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From Boris
As a male, the first attempt at losing my virginity was fraught. It was a freezing cold night, we sought a spot to make love, choosing the backyard vegetable garden of my wife's parents. She (now my wife) lay down on her back at her initiative, with me kneeling in the missionary position. My penis had not touched her, when I had to turn away gushing and squirting fulsomely into the frosty night air. My embarrassment to this day is great and abiding.

The next time my virginity was tested with her was one Saturday night at my parents home, heavy rain drumming on the corrugated iron roof.  Again we used the missionary position, but this time, not only did I enter her full length slow and easy, but amazingly, also managed to stroke rhythmically for about five minutes without the clamour of premature coming. I pulled out just before spurting my semen.

My wife thrilled me by saying how wonderful it was. I certainly thought it was. I can still feel the full-length strokes and smoothness to this day, see her breasts jiggling as I thrust into her.

Nearly 50 years later, we are both still keenly at it, still with utter delight for both, using a wide range of confident and secure sexual expression. Bravo!

From Anonymous
I was nervous. Mainly because of hearing about pain and bleeding and such but I had NO pain, (yes, I was tight and it took some effort and stretching for him to get inside all the way, but no pain) no blood. No soreness that I recall the next day. And the next time no discomfort at all either. 

I really wish I had been able to relax more and not have had these ideas in my head. Would have been much better. But apparently, many girls DO have some or even a lot of pain, so I won't say those stories were "myths", but for me, as it turned out, they did not apply.

I've read that there are vast differences in hymens between different populations and individuals within populations, to the extent that some tend to have very thick and pronounced hymens, and others tend to have little or only a residual hymen. According to this study, ALL girls have a hymen, even if it is virtually undetectable and with no need to be torn.

Anyway, I didn't come (but then, I don't come from intercourse alone even now, I need clitoral stimulation instead or along with penetration) and that first time, we were both so focused on the intercourse aspect that a few kisses aside, nothing else was going on! It wasn't a "fairy tale" scene, a bit awkward and sort of anti-climactic, all in all. But wonderful still, very intimate and pleasurable (not orgasmic for me, but yes, felt good to have him inside me.

This is an awesome forum! So great to read everyone's experiences.

From Anonymous really makes me feel so much better reading everyone else's postings. I was greatly disappointed. It was nothing like I ever imagined it would be. I didn't know the guy as well as I should have, not that he wasn't great. But I felt that it was a mistake. It hurt, quite a bit, and I was drunk. Wrong thing to do. 

Afterwards I slept, but woke up about an hour later...and felt paralyzed. Not really knowing what to do with myself, and feeling sorry that I started the whole thing in the first place. Too spontaneous. I felt like I let him down somehow because it wasn't the fairy tale that I thought it would be. Am I crazy?

From Mary
I'd like to get my hands on the guy who took my virginity when I was a mere 15, he was 28. What did I know? Nothing. Yes the jerk was considerate, right up to penetration, then he went at it like a sex starved cave man.

One minute he's all like nice and gentle, and I was feeling a real nice sexual buzz, and the next minute he's slamming into me like a steam hammer and it hurt like hell. Then he's coming and groaning and grunting like a sweaty pig, cleans up and he's out of there like bat out of hell. Jerk. And he's got the nerve to call a week later - a whole week! Looking for more sex no doubt. I told him to eat shit and die.

I guess I should be a bit thankful. He taught me to wise up, wait until I really know the guy before becoming lovers. A good man is worth waiting for, girls. Don't waste your sexuality on idiots who think with their dicks rather then their brains.

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