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What about Strap-ons?My girlfriend and I just got a strap-on harness and dildo, and yes, she uses it on me (I'm a guy). I don't have any desire to be with a man, trust me I've worked this through, but that's not precisely what I'm commenting on. We bought a really good strap-on and though we don't use it every night we do take it out for special occasions - when extra-kink is what the doctor orders.

I'm wondering are there other couples out there who like using strap-ons and dildos? I'd like to hear other perspectives on this and any advice other's might have: Like what's the thrill for them, does dildo size matter? And what contexts, or roll-plays might others be into? Thanks ... and God bless the ERWA folks for providing this forum!  Festus

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From Anonymous
I have been interested in being anally penetrated for many years and occasionally experimented with it a little. Recently, I read about prostate massage and decided to get my wife (of 36 years) to use a small prostrate massage vibrator in my ass. The initial results were pleasant but not outstanding.  I'm not sure that I can climax from prostrate massage.  But last night I persuaded her to fuck my ass using a 6.5 inch vibrating dildo I purchased.  She lubed me up very thoroughly and introduced the dildo.  Wow! I realized very quickly that I wanted the dildo pushed in as far as it could go and that I like her to rotate and thrust with it. Also, I realized that I liked it with the vibration both on and off. 

I was loving it so much that I didn't want her to stop. She was afraid of causing me injury so she stopped and withdrew the dildo.  I then persuaded her to insert our largest butt plug in my anus and I masturbated to orgasm. Af ter all that prostrate massage (I suppose), my climax was spectacular. I will be having her peg me soon and am expecting to enjoy it immensely. BTW, I am 68 years old.

From Anonymous
Believe me once you start getting pegged, There is no turning back, My wife has been pegging me for over 25 years. I am addicted to it. AND NEED IT. I dress in lingerie, and she Dominates me, We have changed places. She's the male, and I am HER Female. We both have never been happier.

From Brad
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From Emma
What possible pleasure is there for women in this? Making women perform sexually as men, who have prostates and therefore get pleasure from this, when women have no sensation in their belted-on equipment. This faux fad is yet another example of how much effort is expended in making women invisible.

From Tom
My wife and I had tried it, but the strap-on she had gotten was much too big for me. Also, I had a lot of gastro- intestinal pain (bloating, gas, and a feeling like I had to shit all the time but could not) for a couple of days. We would like to try again, but would like to get some more info from folks who have a little more experience.

From Dan
You guys seem very lucky. I live in Torrance CA and have had two girl friends leave me for asking. I wish I could find a women that wants to strap on a strap-on.

From Hesitant
Like most guys in this forum the sight of a woman wearing a strap on is a big turn on for me. I could come just watching my wife stand in the bedroom wearing one. We have two but they are just gathering dust in our "toy box". We tried years ago but I just couldn't relax. Here are my questions:  #1 how can I relax? #2 besides an enema, how can I clean myself out, the few times we tried I felt really full and she pulled out immediately. #3 can you hurt anything physically? I'd really like to get this thing going. I'm jealous of the others on this site that have no problem with this type of sex. Any help would be appreciated!

[The good folks at Good Vibrations have several useful articles about harnesses and how to enjoy strap-on sex]

From Sarah
My husband was keen about trying strap-on sex, and so we purchased the equipment and gave it a go. He loved it, me not so much. Now all he wants is anal sex, be it strap-on, butt plugs, even wants a rim-job (no, no and no, I'm not about to lick his asshole). I tried using a double headed dildo, and/or a vibrator, otherwise there's just nothing in it for me.

He's obsessed, and yeah he does indulge me in 'other than anal sex', but it's obvious he's not into it and is just going through the motions. Strap-ons? I'm sorry we ever tried it.

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