Big Dicks vs Competent Foreplay
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From Littlejohn
Speaking as someone who is seriously under-endowed (my cock is a meager 3.25 inches when fully erect), it is my experience that cock size can actually be a very big issue in the bedroom (or perhaps that should be a very small issue). The majority of women I have dated have reacted very negatively when they have seen my cock for the first time. These reactions have ranged from giggling to breaking off the relationship right then and there. 

Fortunately for me, I have now found someone who can see beyond such things, but it has taken a long time. Since then, I have learnt that there are ways of getting around having a tiny cock (oral sex, carefully chosen positions, a strap-on, etc), but it is still a serious knock to the ego to know that 9 times out of 10 your partner isn't going to reach orgasm from your cock alone. Just thought I would share that with you.

From CaipirinhaMan
I agree with R.J. [see R.J.'s entry below] Women's vaginas differ in length and diameter the same as penises do. This is a very important fact that is surprisingly overlooked. Women's preferences also vary from woman to woman, so I'd say that this issue is one of a case by case study. But basically, there are two basic opposite situations: big penis + small vagina and short penis + big vagina.

A man with a big cock and a woman with a very small/tight pussy can be a fairly good or an extremely bad combo—If a woman with a small/tight pussy loves the feeling of being filled and stretched, then she'll go for well-endowed men and have great sex. But it can also happen that just an average cock hurts her and she'll prefer men with smaller/thinner dicks. The average/well-endowed man could get hurt as well when making love to this kind of woman.

A man with a short/thin dick and a woman with a big vagina is also a bad combo. It's quite unlikely that the woman will get hurt but it will be more difficult for her (and him) to get the needed stimulation.

From R.J.
To all the men out there, have you ever had a woman with a small pussy? Of course you have (and you've really enjoyed it too, haven't you). And have you ever heard these women say "bigger is better"? I haven't. The only women I have ever heard say "bigger is better" or "size matters" are the ones with big vaginas. Therefore, my opinion of the answers in this forum are that they are completely irrelevant, since none of the women who have responded have given any indication of their vaginal size (if I have missed any I stand corrected). 

So I have a question for the women out there: Do any of you who have small vaginas enjoy an average sized man and find a man with a "big dick" unpleasant? Please let us know. Men need to hear from you to balance out all the "big dick" rhetoric floating around. And do any of you women who have large vaginas enjoy an average sized man, or just the well endowed man? 

Please be honest, men need to know if this "big dick" stuff is a reality or just a preference of women with large equipment.

From Lilith
Does size matter? I have to say that I have had them at various sized. I mean from like two inches to almost ten inches. I have had the skinny, thick and cone shaped. The best sex, I have noticed didn't come from the biggest, or widest or even the funny shaped one. In fact, that best sex came from one that was about nine and half inches, normal in width and didn't get fully hard ever. This penis was so big that he passed into my cervix. He is the only one out of a handful of penises that brought me to orgasm. Not to say that the others brought me no pleasure and some displeasure, but he was the only one that seemed to be able to touch that spot inside of me that allowed me to climax the only way that I am able.

My first, I can't say what it looked like or its size. I was fifteen and was so not going to look at it. I never did either. It wasn't until I had my second sexual partner that I ever had seen one. I made sure to investigate it at length. It was I believe average, but not to my knowledge as average. He was about seven and a half inches and was perfectly shaped. The only thing that I noted about him was he had a freckle on the tip as well as some small flesh colored bumps. Which, I have now learned are normal. In truth his penis is the only one I have ever investigated to the full extent that I did. Loving to watch his scrotum expand and contract from my breath. But moving on.

Next I was able to see my first uncircumcised penis. It was as strange as its owner, who it so happens had an attached tongue, which for obvious reasons would have sucked had I kept him. The size was about six inches and more then that I don't know as I couldn't get passed the foreskin. Then I dated a guy who had the weirdest penis I have ever had the misfortune of meeting. His penis was three inches at best, and I am being nice, we couldn't switch positions as it wasn't big enough to maneuver with. So it was lame old missionary. On top of being tiny, where he wasn't, it was cone shaped and the tip curved. Needless to say, I have nicknamed him Captain Hook, and Cheeto.

Then I dated another guy shortly after breaking up with Cheeto, and discovered he had a small penis too. His was a mere four and a half inches. It was other then that normal. Oh, I forgot it was also uncircumcised along with that it also had those same fleshy bumps on it. Personally, I am for the circumcised as I don't like having to pull back the foreskin to check for unsightly blemishes and possible diseases that could be hidden. Besides that all that cleaning and cold water makes it hard to have seconds immediately.

Since these I have seen only two others, one which I tried and the other which I flatly refused. The one I refused was extremely wide. To wide for me to phantom taking into my body. I pride myself in the fact that they compliment me on my tight cunt. (I love that word.) So when I seen it attached to this wonderful handsome man I backed down. It was at least eight inches in length and I would have to say about four in width. I say four, because I obviously didn't have a ruler on me but I could not wrap my hand all the way around it and touch my fingers, there was at least an inch gap if not more between my finger tips. So, as curious as I was to try him out, I declined and instead allowed him the pleasure of using my breasts before I left.

