Swing Clubs
What Goes On at These Parties?

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From Anonymous
We've been visiting clubs for about 10 years. Some lessons we've learned include the following:

-Both wife and I are well known in our community, so we generally visit out of town clubs - usually 5-6 times per year in conjunction with business trips and vacations.

- All clubs have the rule, "No means no!" However, we'd also like to add, "Yes means yes, but only within the confines of the club." One bad experience locally early on and the out of town club policy above was born.

- Do your homework well ahead of time. We're on a few message boards which can make recommendations by city and fill us in on the demographics and type of clientele at specific clubs.

- Don't feel like you have to partner up on every visit. It took us a couple of tries before we made a connection.

- Be open-minded about who you partner up with. One time we met a couple in a Miami club that was our absolute polar opposite (more conservative, a little older) . . . and they absolutely took us to school. Absolutely mind blowing!

- It doesn't take a genius to figure out that fit people make more connections. I took off about 25 lbs about 3 years ago and it's made all the difference in the world.

- Most people at clubs don't look like models (we certainly aren't perfect), but at least look your best. Put on some nice clothes, wear some nice jewelry, get your hair done, etc., etc. People you meet will notice and appreciate the effort.

- Finally, keep in mind that visiting clubs is like a spice. A little bit can go a long way. Avoid making going to clubs the focus of your relationship.

From Kay
My husband and I went to our first partner swap party a few weeks ago. It was held by some long-term friends of ours going back to the sixties. They started to swing early this year, going to a mix of clubs and parties, clearly enjoying it, deciding the time had come to organize their own bash. There were exactly 25 couples at the party, all married, ranging in ages from late 30s through 60s. I soon learnt from the husbands I spoke to that swing clubs weren't exactly the healthiest of places to enjoy extra-marital sex and private parties were always safer, more relaxing and less threatening.

The question I kept being asked was, "why do you enjoy swinging?" to which I had to reply (in the early part of the evening at least) that I'd never done it before! I explained that hubby and I had a very successful and active sex life but had decided to experiment with swinging to see if our experiences could add anything to our marriage and sex life. 

I had sex with three different men on that night, and a fourth occasion when I returned to one of the three, a particularly handsome man, mid-forties (I'm 52), well- endowed and a superb lover, a man I could easily fall for. Sex during that night was a mix of oral (me giving head) and 'pussy' and the house rule that men wore protective sheaths was not completely adhered to. 

So what did hubby and I learn? Well, we are very reserved but agreed that swinging had a place in our sex life. However, unlike our friends, we didn't see it playing a major role and we agreed that we'd probably indulge only once a month and certainly didn't see us hosting our own partner swap party for some time to come. Our next step has been taken - we've invited over to ours for dinner the man who made love to me twice at the party and his wife. I have to admit that the thought of being in bed with him again is very thrilling!

From Anonymous
My husband and I recently attended our first swing party. We went there mainly just to "check it out", and had no intentions of fully swapping with other couples, which we were assured was fine. We were open to voyeurism, possibly even exhibitionism, or inviting a female to join us. 

The party wasn't really what we expected. There were maybe 40 couples there, most of them were older than us (late 40's to 50's), and not what we would consider very attractive. The night started out rather tame, a handful of people welcomed us, most everyone else ignored us, so it was a tad uncomfortable but we thought "what the heck, we drove all this way, let's see this out". They had porn movies showing, and later in the evening quite a large crowd gathered around the TV. Soon, some people started "performing" in that room, mainly oral sex, but others were having full intercourse in the next room with the door open. 

We went upstairs, and there were more people participating in oral in the living room, naked women dancing, people making out, etc... Honestly, it did NOTHING for us, not at all what we expected. I told my husband that we could have gotten more turned on at a wet t-shirt contest or girls gone wild, this was just a bit too surreal for us, with a vibe of ickiness thrown in for good measure. 

