Talking with your tongue
If you would be so kind — for some of the less experienced pussy eater wannabes — could you give us some serious tips and techniques on oral sex? I have read numerous how-to manuals, and not much detail emerges. We need the mouth of champions to speak and weigh in on this issue of cunnilingus. Could we please have your input? —Johnny Tender
From Eroticus (France)
My wife has never been keen on the idea of fellatio and I’ve never pushed it. But a few days ago, on a hot afternoon, having dined naked on our back terrace, as we often do, she suddenly announced she was going to take a shower and would I do the same. She announced she was going to allow me to do whatever I liked. I tongued her properly for the first time ever. She still doesn’t want fellatio, but boy did she enjoy what I did to her. Given that I can’t keep it up anymore and she has vaginismus this has been a stepping stone to new delights.From Jack
I have found in my experiences, the girls who don’t go for breast and nipple play are not interested in oral sex for her. Sometimes they want to know me better and that is total good.
You might like to watch some videos or even go to a workshop in Tantra, such as White Lotus. There are other ‘schools’ just like you get different masters over each sect of a martial art. The idea is sharing energy and expressing love in sexual ways enhanced by spiritual practice.
This includes how the wife handles the lingam (penis) and how the husband handles the yoni (vagina)
Oral is included as part of how you adore your partner, but nothing is coerced. The point is gentleness and mutual affection: leading to oneness.
This comment reminded me of what I recently experienced trying vaginal massage (helps emotional healing and physical issues like your wife’s) – their term is ‘yoni massage’. Skip the pornhub junk, you want the tantric workshop/how-to vids. There’s a few ‘nice’ demos there, but you’ll be exposed to yucky amateur vids in your face as you look for them 🙁 doing dumb stuff like anal to vaginal contact barehanded – and bare-mouthed! Ewww. Medic!!!
I’m glad you were able to get her to like oral. It’s so much better with a steady, married partner! IMO the spiritual connection is a big factor in the trust, and thence, the enjoyment.
From Lov3r
I think I’ve always enjoyed giving more than receiving oral sex or even intercourse. I’ve always been fascinated ever since I knew of it. My first experience with my girlfriend back then started with fondling and kissing, like most couples I guess. However the thing I anticipated most was not sliding my dick into her. I truly felt that could wait until marriage.
She always had a rather strong body scent, but the kind I liked. Smelling and tasting her cunt was my greatest ambition. When it finally happened, it literally was a dream come true. One day as we were making out, and my hands moved down and started grabbing and kneading her ass, she moved her hips in such a way that signaled me to reach down further. Then I felt it. Her flowering lips, so sticky and warm. After fondling it a bit, I stopped the kissing and held her tight. As inconspicuously as I can, I brought my fingers up to my nose, inhaled deeply and tasted her juices. No words could quite do justice to her smell and taste. All I knew was that I wanted more. She knew what I did of course and was a little embarrassed, so it took some convincing for her to let me take down her pants. She kept saying it was dirty and smelly.
Once I got my mouth on her lower lips, and showed signs that I was enjoying it, she started to relax. Soon she was making sweet little excited noises as I kissed it passionately. I felt like I could do it forever, but I was wrong. After a couple of minutes she grabbed my hair roughly and tensed up. She didn’t squirt. In fact, she was crying. As I looked up I saw her smiling. Along that unforgettable smile, he had tears down her cheeks and a furious red blush. I realized I had given her very first orgasm, and that sent me over the edge. I wasn’t even touching myself, just having my dick rub against the mattress was more than enough.
After a few more sessions, eventually her sensitivity went down and we had to have real intercourse for her to cum. That was also great of course, but kissing and licking her cunt, and giving her orgasm for the first time was the experience I treasure most.
From Tony (L.A.)
