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Could You, Would You?
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Younger/Older Relationships
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Inquiring Minds

Women: During The Act
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What do Women Want
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Porn and Relationships

Hot or Not?



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From Mike J
We love watching porn together, my wife loves to see guys wanking off, and recently when I asked her to choose the film she chose a lesbian one, and could not help but thrust her pussy out when the girls were locked in a scissor position, which almost made me shoot! Now she loves me to talk dirty to her about other girls taking her. Viva la porn!

From Kim
I've dealt with a porn addict. Just about every time he went to the bathroom, he pulled out the magazines and started jacking off. He would get up in the middle of the night to watch porn and jack off....even if we had sex earlier. I tried to accept it, to the point of telling him...."ok, I don't care if you do it, just don't keep it a secret." He still did and if I caught him in the act, he would deny it. Needless to say, I had all I could take and we broke up.

From Lover
Couple months ago my girlfriend told me she watches porn at home when I'm not there. I started to think why she would? And after I thought about it, it comes down to one hypothesis; Guys need to get a sexual high once in awhile, and so do girls. If a couple were to get married or live together, it may hurt the relationship if they learn each other watch porn secretly. Maybe when these situations occur, it may also mean that the lover is not satisfied with his or her sex.

For me, a guy, I am sure that if I were living with my girlfriend then I could throw away all my porn happily because a my lover is really be all I want in life. Maybe some relationships are being hurt because one side still watches porn because they want so called better women or men to have sex with. For guys that can't throw away porn when they get married then they should think over about why they love their wives. For couples that love to watch it together then I would say it is a good thing. But if one side loves it and the other side feels hurt about it then that's a big problem.

Does anybody realise that people in this world are too greedy and selfish, wanting better looking partners, or think they can get better sex, like performers in porn?

From Richard
Depends upon the relationship and the porn, to some extent, since it can be crass to insist on a partner 'sharing' something which is outside their own particular comfort zone. Watching or looking at porn in the hope that it will encourage your partner to see something as acceptable and engage in something they currently abhor is, in my view, less likely to succeed than careful, heartfelt discussion and perhaps some reference to a good guide to lovemaking.

We're talking about shared porn, I presume? Un-shared porn which results in him or her jacking off in the bathroom can't, I imagine, do much for a relationship, although there are circumstances in which it might be helpful.

In describing what works best for me I would hit the porn/erotica debate again, I think. One of the assets to my relationship is that I read my own writing to my wife. Reading to one another is one of the warmest acts of sharing anyway, I believe, innately cosy and intimate, and reading erotica to a consenting partner can be very stimulating to both, especially if the story is something which encourages re-enactment.

From Michael
Hello Group. This is my first time posting in the porn question part of the website...I spend most of my time in the breast/nipple section.

First I must introduce myself....I have cerebral palsy and use a wheelchair.....and yes porn is a big part of my sexual life. So for better or worse I use porn and hookers for my release...so no I can't relate to the married people out there but I do get lucky and get the same hookers so in a way I am in a relationship so to speak and we get to know each others lives; so yes I see them as my friends and not just warm bodies.

And now you know me, so on to the topic. As I said I love porn on many different levels....it is a good thing. But here is the kick in the head.......I totally agree with all the women who says that hiding porn from your partner is truly a bad unhealthy thing to do and some guys out there will hate me for saying this....Porn under no circumstance should be hidden. Guys are sometimes afraid to tell their wives or girlfriends what they really want or need for fear of being seen as a freak or deviant and shunned from the women in their lives. But you can't keep secrets from women besides you just might get all your fantasies to come true.

From Julius
As ardent watchers of porn movies my partner and I agree they are for the most part trash, but find them nonetheless delightfully stimulating. The occasional excellent one makes the search fun. We usually go together to the XXX Store and spend as much as an hour trying to find something delightful. The covers are a useless guide and I often wonder if grabbing the first three would work as well (three seems to 'almost' guarantee one moderately good 'un.)

As for the original question? Well we're still together and sex is the oil for the machinery. Porn is about sex, sex is wonderful. Written and pictorial, I find it delightful as long as it's 'within my comfort zone'. Heavens, I (no, we) even write the stuff and call it erotica. It says here in my dictionary Pornography; writing, pictures, films etc depicting sexual activity with the intention of arousing sexual desire. Sounds great to me!

From Knotme
I was neither pro porn nor con. In the very beginning of our relationship my husband brought porn into our bedroom, and although it occasionally made me un-comfortable, we watched it together, sometimes it made us laugh, other times it shocked us both but it never turned me on. After a few months and assorted types of movies I began questioning the expectations of my partner in regards to the specific positions and genre of the videos, he assured me that he did not expect me to do the things we were watching or for me to emulate the porn stars. But as our relationship strengthened it turned out I was willing to try new things, things that I knew excited him, I was now quite comfortable using toys and using a strap-on and even having anal sex. Our sex life and experimenting with sex was good ! No, it was Great!

 As the years flew by I didn't give much more thought to him actually wanting the things we were watching, I just felt we were growing together not because of or in-spite of the porn he would occasional throw in. But things being what they are - small things began to nag at me. An interest in "fisting" and lesbians made me wonder maybe even fear the next level and so I asked him again what his expectations were "Oh not to worry he likes to watch that's all" And "fisting that's just bizarre don't give it another thought " but only days later he's telling me how "he's up to almost 4 fingers penetrating me." Whoa I slammed on the breaks and we talked about it again, all the while I'm beginning to doubt what he says. Since his actions speak louder than words and now distrust is creeping in. Although he "doesn't need porn" to get him in the mood and denies that it primes him prior to making love with me, he can easily spend 3 hours indulging his every whim and act online, and is surprised that I am upset because I've been in bed hoping he would join me but now I don't care to relieve him of the online lust he brings to our bed.

I just want a man - my man to want only me, and to think about only me when he is Fucking Me! And honesty would be refreshing too. I've tried to enjoy porn but realize that if I have to try so hard, then it's not right for me. So here I am in a quandary about what I should do, I don't want to wake up at age 70 and despise who I am with or resent who I have become.

While I do agree shared porn can be exciting I also agree  when the 2 are divided there is no compromise. And regardless of the many comments written at this site, I think you're wrong about variety being the spice of life. My opinion - You are really saying that you need some stranger's influence to put you in the mood, then by all means let that stranger's public privates relieve you just as it made you hot. I for one won't be your 2nd choice because you needed something more than your partner's love and intimacy for you to become aroused. By surfing porn sites you minimize the love you could have shared with your partner, you take out the Love and make it merely Sex.

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