Can Fat be Sexy?

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From JB
My first three lovers were thin (anorexic), nicely proportioned but on the thin side, and thin (not anorexic but looked it). I am sure it was just their personalities, but they were not good in bed.

My wife is about 50 pounds heavier than she wants to be, but she's amazing in bed. She has totally transformed what I find sexy. I now love big butts, a bigger chest and round, wobbly tummies. Her form has equated in joy in my life and a wild and crazy sex life.

It has just been my personal experience that women that "control" their weight and don't robustly eat at the table, want to "control" their sex life and they don't robustly partake in the banquet between the sheets.

From Neil
The sexiest thing about a partner has nothing to do with size and weight but everything to do with confidence. A confident woman is a beautiful woman. First love yourself...then you can love someone else.

From Jani
I am what they call a 'big girl' but not morbidly obese. I have a job in my sis-in-law's firm and in a smart business suit, white blouse, dark pantyhose and high heels I regard myself as being very attractive. But when a guy at work started to hit on me I wondered what was going through his head. Did he see me as a freak fuck?

After a few after work drinks I agreed to have dinner with him. The sex was awful. Not because of my size or anything I did or didn't do. He was the problem - his cock was mega small! He lasted for 20 minutes or so but I really couldn't feel him in my pussy. So, I might be big across the ass but not every guy is well hung enough for the needs of us big ones!

From Jax
I think the issue comes down more to state of mind than size of body. I've always been obese and because of that, I am seriously, seriously shy. I've had one lover in my life because of it and she was really really great even though we ended up breaking it off. Now after changing my lifestyle, I've lost a lot of weight (over 120 pounds) and I know that I'm looking a lot "better" and certainly feeling far more healthy but even though my sex drive is high, my shyness keeps me from getting out there and playing the field. 

By contrast, my best friend in college has always been overweight/obese and she had no problems finding a horde of guys that wanted to be with her. I guess she just knew how to get what she wanted.  So to all those big women out there, I'd say if you're unafraid to put yourself out there, it shouldn't be a big deal. Remember, with the obesity rate rising it may all soon be a moot point.

From :)
As Lisa Lampinelli would say, "More cushion for the pushin."

From Anonymous
This can be a very difficult issue, I think. My ex-husband was and is a very large man (6'2", 480 pounds at his top weight), which I found quite sexy at first. As we were together and things in our relationship went sour, I found him less and less attractive and I seem to have generalized this to all fat people. 

It wouldn't be a problem at all (my new lover is skinny) if it hadn't affected my own body image (never good) so negatively. I can't look at myself and my big belly and my sagging breasts without disgust.

From A lucky girl
I am obese by today's standards and my husband is very fit. I admit to being ridiculously shy about my body and use lots of candlelight, lingerie and various other tactics like avoiding daytime sex to hide my body from my husband visually so I won't turn him off during sex.

Sadly, this all comes from my own neurosis, as he is nothing but complementary and worshipful of every inch of me. He constantly tells me how good it feels to press his body against my soft, strong body. I am his Goddess - I just wish I felt that way inside.

We have a spectacular sex life, in spite of my issues. We both agree it's the best sex ever. I have to laugh at myself that I love being fucked in the ass and will ride his face with abandon but won't let him see my fat belly. I often wonder how much better it could be if I could get over my shyness and let myself be the sexual glutton I am in my head.

Being fat does seem to dampen my sex drive to the point that a couple of times a week is about all I'm interested in but fortunately the quality more than makes up for the quantity.

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