Losing Your Virginity
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From Christian L. Ambrose
I did not experience pain myself and there were no huge fireworks. It was also incredibly awkward as it was his first time too. He kept falling out and other weirdness so we finally gave up, snuggled, talked and eventually drifted off to sleep. The next morning, I climbed on top and went for a ride until he came, which didn't take long at all. It was interesting and sex did get better as we both learned more about it from personal experience. I did not expect much in the way of fireworks and did expect a little pain.
Of course, I lost my virginity about 1.5 years ago and I am 30 now. I am currently with this guy and we are mates and best friends rolled into one. We are very serious about each other. I was determined that I would either wait until I was married or until I found someone with whom I would spend the rest of my life with. As a friend of mine pointed out, I am as good as married.
Sex is a lot of fun and I have had some great orgasms but I wouldn't say it's the best thing in the world. Another friend equated it with a full body massage and she is kinda right. I still enjoy snuggling and talking more than sex. Having said that, I don't anticipate returning to celibacy anytime soon.
My boyfriend is a few years older than me and much more experienced. We've been dating for 6 months and for a long time we'd put sex off, doing everything in between. I knew he'd wanted to have sex soon after we started giving each other oral, but I knew I wasn't ready. But after waiting for awhile he finally asked if we could and I said yes. The first time we tried it didn't work, not for lack of trying or lack of fore-play, he just couldn't fit and when he tried too hard to fit himself in, I was brought to tears.
It took almost two weeks of trying for him to finally get himself in and honestly it still hurt a lot. I didn't get any pleasure out of it, other than knowing we'd finally done it, and I had bleed. Even the next day I was still sore. But the next time we did it it felt better, and better then next. So all in all I'm glad we waited and that I waited for someone I truly care about and trust
I was seventeen at the time and the girl who gave me this experience was nineteen. We were making out, with some dry humping, removing each others clothes, and I was fingering her and she was stroking my cock. She pushed me onto my back and straddled me, then took my cock and slid her pussy down on it. I watched as it parted the labia lips through her bush, and disappeared partially in her. She started to move her hips and I could feel her pussy moving against my cock. I started to pump also and it felt so good to be moving deeper into her. I only lasted a minute and then I felt my cum squirting out filling her pussy. She milked me dry and I was now no longer a virgin. She taught me so much about fucking before we moved on.
From No Pain, Much Gain!
Ladies, ladies ladies. Do not ever have sex if you are not ready, and
truly in the mood. Being mentally and emotionally prepared for
sex is the only way to have a pleasurable—at least non-painful—first
I lost my virginity during a one-night-stand with a sexy,
confident, experienced and satisfying man. It was the 2nd semester of
my freshman year in college and he was the best friend of my friend's
boyfriend. We never talked again, but that evening remains
one of my most enjoyable sexual experiences. He was approximately four years my senior (22), and very smooth.
Foreplay is key—good foreplay! He did not know I was a virgin, but continued to take his time
to get me in
the mood. To make a long story short, I was extremely aroused before
he went below the border. By the time he started fingering me, I was
so wet and so open, I could hardly feel his fingers, and believe me—my
pussy was tight. By the time his penis finally entered me, my
mind was reeling! As soon as he entered and began thrusting, I felt
like my head was going to explode. I can honestly say that I've never
had such a (near) orgasmic experience since then (kind of sad, I know).
LADIES, PLEASE LEARN THIS LESSON: When you are mentally and
emotionally prepared, have been fingered enough to enjoy the
experience (and preferably broken your hymen), and have decided to
engage in sexual intercourse with a (skilled) partner you are
comfortable with—or hell, if you know that you just want some dick—then,
and ONLY then, will you be able to experience a painless first
experience. I hope this helps ladies. Just hold out until the time is right. It
won't hurt if you wait until it's right, I promise.
I was 22 at the time and she was 21. We had been dating for awhile and were engaged when it happened. Things started to progress rapidly at one point and it started with some dry humping.