We aren't in a hurry to go to another party, although in all honesty it was probably our own fault that we didn't enjoy it to the fullest. We left after a couple of hours, and I'm sure things got wilder afterward. Not sure exactly what we were expecting, or what we hoped to get from it, but it was a let down. The people there all knew each other, had swung together for many years, and were completely comfortable. We were "new", not full swap, and not into watching old people get it on. 

I'm sure this works for some people, but we'd prefer to find a few select couples to have wild times with, instead of this type of environment.

From Hazel and Earl
My husband and I enjoy swinging, no bad experiences so far, but then I think we probably match the profile for successful swingers, mid fifties, married twenty five years, very much in love with each other, good looking, healthy figures, enjoying a big sex drive and all forms of husband-wife sex.

We started almost three years ago but didn't decide to become regular swingers first but we wanted to fulfill our sex drive with one encounter to begin with then make our minds up about what we did next. We were also very cautious and spent a very long time doing our homework, researching on the internet, before finally deciding to go to a swing party at a private house, instead of a swing club.

We had to become members, $60 every three months and pay an entrance fee, $30 for a couple. We were told to bring our own wine, told there'd be some light snacks to eat, given a list of do's and dont's, given some hints what to wear, 'sexy, interesting' as in stockings, short skirt, high heels, (pantyhose a real no-no!).

The house was some distance from ours so we booked into a nearby hotel. We arrived at ten and there were about a dozen couples, all in a large lounge area, and I guess another dozen or so couples turned up soon after we did, a mix of twenty/thirty somethings and those our age.

Not having any knowledge of swing parties we decided to remain together in the hope of meeting the 'right' couple for our experience, the lounge being the focus of networking by all the couples. Sticking with hubby didn't pan out as I was asked to dance by a guy, 50s, quite handsome, good talker and amusing, he and his wife being regular swingers. I was conscious that I'd left hubby behind but knew he was no wallflower and be impressing some lady somewhere in the party.

It wasn't long before I was kissing the guy, very arousing, very sexy, and I wondered what would happen next, where would we go to have sex? The answer came at midnight when the lights in the lounge were dimmed and many of the couples stopped dancing to lie down on the floor, as we eventually did, my partner unzipping my dress, me slipping it off, he taking off shirt and pants. We kissed, fondled, undressed further and, at his suggestion, I sucked him off. We stayed on the floor talking, then I brought him up again but this time I had a bit more confidence and I had, as they say, a very satisfying fuck! We stayed together through 2 a.m. having regular 'pussy' sex every time he had an erection (me bringing him up with my mouth/massaging him). It ended only when his wife came looking for him. I dressed and went looking for my husband - he was on the other side of the lounge enjoying himself with a lady.

On the way back to our hotel we both agreed that our first experience as swing virgins had been very successful and agreed that we'd try it again. That was three years ago and today we are very satisfied swingers, mainly attending parties, one or two clubs, going at least once a year on vacation to swingers resorts in places like Bermuda and Mexico.

From Tamsin
What goes on in swing clubs? Well, we went to our first one, in Myrtle Beach, below our hotel. We were very impressed at the good organization and cleanliness of the place, not at all tacky, and the party atmosphere was very relaxing. It cost us $50 each to get in, it was BYOB and we took two bottles of red wine, which we shared with the two couples we met. There was a bar area with a few tables, next door was a disco area and beyond that were the 'romp rooms'. 

Our plan was to swing with just one couple, stay with them for the evening, maybe invite them back to our room. That didn't work out, the two couples we met showed no interest in us after sex, and later when I danced with one guy he groped me badly, inside my skirt, pulling my panties down, snagging my $30 stockings, lacking in any respect, and when I told him to get lost he was abusive.

When I couldn't find hubby I became very uncomfortable and unsafe, left, going straight to our room. Why did we go? Well, we like sex, and while we're married (five years) we think we're a liberated couple and have swung on two previous times, at parties, and enjoyed it. I guess because it's a club behaving in a courteous and respectful way doesn't count.

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