get off when and how she wants to get off while using your mouth, lips, and tongue.

Yes, this may sound kind of submissive, but it is far from it.

Personally, I'd submit to damn near anything to have a sweet pussy grinding away on my kisser, but would not consider myself a submissive by definition. Me thinks there is a big difference. If you (the guy, or the person on the bottom, not wanting to exclude the females who enjoy eating pussy) can be patient, and disciplined, and NOT reach for her, it will make a significant difference in her pleasure. Let her move on you. This is not about fucking her with your tongue. On the contrary, it's about letting her fuck your tongue with her pussy. Big difference here folks.

Experiment. Try extending your tongue and let her move on it. Remain perfectly still...inanimate even. Be it rolling hips, or a gyrating pelvis, it really does not matter, you will experience a woman giving herself pleasure using your mouth. Let her do it all. Forget what you want.

This time it's all about her. Let her go. Let her run. Let her walk. Let her rest on you and savor the sensations of her lover's hot mouth. Keep breathing through your nose, and offer a moan every now and again, the vibrations work whether on top or bottom. You will learn to appreciate a new definition of "grind". Oh my... For all intents and purposes, she will masturbate using your tongue. Woohoo. A human dildo...

10. Using your beard. I've been told that there is something special in the way a soaking goatee or beard is used as a brush that will make her crazy.

Now I've been known to spread slickery around on her thighs, belly and breast with a very wet goatee, so it is more than unsubstantiated rumor. If you have an aversion to getting "dirty", stay away from eating pussy. If you do it right, you will be wearing slickery for hours afterwards.

I tend to enjoy the feeling of a very swollen pussy that has opened like a morning flower to the heat of my mouth. If you have a beard or a goatee, it can become as slickery as you dare. Try moving your chin through her wetness and watch what happens. You know you are doing it right if you can come up for air and find yourself dripping. Oh my my my... 

From DarkVader
Cunnilingus rocks! Besides being a sure way to pleasure a woman I really care about, it helps make up for what I see as my own inadequacies in phallic size and stay power. The fact that most men on the side of the world I live in are grossed out by the very thought makes scoring for guys like me so much easier; flirting seems to accelerate to sex much faster whenever I send the message that oral pleasure is my specialty. 

On the few occasions I've had girls who turned down my offer for an oral during foreplay it turns out that they either 1) lacking confidence about how their vagina looks (or smells) 2) Don't like giving blowjobs and are afraid I may ask them to reciprocate. 

All in all, I think a quality oral is something every girl could do with.

From EmptyMan
To Tiffany and Heather: [see entries below] I love giving a woman oral sex. In fact, I love it more than intercourse. There's just something so erotic about being down there, tasting the essence of a woman's sex. The vagina is the most beautiful thing in the world. Plus, women's orgasms are just so powerful, and from what most women say, they have too few of them. So, I pride myself in being able to send a woman over the edge.

The flip side of the issue is how many women say they do not like giving blowjobs. This has been my experience. I've never gotten one, and would like nothing more than to have a woman bring me to orgasm through oral sex. But alas, my wife does not go down on me, and I'll never, never, never cheat on her, so I guess I'm out of luck. I hear blowjobs are awesome. Sigh!

From Chad
I love truly going down on a women! I get big pleasure and love the taste and smell of it. Women who read this, don't worry there are men who do love doing it.

From Rob
Speaking as a male, I have to say that I think I love giving oral at least as much as I love getting it; maybe more. Heather in Texas has been unlucky, perhaps, or has been given some misinformation; there really are guys out there who love to go down on their partners.

I had a woman tell me once that no woman enjoys giving head, either, and I've been told by any number of female friends that that's not the case, either. Trust me, Heather; lots of guys love cunnilingus! [see Heather's entry below]

From JM Davis
My first orgasm was when I was 17 and it was oral. It was wonderful. One marriage and one boyfriend later another lover went down on me and brought me to my second orgasm. I had only had orgasms during this time through masturbation.

