Just wondering … I see a lot of comments here from folks who are single and say they masturbate for a particular reason: No partner to share sex with. So what does that say for a person like myself, who is married and has been for 18 years and who has continued to masturbate (with a lovely purple, jelly vibrator, thankyouverymuch) throughout that time. I LOVE sex with my hubby, but I like my “alone” time as well. I never considered myself a perv for this practice, but wonder if there is a weirdness there for a person who masturbates who does have a partner. —Raquel
If God had intended us not to masturbate, He would have made our arms shorter. —George Carlin
From Sappho
I wish masturbation had a bigger place in society. I love to masturbate. When my fiancé and I had been forcibly separated, masturbation became the only way I could fall asleep. When we’re together, I usually masturbate after sex. I can’t help it—I am just never finished.
Some nights we’re just too tired to actually have sex, but we’re still horny, so we’ll masturbate next to each other. It’s great seeing him stroke it, and he loves licking up all my juices once I come. Orgasms are great—I can’t say that enough. Masturbation is an art.
From Dick
This August will mark 30 years of marriage and we have been masturbating together and privately for the whole time. Personally, I make the time for at least one or two extended pleasure sessions each week. I get naked, gather my “supplies” (towel, lube, magazines or browse pics online) and embark on a delightfully satisfying leisurely masturbation session. I almost always bring myself to the brink of orgasm several times before finally taking flight. Producing and tasting pre-cum is a special little reward on my way to ejaculation.
Some of the most incredible orgasms are experienced at the end of a three day “preparation,” wherein I stimulate myself to the edge on the first two days and then let ‘er rip on the third. The anticipation, pressure and volume of the ejaculation are far superior to the quick wank. And yes, I’ve become quite adept at typing and clicking with one hand…
From NN
I am a student, living with another girl in the same room. We both masturbate a lot. Now we do it the same time having pleasure to watch each other and listening to the panting, moaning, crying in delight and the dirty words. I like her crimson, grimacing face telling me the stage of her arousal and the very quick up and down movements of her fingers jerking her big swollen clit. We have our explosions close together and make a lot of noise.
The girls in the adjoining rooms think we are lesbian. Perhaps we are a bit. I think often about licking her slimy pink. I don’t dare yet to do her the favour, but I think I soon will, as she utters some perverted words relating to this often just before going up the chimney.
From M
I am married and have a good sex life, but I find that my drive is greater than that of my wife’s. So I masturbate a lot. sometimes she will let me do it in front of her. A major fantasy of mine is to masturbate for a group of women, but my wife is unsure about this.
I find it a very pleasing act, ad can do it for up to an hour at a go, just bringing myself to the point of climax and then slowing down to prolong the pleasure. I don’t just concentrate on my penis, but arouse other areas of my body, and use a vibrator up the anus at times. I have also done it on video for my own pleasure.
From Anonymous
I love to masturbate. I have on occasion used various objects in lieu of a vibrator. I used carrots, bananas, candles, an end of a hammer. My husband even inserted a cucumber inside of me. What an intense feeling that was. I mostly think of past occasions of lovers. I think about my nipples getting sucked and my breasts massaged. My clit gets really hard-I rub it and explode.
From Allie
I love it and can’t get enough of it. After having struggled from past sexual abuse, I find masturbation a very positive and cathartic way of expressing true sexual pleasure from old pains. I cannot get enough free time, but the moments I do have, I enjoy myself immensely. I also like to share this with my life partner. We both enjoy watching and performing for each other; sometimes with the lights on and sometimes with candle light flickering in the background.
Masturbation is a free and healthy choice of self-love and being kind to one’s body makes it all the better!
From Otis
My wife and I regularly masturbate -either for ourselves or each other. Masturbation is a continuous part of our sex life, during, after, or before – we get involved and love it. Our sex life is the best! My wife recently phoned me while playing with her rabbit vibrator – wow! What a shag we had later!
From Brandy
There is nothing wrong with masturbation after marriage. (My opinion) There is nothing weird about it, and it should no be a problem unless your husband doesn’t like it, or he doesn’t know. Alone-time is something everyone needs, sexually and otherwise. It can also be extremely rewarding to occasionally bring your partner into this alone time.
From Haras
I believe it to be one of the most self loving things you can do to please yourself. Whether you have a partner or not. Let them participate, let them watch. Its a way of giving yourself such release. Sex with a special someone is awesome too, don’t get me wrong, but all juicy acts should be shared- and appreciated. Plus I think its arousing in the most delicious of ways.
From Terri
My lover (whom now happens to be my ex-husband) masturbate for each other. I loooove to watch him fondle, stroke, jerk, his penis. We masturbate, fuck, then masturbate and watch each other come!
From Therese
A few weeks ago I accepted an invitation from my landlord (he’s in a wheelchair). I ate at his place and one thing led to another. I now regularly masturbate for him – opening my shirt, revealing the fact I wear no panties… you get the picture. He touches himself while I get off on the cold handle of a spoon. We have developed this relationship – while we never touch or mention it, we get off on me displaying myself and masturbating.
Part self-love, part exhibitionism, part titillation I guess. I find myself hurrying down to his apartment on some days. After coffee, I let my straps down and he looks at my tits. Our eyes never meet when I do it. I finger myself and get really wet… for him? For Me? I don’t know, but it sure gets me horny.
From Viva
Masturbation is a great solution if you have no partner or if you and your partner like to masturbate for each other. I masturbate regularly. I get naked and start with my breasts and then I all for it. my partner loves to see me masturbate for him he gets really excited and he masturbates back for me and we come together it is great.
