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Our bodies are strange things. They can be wondrous, pleasurable, even astonishing. But they can also be downright weird. And it often takes us time to understand what our bodies are trying to tell us. <\/p>\nOur bodies are strange things. They can be wondrous, pleasurable, even astonishing. But they can also be downright weird. And it often takes us time to understand what our bodies are trying to tell us. <\/p>\n
Consider, for a moment, a pencil. Just a plain, ordinary Ticonderoga. Now, if I were to jab you with said pencil, it would hurt, right? You\u2019d feel it instantly? Well, that\u2019s a good thing. It means your body is doing what it\u2019s supposed to do. Our bodies are giant nerve clusters and they\u2019re designed to react instantly to stimuli. \u2018Instantly\u2019 being the keyword here because if it takes your body ten minutes to tell you that your shoe is on fire, that\u2019s bad<\/em>, and you should lodge a complaint with your manufacturer (if you can find them). <\/p>\n But while these alerts and transmissions may be instantaneous, how we decipher them (how we feel<\/em> about what is happening) can take much longer. Often, the way our body reacts to something can be at odds with how we feel about whatever it is we\u2019re reacting to. <\/p>\n For instance, consider a man and his erection. Men do not always achieve erections due to arousal. They can wake up with them, get them due to an intense need for urination, simple fidgeting, or for no real reason they can explain. Teenage boys understand this on an intrinsic level, especially if they have ever had to hunch or hobble when called to write something on the board in high school. (Not that this every happened to me). <\/p>\n Unexplainable bodily reactions are the purview of all humans, and they even come with their own medical terminology; \u201cArousal Non-concordance.\u201d It\u2019s the disconnect between our bodies reacting in ways that we might categorize as sexual but there being no accompanying desire or consent for the stimuli to continue. Essentially, if you rub something, it\u2019s going to react to you. But that doesn\u2019t mean you should keep rubbing. <\/p>\n If you need a further example to understand this concept, I don\u2019t blame you (I\u2019m convinced that medical terminology is designed to be inscrutable) but I want you to consider that self-same pencil we talked about earlier. <\/p>\n If I were to jab you with said pencil again, only this time you achieved an erection, would you say I should continue<\/em> jabbing you? Or would you say this was weird, maybe even frightening, and would you ask me to please stop? <\/p>\n How we feel about something is often nebulous and should come with its own warning label. (I suggest, \u2018Subject to Change.\u2019) It\u2019s the difference between \u2018Yes, I loved that!\u2019 and \u2018Please don\u2019t do that again. You\u2019re scaring me.\u2019 It is the difference between thinking<\/em> that we\u2019re ready and actually being ready, which unfortunately for many of us, is a certainty we only achieve when we\u2019re actually in the moment. <\/p>\n Whether we are a man or a woman or anything in between, our bodies can fool us, lead us on, and put us through the ringer. But before anyone tries to get impatient or pushy or disbelieving<\/em> of what a potential partner is trying to tell you, I want you to keep thinking about that pencil. Think about being jabbed and shocked and confused and maybe even a little bit frightened. Hold onto that feeling. And then stop whatever it is you\u2019re doing. Because clearly your partner and their body need to have a little talk before things go any further. <\/p>\n Henry Corrigan<\/strong> Our bodies are strange things. They can be wondrous, pleasurable, even astonishing. But they can also be downright weird. And it often takes us time to understand what our bodies are trying to tell us. Consider, for a moment, a pencil. Just a plain, ordinary Ticonderoga. 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