The last guy, I did have meaningless sex with. The truth is though it was painful. He told me that he was only nine inches but I know better. On top of being long he was wide. A real poker chip could be set flat on his penis and none of it hanging over. The three times that I allowed myself to be tormented I told myself it had to get better. It didn't. He fumbled as if he had never had sex before. He was so tall that I felt dwarfed beside him, and sex as agonizing. I like a little pain with my sex. It is just good that way. But with him it was a little sex with my pain. I had to at all times keep a hand pressed to his abs to stop him from diving to deeply in which he was want to do. When I left his house I had cramps from his battering of my cervix and spotting. He broke numerous condoms even the magnum condoms which are made for the larger penis. Where my only orgasm came from a man of a larger penis he wasn't as wide nor was he ever as hard as this dudes penis was. I am actually surprised that he got enough blood into that organ to allow him to grow to that size and stay like a rock.

Basically sex was an inconvenience all around for me. He seemed to enjoy himself but what guy wouldn't like to know that he is the biggest cock a woman has had the misfortune of housing?

So, my thought on size, is that it matters.

From Sara
My husband's penis length is related to his state of arousal. A quickie in the morning before work and I'm lucky to see six inches. Given more time, especially if I dress up like a hooker in basque, stockings, then his arousal will be all the greater, eight inches, perhaps longer if the blood continues to run to his cock during lovemaking, the first third will be me sucking him up hard, another third will be him taking me anally, the final third, him in my vagina, assuming of course he hasn't already shot his load in my mouth or ass.

When his large his cock in my ass is not comfortable, I prefer him much smaller and while I enjoy sucking him when he is very large I don't when he decides to fuck my mouth, his length and thickness just too much for my mouth and throat. But length does matter to me and if I had the time for a long, slow fuck but was only going to have six inches I'd be very frustrated, more annoyed with myself for not being able to arouse the guy beyond his regular length.

From Susan from Canada
Great topic! I absolutely love a guy licking and sucking my labia and clit and licking and fingering my anus (cunt too) to get me going. I can become so turned on by foreplay I can't decide where I want the man to fuck me first. The length of a man's cock has never been of interest to me, but rather his penis 'girth' size is another story - the thicker the better.

I am 5' 2", 125 lbs., am a 34DD and petite in build. I have been told on more than one occasion that my cunt is quite tight, which men seem to like. When sexually aroused I also have no trouble producing a lot of lubrication. I have to be really honest here and tell you that ultimately, I want my legs to be pushed wide open by a man, then to be filled up to my maximum by him. There is no bigger turn on for me than being totally violated, full of massive maleness. One day I hope to meet him wherever he is. I am just about having an organism thinking about that thick cock as I write. 

In answer to your question - yes, I want foreplay and a big one. A small cock just would never do it for me I'm afraid. I wish there was some way to find out how big a guy was before getting to the point where you are already in the sack. Perhaps I need to get the nerve to discreetly try and 'cop a little feel' when still at the kissing stage.

From Raven
To R.J. [see R.J.'s entry on page 5]

In reply to your question, well, I really don't know if my pussy is "big" or "small"; no frame of reference. Not really something we women can casually compare the way men can.

Seems smallish to normal to me, and is usually fairly tight, even after 2 children, one or at most 2 fingers "around" in an unstretched state, and unless I am very well lubricated and aroused (which I usually am, thanks to my lover's attentions) takes a bit of manuvering to get his 7-8 inch, 3-4" diameter cock inside. (difficult enough that he doesn't often attempt it before I am nice and wet and opened a bit by arousal)

I do enjoy the feeling of a big cock inside me, ftr. Love the feel of being stretched and filled. I really get off on it when he is esp. highly aroused and larger and harder than he sometimes is when not so highly aroused. After 22 yrs, yes, I've noticed a difference in the size and duration of his erections...what used to be typical is now a bit exceptional. Nothing deal-breaking or anything, no huge difference, but I've noticed, and it's not because I've gotten bigger, though I'm sure I have...not quite as tight as I was as a 19 yr old virgin our first time, thank goodness! Much better fit now. I know his cock like the back of my hand, ok, maybe the palm;) and can tell the difference.

It can and does go both ways; women accused of being "loose" and men of being "small" and it's all relative...probably men who blame a woman for being "too big" when they are actually the one who is below average in size. And women who blame men for being "too small" when they are actually above average in size.

I think you have a valid point; we are all different, and a woman with a larger vagina who prefers feeling "filled" would tend to prefer a larger cock in a lover. And a smaller woman (vagina-wise) might prefer or even require a man of lesser endowment. And an above average sized man might prefer a larger woman, while a smaller than average man might prefer a tighter fit he can only get with a smaller woman - speaking  vagina-wise.

But overall, speaking for myself, there is so much more involved than penis or vagina size (personality, compatibility, foreplay, technique, passion) that it is just not something I focus on that much. I guess my partner and I are a good fit, in more ways than this.

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