Celebrating the Writing Obsession

by | April 30, 2014 | General | 2 comments

By K D Grace

I’m just finishing up a major manuscript, a
labour of love that I’ve been working on for five years. That being the case, I
suppose I’m being more obsessive than usual because this manuscript is close to
my heart. Lately my routine has been pretty simple. I write. Actually I’m
editing in at this stage, but for me editing has never been a hardship. It’s a
part of writing and I love it as much as I do a first draft. I write all day
ignoring pretty much everything that doesn’t grab me by the ear and drag me
bodily, kicking and cursing, away from the laptop. My husband comes home in the
evenings and we have dinner together then catch up on the day’s events. After
that, I go back to work…writing. Several hours later, I shut down the computer
and shuffle off to bed already thinking about how soon tomorrow I can clear the
decks and get back to work…writing.

It hit me the other day that as this
manuscript has been a long time coming, and it’s something I’m extremely proud
of, maybe I should plan to celebrate its completion. Maybe we should go out for
dinner or have a nice bottle of fizz or go away for the weekend or something.
But then I think about the next project already tempting me like a bright red
cherry ready to be plucked off the Story Tree and devoured. Isn’t starting a
new novel celebration enough, I ask myself?

Celebrating can be so disruptive, and so
often not nearly as much fun as… well, writing. Okay, being on the final press
to finish a manuscript makes me even more obsessive than usual, but I’m just
having so damn much fun!

When I finish this manuscript, my husband
will, quick like a bunny, pack lunches into the rucksacks, make up a flask of
tea and prepare water bottles. He knows our window of opportunity is slim. He
has to get me slathered with sunscreen, dressed in walking clothes, and out the
door before I decide that next cherry of a novel just won’t wait to be plucked.
But he’s good. He’s really good. He has me kitted up and out the door before I
can give that novel a second thought. Of course by the end of the day, for the
last couple of miles, I’m thinking about… you know … writing!

I’ve been thinking a lot about the writing
obsession. People who don’t have it are always saying I should celebrate my
successes or I should take a break, or I shouldn’t work so hard. They just
don’t get it. Writing is NOT a means to an end. It IS the end. The story that
we writers are inspired to put down is never-ending. And it’s just as well
because what on earth would we do with our time if we couldn’t write? It isn’t
just important that I get on with the next project as soon as I get the last
one out the door; it’s essential. I get really twitchy, and very bad-tempered
if I don’t. It’s not about the destination. It’s about the journey, and the
journey is every word I write, every idea that pushes its way out of my head
onto the written page, every rewrite, every edit, ever improvement. The journey
is about all of my characters and the unfolding of their stories, which always
involve the unfolding of the stories of the characters who affect them. The
journey is about the on-going back-story that is forever being revealed in my
head. It’s about all the things I know about my characters and their lives that
no one else knows – no one else will ever know because it never gets on the
page. But I know. I know secrets,
and I wait with bated breath for even more secrets to be revealed, whether I’m
allowed to share them or not.

Is it an obsession? Oh yes. Do I want the
cure? Hell no! Am I afraid I’ll run out of stuff to write? Never! What I am
afraid of is that I’ll run out of time to write the stuff that’s already in my

The truth of the matter is that what I do
to celebrate my writing successes is write. What I do for recreation is write,
what I do when I’m not writing is think about writing. Actually, you may not
know this, but you are all participating, right this very moment, in my
celebration party! So, grab a glass of wine, a pint, a Margarita, whatever the
drink of choice is and raise it with me as we toast, not the destination, but
the totally fabulous journey that is writing! On second thought, if you’re a
fellow writer, just grab a pen and paper or sit down with your laptop and write
something. If you’re an avid reader, grab the latest by your favourite author
and as you read, remember, you’re participating in their celebration, so cheers!

KD Grace

Voted ETO Best Erotic Author of 2014, K D Grace believes Freud was right. It really IS all about sex — sex and love – and that is an absolute writer’s playground.

When she’s not writing, K D is veg gardening or walking. Her creativity is directly proportional to how quickly she wears out a pair of walking boots. She loves mythology, which inspires many of her stories. She enjoys time in the gym, where she’s having a mad affair with a pair of kettle bells. She loves reading and watching birds, and she loves anything that gets her outdoors.

KD’s novels and other works are published by Totally Bound, SourceBooks, Accent Press, Harper Collins Mischief Books, Mammoth, Cleis Press, Black Lace, and others. She also writes romance under the name Grace Marshall.

K D’s critically acclaimed erotic romance novels include, The Initiation of Ms Holly, Fulfilling the Contract, To Rome with Lust, and The Pet Shop. Her paranormal erotic novel, Body Temperature and Rising, the first book of her Lakeland Witches trilogy, was listed as honorable mention on Violet Blue’s Top 12 Sex Books for 2011. Books two and three, Riding the Ether, and Elemental Fire, are now also available.

K D Grace also writes hot romance as Grace Marshall. An Executive Decision, Identity Crisis, The Exhibition and Interviewing Wade are all available.


  1. Lisabet Sarai

    No wonder you're so prolific, K.D.!

    Don't you ever get into one of those "I just can't force myself to sit down in front of the computer" moods?

    I don't know if I envy you or not.

  2. Reuben

    Amen and thank you! I'm 100% the same. And it's inspiring to hear the obsession described so eloquently by another kindred writerly spirit.

    Personally, I get so frustrated having to write around a 9-5 job I hate when all I so desperately want to do is be back at my desk at home writing.

    But I believe the passion for writing keeps a writer pushing forwards no matter. And I'll always find a way. Your article has lifted me with its confirming zeal. Thanks!

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