In the late 70's I had a lover for 6 years that was the best at it. I was 49 and he was 25. I think of him often. Now I am a woman 70 years old. If a new lover's "language" isn't cunnilingus, we don't talk. I also like fellatio, big time, and enjoy sex very much.

I hope to have a partner to share oral sex and all lovemaking as long as I am able. It's a marvelous and wondrous thing and keeps us attached to one another.

From Anonymous
To Tiffany: [see entry below] You are exactly right when you said men really do enjoy oral. Even when a man knows he will not get intercourse, he still will want oral if she will let him. I only wish more women would let men have this pleasure like you did. 

As a woman you probably can't understand why we love to give women oral but once I discussed it with a gay woman and she felt exactly like us men feel and knew exactly why. You are wonderful for allowing the guy to have this pleasure and I only hope that you and other women will continue to give the guys the privilege of oral with you.

From Tiffany
I agree with Heather from Texas. [see Heather's entry below] But I do think there are a few men out there who do like going down on a woman. I've met quite a few and here's why I believe they enjoy it: they realize that unlike when men receive oral, when women are being tongued, they become completely submissive. Men who enjoy it have learned that they can pretty much control a woman if they do this right. Especially since so many guys are bad at it and don't like to do it. 

Let me put it another way: I met a man once who hit on me hard. I had no interest in this man. I was not attracted to him, we had nothing in common. He was persistent over many months. One night he drove me home and when we got to my door he whispered in my ear if he could pleasure me orally. Being horny, I accepted. I was heartless in my determination to get a good orgasm having no interest in the man and told him point blank that there would be no intercourse. 

Needless to say this guy licked and sucked me to the moon. I wound up dating this guy for almost 3 years and was pretty much controlled by the pleasure he gave me. And yes, it was a challenging relationship because we had nothing in common. But oh God.... the things he did with his mouth and tongue and he also could fuck like nobody's business. 

I feel sorry for guys who don't get how important oral pleasure is for women. Guys who do rule!

From Heather in Texas
Even with all that I have read and heard, I don't think I will EVER really believe that any man actually LIKES performing oral sex on a woman. Over the years, it's gotten into my head that men don't really like to do it, partly based on my own bad experiences (and yes, I'm clean and attractive and all that!). 

I just can't believe that some men genuinely like it. It doesn't gross me out or anything, and it doesn't really matter at this point, but I still can't believe it.

From Melda
There is a spicy kind of oral that I haven't found on here yet...Eating Red Wings, aka eating a girl when she's on her period. My boyfriend loved eating me. One day we were playing around when I was bleeding and he said he wanted to eat me anyway. It was amazing. I had never felt that sexy before and haven't since we broke up. Just the thought that he wanted me along with the menses was beautiful; he made me feel like a goddess who was feeding him life-blood. He loved it as much as I did and was a very happy boy because I let him indulge on one of his fantasies. He would get so turned on that when he came he'd shoot 4 or 5 shots compared to a normal 2 or 3.

Most girls won't even let her guy touch her when she's bleeding because they think its gross...get over it. Its not gross, its natural. Maybe you're squeamish, but he might have a fantasy about it. If its the other way around and you want your guy to try Red Wings, don't be shy. Do a fantasy swap and tell him that you would love it if he would try it (and learn about a fantasy of his). The worst he can say is no. Who knows? Maybe you both want to and are missing out on an amazing experience because you're too embarrassed to suggest it.

From Marilyn
My last boyfriend was practically a virgin when we met. He had been celibate for 7 years and was not experienced at giving oral sex. He liked it and said he'd do it anytime, but he was very goal-oriented and disappointed when I didn't come from it. 

As I get older (I'm in my early 30s) that seems to get more difficult. I'm not worried about taste or smell, but his wanting to make me come so badly makes me unable to do it. I bought him a book called She Comes First, and he tried many of the techniques but I never had an orgasm. Maybe I need more foreplay. I hate when men dive right for the clit with no warm-up. We aren't like you; women take longer to heat up.

