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From Mary
Long dicks do not make make it for climatic sex, and certainly not pleasant sex. It's the thickness we girls want, fatter kicks longer anytime. Long dicks just bang the hell out our insides; thick dicks feel good, lots of friction on all the good spots. And, if it's too thick, lots of foreplay and lube will fix the problem. But too long, there's simply no fix, it's just uncomfortable. Guys with 6 inches of fat dick rule!

From Danielle
For me, 'competent' is the most important word here. My preference lies with average or slightly smaller than average sized dicks: too large and it'll hurt, too small, though, and it may slip out during an intense fuck, which can be anything from a shame to annoying to painful. I like to feel his balls against me hard when we fuck which for me is easier when he's not too large.

From Littlejohn
Speaking as someone who is seriously under-endowed (my cock is a meager 3.25 inches when fully erect), it is my experience that cock size can actually be a very big issue in the bedroom (or perhaps that should be a very small issue). The majority of women I have dated have reacted very negatively when they have seen my cock for the first time. These reactions have ranged from giggling to breaking off the relationship right then and there. 

Fortunately for me, I have now found someone who can see beyond such things, but it has taken a long time. Since then, I have learnt that there are ways of getting around having a tiny cock (oral sex, carefully chosen positions, a strap-on, etc), but it is still a serious knock to the ego to know that 9 times out of 10 your partner isn't going to reach orgasm from your cock alone. Just thought I would share that with you.

From Veronica
Honestly, I never thought much about it until a girl friend told me about how her well endowed lover was pleasing her. I'm a 48 y.o. widow of 5 years and got back into the dating game about 3 years ago. I have 3 kids and I noticed that after the last one that intercourse wasn't as intense as in the early years, though even then I never was able to achieve orgasm from intercourse.

Boy what a difference with my current boyfriend/lover. He is very well endowed, about 8in. long and 5 and a half around. (yes we measured ). When I first saw his erect penis it was very exciting and such a turn on to handle and suck it, though I can't begin to get all of it in my mouth.

Intercourse is a new exciting experience. As other women have said, there's no substitute for that "full feeling", the friction and stretching that I now get. His thickness is stimulating my clit and the extra friction is apparently rubbing my G spot, or whatever is happening. I also love the pulsing feeling at the back of my vagina. I'm now experiencing multiple orgasms from intercourse, and some incredible final ones. Of course it doesn't hurt that he's a handsome, well built guy and very romantic too. Also, and very important, he is very patient, always waiting until I'm very wet and ready ( It doesn't take long! ). We also use lube.

I've read that a minority of women experience intercourse orgasms. I wonder if they're the ones with well endowed lovers?

From Susan from Canada
Great topic! I absolutely love a guy licking and sucking my labia and clit and licking and fingering my anus to get me going. I can become so turned on by foreplay I can't decide where I want the man to fuck me first. The length of a man's cock has never been of interest to me, but rather his penis 'girth' size is another story - the thicker the better.

I am 5' 2", 125 lbs., and petite in build. I have to be really honest here and tell you that ultimately, I want my legs to be pushed wide open by a man, then to be filled up to my maximum by him. There is no bigger turn on for me than being totally full of massive maleness. One day I hope to meet him wherever he is. I am just about having an organism thinking about that thick cock as I write. 

In answer to your question - yes, I want foreplay and a big one. A small cock just would never do it for me I'm afraid. I wish there was some way to find out how big a guy was before getting to the point where you are already in the sack. Perhaps I need to get the nerve to discreetly try and 'cop a little feel' when still at the kissing stage.

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