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From Katie
Which do I prefer? It depends. If it's just an orgasm I want or need, I'll take oral because I get the most intense orgasms that way. I am a 40-something female who has never had an orgasm with intercourse; I am apparently among the 70 percent of women, according to some research, who need direct clitoral stimulation to get off. I can give myself some decent orgasms with my own fingers or a vibrator, although I find that I can't use my vibrator too often because it tends to leave me desensitized for a few days afterward. But by far my most intense, toe-curling, mind-blowing, scream-so-loud-the-neighbors-complain orgasms always come from my husband of 20 years and his oh-so-talented tongue!

That's not to say that I don't enjoy intercourse; I do, just for very different reasons. Intercourse is a very intimate, whole-body experience for me: the intense closeness; the sensation of so much skin against skin; the primal rhythm; the pleasure of being stretched and filled, almost to the point of pain; the sights and sounds of my normally very reserved husband absolutely losing his mind in ecstasy, especially in woman-on-top and from-behind positions; and the awareness of the deep sense of trust that is present when you to allow someone to actually put part of their body inside a very tender, fragile and personal part of your own body. You have to trust on some level that you will not come to harm in order to have intercourse with someone, IMO.

Simply put, I can't fuck someone I don't truly care about, and my hubby agrees with me. In fact when I asked him this question, he said he would prefer intercourse over oral. Though I give him oral on a regular basis, he regards blowjobs as just a warm-up act to the main event, or a quick and mindless way to get off, devoid of intimacy or meaning. A lot of that probably stems from his background; before we met, he spent a few years as a roadie for a fairly popular rock band. On tour there were always groupies who were willing to give blowjobs to the crew guys in exchange for a chance to get backstage, and like most young, horny and (then) unattached guys would, he took full advantage. He estimates that he probably received about 200(!) blowjobs back in the day, and it made him pretty jaded to their allure. He also thinks it made him value other forms of sex, like intercourse and going down on a woman, more than the good ol' BJ. Lucky me!

From Veronica
I prefer oral.  My orgasms are inconsistent when it comes to intercourse and usually have to involve additional separate clitoral stimulation.  Oral works for me every time.  I also enjoy feeling like the man I'm with thinks I'm worth doing this for--that he's willing to give me this gift that doesn't directly benefit him the way imtercourse would.

From L0V3R
Honestly, I'm not a fan of being sucked off by my girl. Over that, I certainly prefer intercourse, with her on top. She knows exactly how she likes it and coincidentally those moves work wonders for both of us.

But over intercourse, I REALLY love giving head. Don't ask me to explain why. It's the whole package of sensations I guess. From sight to smell to taste, I love her cunt. I remember ejaculating without even touching myself from eating her out the first time.
Maybe it's also the feeling of accomplishment, because that's what I am better at than her, as opposed to rocking the bed.

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