Big Dicks vs Competent Foreplay

Your preference...be honest!

I would like to hear about how important a man's phallic length is. Every adult film I've seen has the macho studs sporting cocks of equestrian proportions, and it sure LOOKS like the women or men enjoy having every orifice filled by them. In the real world, however, how does a big dick rate compared with your partner being competent in foreplay? 

Would your personal preference be to have a horse-hung mate, but you'll settle for other things in lieu? If so, what rates higher for you in that instance? Your feedback could be most enlightening. —Phlyon Zawahl

Men ought to be more conscious of their bodies as an object of delight.  —Germaine Greer

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From Kathy
Well guys, a woman that has a tiny pussy rather have a normal size cock in her that's thick but not a monster. I know I prefer that. Monster cocks aren't always the best. Tiny woman that play with too big of a cock gets kidney infections because of the irritation from the monster.

So men, big cocks aren't for every woman.

From Anonymous
Well I suppose it depends....I'm just at 5 inches and my girlfriend hounds for my dick. Every girl I've been with has been happy with my size so I don't believe it really matters I just think that it is pushed in their head that it should matter.

From Jack
Honestly the only way I believe best output is achieved is by a balanced combination of both. Foreplay is mandatory, now don't just assume I mean fondling/oral what-not. Some women get excited from what's happening before sex; ie. guy tells her explicitly what he WILL do to her, or playing footsy in the movie theater and imagining that you and your partner are the people in the sex scene on the screen that leads to crazy sex in the back of the suv in the parking garage. Foreplay is mandatory, people just interpret it different. Communication with your partner solves this.

Now to size. Personally I'm marginally above average at 6 1/2. I am pretty wide spanning a little over 2' across the top of the shaft and I have a mushroom that's almost inhuman. I think its my weird shape that stimulates differently that works to my advantage but beside the point, with size it comes down to communication as well. you can have a monster cock but you need to use the correct position and posture/method. There are extremes but excluding those anyone should be able to excite anyone to ground shaking orgasms.

Leave pride at the door, I have never done it the same twice, because no woman is just like another. I have gone slow and soft as a heartbeat and as fast as a machine gun. Communication people. In respect to logic my answer is invalid, but in respect to lovemaking i do believe it most true.

From Anonymous
My contacting, romancing, traveling to, and then marrying a Filipino woman has proved to be an education.

On our honeymoon in the Philippines, following our civil wedding, she complained that my dick was too big, and that it hurt inside her. She further complained that girls in the Philippines don't do anal sex, unless they are prostitutes.

After 9 months of former-INS/Now-BCIS paperwork, I paid for her passport, visa, and airfare to the US.
She let me try anal on her in the US, butt (pun intended) still complained that my dick was too big. So, having a cock that's too big hasn't been as exciting as I earlier thought that it would be.

It seems true that the chicks that make an issue of "size", either way, are truly after something else.

Whatever!

From James S
When I was young I honestly didn't think being big was much of a big deal (ahem), although my wife assured me it made a difference to her from the beginning. She had had difficulty achieving vaginal orgasms until we became lovers, but with me she started having multiple orgasms (at least 20 in an average 15-minute fuck) and she said many times over the years that my size was crucial to her sexual satisfaction. She loved the sensation of being stretched to her limits (both vaginal and anal sex) and once said that while pain has no place in good sex, great sex always requires at least a bit of discomfort, if not outright pain, and my size helped her along in that department. The only problem we ever encountered was that her mouth was too small to take more than the glans and an inch of shaft when she sucked my cock, but that was not a big problem for either of us.

My measurements (her tape measure, not mine!) are 8-3/4" long and 8-1/2" circumference... diameter would be just under 3", but my cock isn't round, it's sort of triangular, and over 3" wide from side to side, if that makes sense...). I read a study in a medical journal a number of years ago that actually measured the size of several thousand volunteers' erect penises, and by that study this puts me at about the 85th percentile for girth and 80th for length. (Average length is about 5-1/2" and roughly the same circumference.) So while in a random sampling of 100 men there will be 15 or 20 who are bigger than me, there are 80 to 85 who are smaller.

Anyway, I knew I was big before I met my wife, because on two occasions women I went to bed with made me stop because they found my size too painful to accommodate. This can be REALLY frustrating, trust me. So I learned early to make a woman crazy with foreplay: hands and mouth all over her body to the point where she's crazy with desire before I penetrated her. Since I figured that out, I haven't had any woman tell me she couldn't accommodate me (vaginally, at least) and I haven't had to stop fucking before coming  since.