[Marilyn, there are significant women experiencing the same pressure. Read Faking It: Feeling Pressured to Come? We suggest you experiment with a vibrator. Sex toys are wonderful sex aids, and will take the pressure off both of you.] 

From Douglas
During my 88 yrs of sexual adventures I have met and pleased 2 ladies who, after being married for 37 yrs each had not experienced an orgasm. What is wrong with some of these men, do they completely lack imagination? 

One of them had had no children and had had an early hysterectomy, removal of her womb. The other one had had 7 children and did not know want an orgasm felt like till I gave her several in one session with my tongue. The first one enjoyed my special kisses but it took her a long time to reach orgasm, when she did it was an explosion of wild delight. Both told me that I had given them their first orgasm. 

As I have counseled elsewhere Fellers, give the little lady hers first then reap the rewards.

From Jill
A very close male friend started dating a widow in her early fifties who was married to a minister. She is an extremely beautiful woman but is very sexually repressed. After several dates he finally got her into a bed and she became very aroused and they made love. After making love to her several times over a few months, one night he tried to go down on her for oral sex but she stopped him. A few minutes later he tried again and again she was starting to protest but he gently but firmly pushed her leg over and proceeded to do oral on her. He said after a short time she relaxed and seemed to start enjoying it. 

She later told him that that was the very first experience she had ever had with oral. It seems that her minister husband thought anything like that was immoral. Since then they have had oral on a regular basis. This woman is like a schoolgirl dating. She is absolutely mad about this guy! I know why she is so happy, I dated him a few years ago myself!

From Listenerj
I am very oral. I love kissing, licking, biting, and pretty much anything that I can do to a woman with my mouth, I like. But, like most things a bit of teasing and an oblique approach work best when starting out - an ever so gentle licking everywhere but the clit, for example, can do wonders. It should not be about speed or orgasm per se but a total experience of pleasure.

From Anonymous
When I was married, I hated oral sex, because my ex wasn't gentle and never complimentary. So now I'm with a new guy. One morning he started coffee and came back to bed under the sheets at my feet and went right for my clit. Before I had a chance to recoil from old memories, his tongue was at work all around. The ideal moves, the perfect pressure. Wow is an understatement. Now I want cunnilingus every time.

Another day, I knelt over his face and lowered myself down. He described it as watching a beautiful rose opening up for him. That made me really wet. After circling my hips on him, his chin and cheeks were glistening. He told me he had only heard of a wet face but hadn't gotten one until now.

My heart pounds thinking of more...

From Cam
I was mid 50's and divorced. One date with a lady turned up very promising so I told her I had a high libido. I asked her what she thought of oral sex. She was hesitant but finally said "I suppose I could do that". I explained that I got very little out of oral sex but loved to give cunnilingus. I couldn't believe that a fifty year old woman had never been eaten! She came out of her shell rather rapidly and turned into a real sex-kitten. The relationship never turned into a marriage but when we parted as friends she said how free she felt due to our uninhibited sex life.

My wife gets tongued before almost every fuck. If there is a choice, I will eat her rather than fuck her. I love to spend long afternoons just lying in the side by side 69 position and slowly enjoying her pussy. We love to masturbate and to use toys and anything that we feel might enhance our sex lives. Most important is that we talk about it a lot. Reading this column gives me hope that people are beginning to talk about their wants and desires and getting their needs met.

From Kendra
I am close to 40 years old and have never had an orgasm by intercourse. However, when given oral sex, I have quite intense orgasms. I love the younger guys because they want to please me and are usually very good at giving me the most wonderful orgasms. I'm quite sure that men can always please women this way, with cunnilingus.

From ZT
[ZT is from South Africa] Most of women think that they don't love oral sex and that's not the truth but they are ashamed of their private parts. I normally wished that I could find a man that will give me the experience and that day comes and I was so happy.