It finally happened one afternoon. We had started to enjoy each other and I had her naked except for her panties and I only had my shirt off. She then slid my pants off and pulled my shorts off releasing my swollen cock. She was stroking it and I had my hand down her panties fingering her wet pussy. I then removed her panties and enjoyed the nice view of her nakedness in the afternoon light. She straddled me and took my cock up to her pussy letting it slide through her bush of pubic hair. She moved it down to her labia and was stroking her labia with my cock. I was covered with my lubricant and she was wet as could be. When she put the head of my cock in her labia, it slid in and there was no stopping us.
I pushed a little and it went in further, she then followed and little by little it went in. Our previous humping experience kicked in and we were pumping my cock in her pussy. She was tight, but we had taken it so slow at first, so she didn't have a lot of pain. But she wanted my cock in her and I wanted in there too. We weren't backing down now. It was a nice short fuck and I could feel me ready to cum. We were smart enough to pull out, even though it was so hard to do so. I started to shoot cum all over me not long after pulling out. The next time we fucked, I had a condom on and we went all the way.
I always found the concept of virginity kind of baffling. My first boyfriend and I did practically everything together except intercourse (mostly due to lack of birth control). And somehow because we hadn't done that one specific act we were virgins? Silly.
I think because we were so comfortable with each other that when we finally did "lose our virginity" it wasn't painful. I found it kind of weird, not really exciting, except that watching his response was fun. It wasn't until much later, when I went on the pill, that I began to understand the appeal of the whole thing. I think anxiety about pregnancy plays a role in women's feelings about intercourse. Biology and society being as they are, women feel the risk of (unplanned) pregnancy more acutely than men do.
I had been seeing this girl for awhile and we had fun fooling around. Lots of making out and she didn't mind me feeling her tits at all. She was also the first girl that let me finger her pussy.
This was the first time I had been nude with her. I felt my cock against her nice panties and we started to hump each other for awhile. Then I moved my hand under her panties to feel how damp she was. I pulled off her panties had a nice fingering session. Then I was laying on her feeling my cock against her nice bush. We continued to hump for awhile like that it was feeling really good. It then felt slightly different but better and I wasn't sure why, but couldn't stop humping. My cock had actually slide inside her and I was now fucking her enjoying her vagina wrapped around my cock. I finally felt that great feeling and released my first squirt of cum. I kept on pumping with each pulse and had my first orgasm from fucking. I wasn't sure what had happened until after and thought about it. I realised I had actual had my cock in her pussy and it was my first fuck ever.
I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of about two months. We actually did it in his car (classy, right?). I'm glad to say that despite the location, it was overall a positive experience.
I told him I was really nervous, and he told me that he was too, (he was a virgin as well). He left the final decision up to me, which I think was really respectful. I could tell that despite his nerves, he really really wanted to do it, and even though I had heard that it would most likely be extremely painful, I wanted to do it too. After removing our underwear, we held each other for a minute, which gave me some time to mentally prepare for what was about to happen.
It didn't take too long for him to penetrate me the first time. It hurt so much that I dug my nails into his back and gritted my teeth. But even though I was in pain and did not have an orgasm, I had this amazing feeling of closeness and trust with him that was like nothing I had ever experienced.
And now for some advice for those thinking about loosing their virginity:
Before you have sex, I think the most important thing you and your partner need is mutual respect and trust. Sex is a big deal, so don't do it until you feel completely ready. If your partner pressures you or tries to rush you, that's a sign that they only care about themselves, not about you or your feelings.
I lost my virginity when I was 16 years old to an older guy. I was at his house and we were just chillin', watching movies. We started talking and I suggested that the movie was boring so he turned it off. We started kissing and engaging in foreplay (which was interesting)..we stopped and he asked me if I was a virgin..I told him yeah. So he said what's up? and I was sitting there like wtf...after a minute or two of silence we engaged in foreplay again...so he asked me if he could be my first...so I was like I don't know. So he said you always remember your first...so I gave in and I lost my virginity that night.
After the first few minutes of pain...it hurt so much I had to scoot back on the bed so I could breathe for a second. He didn't get in all the way and we didn't have an orgasm, but I bled.
My first time is something I'm not too proud of because I felt that I should have waited for that special person. I cried a lot that night...he wasn't anything to me and I wasn't anything to him either.