When I go down on my girlfriend I inch my way down her body and as I get closer to her pussy, her sweet female aroma gets me more and more excited. Her welcoming legs spread along with the squirms as I gently kiss and lick her inner thighs before making my way to her beautiful sweet spot. She loves that I give her clit my complete attention until she has a wonderful satisfied look and wants me in her. We both so enjoy this equally.
From Mansa
Though my husband is not very fond of giving oral sex, he agrees to it without making me feel too imposing. I love to straddle his face after we wake up in the morning. He is still somewhat sleepy at that time and suckles on my pussy for a while. As the orgasm builds up, I pull his head more in my pussy and he gets very attentive. He sucks my soft flesh with force drinking up my juices. I kiss his face after getting off and wipe my juices off with a towel.
Do not get me wrong, I return oral favor at night before he drifts to sleep with my nipple in his mouth.He suckles on my breasts almost whole night. When I am under stress, he would have me lay in bed under covers while he dives under and snuggles his face in my pussy. His gentle suckling eventually relaxes me and I even take a nap. Usually when I wake up, he is still at it until he is sure I am fine. So cunnilingus is not only sexy, it is soothing as well.
From Anantuck
My tongue lingers in the nape of her back where her Nubian black skin glows,it moves downwards and traces along her powerful buttock ,she shudders pimples that rise alongside her African moans as my tongue falls into the crevice of both taut black buttocks and rasps around her puckered anus. My white hand in unison lifts her strong smooth powerful thighs high and apart the shower head and steamy water washes over my face and tongue as I move my head biting gently along her thigh towards her dark mound and open pink vagina gasping and her mouth to for my tongue to fuck her. hard.
From Anonymous
I find it hard to imagine a man who does not love…even crave eating pussy. Why? For me at least the very idea is hugely stimulating. It gives you a sense of extreme intimacy and power, knowing that with your lips and tongue you can control her pleasure and give her multiple orgasm…each time increasing the degree of your own excitement. The only reason I can imagine for not wanting to go down on a woman is hygiene….while some may like it otherwise, most guys prefer a very clean, sweet smelling pussy and are eager to “devour” it and drink her juices until she is literally too weak to continue…then give her at least one more orgasm.
Side note on her sucking cock….nothing is more a turn off than receiving a blow job from someone who doesn’t want to do it….and you can always tell!
From Scott
I have to just tell you ladies out there, going down on a woman is one of the most pleasureable parts of love making I can imagine. To make her pleasure the object of your evening is such a turn on. The moans from her, the wriggling, sheet grabbing and quivering thighs are what I look to achieve. If men don’t aspire to this, they are crappy lovers. I love her taste, her aroma, cupping her ass cheeks in my hands or stroking her body…havig her pull my head closer…OMFG!
The up side for me, beyond her pleasure, is her willingness to bring me to that place too! The sex for both becomes a fun challenge and smiles are pasted on both your faces.
From Texas
I really enjoy having my pussy eaten. I’ve been married to my husband for 16 years and I remember the first time he went down on me I said ‘I must marry this man’. Not only does it feel great but he really enjoys it also. Either he will just spread my legs and dive in or he will ask me to sit on his face so the juices can drip right down into his mouth. That really turns me on. The turn on is often visual. Sometimes he will finger me then pull his fingers out to suck on them or he will sort of scoop his tongue in and then show me my juices on the tip before he takes it into his mouth to swallow. I enjoy seeing him do that. And once I finally come, he just sucks my pussy hole until he’s satisfied. Oral is a huge part of our sexual experience. Sometimes for fun, we will 69 each other and see who can make the other come first.
From R
It was always hard for me relax when a man, including my ex, went down on me. I always felt I was taking too long to come. Maybe it was the technique. I also thought my cunt was rather ugly, and I was embarrassed so maybe that has something to do with it. I’d like for another opportunity to try though!