Since my wife was stricken with a serious and debilitating illness a number of years ago and we could no longer enjoy sex together, she encouraged me to take discrete lovers. I have had a number of lovers since then. All of these women claimed I have/had the biggest cock they'd ever taken, and they all said they loved it. But to be fair, they also said they'd had few men expend as much care and time on foreplay and duration of fucking as I do/did. And we're not talking about inexperienced girls, here... all of these women have been in their 40's and 50's and KNOW what works and what doesn't. I have initiated several women into the delights of anal sex, and despite the fact that these women all said they never thought they could enjoy anal, especially with a man with a large penis, they all became enthusiastic and orgasmic anal aficionados with me.

So I guess the final message in all that is that, yes, a large penis can be delightful to a woman, but it's important that its owner takes the time and care to make sure the woman is ripe and ready for all that man-flesh.

From Lily
I recently have had a number of revelations after I ended a five year, live-in relationship and fell in love with a new man. The ex had a slightly longer than average, very thick cock and I enjoyed the sensation of being filled up. The thickness in particular was a turn of when he was pushing inside me. HOWEVER, in certain positions the size and width of his cock could actually be painful. I'm wondering if this is because I'm a small person (5 ft 4 in with small bones, about 108 lbs). In particular, if I were sitting on top of him or if he were fucking me from behind (positions where the angle is very deep), if I wasn't really well "prepared" I would feel pain and cramping. This was difficult because it meant that positions where it's more likely that the woman will be able to come (cowgirl, for example) often didn't consistently bring me to the edge because of some discomfort. It wasn't that he was a bad lover, either.

The new guy has an average sized cock of average thickness (not that I've conducted any studies of the guys I've slept with). When erect it points straight up, and he has the most delicious, tight pair of balls I've ever seen. He's in his late 30s but his cock looks like a seventeen year olds'. I can sit on him and ride him as long as I want and come like I've never come before, with no discomfort at all. I'm in total heaven. I had thought that maybe something was wrong with me! Out of the 12 men I've slept with, I think I had the  BAD luck of meet up with too many long-cocked guys who fucked like demons but couldn't consistently make me come. I say save the monster cocks for the girls with the matching pussies. Everybody deserves the right to orgasm!

From Allan
My cock is 5 inches long and 5 inches around.  I get a nice rock hard erection that points straight up.  My ex-wife liked my cock and never complained about the size.  When I am soft, my cock can be very small, varying from 2 1/2 inches to smaller.  I  have never had a complaint from a woman.  And, I am able to attract a lot of women.

From Jimmy
I have to agree size does help. I myself am only 5 inches erect and my wife can not have orgasm from intercourse so I have to do oral for her to achieve that. It almost cost us to have a divorce until we seek professional help and that's when the told us about swinging. Now my wife is much happier and we became much closer. I admit it was weird at first seeing my wife with other men but it makes her incredibly happy. So just an idea that may help others 

From Mike
Honestly who cares? Women are never satisfied. I have been a swinger for 6 years and have seen all shapes and sizes. I am 6 inches long and 6 inches thick. When aroused I can become 7inches long. I have had sex with women right after an 11inch penis has been in them. I know what I'm doing and keep sex interesting that's what keeps them coming back. The case tends to be the bigger the chick like the cock, the fatter her waistline is. Stop giving a shit about what a women thinks. Fuck them right and they always come back.

From Lars
This is a very interesting and important topic and I am glad to hear all the women saying the truth, even though its their own truth. There are some men lucky enough to be having a large penis. I belong to those guys that are below average, my penis is just under 5 inches and I do admit that I have always been envy on guys who has a large penis.

Both men and women are making fun of men who has a small penis, I don't think it's by intention to hurt guys like me, but it does, I really wish I had a large penis, but I do accept that it's small. I have had women that have been honest about it and left me because of it too. I also know that I have never been able to satisfy a women sexually through intercourse. These are facts to me, I don't wont women to say size doesn't matter, just to make me feel better, if they enjoy it, then they should go for it. I am sure I would if I was one of them. I am single and I am sure that my lack of size is one of the reasons. I am sure there are  women out there that would be ok with my size, I just have to find her.

So does size matters, yes it does to most women and foreplay too.

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