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Symbolism Within Unrealistic Erotic Acts

Have you ever read a sex scene that stretches reality past its limitations? I don’t mean in a genre sense like science fiction. I mean the realism of the sexual act itself. For example, many erotic tales have aliens with extremely compatible genitalia that may or may not create viable offspring. But what if… 

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An alien species thrusts its cock deep inside its host and then releases spines to anchor itself while it breeds them. The host can only moan in ecstasy as it pierces their cervix to ensure insemination, implanting and fertilizing eggs within them.

You may ask, “How can one realistically enjoy spines piercing the vaginal canal and a penile head that penetrates the cervix?”

Well, because it’s not really happening. It’s just art that is interpreted by the perspective of the reader. Those unrealistic elements are symbolic. To some, the spines become stability, representing an undeniable binding of two lovers as they create life. To others, this signals a release of control.

No one could enjoy a pierced cervix (Speaking from experience as one who’s given birth and also had an IUD inserted – ouch), but the author sets the tone. If they surround the action with pleasurable language, then a penetrated cervix is a barrier being opened. It’s allowing someone into your womb, your core. It’s intimate and sacred. It’s a surrender.

In this way, pain and pleasure are straddled by the framing of the author:

(Trigger warning for those who don’t like gore, skip the next paragraph).

1) An author can be building a torture scene complete with a dungeon that smells of piss and vomit. Blood is dripping from the scalpel of the villain, who is carving their name into their screaming victim.

2) An author is in the middle of a sex scene with a demon and his summoner. As the demon cums, his brand is burned into the summoner’s side, forever claiming him as property of Hell. But the summoner welcomes the heat just as he accepts the cock of his new master.

Both scenes are about possession, but one is made erotic by context. Suspension of disbelief is inherent in any writing since it’s all just a made up story. And though I default to adding aliens and demons, these unrealistic actions can be found in human-only erotica too.

Size difference is one of the most common tropes in erotica: the impossibly large cock that stretches the lover beyond repair. In reality, a cock too large to fit would be extremely painful (no matter the hole you put it in), but the size is just symbolic in fiction. It’s the satisfaction of being fulfilled. Or it can represent success. There is an appeal in being small but still being able to handle something large. There is power in mounting the impossible.

What is your favorite unrealistic trope and what does it symbolize for you? Let me know in the comments.

Writing Challenge: Do a deep dive into that exaggerated, unrealistic sexual act. Explore what it means to your characters emotionally, psychologically, socially and/or spiritually. Brainstorm other sexual acts that could open up more of the complexities of your characters.

Shoutout to @WhoaWickedSins on Twitter who inspired this post. 

An Apology for Fanfiction

Some of my favorite authors have or are currently writing fanfiction (https://lplks.org/blogs/post/21-published-authors-who-write-fanfiction/). This medium brought me back into writing, and I believe it deserves more recognition. 

As we wrap up Pride Month, it feels appropriate to start with the fact that fanfiction is traditionally written by marginalized groups who don’t see themselves in the mainstream media. It can be an outlet for representation in race, gender, and sexuality. Writers can insert themselves, the reader, and/or experiment with non-traditional perspectives.

Mainstream media has begun to catch up to having diversity in their stories that so many people crave and find in fanfiction. It makes me wonder if fanfiction will ever receive a better reputation, or if it will just be forgotten that they did it first. 

Having a diverse pool of authors also creates differing perspectives on story structure and plot. I have long contemplated what stories would look like if their climaxes were more like a woman chaining one orgasm after another. So much of fanfiction is arcs full of lovely moments “not essential” to the plot. These are scenes most creative writing teachers would tell you to cut and an editor would cull. But to me, that is like claiming four play and after care aren’t necessary components of sex because it isn’t required for ejaculation. 

