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So, you feel sorry for a friend and end up in a sympathy fuck situation. Or perhaps you were on the receiving end of a sympathy fuck. How did it happen? What was it like? Who was it with, an ex-boyfriend, a stranger, a friendís dorky cousin who just couldnít get laid to save his life? And how did it feel compared to sex with someone you actually wanted?

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From Wicked1
This is all I get from my boyfriend. So very pathetic.

From Otto
Sympathy fucks never work.  It's one of the reasons for the high divorce rate.  The giver feels like she's (usually the case) just doing an unpleasant chore.  The receiver may feel a temporary release, but deep down feels degraded and rejected.  It's just another form of prostitution.  My personal philosophy is don't do me any favors.  Keep your disinterest and apathy to yourself.  My hand is more talented and never judgmental. Plus, I know where it has been!

From Dan
While the idea of a sympathy fuck sounds noble to me, every time I've given one out, it completely blew up in my face.  Out of the three sympathy fucks that I have given in my life time, one turned out to be a filthy (literally), demanding asshole and the other two became clingy and overly emotional.

Like I said, I want to believe in the sympathy fuck and I salute all those that still take one for the team, but I have long since pledged to never give another sympathy fuck again.

From Angie
I think sympathy fucks are a very nice thing to do for someone who is suffering or in need.  When I was in the navy, we had a boy who was still a virgin at 19.  When I met him, his other three roommates were making such fun of him, I couldn't stand it, so I slept with him later that day, and was not afraid in the least to let them know it.  Of course, this was in the 80's when there were a lot less diseases, so none of us were all that worried. 

I can't imagine the recipient of a sympathy fuck being unhappy with the situation, unless the other person was a dick about saying they only felt sorry for the person.  Like everything else, it's all in how you handle it, and what your true motives are.

From Jon
Having lived for the past twenty plus years in a celibate relationship, sympathy or not - any kinda fuck would be welcome.

From Sympathy Vyxen
I think a sympathy fuck can be nasty or noble, but it depends on the degrees to which you find the other person attractive or repellant. If you fuck someone who's actually repellant to you, unless you're into masochism, then that's nasty and degrading. However, if you don't find the fuckee repulsive at all, then it's on the noble side if you actually want to comfort someone sexually.

From Doug
Yes, I've done it on a number of occasions, and each time it's something that I've either inadvertently talked my way into, or have otherwise not been able to refuse for fear of hurting the other party. Unlike some of your correspondents, for me the sex has been purely mechanical, and not at all fulfilling. However on each occasion, the other party involved seemed not only to enjoy it, but to do so immensely. I guess that making someone else happy in these circumstances should be reward enough!

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