Dirty Words: Body Parts & Body Fluids

by | December 16, 2019 | Editing Corner | 15 comments


For authors who write dirty stories, making the sex scenes ‘sexy’ is surely our ultimate goal. It’s no use having a clever plot that brings together a gorgeous babe and a well-hung stud if the nitty-gritty of their coupling doesn’t arouse the reader. Nobody enjoys an anti-climax.


When I submitted a story to Storytime a few months back, one reviewer mentioned that I’d referred to body fluids more than was necessary, and it was their comment that gave me the idea for this post.


So, how much of the sticky details do readers want in a dirty story? And how should we refer to the parts and fluids of the body?


I don’t know the answer, and suspect there probably isn’t one that satisfies all readers. Some people will be happy with: ‘He slid inside me and held me close until our souls collided in mutual bliss’, while other readers want something along the lines of: ‘I felt his huge cock forcing its way in, stretching me like I’d never been stretched before. Once inside, he fucked me with abandon, shredding my cunt with his onslaught and flooding me with his jism.’



Authors have their own views on how much detail they give for the ‘ins and outs’, and also have their own preferred terms. For me, both are equally important.


As a reader, I like to know the sensations that the characters experience during sex—both physical and emotional. I also like to be told exactly what’s happening at the business end of their coupling, and so that’s what I try and put into the stories I write.



While romance readers may prefer less explicit prose, I don’t think readers of erotica are offended when they come across words like ‘cock’ and ‘cunt’. They’re my go-to nouns for gentleman- and lady-tackle, though I do slip in the occasional ‘dick’ and ‘prick’ for variety.



I’m also fond of the word ‘minge’. I’m a British writer, so ‘pussy’ just doesn’t sit right on my tongue (heh), though as a reader I have no problem with it. In the UK, I think the most common slang term for the lady-parts is ‘fanny’, but that doesn’t translate well in the US (imagine my reaction whilst visiting Chicago when an American referred to my wife’s ‘fanny pack’).


I find anatomical names like penis and vagina in erotica to be mood killers, so I avoid those.


For male ejaculate, I use ‘cum’ or ‘jizz’, and occasionally the Brit-friendly ‘spunk’. Semen’s okay, but I think ‘seed’ and ‘sperm’ are more appropriate if possible fertilisation is the kink. Women have ‘juices’.


Every writer has their preferences and, for the most part, I’m happy to follow a story without getting too wound up on their choice of terms unless they’re something ridiculous, like ‘his love truncheon’ or ‘her scented love grotto’.

And I guarantee I’ll never use dialogue like, “Hey, Penelope. How’d you like to ride my purple pony to Pleasure Town?” or “Yo, Errol. Can I take that choo-choo of yours all the way to Orgasm Central?”


Another aspect of body parts is how much detail you go into when you describe them.


A couple of years ago, a guy wrote to me to say how much he’d enjoyed a cuckold story I’d written. I was actually in the middle of writing the sequel at the time, so when I replied to thank him, I offered him the chance to read what I’d written so far. He eagerly accepted and we swapped emails regarding the story until I’d finished it. One thing he suggested was that I had my hotwife mention the different smells and tastes of the bulls she experienced as she pulled back their foreskin. I confess that I didn’t follow his suggestion because I don’t find those details sexy. Where cocks are concerned, my description tends to be minimalist, leaving things to the reader’s imagination. At most, I might refer only to size, where the kink makes it relevant, or make the occasional mention of a curve one way or another. I don’t think I’ve ever specified whether or not there’s a foreskin. Where women are concerned, I tend not to go any more detailed than boob size, nipple shade and pubic hair appearance (or lack of).



Physical descriptions of their relative positions are important because I like to visualise the scene. I also like to read the sensations of the POV characters, and the physical reactions and expressions of the non-POV characters.


As for the emotional side: Who cares?


Just kidding. What’s going on inside the characters’ heads is a big part of the sexiness. Much of what I read and write is in the wife-sharing genre, and these stories thrive on the characters’ feelings. Whether a husband is watching his wife with another man, or the hotwife’s experiencing her bull while her husband watches, their thoughts are just as sexy to me as the slippery pink parts.


Body Fluids

Returning to the opening question, do we actually need to mention them at all?


I suppose the answer is ‘no’: I’ve read some wonderful sex-scenes where the descriptions are super-erotic without any explicit mention of the body fluids produced. Then again, the nature of the kink in the story does create some reader expectations. If you’re writing a story about creampies, or the story involves a cuckold clean-up scene, then a focus on the fluids becomes mandatory.


The pace of a scene also dictates how much description you can get away with; while the choreography might be moving too fast to be thorough about including details like taste and texture, the physical appearance and placement of a well-aimed dollop can contribute a lot to a scene.



Some authors are really good at making the most basic of human instincts and actions sound sexy. Of many examples, one that still sticks in my mind (about a year and a half after I first read it) is a description from Belinda LaPage’s Group Therapy in the second ERWA anthology, Twisted Sheets:


‘He snugged his convulsing balls tightly between the woman’s labia, and with a groan and some long, arching heaves, he painted two, three, four coats of high-gloss white on her ceiling.’


I think this is fabulous; while neither explicit nor crude, this conjures up the image of him coming inside her in a unique and very sexy way.


For me, good erotica involves a detailed description of the sex scene. If the author can express the feelings, sensations and reactions of the characters in a sexy way, it makes the scene work. If they can also describe the physical ‘comings and goings’ in a way that’s implicitly erotic, then it elevates the scene into something much more arousing than a Readers’ Wives confession-type thing.


