Has sex changed for you with the changing of years? I’m an older person and I know my own sexual feelings have evolved with age. I’m sure others have experienced changes in their sex life as they get older too. I’d like to hear what men and women have to say about how sex has changed for them with the changing of the years. —Anonymous
From Nicole
It used to be more often, now it usually only happens once a week. However, I have more intense orgasms than I used to, which isn’t such a bad trade off.
From David
My wife and I are both in our sixties. We have not had a very active sex life for several years. I have not been able to perform very well for a while. I have tried to talk with my wife about her sexual desires. She claims that she has none and doesn’t think about it anymore. I really think that she’s sexually frusterated.
I have actually talked with her about getting a boyfriend, just to talk with and maybe go out to dinner. My fantasy is that she would find a guy where she works maybe even a younger one. She is very attractive women and I don’t think it would hard for her to get a date. I would like to help her shopping for some sexy outfits to go out in. She looks so good in tight skirts, low cut blouses and heels. I can see her waiting for her date, all dressed up getting nervous and excited.
From DBShaw
I think for myself, the intimacy has improved greatly. When younger, the sexual conquests equated to a “notches on my gun” mentality. Quantity over quality. Now I find that quality overshadows all else. It is safe, slow and genuine.
From Emma
I think that accepting sexuality in our bodies as we age is something that creeps up on us. We have to accept it like sagging skin or age spots. Before you know it, it’s here.
I once saw an erotic photograph exhibit at a gallery about the aged. These were large photographic prints of men and women in their 60s and beyond in erotic poses. Lots of nodding approval and furrowed brows but everyone was a bit over-earnest the praise. It was uncomfortable. I mean, I hope I am sexually active when I reach that age. Though I suspect it will not make a difference in the grand scheme of things.
From l
I’m only twenty-five, so I still have a bit before I hit sixty, but I have worried that life would be sexless at that age. Thank you so much for posting your thoughts. You’ve reassured me! Keep it up!
From Sparklekat
I am 60. Sex at this moment is a complete disappointment. I’ve always been active sexually and so has my husband. But in the past few years I do nothing but fight with him about this. He says he doesn’t feel like it. He went to Dr. for his yearly physical and asked the Dr to check his testosterone level. I’m hoping that this will be the beginning of us regaining our love making.
From Songbirds
I’m 71, my lover is 79 and we have regular love-making sessions. Not maybe the way we did it 30 years ago but, oh man, it’s delicious not having to be selfconcious, but to be liberated and playful without shame and with lots of laughter is just wonderful. Go for it…love and love-making has no age restriction.
From Goldie
Of course it is better as we age!! We are more experienced, skilled, less fearful and certainly more adventurous. I can do things now that I never thought I would as a young person. The problem is finding that person who awakens desire. More often than not, a toy far exceeds what most can give at this age.
From Jim
Yes, sex has changed for my wife and I (we’re both in our mid sixties), and I have to say for the better. The kids are gone, we’re comfortable with our bodies, more comfortable talking about what works and what doesn’t.
And yes, we have sex less often, but it’s so much better. My wife says her orgasms are less intense but last longer. A good trade-off. And I’m not so quick to get hard and get inside and pump away. I like to play more, take my time and my hard-on doesn’t feel urgent so there’s no hurry. Sometimes I don’t get hard at all, and at first it was un-nerving, very upsetting. But even at such times, amazingly enough, blow-jobs feel just as good. And my wife says she likes those times better because I spend more time petting, touching, playing, kissing. And she says sucking a semi-soft cock is much more comfortable in her mouth. Hey, I ain’t complaining!
From Anonymous
Has sex changed for me over the years? In a word, yes. Now my energy and interest go in other pursuits. Now that I’m older, I’m no longer willing to settle for less than what I want.
From Trixie
Anyone who thinks sex is the province of the young has got it all wrong. In the 50,60 and older age bracket we know what we want and we know how to express our needs. For the first time in my life I know the joys of lovemaking with an uncircumcised male – a man of infinite talent who meets my every need. No 20-30-40 year old bloke would have a clue!
From Todd
Has sex changed for me over the years? Well yeah, I think about it more now and do it less. Gone are the carefree days of youth and the ability to get it up and cum numerous times a night. Gone are days of being able to take the top off it and still be able to shoot a healthy load. Gone are the dreams of youth where you thought it was all there was and an unending supply would be before you. Sigh.
From Ted
We’re both 59 years old and having a better time than in past years. We’ve got the house to ourselves, fewer distractions and definitely fewer inhibitions. Neither of us is bashful about what turns us on and gets us off. Being more open is proving to be very erotic.
From Doug
I have to be honest. At 61 I am a much better lover than I was at 21. For me, sex is probably the best it has ever been; it’s aged well for me. These days my hip joints especially just are not what they used to be and can be a painful hindrance, occasionally ending things suddenly. Sometimes we just don’t connect well, especially if too tired but enjoy the play just the same. Now 10 pm is usually too late to start whereas it didn’t used to be. We both get tired earlier than we used to. Whereas I think twice a week would be great she usually isn’t up for more than once a week. Age has taken it’s toll in certain ways. All in all though it is the best sex of our lives.
From Anonymous
I am a 51 year old, and the older I get, the better it gets and the experiences are mind boggling. Give me a older man any day compared to someone I have to teach something.
From Helen
Does age matter when it comes to sex? I’m not sure. Yeah, my body doesn’t do what it used to. I’ve got lousy knees and I’m not as flexible or energetic as I used to be, but really I know it’s not my age that’s affecting my sexual activities so much as the stage of life I’m at – stay at home mom with two kids. That definitely changes a gal’s love life.
From Anonymous
I’m 43 and over the last several years, sex has definitely gotten better in terms of the strength and duration of my orgasms. There has been a definite upping of the quality of orgasm for me. I’ve never been multi-orgasmic … one was always enough for me and I got so sensitive I couldn’t have continued had I wanted to.
But now, and for a while now, I experience what I’ve seen termed “status orgasmus” or something like that … meaning I orgasm intensely and KEEP orgasming as long as stimulation continues, for minutes at a time if I choose. My late husband enjoyed it tremendously and found it a huge turn-on. I don’t currently have a partner, but can achieve the same with masturbation easily.
From Anonymous
The short answer is that it’s gotten better. We must be doing something right, since it’s 43+ years for us, and the mere sight of her still gets me all hot and bothered. The main differences between now and then:
We’re down to once a week, sometimes twice, but the quality of each encounter is much higher – more concentration on oral sex, especially for her; more little casual gestures of affection, touching, stroking, etc.
From Dan
What sex? Several years ago my wife announced she was not going to suck me anymore. Several years later I became impotent, tried the various cures, etc. nothing helped. I have discovered I can still have an orgasm via fellatio but of course that’s not happening now. I can of course bring her to an orgasm via use of my hand or mouth, but with no reciprocation it ain’t happening. I repeat, what sex?
Hi thanks all for sharing your experiences.
I found myself single and ready to be sexually active recently this last couple of years but found at 55 the men I have dated late 50 – 67 either have been very interested in sex but couldn’t get a hard on, couldn’t come, could only cum a little bit, could only cum outside my body, and the 77 year old or though very loving wasn’t that interested in sex, didn’t matter if I dressed up for him, or was naked 😟
I’m with a 60 year old biker now, very horny but can only get semi hard on even with blue pills it’s short lived, but our relationship is good and he makes me come, loves sucking and playing with my boobs, and giving oral, so I’m happy just feel for him really.