I was nineteen when I first had sex. I had a job at a marina at lake and enjoyed the bikini scenery with an occasional flashed of tits. Then there was the other woman on staff and we got to know each other very well and would spend time together when we had a day off.
Melisa liked to skinny dip and sun bath nude with a group of other work friends which she introduced me let me join in the fun. It just so happened that Melisa and I had an off day together and had planned to head out for some skinny dipping with the group. Once we cleared the marina, Melisa stripped off her bikini and settled down for the boat ride to the beach we were heading to. I felt my cock getting hard and just let it go as I watched her tits bouncing with each bump from the boat and how nice they had been to fondle and suck. We bypassed the beach and found a nice little bay to stop in. She pulled my swimsuit off and there was my nice hard cock. Even though we had each had some fun fondling each other before, this was the first time we were totally nude alone with each other. Melisa didn't hesitate to take advantage of the situation and started to stroke my cock. We were comfortable with each other from our previous fun times and just let it happen now.
I wasn't comfortable with how to fuck, but sure didn't mind the hand job I was getting. I started on her tits and worked my hand down to her pussy. It was so wet and my fingers slid right in. Melisa eventually let go of my cock and laid back as I continued to stroke her pussy. She told me to eat her pussy which I had never done before, but not wanting to show my inexperience, just went down on her. I must admit I didn't know what I was doing but enjoyed the different taste and softness of her pussy. But I'm sure I wasn't getting the spots she needed now that I think back on it. She had me lay back on the boat seat and took my cock in her hand stroking it for awhile. Then straddled me and was rubbing my cock on her pussy. I knew right then I wanted to feel that pussy wrapped around my cock but just let her take it at her pace. I wasn't long before she lowered herself on my cock and was riding me.
My first time and with this gorgeous woman was thinking I could fuck for hours, but my cock wasn't used to this and soon let out streams of cum. Melisa rode my cock as long as she could, but it just didn't stay hard very long. Very disappointing for me and for her. When she mentioned I hadn't lasted very long I admitted that was my first time. She kind of smiled and said she understood. She definitely had more experience than me.
I was 14 when I lost my virginity. To be honest, it was with a guy I had just met (he had no idea I was a virgin). A total one night stand.
I was (and still am) an avid reader of romance and erotica stories so I was expecting fireworks and for the earth to move. None of that happened and I was highly disappointed.
Highly disappointed that is, until I met my steady high school sweetheart about a year after I lost my virginity. He was the first one to bring me to orgasm. The earth really did move and I really did see fireworks.
I've LOVED sex ever since.
I'm 22 and I lost my virginity a couple of days ago with an old friend of mine. The odd part is that although I enjoy fooling around with this guy, I feel nothing for him beyond friendship. But regardless, I trust him and admire his patience. He is the first man to ever touch me and see me naked. I was surprised by how comfortable I was able to be with him and by how much I enjoyed his tongue and his fingers on my body.
Then, he slowly climbing on top of me, he rubbed his penis on my vagina and then gently slipped it in. I was greatly surprised by how much it didn't hurt. In fact, it didn't hurt at all. I was incredibly wet at the time of penetration and he slipped in very easily. I was able to enjoy it straight away, even asking him to go faster. I'd heard that virgins rarely enjoy their first time, so I was surprised by how much I did. It was amazing and felt wonderful. He finished before I did, but was kind enough to help me manually. After it was over he told me "well, you're not a virgin anymore, how do you feel?" I told him I felt all happy and grown up. We lay next to each other for a spell and just talked as any normal friends would.
I've very happy that I chose him. He is incredibly patient and knew to start gentle, even though it turns out I like it rough. Everything was done at my own pace and he never pushed me once. Some say its odd that I don't have any feelings for him, but in all honesty, I don't think I could've picked a better man to ease me into sex. I look forward to playing with him again soon.
I lost my virginity at 14 to a slightly older boy. Well, he was big and I was really tight and it hurt like hell, even with lube. I would have never thought that it would become so pleasurable. Each time we had sex it hurt less, until it didn't hurt at all. I am now 36 and it seems like I am horny all the time. And yes, I do like a well endowed man.
