{"id":6328,"date":"2014-04-11T07:00:00","date_gmt":"2014-04-11T07:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.crocolessons.com\/erwa\/write-what-you-do-not-know\/"},"modified":"2017-03-30T01:57:55","modified_gmt":"2017-03-30T01:57:55","slug":"write-what-you-do-not-know","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/erotica-readers.com\/blog\/2014\/04\/11\/write-what-you-do-not-know\/","title":{"rendered":"Write What You Do Not Know"},"content":{"rendered":"
\u201cShe fired me because of my writing. She was worried about her reputation.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThat doesn’t make any sense. I thought you were a serious writer. What do you write, porn?\u201d<\/p>\n
Fear coursed through me when I read my mother’s best friend’s words. Do I write porn? Is that what I do? How do I explain my decision to write erotica? <\/em><\/p>\n In many ways, erotica books chose me.<\/p>\n Unlike many, I did not come to this genre through reading. I have never been one to devour smut as a consumer. This is not to say I judge the genre harshly, it’s just never been on my radar screen as a reader.<\/p>\n Rather, I came to erotica through my writing.<\/p>\n Like most aspiring writers, I was told to \u201cwrite what you know.\u201d I get that. Start with a situation with which you have some familiarity so it rings true and isn’t based entirely on stereotypes and clich\u00e9. I still agree with the adage and work with it to a degree.<\/p>\n But, the fact of the matter is, the reason I write erotica is because of what I don’t<\/em> know. And, what I still don’t understand is how and why and who and what we all do for sex. What makes sex interesting for me is when the physical sensation mingles with the emotional (or sometimes even spiritual) piece of who we are.<\/p>\n Human sexuality, and all of the psychological aftermath that comes along with sex, has me stumped:<\/p>\n Instead of claiming to know the answers to these questions, I prefer to write fiction where I place characters in these situations and find out what happens to them.<\/p>\n I don’t know the answers.<\/p>\n Neither do my characters.<\/p>\n Do erotica readers?<\/p>\n Not knowing is what makes erotica interesting. Not knowing is the difference between erotica and porn. Not knowing is why I write it. And, not knowing is why they come back for more.<\/p>\n \u201cAre you saying your writing is considered porn?\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cBy some people. You wouldn’t like them.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cGood grief.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cIt’s what I gravitate to as a writer. I’m into the psychological play more than the sex, but people focus on the sex. It’s nothing worse than what you might find on HBO.\u201d<\/p>\n Silence.<\/em><\/p>\n \u201cSorry to disappoint you,\u201d I told her.<\/p>\n \u201cOh my dear, the disappointment is certainly not with you but with the idiots who have stupidly labeled your writing. One day, hopefully sooner rather than later, you can shove it down their . . . you know what I mean.\u201d<\/p>\n About Robin<\/strong> Never one to shy away from breaking out the lube, Ms. Juliet writes contemporary erotic romances where lust trumps love and happily ever after gets twisted beyond recognition. Links<\/strong> By Robin Juliet (Guest Blogger) \u201cShe fired me because of my writing. She was worried about her reputation.\u201d \u201cThat doesn’t make any sense. I thought you were a serious writer. What do you write, porn?\u201d Fear coursed through me when I read my mother’s best friend’s words. Do I write porn? Is that what I […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[1650,1260,1712,1713],"coauthors":[],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/erotica-readers.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6328"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/erotica-readers.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/erotica-readers.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erotica-readers.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erotica-readers.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6328"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/erotica-readers.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6328\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/erotica-readers.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6328"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erotica-readers.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6328"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erotica-readers.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6328"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erotica-readers.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/coauthors?post=6328"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}\n
\nWe cannot help but rubberneck when erotic romance author Robin Juliet explores the psychological train wreck that occurs when lust and love collide.<\/p>\n
\nMs. Juliet lives and writes in Denver, Colorado with her dog Bennett. You can reach her at robinjulietwrites [at] gmail [dot] com<\/strong><\/p>\n
\nRobin Juliet’s newest novella, Involuntary Reflex,<\/em> is now available in paperback at: https:\/\/www.createspace.com\/4742348<\/u><\/a>
\nWebsite: http:\/\/authorrobinjuliet.wordpress.com<\/u><\/a>
\nTwitter @robin_juliet
\nGoodreads Author Page: https:\/\/www.goodreads.com\/AuthorRobinJuliet<\/u><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"