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Remember Your Best Orgasm?
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Sex after MarriageI found myself wondering about the frequency of post marriage sex—or more to the point sex after the first few years of a relationship, married or not, straight or not. I remember a former mother-in-law telling my new bride and I an old joke. It went something like this: If you put a penny in a jar every time you have sex for the first five years of your married life, and then remove a penny each time you have sex after that, by the time you die there will still be pennies in the jar. Mom-in-law laughed, but I noticed her husband looked pretty sour and did not laugh. My own experience says this might just be true, how about for others here? I would be interested in knowing about gay couples as well.  —Jake

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From Therese
I was in a 29-year lesbian relationship, the last 11 of which we were just roommates. It's amazing what you can get used to if it creeps up on you slowly... like celibacy. But after a year or so recovering from the break, I found a younger lover and shazam!, discovered that my libido was alive and well and hot damn, thank you, ma'am, I'm alive again! Unfortunately, we broke up. Now I have the libido and no one to exercise it with! Life can be perverse...

From Emma
The idea that women must always be available for sex in a marriage denies them agency. People change and grow.

From Jeff
I've been married over 25 years and sadly, it was very infrequent once we were married.  I'm talking once a month.  And she was very inhibited and self concsious... Very predictable and she was not very orgasmic.  As the years went on it became worse, especially after she started Zoloft.  You never know what hand you're dealt until after the honeymoon.  I guess that's why I'm on sites like this.

From Nadege
Well being married for 15 years, I know that having children makes a big difference in your sex life after marriage.  But after listening to a lot of men and women talk about their sex life after marriage, they talk about how their mates become very relax and lazy with their looks and therefore let themselves go.  Meaning what their mates married is not the same person in the present. 

Not only that but for some reason after marriage "the pussy" becomes "the vagina" therefore not as exciting or spontaneous like it use to be. 

From Shanna
As someone who uses an online sex/dating site, I can assure you that 90% of the guys there are married and cheating. The reason seems to be that their wife is no longer interested in sex. Sure, there's bound to be those who'd cheat regardless, but I have also heard the genuine pain in these guys voices as they explain the hurt that comes with being constantly rejected.

Most admit that the women they cheat with are nowhere near as desirable as their wife - they are however willing and available. It's like some women just turn off that part of themselves once they've had children. Not all women thankfully, but many. I don't know that its about marriage, perhaps just complacency.

From Mary
We're a lesbian couple, and guess what? It's the same for us bent folk as it is for you straight folk: hot frequent sex early on, trailing off somewhat as the years move on.

From Guy
I married again in my mid sixties to a much younger very attractive Thai lady.  My wife has just passed the Menopause and has lost interest in sex .  My wife will always oblige me if I want to make love, but now in my 70s I cannot always maintain an erection.  I do better to take some viagra or similar; which is not so good for my health.  We make love every weekend.  Thai people are not accustomed to kissing and foreplay, which is something I miss a lot. 

I enjoy cunnilingus very much and would do it often, but my wife doesn't like it, although she orgasms every time; she is quite happy to suck me off and every last drop.  My wife thinks fingers and oral saliva are dirty, even though I'm fresh from the shower, teeth cleaned and mouthwash gargled .

I feel so sorry for those partners who are not getting enough. I remember a lady telling me she was lucky if her husband was willing 4 times a year.

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