From ShockAdvised
I love all of you boys who love their wives and girlfriends so much, and who write such beautiful and honest words about how their vaginas drive you wild with their taste, feel and scent. You are the best men in the world! You’re right – so much of society downgrades females and makes them feel dirty, smelly, second-class, or just a sex-object to receive spunk. Your beautiful ladies are so lucky that you love and adore them in the way they deserve. It gives me hope that not all fellas are nasty brutes, sluts or stereotypes. Hey, do any of you have a single brother by chance? *winks*!
From Byron
I loved giving cunnilingus from the very first time I experienced the taste, softness, wetness, and pleasure of such a nice erotic event. I had a girlfriend that introduced me to the pleasure of a blow job, and it wasn’t long before she expected and lead me down to her pussy to give her some equal pleasure. I really didn’t know what or how to eat pussy, but was willing to go ahead and give it a try. The softness of her bush felt nice against my face. I was intrigued with the musky scent she had left on my fingers after fingering her, and now my nose and lips were right there by the garden of that scent.
I kissed her gently on each thigh, and moved in closer and closer until my lips were on her labia. She was enjoying the attention and I then started to lick her with my tongue. The softness of her labia folds and the taste of her were so erotic. I had a throbbing hard cock being so close to her pussy and enjoying this new experience. I parted her folds with my tongue and felt how wet she was inside and just enjoyed using my tongue on her. I finished the session using my fingers in her since I really had no idea about going to her clit and working her g-spot. But I was hooked and didn’t hesitate to go back down on her the next time we had a chance. She started to teach me what she wanted and it wasn’t long before we traded giving each other oral sex. Eating pussy and then receiving a blow job was a great way to share orgasms with each other.
From Brina
I adore having my pussy eaten. Pulling his finger(s) from my pussy, he then does what truly drives me nuts, makes me want to scream his name, dig my nails into his shoulders and drive my soaking wet pussy into his face as hard as I possibly can. He sticks his thumb and possibly another finger up my ass. Oh boy does this make me come so hard, I can feel my legs quivering all the way down to my ankles. The only way I can describe the orgasm is to say it feels as if I’m having three or four orgasms simultaneously. Needless to say by the time he is ready to fuck, I am soaking wet and have already come multiple times in his mouth.
One quick note for anybody that eats pussy, “Leave your ABC’s in Kindegarten.” Some Men/Women feel as if licking their ABC’s as fast as they can is arousing…IT ISN”T. Thank You for reading my tribute to oral sex.
From Marilyn
I got my inexperienced boyfriend a book about how to give oral sex. He’s done things that I’d never felt before. I have to say what I’ve liked the most is that he will rub right under my clit. I never knew that would feel so good. I prefer to start out by being “tickled” which means light kisses and feather light touches all around my snatch. I want to be teased a bit, and he’s got that down pretty well now. He starts with long, slow licks. By the time he gets to my clit, it’s like a relief.
After the warm up time, he inserts two fingers. I am very particular about how he can move them. I like slow twisting or g-spot flicks, but I hate the in and out like fucking. It doesn’t feel as good as real sex. I need more subtle movement. I like a little ass play, but he’s a little funny about that so I don’t push it. I’ve though about surprising him with latex “doctor” gloves, though. Otherwise, he is very open to my suggestions. I have a thing for being tongue-fucked, and he’ll do that for me. We have done 69, but then I get caught up in licking him and can’t concentrate on what
I have to say that I’m lucky. My boyfriend is very persistent, and he’s said that he will give me oral anytime I want because he thinks it’s so sexy. He’s a very giving man, and he likes to make me happy. (Don’t worry; I love to return the favor!)
From ZT
[from South Africa] Most of women think that they don’t love oral sex and that’s not the truth but they are ashamed of their private parts. I normally wished that I could find a man that will give me the experience and that day comes and I was so happy. I met this wonderful man and he gave me oral sex, it was my first time of oral. He opened my legs with passion that makes me want more of him inside me.The way he licked and tickle my clit, it makes me scream and I was so ashamed when I fucked his mouth. It is a very amazing experience, I love it more than penetration. It makes me to realise that I can marry a man with no penis provided he knows how to eat me.
