Married And Gazing

Is looking the same as cheating?

Nice bit of gazing here...

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From Paul
Does there come a point of time in a relationship when either partner really begins to regards it as ok for the other to openly express admiration for other members of the opposite sex? Do some wives, for example, buy as gifts for their husbands such things as videos or posters/calendars of his favourite female pop artist or pin-up model?

From Richard Black
It is only natural for both men and women to admire other people. Just because you're on a diet doesn't mean that you shouldn't look at the menu. To deny who you were before you got married is to conceal your identity. I can find something attractive in just about every women I pass on the street. The key is to practice self restraint. Flirting is healthy. As long as you don't touch the merchandise no trust is broken.

From Vinayak
Married and gazing is not an abnormal phenomena. We are always required to remain ever alert in this world. If your find something attractive, no wonder you stare there for a while. If you see a donkey and a woman on the road, you cannot b expected to look at the donkey. Problem occurs only when you're "involved" in that person, do something harmful to your relationship, be unfaithful to your partner, etc. If the partners trust each other none of them ever bothers about the other gazing elsewhere. I appreciate the website for offering platform for expression.

From Baba Khan
Hi all, I am a married man with two kids. I love to watch women on cam particularly if they remove one by one cloths in front of me. In fact I don't know about it one day it happened by chance, that make me attractive to watch and surfing many new women to watch them without any age limit and shapes.

From Karen
Unless you're a hermit then you will always welcome meeting new people. My husband and I are very outgoing, very lively, and whenever we go to a party we both enjoy meeting new people. We're both in our fifties so have a lot to talk about and I regard myself as being attractive with a slim figure, so dress to emphasise my 'assets'. I also enjoy flirting but am ever watchful that I don't create the wrong impression or encourage a male that I want to have sex with him. 

There's a fine line between flirting and giving off the 'I want to be fucked' signal. I'm in a very loving, successful and stable marriage and I would never cheat on my husband.

From Stiletto Heel
The question should be, "Am I dead?"

Of course I’m looking, always looking and always commenting. My spouse does the same. I don’t need to be vindicated by the "She’s hot! OH, but you’re prettier" comment rather I enjoy knowing what he thinks is sexy (of course he likes olive skinned brunettes and I’m a blonde ­ go figure). Gazing AND commenting makes me know he’s alive and sexually aroused. 

I want to know what he likes (body shapes, attitudes, clothing) so I can at least emulate some of that for him. I love to be sexually pleasing so knowing what he likes about other women is a huge turn on for me. This of course goes both ways. I want him to know what turns me on specifically about another man’s physique. 

After many years of being together and a little natural complacency we’ve made a pact with each other to "maintain" ourselves. Gazing and commenting just reinforces what we continue to find attractive about others and what turns us both on. It helps us remember that the other person isn’t sexually dead and that we need to work on ourselves lest the other stray.

From Meri
Wow, lots of justification in some of the responses. Let me sum it up simply (coming from a female, even). Boys and girls, looking is natural, human nature, call it what you want. It's okay. There's plenty of beauty around us. Do you look at rainbows, sunsets, and flowers as they bloom in the Spring? Good! You're supposed to. It's would be abnormal to turn away when something beautiful appears in front of us. 

I think everyone can handle an appreciative smile. I'm generally not offended by that and I have no problem with my husband throwing a second glance at a pretty girl. As long as you're not chasing someone who clearly is running away from you screaming "I gotta have some of that!", you're probably not stepping outside acceptable by taking that second look. Enjoy!

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