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SwingingAnyone ever been to a swing club? I'm dreadfully curious—what's it like? What are the rules, the etiquette? Can you go and just watch or do they find that annoying?

By "swing clubs" I mean the type of establishment where you have a membership and there are scheduled parties and dances, rules and regulations, etc. Off premises or on. It turns out there's such a club in the city where I live, and I'm told by my gentleman friend that an acquaintance of his (from work no less) can refer us to the proprietors. I'm not the type to want to get naked with strangers, but I certainly am the type who has always wanted to indulge an untried voyeuristic inclination.

So, the more anyone can tell me about what goes on at these parties, the better. I'll know if I want to try and go to one...or two or three or...

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From Lilah Xavier
My partner and I only came to swinging in our fifties and it's been fabulous.  However our best experiences have been at house parties and private play rather than at clubs.

Clubs in Melbourne tend to be for a younger crowd, often with groups of people who know each other and aren't interested in anyone joining their clique.  House parties are a lot more intimate.

I must take exception to a comment by Pete where he advises that one key to a good swinging experience is to do it with good looking people.  Sorry, but looks has absolutely nothing to do with successful swinging.  Since when does good looks guarantee a good sexual experience?  With many years of swinging under my belt, and also running an extremely successful house party (hardcore) I can honestly say that the most sexually uninhibited and open-minded swingers are just ordinary, everyday people.

From Showoff
My husband and I had a terrific time when we went to a swing club. It was an off-premise, byob club. Before going, I contacted the owner to ask some questions, because I was nervous about not fitting in. I am an exhibitionist and my husband is a voyeur, but we did not want to get physically involved in swinging. The owner wrote back right away assuring me that there would be no pressure and we were welcome to enjoy ourselves however we felt comfortable.

The club had stripper poles and a shadow dancing screen, and I had a lot of fun with these. There were lots of good-looking women there (mostly over 40 years old, but in-shape and attractive), dancing, getting naked, doing body shots on the bar, that sort of thing, so that was fun for my husband. We also played strip pool with some other couples. Nobody was pushy, just friendly.

Yeah, swingers clubs can be a lot of fun, even if you don't swing, if you like to get naked in public or even if you just like to watch other people get wild.

From Tamsin
What goes on in swing clubs? Well, we went to our first one, in Myrtle Beach, below our hotel. We were very impressed at the good organization and cleanliness of the place, not at all tacky, and the party atmosphere was very relaxing. It cost us $50 each to get in, it was BYOB and we took two bottles of red wine, which we shared with the two couples we met. There was a bar area with a few tables, next door was a disco area and beyond that were the 'romp rooms'. 

Our plan was to swing with just one couple, stay with them for the evening, maybe invite them back to our room. That didn't work out, the two couples we met showed no interest in us after sex, and later when I danced with one guy he groped me badly, inside my skirt, pulling my panties down, snagging my $30 stockings, lacking in any respect, and when I told him to get lost he was abusive.

When I couldn't find hubby I became very uncomfortable and unsafe, left, going straight to our room. Why did we go? Well, we like sex, and while we're married (five years) we think we're a liberated couple and have swung on two previous times, at parties, and enjoyed it. I guess because it's a club behaving in a courteous and respectful way doesn't count.

From Sexyswinger
I have been to 3 different off premise swing clubs in the Toronto region - there are dozens here for all ages and desires. I have to say, I'm solidly hooked. I go with my husband, sometimes we go with another couple, sometimes we go with another male friend we play with. I love preparing for it, planning the evening, getting dressed, deciding which underwear not to wear. I love going when there are other single men allowed - I find I have much better luck and generate a bit of a fan club on the dance floor. I love dancing so it allows me to bump and grind and get extremely aroused before deciding with which man, woman or couple to take it the next level.

Because of the strict rules of conduct, I feel it is a safe place to explore my sexuality - certainly everyone who attends is like minded, sexual beings. It certainly adds to our marriage and our self esteem.

From Christian Brinner
We've visited a couple... Our experience with them has been less than exciting. We've found that the majority of the people at each were very unattractive physically, and not very appealing mentally either. On the other hand, that's two clubs out of thousands and thousands in the U.S., so I'm sure there are much nicer places out there, we just don't happen to have found them.

For purposes of your research, both that we attended were off-premise, so there wasn't much need for etiquette rules. It was more like any other public place; be polite when meeting people, back off if they don't want to dance/talk/etc. By "off-premises" I mean that there's no sex on-site. People use the club as a place to meet up and go elsewhere, but sexual interaction isn't allowed on-site.

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