I met this wonderful man and he gave me oral sex, it was my first time of oral. He opened my legs with passion that makes me want more of him inside me. 

The way he licked and tickle my clit, it makes me scream and I was so ashamed when I fucked his mouth. It is a very amazing experience, I love it more than penetration. It makes me to realise that I can marry a man with no penis provided he knows how to eat me.

From MaryAlicesysco
My boyfriend and I have recently experimented with cunnilingus. My clit is so sensitive and when that hot wet tongue of his slides across it bringing me to an orgasm almost instantly.

From Karen
How extremely interesting to read what real people (of all ages) think of sex. I am 43 yrs. old and recently divorced as of 2003 after an 18 yr. marriage. My ex was not a very sexual guy and our 'sessions' usually lasted no more than 15 minutes - from start to finish. 99% of the time I initiated it, gave him a b.j. to get him 'ready' followed by intercourse. No foreplay, kissing, words of affection, etc. before or after. When he was done (as in when HE climaxed while I was JUST getting into it) he immediately left to go clean himself up. He tried to go down on me when we first met but I discouraged this as I wasn't yet comfortable with him. I regret to say that he never tried again.

I became orgasmic (thanks to a porn tape my friend lent me) at the ripe old age of 32 and delighted in getting myself off. Tried incorporating this into our 'sex life' such as it was but he wouldn't go for it. So, I am absolutely STARVED to have a man 'love me down there.' I did have a 1 1/2 yr. relationship with a 59 yr. old man after my marriage ended and he did go down on me but he admitted he'd never performed that act on anyone and didn't know just how to do it.

I might add that I am extremely self conscious of how I look/taste/smell. However, I have tasted my own secretions and feel that they aren't offensive at all so I am slowly getting over this. When my older guy went down on me it was such a huge turn on to smell/taste myself on his mouth/face afterwards when we kissed.

I end this by saying kudos to men of ALL ages who enjoy going south on women - we like to receive this very intimate pleasure as much as you do!

From Susan
Roberto, [see Roberto's entry below] there is a double standard here, that you need to realize—and I suspect you already have a good understand of such things.

As recent as the late 90's, many young women were very much aware of the fact that saying 'yes, I love oral sex, first date, last date, so what - just do me!!" would result in a derogatory 'slut' label, and possible the end of a solid relationship with a 'good' guy. Or, alas, there goes her reputation, period. (honestly, just think of your high school days, or small town USA.), And, most unfortunate, there's goes her opportunity for good sex.

The problem is asking before the issue has arisen  - so to speak. Rather then ask about the possibilities of oral sex before sex has even become an issue, is deadly. Meaning, you'll get a false answer - you'll get something that's socially acceptable, rather then what she's really wanting.

I suggest you wait until that most important and exciting moment, stress how much you like her glorious beautiful pussy, and you'd like to taste her and ask if that's ok with her. Please note that I'm not suggesting you shouldn't ask, I'm very much suggesting you should ask about oral sex at the appropriate time. 

I also suggest all men read up on cunnilingus (how-to guides are beyond value, as many women aren't yet comfortable guiding men, and men are not yet comfortable following directions with feeling a blow to the ego), and understand the social & political issues.

This is profound stuff, Roberto, and I applaud you on bring it to the forefront. The more men who ask questions, the better and easier it is for women to respond.

From Roberto
How do women feel about a man who's willing and ready to go down on you the first time you're in bed together? Do you think he's scummy if he wants to? Do you expect it? Do you assume he does it with every female he's with? Is it right or wrong? You may already know that men have a pretty basic perspective on this when the roles are reversed, right?

I ask these questions because back in the late 90s, I was on a blind date that ended up at her apartment, with the two of us planning to have sex that night. As we talked, I brought it up as a question to her, sort of, "Would you like it if I go down on you?" or "Will you let me" or something like that.

I know, I know, it's awkward to ask, right? But it wasn't the kind of question I usually asked as a rule, for some reason, I just did, with her. It was really unexpected that we would even be going to bed together, and I guess I was just gauging her level(s) of wildness.