Speaking of, fanfiction is known for its prolific amount of sexual content. Some erotic writers find this obnoxious competition since it is free. To me, I find it is a useful tool for finding the pulse on popular kinks and desires. Popular culture doesn’t need to be snubbed as a fad. Some of these “fads” last decades, because there is a truth in those stories that speak to people across generations. Erotic content is not exempt from this fact. Just look at the popularity of vampiric temptation from Dracula or Carmilla to “Interview with a Vampire” or even “Buffy the Vampire Slayer.” There is a Master/Slave component, a submission to darkness. It’s relatable to wish a release from the day-to-day grind and give yourself over to the thirst of another.

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If they want it in fanfiction, they’ll want it in other mediums as well. People don’t just read fanfiction because it’s free. They read it because sometimes its the only place you can get the creativity missing in corporate Hollywood or Amazon filters.

Ultimately, fanfiction is fun. It is writing for the sake of writing. It is the free and full of enjoyment in a world you want to spend more time in. And it is not just practice. I have read stories in alternate universes of the video game “Undertale” that have made me cry, laugh, and become completely absorbed. I have seen fanfiction of fanfiction. Inspiration inspires others. It builds communities of writers, artists, voice actors, and more. It can lead to original content creation, but it doesn’t have to.

Fanfiction is a celebration of the journey. It can connect writers and their readers in a shared joy of content. It can build a base, but it can also just be there to make you feel a little less lonely in a world that can sometimes be extremely isolating. 

Creating a Monster Lover

Teratophilia, exophilia, monster-fucking erotica goes by many names these days. Some people stick with the traditional monsters, like vampires and werewolves. Those lovers have long traditions in fiction with an established lore of their strengths, weaknesses, and love-making. (And who doesn’t indulge in a little blood-swapping romance of lustful destiny? Or relish a primal, knotted, mating session in the woods?)

Other writers, like myself, find creative freedom in tackling to the ground (or soaring in the sky) with some of the less conventional creatures, elementals, and ethereals. Monster erotica with lesser known species can be intimidating, but also fun. It’s a world-building exercise with anatomy, kinks, and pleasure. The limit is your own imagination, and the guidelines, I believe, can be found by observing nature.

“Human subtlety will never devise an invention more beautiful, more simple or more direct than does nature, because in her inventions nothing is lacking, and nothing is superfluous.” – Leonardo da Vinci

It is through observation that we can form erotic monsters that include just enough  realism to pull in the reader. 

Consider a fire elemental, who takes on a humanoid shape in order to fit in, controlling the temperature of their body so as not to be overly destructive. Scientifically, the hottest flames burn in bluish hues while cooler flames are reddish orange. What if this monster changed color with their emotions? They try to remain in a controlled burn, but might blush in blue. Or maybe they try to hide the sudden discoloration below their midsection when you arrive wearing something sexy? 

Flame is mesmerizing. I cannot count how many hours I have spent staring into a bonfire. Imagine an elemental with roiling currents of explosions inside their arms as they reach for a book on their shelf. You hold your breath, watching them open the cover and turn the pages with the utmost care so as not to singe a single corner. And maybe you’ll bite your lip, wondering what it would feel like to be under those fingers yourself. 

Will you get burned?

More importantly, will you mind?

We know we’re not supposed to play with fire, but that doesn’t stop all of us. Wax and candle play can inspire thematic scenes, and so can its opposite. What if the elemental enjoyed ice dripping over their body? The water pops, sizzling across their chest as they moan for more. You oblige until you’re sweating from the humidity of the session. They lick your skin, and you jump from the heat of their tongue. They apologize for losing themselves in the moment as they fetch the aloe for that burn. 

It’s those imperfect moments in a sexual encounter that make it real. The complexity of the creature becomes a reflection of our own relationship with flame or a metaphor of forbidden knowledge, punishable by everlasting suffering from the powers above. Truly the possibilities are as endless as the space between us and the last star at the other end of the universe. 

So why not explore your own curiosity? Choose a monster that’s always appealed to you and dive deep into their nature (and your own). Have fun. Read myths or make them up. Go outside or investigate indoors. Pull in your experience or those of others. Make a lover like no one has ever seen before. Be the precedent. 

And if you feel like sharing, leave a comment below with your favorite monster lovers. Be as descriptive as you’d like. It’s much more fun that way. 

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