From Anonymous
For more than 45 years I masturbate on a regular basis. And it provides me with great enjoyment. For lubrication I use massage cream. My wife loves to watch me when ever possible and eagerly awaits my juices, which I ultimately deposit in her mouth or on her breast. She then rubs in the precious fluid, or I lick her clean, and we share the juice’s taste and critic it “It’s delightfully sweet today” or “slightly bitter, you must have eaten a lot of meat dishes lately”!
After I masturbated and juiced her, she usually uses her golden vibrator and pleasures her clitty, while I may fondle her breasts using lots of massage oil, suck on her nipples or insert one or two fingers into her cunt hole and massage her G- spot. I also encourage her and comment how pretty her cunt lips look. She gets her lips waxed on a regular basis. When she masturbates or I pleasure her with my fingers or tongue, her lips swell up beautifully…nice and puffy. She often begs me to slow down two or three times to delay her final orgasm. And after she experienced her very powerful orgasm, we cuddle and rest for a while.
Frequently she will massage my cock or she will watch me masturbate again until it will get hard. I will then pleasure her by rubbing my cock over her cunt for some time and then insert it into her wet cunt hole for another round of joyful fucking. Uninhibited sex enhanced by mutual masturbation is truly great fun!
From Herman
In Germany we say no sex with a partner is as good as you imagine it while jerking off I found that to be very true in times!
From Anonymous
As a “technical” virgin of 39, I can tell you that my brief boyfriend experiences were nowhere near as pleasurable as my current self-love sessions.
I also read Betty Dodgson’s book Sex For One and tentatively bought my first toy (after I was encouraged by a trusted family member to learn to enjoy myself even though I’m single). I’ve added to my collection and now have a “toy box” full of fun things. I love my Vixen Creations and my Wahl coil electric vibe – and Liquid Silk is the best thing ever!
To be honest, self-love (to me) is the most wonderful gift I can give myself. I also don’t have to worry about STDs and being with someone I don’t love (or who’s a jerk) just to have a sexual relationship. I can satisfy myself and play out any fantasies I have and be safe at the same time.
I’ve also learned what it is to really have an overpowering orgasm – wow! I hope to share my sexuality with a special man in the future but even if that doesn’t happen for me, I can enjoy my sexuality in a healthy and fun way. Everybody should be able to do that.
From bleachie
Just because we are married why should we give up loving ourselves? It’s too much fun to want to quit anyway.
From Sandaidh
I masturbated while I was married, and I’m sure he did too, although he never “flaunted” it. Various reasons, but mostly because our li bidos were SO far apart on the scale, even before I hit peri-menopause. When I hit peri-meno, my libido literally went through the roof, while his went down in the basement and hid. So, now I’m single and self-love because it’s the safest sex I can have until I can be with the man I prefer.
From Peter
Good for you ERWA for celebrating masturbation. Most of us know, but are unwilling to say, that some of the best sex we’ve ever had, was with our selves. After all, only we know what we really like. We know how we like to be touched, how we like to be teased, poked, prodded and played with. I’m sure this goes as much for men as it does for women. Even if we have a regular and very much loved partner, it is sometimes difficult to ask for the thing that turns us on most. Alone, this is not a problem. We can do whatever we like and there is no one to look at in the morning and think, “did we really do that?”
In other words, it’s sex without inhibitions getting in the way. Some people can get this with a partner. Lucky them. For those of us who can’t, masturbation is a wonderful alternative.
From dick
Having read Dodson’s Sex for One and then writing articles for her web site, I heartily agree with those masturbators who take the time for themselves. Hell, we all enjoy quickies, but the real pleasure is found in a leisurely, extended session with one’s self. When we were young, most of us didn’t have the privacy to fully enjoy ourselves, much less the knowledge and experience that comes with years. Although I certainly have other interests and hobbies in my life, after some 40 years of masturbation, you could say I’ve earned my degree.
Anticipation of an afternoon with myself certainly gets the heart and mind racing. Perhaps there’s a new magazine in the mailbox, a video on my xxx satellite channel or a new web site. I like to get naked and comfortable, sometimes after a nice hot shower. I usually sit on the sofa, paging thru pictures or watching the tube, teasing my cock to erection. I’ll start out dry (without lube), tickling the glans and just below it. After a bit of visual stimulation I’m at full attention and maybe dribbling some nice sweet pre-cum syrup. I like to taste my sweet/salty fluid. When I find an image(s) that really excites me, I’ll add the lube. ForPlay is the best; a fairly thick gel that stays on the genitals and doesn’t dry out quickly like other lubes that claim to be more slippery. Adding the lube intensifies the stroking and stimulation, of course.
I’ll begin the ritual of bringing myself to the Edge of Orgasm. I’ll do this several times, each attempt becoming more precarious and intense. Occasionally I’ll add some anal stimulation; slender ribbed vibrators or small plugs. In a while, I’m really buzzing; my cock is oozing pre-cum and begging to explode. I go back to that one favorite image (my favorites are 40+ women with large, meaty labia and prominent clits, posing in simple unstretched spread shots or squatting so their lips hang down naturally) and begin a running start to the Edge. The orgasms are always incredible! Solid ropes of white cum arc forth from my 6.75″ cock,
My wife and I masturbate regularly together and privately. We even penned Solo Journal full of steamy, kinky private accounts. We’re always looking for variety. We’ve masturbated over the phone from separate rooms, done outdoor j/o photo shoots and masturbated with special friends. There’s nothing like sharing such an intimate part of yourself. My wife’s favorite toys are the Eroscillator (screaming orgasms) and a pink jelly cock.
We encourage all singles and couples to take more time for themselves and to share. Masturbation is such a joy!