From Trish
John is absolutely right! [see entry below] Become the pussy! There’s no greater pleasure than to receive the appreciation of a man’s mouth all over my pussy. It shows an indescribable craftiness I must admit, a lot of men don’t have. By the way, the way I score my SO has been in the time he takes to prepare me for my “treat”, and if he’s doing it just for me or for us. Creativity always gets bonus points.
From John
As for tips, I have just one: get into it! Lose yourself in the act. Every woman that I’ve ever discussed this with has informed me that they can tell when their partner is enjoying him/herself. I believe that is the key. Devour. Taste. experience. BECOME the pussy. Use the force Luke.
From Lookin’
I love having my pussy appreciated! I have found however that the way in which I love enjoying sex in general has changed as I have changed through the years. Sadly my husband refused to listen to my subtle verbal direction and my definite physical direction several years ago—something that eventually led me to not enjoy sex anymore at all and much to his chagrin, we have not had sex in quite some time.
My problem is that he would envelope my clit with his mouth and proceed to make some kind of a vacuum during which he would vigorously use his tongue to beat my poor clit into submission. When I was younger I enjoyed this vigorous stimulation, but through the years I discovered that slower and softer was better! He chose not to listen and frustratingly reverted to his hard suck method no matter how many times I eventually pleaded with him to “listen” to my body during our physical interactions. Now I’m left with an unsatisfied pussy and fantasies about a man who with enough experience to satisfy and be satisfied!
From Marilyn
My last boyfriend was practically a virgin when we met. He had been celibate for 7 years and was not experienced at giving oral sex. He liked it and said he’d do it anytime, but he was very goal-oriented and disappointed when I didn’t come from it.As I get older (I’m in my early 30s) that seems to get more difficult. I’m not worried about taste or smell, but his wanting to make me come so badly makes me unable to do it. I bought him a book called She Comes First, and he tried many of the techniques but I never had an orgasm. Maybe I need more foreplay. I hate when men dive right for the clit with no warm-up. We aren’t like you; women take longer to heat up.
From Liz
I’m 50 and hubby is 52 and we enjoy active sex. I enjoy fellating my husband (and swallowing) but expect in return him providing me with not just bags of TLC when sucking me but also a good technique that reflects his desire to go down on me and want to love me with his lips, teeth, tongue and to bring me off lovingly in his mouth.I hate being rushed and expect my husband to make love to me at my pussy with his mouth just as I do when I suck his cock. I am not an expert but get the distinct impression that oral sex is a one-way street for most men – the few men I’ve experienced in recent years (in addition to my husband) are not very interested in cunnilingus but arrogantly expected me to fellate them. The fact that I did (and enjoyed it) indicates that too many women are not prepared to demand a pleasurable and satisfying oral in return from the man they are sucking.
From Anonymous
I’m 20 years old and I just gave my virginity away not too long ago. To the guy I gave it to he never gave me head. I enjoy watching porn it turns me on. So I wondered why not. but then again our sexual experience was mostly him being mean to me and yes asking but there was no play involved or actual emotions put into the sex. He just wanted to please himself and didn’t care about me. Looking back on that relationship, everyday I totally regret giving him my virginity. But that is done and over with. I can’t dwell on the past.
My current boyfriend is 29 years old. We had been friends for a while and so I was comfortable sharing with him everything. So then we start messing around and he asks me if he could eat my pussy. I’m like what? you mean you want to lick and eat the juice out of me. Well sure. As mentioned I like to watch porn so I knew what it looked like, just never experienced it. It was the best feeling ever. His soft tongue licking and then fingers rubbing at the same time. Now we have been dating for a month and a half and I get my pussy eaten every time we are alone. I also have started to fantasize about trying different things. I have also given him head and he likes it.