So to all the girls, yes it might hurt some but after a few times you're going to love it!
I lost my virginity a week after I turned 17, with my boyfriend of one year. We were at his family's camp in Maine and everyone was out for the afternoon, doing errands or at the beach. We hadn't exactly decided that this would be the afternoon that I lost my virginity. But this time we found ourselves in rubbing naked against each other, his penis pushing into me, my hymen already half broken. I remember looking at each other and it seemed like we were both thinking "This is it! One more thrust!" What I didn't expect was that my hymen wasn't completely broken, so there was some pain, but we talked through it and kept going. Then it started to feel... interesting. He came inside me and he wasn't wearing a condom (smart teenagers, eh?).
The rest of the day I felt euphoric, like I was let onto this huge secret that I'd been waiting and waiting to take part of. The rest of that vacation we'd have sex at any chance we had. Honestly, his parents would step out of the room and he'd pull his cock through the leg of his shorts and we'd ease it inside me. Needless to say we were totally negligent about birth control. It was a good experience. He was a lot of fun and I was lucky to be with someone who was patient and encouraging and sexy.
My first time was when I was 21 years old. My boyfriend was 3 yrs. younger but it didn't matter at all. To make a long story short it happened in a quite spot in the near by park. In the back seat of his car. I loved him and trusted him very much. There was lots of pain but no bleeding. He was very gentle with me. I don't believe that there is a way to escape the pain of sex for the fist time as a female.
He and I are still together and very much in love. My advice is to wait. I know its hard to wait but it's so worth it. To lay down and give up all control is a very hard thing to do. I think that you need to trust the man 100% and able to communicate with him. If not you will be sorry that you didn't wait. Sex is a wonderful thing when you love one another. You can feel the spiritual part of it and not just the feeling of great pleasure. Young women please take my advice.
From Joni Nicole
I was young when I lost it to a very loving and gentle man. He took
the time to make sure that I was ready and when he gently put it in me
it was heaven! Yes it did hurt and I did bleed a bit but the pain
lasted just for a minute or two. The next morning I was just a little
sore and he made love to me again. wow! After that first time wow!
Even now at 52 I still enjoy the memory of a wonderful time.
My first time was neither a horror story or mind blowingly amazing. To
begin with it hurt so much that I couldn't even get his penis in,
after a bit we tried again and it hurt but much less. As I accommodated
him he moved in a bit further and further each time until he started
thrusting very gently. It only hurt at the deepest part of each
thrust, then that pain gave way, not to pleasure but to 'oh, its not
too bad"! I was not with a guy I loved, just one that I liked - to be honest
I just wanted to 'lose it' before I hit 20, and he was nice, gently
Wow...it really makes me feel so much better reading everyone else's
postings. I just lost my virginity, I'm 19, and like a lot of others
on this page, I was greatly disappointed. It was nothing like I ever
imagined it would be. I didn't know the guy as well as I should have,
not that he wasn't great. But I felt that it was a mistake. It hurt,
quite a bit, and I was drunk. Wrong thing to do.
Afterwards I slept, but woke up about an hour later...and felt
paralyzed. Not really knowing what to do with myself, and feeling
sorry that I started the whole thing in the first place. Too
spontaneous. I felt like I let him down somehow because it wasn't the
fairy tale that I thought it would be. Am I crazy?
My first time was amazing. The guy I
lost my virginity to was 22 at the time. I have known him for 3 years
now, we live in different cities but I go visit him a whole lot! He is tall, hot and very experienced. The first time we had sex, I
was a bit drunk, but that was part of the plan. I was looking forward to
that all night and when we finally got to his place I got a little
just let things happen, after a while I didn’t even notice that I was
naked in his kitchen! To begin with, I had never been fingered or
tried oral so when his huge cock started to come into me, I grabbed
his shoulders as hard as I could and he realized I was a virgin. After
that, he became much more gentile and he came inside me really slowly.
I can’t say I enjoyed him inside of me but I loved the fact that I
lost my virginity to my dream boy.
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