I guess I can’t let the subject of body fluids pass without the mention of condom-use in erotica. There are two sides to the argument: some readers dislike the characters who take unwarranted risks, and others say they read for escapism, not realism.


I’ve written stories where the characters use condoms and stories where they don’t. I’ve also used plots where condoms are discussed but then discarded because their use does not fit the kink (such as the taboo of a married hotwife taking a bull bareback). It comes down to the author’s preference for that particular story.


However much I argue for author’s personal choices, it does appear that there are some things which readers don’t want to see in any dirty story. When I was doing some research for this post, I looked at a few websites that list elements in ‘bad erotica’. Below is a short list, in no particular order, of things readers don’t like:

  • writers who refer to the phallus entering inside the cervix or the womb or uterus
  • writers who confuse “prostate” and “prostrate”
  • hands, feet and dicks which undermine the characters’ brains and do things all by themselves
  • bad choreography (forgetting critical things like height difference)
  • lengthy flashbacks about exes in the middle of a sex scene
  • terms such as ‘exploding nipples’ and ‘weeping vaginas’
  • the term ‘cock snot’

It’s a relief not to have committed all these writing crimes, though it’s a shame I have to go back to my WIP and remove every single reference made to my MC’s cock snot…



Delores Swallows

Delores Swallows has many dirty thoughts, and during his free time he writes them down in the form of stories. Born and bred in the northwest of England, he has a commoner’s accent and a bit of a crush on his future queen (Kate, not Camilla!). His stories often feature petite brunettes, high-heeled shoes and voyeurism. He claims he didn’t realise these were obsessions until someone pointed out how often they appear in his work.


  1. Larry archer

    Great post and for my 2 cents, the biggest difference in choice of words is whether it’s a romantic or erotic (stroke) story. I’m not sure if you can satisfy both genres with the same story.

    • Delores Swallows

      Hi Larry – thanks for reading and chipping in.

      I’m not sure that dirty words alone define it as stroke. I always think that’s more down to the lack of plot or character development.

      I don’t consider all erotica stroke. But then again, I’m sure a lot of ‘romance’ authors use the dirty words – they just don’t go as overboard with their descriptions of what’s going on.


  2. Belinda LaPage

    Thanks for the shoutout, Del.

    I don’t mind a minge in my morning erotica, but can’t bring myself to use it in my own work.

    I am fond of purse – not to everyone’s taste, though, and I accept that.

    Juices, I’d agree, is the go-to for feminine secretions, however I’ve been known to drop the very occasional scented nectar when the mood strikes. I’m not proud of it.

    Great images. Hope you were browsing incognito when you searched for that facial.

    • Delores Swallows

      You’re welcome. I also loved the description of Cole’s retelling of his first time in Over the Moon, but didn’t want to give your work too many plugs 🙂

      Ah yes, the ‘silk purse’. I think there are a lot of nice terms that are refreshing when used sparingly. I often use ‘her sex’ when cunt feels a bit too strong for the mood of the scene.

      Scented nectar… Hmm.
      Though I can’t laugh – I used ‘nectar’ recently, but it was tied in with one woman pretending to be a butterfly while the other was a flower.

      Glad you like the images. The facial one I use as my phone screen.

      Thanks for your comment.


      • larry archer

        True, romance writers tend to beat around the bush a lot when talking about doing the nasty.

        • Delores Swallows

          Ha !

          They should yell us exactly how the guy beat her around the ‘bush’.

    • larry archer

      “Purse” or “Silk Purse” tends to be a little too abstract for my tastes. Depending on how it’s used, “cunt” can be either vulgar or not depending. The problem is that you can’t use the same word over and over so you’re often forced to use words that are not acceptable in mixed company to avoid being repetitious. 🙂

  3. Tig

    Heh, don’t beat about the bush, will you Del? Noooope….

    An enjoyable article by a man who has clearly experimented with the linguistics of luuuuuurve. Or lust, rather 😉

    • Delores Swallows

      Hi Sam

      Heh – lots of experimenting with dirty words in general, I think.

      Speaking of which, this morning my nine-year-old son asked me what word starts with F and ends with U-C-K ?

      After my initial shock, I said I couldn’t think of any word with those letters, and he smirked and answered ‘Firetruck.’

      Thanks for reading and commenting.

      Del xx

  4. Lisabet Sarai

    Excellent post, Del!

    I find that the words I choose vary greatly with the story I’m writing, and the characters. Depending on the desired effect, I might mention bodily fluids, or not.

    Just published an erotic romance where I tended to be less graphic… but I’m working on Christmas smut tale that has women sharing cum kisses. (Okay, so I borrowed that from Larry…!)

    “Exploding nipples”, though… that’s a wild image. I’m almost tempted to put it into a flasher.

    Thanks for coming (!) to the editor’s corner rescue!

    • Larry archer

      That’s okay Lisabet, you can have all the “cum kisses” you want! LOL

      To me that’s one of the hottest things, is to watch two girls kiss after they give you a double BJ. I know I’m sick but that is such a turn on, like kissing a girl who tastes like pussy.

      However, exploding nipples sounds terrifying!

      • Delores

        Larry – you’re a sick pervert.

        When I die, I hope I come back as you in my next life 🙂


        • Larry Archer


          If there is anything left, you’re welcome to it.

          At least buy a new raincoat, this one has a lot of stains on it!

    • larry archer

      During sex, visuals are so exciting to me and watching two girls together, especially when one is Wifey, is such a turnon!

  5. Delores

    Hi Lisabet

    I was hardly coming to the rescue – it was me who was late !!

    I agree that what words you use depends on the story and characters – especially in dialogue.


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