Anyway, she said it was much too intimate an act for someone she didn't know, and that it would come later in our relationship, if things progressed that way. It's been years, but if I remember correctly, we may have discussed her performing oral sex on me, and she had the same view; too intimate for a first time together.

Long story short, we started by taking a shower together, which was very nice, we dried each other off as we went toward her bed, and we proceeded to have some very, very good sex with each other. After intercourse, we were cuddling, and I made my moves, kissing my way down her body. I thought I'd go as far as she'd let me, then stop, but she never did. Soon, I was licking and lapping her pussy lips, and sucking on her clit. She never made a move to stop me, and I wasn't going to mention it myself (I'm no fool), and soon she was coming, her back arched and her toes curled.

To my amazement, it wasn't over yet. I was lying beside her, on my back, panting. Maybe in reciprocation, I don't know, but she did the same thing to me, kissing her way down my body until my hard dick was engulfed in her mouth. She gave me a great blowjob, and when she was done, we went back to cuddling each other as we fell to sleep.

The next morning, I brought it up again, asking her why she had first said no, then allowed me to do it. She said that she never let a guy go down on her the first night, it was a rule with her. As for what had just happened, she couldn't really explain, but she was very turned on, and I had been in the right place at the right time, and she needed/wanted me to do it. She said that me having asked beforehand was new to her, and that if I hadn't brought it up, she may have stopped me from doing it once we were in bed.

She also said she never gave a blowjob on the first time having sex together, and she had surprised herself by doing it with me (which I appreciated, let me tell you). She was partially grateful to me for the good sex we had just had, and for the orgasm she had went I ate her, and that's why she had done it. She said she felt she should reciprocate because I had gone down on her (believe me, it's not a requirement, in my book, I LOVE eating pussy, and I don't need a lot of provocation or tit-for-tat).

Ladies, I'm confused. Have we gone from 'I don't kiss on the first date' to 'I don't eat or allow myself to be eaten on the first date"?

Ok. I know this is a long post, but it all boils down to a question What's the proper etiquette for eating pussy the first time a man is in bed with you?

From Marilyn
I got my inexperienced boyfriend a book about how to give oral sex. He's done things that I'd never felt before. I have to say what I've liked the most is that he will rub right under my clit. I never knew that would feel so good. I prefer to start out by being "tickled" which means light kisses and feather light touches all around my snatch. I want to be teased a bit, and he's got that down pretty well now. He starts with long, slow licks. By the time he gets to my clit, it's like a relief. 

After the warm up time, he inserts two fingers. I am very particular about how he can move them. I like slow twisting or g-spot flicks, but I hate the in and out like fucking. It doesn't feel as good as real sex. I need more subtle movement. I like a little ass play, but he's a little funny about that so I don't push it. I've though about surprising him with latex "doctor" gloves, though. Otherwise, he is very open to my suggestions. I have a thing for being tongue-fucked, and he'll do that for me. We have done 69, but then I get caught up in licking him and can't concentrate on what he's doing for me. 

I have to say that I'm lucky. My boyfriend is very persistent, and he's said that he will give me oral anytime I want because he thinks it's so sexy. He's a very giving man, and he likes to make me happy. (Don't worry; I love to return the favor!)

From Anthony
Although this isn't something a man does with every woman he's been with, I can't think of anything more unselfish or more sexy than to dive between a woman's legs and suck on her clit and rely on her body language to let you know when and where to go, how fast or slow to lick, how deep to go inside her, while I cloud her mind with distraction. 

My hands wrapped around her hips, slowly ascending the muscles in her stomach, my fingers delighting in the anticipation registering from her body, and then reveling as I tug on her nipples. Knowing full well she's about to explode!

From Anonymous
Ah I truly love sex and very affectionate (in all ways) but feel selfish and it's one-sided when getting oral myself. Love giving bj's & 69's tho.....Any advice?

6/29/07

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