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From George
I am sure that you have all read the stories of men and woman both getting into oral sex. I can say this without any doubt. Men do give a better blowjob that do women.  All of what is said on the posts I find to be very true indeed. Men do love to have their cocks sucked and most women don't like to do oral sex, this I find true from a lot of married males - those that I have met and have had the chance to talk to about oral sex, married or not.

From David
The receiving of really good fellatio and the giving of a long session of cunnilingus are, to me, the real high points of any good sexual relationship. However, I find that if a woman will not swallow the full load it really spoils the fellatio, however skillfully it has been performed up to the point of ejaculation. Why do so few women not want to swallow?

[Read through our Swallow or Spit forum for an insightful look into the topic of swallowing...or not]

From Anonymous
I can't imagine a women begging me for her to go down on me. I read their stories, man, you guys are LUCKY. I thinks it's degrading asking a women to give oral but I do hope she wants to naturally.

From Anonymous
My own experience is that I will give a blow job to someone I love because I know he likes it but mainly I don't get pleasure from it. It doesn't turn me on. It feels like an obligation. And with someone I don't love, forget it. I don't think it is fair to think of a blow job as reciprocation for oral sex on me because oral sex is the one sure way I will orgasm and a blow job is merely icing on the cake for most men. If I am not properly stimulated fucking can be not even that interesting so I don't think that intercourse is always equally pleasant for both parties. I don't even feel like I am missing much - my preference would be to get oral sex all of the time and have great intercourse because of it, and give a blow job some of the time as spontaneous foreplay. 

I do acknowledge that the way blow jobs are viewed/portrayed in society (esp in porn) is a major turnoff to me and perhaps that is getting in my way of enjoying them, but I am not so sure. I think many women (and esp girls) give blow jobs because it is expected, they seek approval and they think it makes them more desirable or sexy. I would be interested to know if there are any other women out there that feel this way?

From Nubia
My boyfriend absolutely loves the feel of my wet pussy on his chest and my ass in his face while I play with his cock in my hands and mouth. I can take all of him in my mouth and play with his balls much more easily. His orgasms are always much more intense when I do this. He also loves the fact that he can rub his hands all over my body while I'm giving him oral. And it feels great pressing my clit against his chest and my breasts on his stomach.

From Anonymous
I wanted to comment about the fact that some of the women posting have said that they feel they need to give oral sex in order to receive it, and that they can only reach climax by receiving oral sex. I have had a lot of difficulty giving blow jobs and have found a technique that works quite well for me. While I go down on my husband I stimulate myself with one or two of my favorite toys. I seem to lose myself in the act and my husband finds it to be quite a turn on.

From Latin Guy
I can't tell you enough how flattering it is to me and probably most men when their partner will take their penis in their mouth and bring them to a climax. I recently had a partner who didn't enjoy vaginal sex but loves to give oral sex. On our first encounter she dropped to her knees and because I love oral sex of all kinds, giving and receiving I couldn't control myself for very long. Her love of giving head is definitely the secret because she wants to make me come and has made me come quicker than any woman. We met for a picnic lunch the other day and I was so surprised by her eagerness to blow me in the parking lot that I came quicker than I have with anyone in the last 30 years. 

So if you think that it won't surprise your partner or heighten your sex life then think again, I couldn't wait to get home and return the favor. Of course the obvious is that you need to love making your partner come with your tongue and taking them into your mouth with passion. It goes both ways because I love a fully extended clit on my tongue as well.

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