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Inside the erotic mindI was reading an article that tried to answer the question of 'What Do Men Think About When They Make Love?' The gist of the article is that that men think (worry) about how soon their partner is going to come so that they can let themselves go. And I can't buy thisócan I? So tell us, what are you guys thinking about when the clothes come off, and love making heats up the sheets?

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From Anonymous
During sex it depends.  If I'm horny and haven't come in awhile I try to think of things to prolong the sex.  If I think of having sex or how hot it is, it will be a quickie.  Now if it's the 2nd or 3rd time and I am lasting forever, sometimes my mind will wander to some fantasies.  Imagining her as her best friend, the hot girl at work, the girl I saw at the store, an old girlfriend or how my wife is hot and a horny cum lover. 

From Around the bend
Simple. I think about how to keep from coming too fast. Fortunately, my wife orgasms fast and rerpeatedly. For me, I get past that initial point of no return and unless she hits my magic spot, it usually doesn't... return.

It leaves me longing and I find myself envisioning past loves, weird combos of lovers and hoping she will punish me, peg me or role play a 50's mom. The dress, the lingerie, the hair and all. She is very willing to participate, but it takes a lot to make me come. So I find myself beating off a lot.

From Dougie
I practice Tantric Alchemy.  I don't think anything.  I pay attention to the feelings, the energies, chakras, the shakti the sensations and everything.  I don't have fantasies or think anything. It is very meditative sex. I feel my way into what I can really only call a "Living Goddess communion".  It is an ecstatic state of communion with my Beloved.  It took considerable practice over 15 years now, to be able to enter these mystical and ecstatic states reliably and repeatedly.  I wouldn't want to go back to ordinary sex.

From England
I'm thinking, "Please don't let her husband show up now."

From Lancelot
I remember my first times, I was trying to focus on something not to come too fast so I can bring her pleasure. I didn't find anything because it was such a hard effort to concentrate on different topics while you're involved in such an act. So as I'm a gamer, I began to think about a video game and how cool that would be if I bought it...10 minuts later, I wasn't excited anymore, and she either. One advice don't think too much.

From Anthony
My wife swears that I can't do two things at the same time. Although I can't remember her registering any complaints when her nipple is in my mouth, the palms of my hands are underneath her ass and she's riding me from on top.

From Sweetnsuckulet
People may not like my answer but truth be told. I have on several occasions found myself thinking what being fucked while I suck or fuck my wife would be like. Or while being fucked thinking/wishing I'd be sucking another man's dick. Sucking pussy while a cock is 3/4 way inside her.

From Tammy
Oh My God, I have found my favorite web site! I read many of these replies with a very big toothy grin on my face! How I love you men! I am addicted to your thought process on any of the Inquiring Mind Questions. Nothing turns us women on sexually more then a man with a great sense of humor and the ability to express it in words! And I didn't even have to see a picture of your penis to get excited! How about that!

From Anna
I love this site! Its so good to have an insight into what is going on in the mind on you guys! Although I really can't believe some on you really have to be thinking about other woman to get you off!

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